Life Insurance (very late) update

[Guest guest]

Hello,

Over a month ago I posted about my nada in law taking out a life insurance

policy on my 1 year old son. The policy listed her as beneficiary AND my

signature was forged to get the policy...

SO-I went after her through the insurance company investigators and went NC with

her. My husband did the same. I guess I really shouldn't be surprised. I believe

she lied to the investigators and guess what? The insurance agent was fired and

she comes out acting like a victim! It was definitely a wake up to me to never

forget how smooth and manipulative BPs can be (my BP grand-nada-the reason I'm

on this site has been dead 7 years) but the slickness that nada in law side

stepped any responsibility made me think grand nada had risen from her grave!

The saddest part of this-my husband believes her-that she had no idea she would

benefit from something happening to our son, that she would never have forged

the signature that she very innocently just signed where she was told to. He

says he has to or accept that or believe his mother is a complete monster. It's

heartbreaking and scary at the same time. The rest of his family is angry with

me, but I really could care less. The only good thing-she has told my husband

she is afraid of me.

Anyway, lesson learned. I can't force her to take responsibility for anything. I

love the " medium chill " concept posted previously and will be using it as it's

brilliant for those situations where you can't go completely NC-so thanks so

much for sharing that!

[Guest guest]

Well, maybe if she is afraid of you then she will leave you alone?

I'm glad you stood up for your family and you son. Kudos.

>

> Hello,

>

> Over a month ago I posted about my nada in law taking out a life insurance

policy on my 1 year old son. The policy listed her as beneficiary AND my

signature was forged to get the policy...

>

> SO-I went after her through the insurance company investigators and went NC

with her. My husband did the same. I guess I really shouldn't be surprised. I

believe she lied to the investigators and guess what? The insurance agent was

fired and she comes out acting like a victim! It was definitely a wake up to me

to never forget how smooth and manipulative BPs can be (my BP grand-nada-the

reason I'm on this site has been dead 7 years) but the slickness that nada in

law side stepped any responsibility made me think grand nada had risen from her

grave! The saddest part of this-my husband believes her-that she had no idea she

would benefit from something happening to our son, that she would never have

forged the signature that she very innocently just signed where she was told to.

He says he has to or accept that or believe his mother is a complete monster.

It's heartbreaking and scary at the same time. The rest of his family is angry

with me, but I really could care less. The only good thing-she has told my

husband she is afraid of me.

>

> Anyway, lesson learned. I can't force her to take responsibility for anything.

I love the " medium chill " concept posted previously and will be using it as it's

brilliant for those situations where you can't go completely NC-so thanks so

much for sharing that!

>

[Guest guest]

Oh my gosh, this is all so unsettling. Just the fact that she thought it was ok

to forge your signature sends chills down my spine. How could anyone justify

that to themselves without some kind of sicko motive? It's just plain illegal.

I feel so bad for your husband, that as much as he doesn't want to see it,

something's awfully wrong with his mother and he will probably need to go NC

with her. I'm glad she's afraid of YOU.

>

> Hello,

>

> Over a month ago I posted about my nada in law taking out a life insurance

policy on my 1 year old son. The policy listed her as beneficiary AND my

signature was forged to get the policy...

>

> SO-I went after her through the insurance company investigators and went NC

with her. My husband did the same. I guess I really shouldn't be surprised. I

believe she lied to the investigators and guess what? The insurance agent was

fired and she comes out acting like a victim! It was definitely a wake up to me

to never forget how smooth and manipulative BPs can be (my BP grand-nada-the

reason I'm on this site has been dead 7 years) but the slickness that nada in

law side stepped any responsibility made me think grand nada had risen from her

grave! The saddest part of this-my husband believes her-that she had no idea she

would benefit from something happening to our son, that she would never have

forged the signature that she very innocently just signed where she was told to.

He says he has to or accept that or believe his mother is a complete monster.

It's heartbreaking and scary at the same time. The rest of his family is angry

with me, but I really could care less. The only good thing-she has told my

husband she is afraid of me.

