Step-nada worse than nada herself?!

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I haven't posted anything or read a lot of posts here for a long, long time,

I've been busy as could be. I've been sitting back and absorbing all the actions

and ways of my step-monster, and I KNOW she definitely has a PD, I'm just not

sure if it's BPD or something worse, if you guys could imagine that.((shudder))

For one, she's an alcoholic, starts drinking beer around 3:00 every afternoon,

and by 5:00, she's so sloppy drunk that she can barely stand and wets herself.

If she's bad when she's sober, the alcohol amplifies the evil 100 times. She has

all kinds of justifications for drinking how she does ( " I work for it " or " I can

stop if I wanted to " ha) Besides her being a raging drunk, she tells me how to

raise my kid. My daughter isn't allowed to eat or drink or play with her toys in

Step-nada's presence. For example, stepnada bought my daughter a doll bed. She

then proceeded to tell my three year old how she was allowed to play with it

( " No! You leave it in one spot! You put your dolls in there like this! " etc.) My

daughter can't have anything else to drink if it's been less than two hours

since the last drink she had (and my baby watches stepnada guzzling beer after

beer after beer-way to set the example.) Everything that I do, being a mother,

is wrong to her. She likes to belittle my every parenting decision and jumps at

the chance to tell me how I should be doing things. She monopolizes every

conversation, so much to the point that I don't even try to speak with her

anymore. She definitely has an inflated ego, because all she does is talk about

herself. I've had to hear her life story in it's entirety at least a dozen

times, all because I let down my guard and asked her for some advice. And after

she gets started talking about herself, I can't get a word in edgewise because

she loves to overtalk me. Oh, and she loves to brag about how much she does for

all of her family. She has no friends, the only people that will associate with

her are her family, which all of them are at least ten hours away. I've bought

groceries for her ($400 worth) and she loved me more than anything, but two

weeks later, she had forgotten about that and I was a P.O.S. again, never doing

anything for her. She also loves to make horrible remarks to me about anything

and everything, but as soon as I say something awful to her, she goes running to

my father, acting all pitiful and like the victim, and he tells me to back off

of her. And she's bossy. The words " Could you " or " Will you " or " Please " never

come out of her mouth. She barks orders at everyone, and if I don't do whatever

it is she orders me to do, when she wants me to do it, well, she gets offended

and does it herself, huffing and puffing the whole time. I'm sorry that this is

so long, but me and my husband and daughter are living with my dad and his

lovely wife for now, until we get back on our feet, and I'm about to lose my

cool. I want to tell her exactly what I think of her, but don't want to suffer

the repercussions afterwards, because I have to live with her and cannot break

contact. UGH. Thanks all for listening and if anyone could give me some insight

on what they think this combination of atrocities could be classified as, I

would appreciate that.

Keep Being Strong

Michele

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She sounds like a nasty drunk. For your family's sake, and especially your

daughter, I hope to hell you can get out of there soon!

Too bad your father is such a dishrag. She obviously needs help, and he doesn't

seem concerned about making sure she gets some.

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> I haven't posted anything or read a lot of posts here for a long, long time,

I've been busy as could be. I've been sitting back and absorbing all the actions

and ways of my step-monster, and I KNOW she definitely has a PD, I'm just not

sure if it's BPD or something worse, if you guys could imagine that.((shudder))

For one, she's an alcoholic, starts drinking beer around 3:00 every afternoon,

and by 5:00, she's so sloppy drunk that she can barely stand and wets herself.

If she's bad when she's sober, the alcohol amplifies the evil 100 times. She has

all kinds of justifications for drinking how she does ( " I work for it " or " I can

stop if I wanted to " ha) Besides her being a raging drunk, she tells me how to

raise my kid. My daughter isn't allowed to eat or drink or play with her toys in

Step-nada's presence. For example, stepnada bought my daughter a doll bed. She

then proceeded to tell my three year old how she was allowed to play with it

( " No! You leave it in one spot! You put your dolls in there like this! " etc.) My

daughter can't have anything else to drink if it's been less than two hours

since the last drink she had (and my baby watches stepnada guzzling beer after

beer after beer-way to set the example.) Everything that I do, being a mother,

is wrong to her. She likes to belittle my every parenting decision and jumps at

the chance to tell me how I should be doing things. She monopolizes every

conversation, so much to the point that I don't even try to speak with her

anymore. She definitely has an inflated ego, because all she does is talk about

herself. I've had to hear her life story in it's entirety at least a dozen

times, all because I let down my guard and asked her for some advice. And after

she gets started talking about herself, I can't get a word in edgewise because

she loves to overtalk me. Oh, and she loves to brag about how much she does for

all of her family. She has no friends, the only people that will associate with

her are her family, which all of them are at least ten hours away. I've bought

groceries for her ($400 worth) and she loved me more than anything, but two

weeks later, she had forgotten about that and I was a P.O.S. again, never doing

anything for her. She also loves to make horrible remarks to me about anything

and everything, but as soon as I say something awful to her, she goes running to

my father, acting all pitiful and like the victim, and he tells me to back off

of her. And she's bossy. The words " Could you " or " Will you " or " Please " never

come out of her mouth. She barks orders at everyone, and if I don't do whatever

it is she orders me to do, when she wants me to do it, well, she gets offended

and does it herself, huffing and puffing the whole time. I'm sorry that this is

so long, but me and my husband and daughter are living with my dad and his

lovely wife for now, until we get back on our feet, and I'm about to lose my

cool. I want to tell her exactly what I think of her, but don't want to suffer

the repercussions afterwards, because I have to live with her and cannot break

contact. UGH. Thanks all for listening and if anyone could give me some insight

on what they think this combination of atrocities could be classified as, I

would appreciate that.

> Keep Being Strong

> Michele

>

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Thanks echobabe. I've thought the same thing myself about my dad and stepnada.

He just runs away when she starts with him, so then I'm left being the target.

My wish is that one day that he would stand up to her about just ONE thing that

she does to him, but he's always just tucked his tail between his legs. Makes me

think that he's a BPD magnet, first nada then stepnada. And I'm keeping my

fingers crossed and my eyes open to find us a place so we can get as far away

from this situation as possible!! And then never look back. I want to be there

for my dad but stepnada has run off all the rest of his family, except for me.

I'm afraid that if I have to accept both him AND her, I'll take neither-and that

breaks my heart. Thanks all for listening

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> > I haven't posted anything or read a lot of posts here for a long, long time,

I've been busy as could be. I've been sitting back and absorbing all the actions

and ways of my step-monster, and I KNOW she definitely has a PD, I'm just not

sure if it's BPD or something worse, if you guys could imagine that.((shudder))

For one, she's an alcoholic, starts drinking beer around 3:00 every afternoon,

and by 5:00, she's so sloppy drunk that she can barely stand and wets herself.

If she's bad when she's sober, the alcohol amplifies the evil 100 times. She has

all kinds of justifications for drinking how she does ( " I work for it " or " I can

stop if I wanted to " ha) Besides her being a raging drunk, she tells me how to

raise my kid. My daughter isn't allowed to eat or drink or play with her toys in

Step-nada's presence. For example, stepnada bought my daughter a doll bed. She

then proceeded to tell my three year old how she was allowed to play with it

( " No! You leave it in one spot! You put your dolls in there like this! " etc.) My

daughter can't have anything else to drink if it's been less than two hours

since the last drink she had (and my baby watches stepnada guzzling beer after

beer after beer-way to set the example.) Everything that I do, being a mother,

is wrong to her. She likes to belittle my every parenting decision and jumps at

the chance to tell me how I should be doing things. She monopolizes every

conversation, so much to the point that I don't even try to speak with her

anymore. She definitely has an inflated ego, because all she does is talk about

herself. I've had to hear her life story in it's entirety at least a dozen

times, all because I let down my guard and asked her for some advice. And after

she gets started talking about herself, I can't get a word in edgewise because

she loves to overtalk me. Oh, and she loves to brag about how much she does for

all of her family. She has no friends, the only people that will associate with

her are her family, which all of them are at least ten hours away. I've bought

groceries for her ($400 worth) and she loved me more than anything, but two

weeks later, she had forgotten about that and I was a P.O.S. again, never doing

anything for her. She also loves to make horrible remarks to me about anything

and everything, but as soon as I say something awful to her, she goes running to

my father, acting all pitiful and like the victim, and he tells me to back off

of her. And she's bossy. The words " Could you " or " Will you " or " Please " never

come out of her mouth. She barks orders at everyone, and if I don't do whatever

it is she orders me to do, when she wants me to do it, well, she gets offended

and does it herself, huffing and puffing the whole time. I'm sorry that this is

so long, but me and my husband and daughter are living with my dad and his

lovely wife for now, until we get back on our feet, and I'm about to lose my

cool. I want to tell her exactly what I think of her, but don't want to suffer

the repercussions afterwards, because I have to live with her and cannot break

contact. UGH. Thanks all for listening and if anyone could give me some insight

on what they think this combination of atrocities could be classified as, I

would appreciate that.

> > Keep Being Strong

> > Michele

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