>

> Anyway, lesson learned. I can't force her to take responsibility for anything.

I love the " medium chill " concept posted previously and will be using it as it's

brilliant for those situations where you can't go completely NC-so thanks so

much for sharing that!

>

[Guest guest]

She IS a MONSTER!!!!! Tell hubbie girlscout said so

Great job!

> **

>

>

> Oh my gosh, this is all so unsettling. Just the fact that she thought it

> was ok to forge your signature sends chills down my spine. How could anyone

> justify that to themselves without some kind of sicko motive? It's just

> plain illegal.

>

> I feel so bad for your husband, that as much as he doesn't want to see it,

> something's awfully wrong with his mother and he will probably need to go NC

> with her. I'm glad she's afraid of YOU.

>

>

>

> >

> > Hello,

> >

> > Over a month ago I posted about my nada in law taking out a life

> insurance policy on my 1 year old son. The policy listed her as beneficiary

> AND my signature was forged to get the policy...

> >

> > SO-I went after her through the insurance company investigators and went

> NC with her. My husband did the same. I guess I really shouldn't be

> surprised. I believe she lied to the investigators and guess what? The

> insurance agent was fired and she comes out acting like a victim! It was

> definitely a wake up to me to never forget how smooth and manipulative BPs

> can be (my BP grand-nada-the reason I'm on this site has been dead 7 years)

> but the slickness that nada in law side stepped any responsibility made me

> think grand nada had risen from her grave! The saddest part of this-my

> husband believes her-that she had no idea she would benefit from something

> happening to our son, that she would never have forged the signature that

> she very innocently just signed where she was told to. He says he has to or

> accept that or believe his mother is a complete monster. It's heartbreaking

> and scary at the same time. The rest of his family is angry with me, but I

> really could care less. The only good thing-she has told my husband she is

> afraid of me.

> >

> > Anyway, lesson learned. I can't force her to take responsibility for

> anything. I love the " medium chill " concept posted previously and will be

> using it as it's brilliant for those situations where you can't go

> completely NC-so thanks so much for sharing that!

> >

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Thanks for sharing that update! That took a lot of courage on your part to

follow your gut instinct that something was off-kilter and to deal with it

proactively instead of shrinking back. You called out your nada-in-law on her

bizarre and (in my opinion) creepy and criminal behavior and did not let her get

away with it. Kudos to you!

" Accident " my ass; forging someone else's signature on a contract is a

deliberate criminal act. She " innocently " signed *your name*. ...yeah, right.

Its sad that your husband isn't yet willing to admit that his mother behaved in

an absolutely reprehensible way; he's still toeing the family line out of

misplaced loyalty, or, perhaps he's afraid of her. But if your nada-in-law is

unable to control herself and does other similarly bizarre, creepy,

criminal-type things in the future, maybe your husband will see the light, so to

speak.

In my own personal opinion that's a good thing that she is now " afraid " of you;

maybe that will make her think twice about attempting other weird, creepy crap

like that.

But at the same time, keep your guard up. My nada used to feel entitled to

engage in revenge behaviors when she believed she'd been disrespected or

thwarted.

In any case, you are to be commended for your bravery, in my opinion.

-Annie

>

> Hello,

>

> Over a month ago I posted about my nada in law taking out a life insurance

policy on my 1 year old son. The policy listed her as beneficiary AND my

signature was forged to get the policy...

>

> SO-I went after her through the insurance company investigators and went NC

with her. My husband did the same. I guess I really shouldn't be surprised. I

believe she lied to the investigators and guess what? The insurance agent was

fired and she comes out acting like a victim! It was definitely a wake up to me

to never forget how smooth and manipulative BPs can be (my BP grand-nada-the

reason I'm on this site has been dead 7 years) but the slickness that nada in

law side stepped any responsibility made me think grand nada had risen from her

grave! The saddest part of this-my husband believes her-that she had no idea she

would benefit from something happening to our son, that she would never have

forged the signature that she very innocently just signed where she was told to.

He says he has to or accept that or believe his mother is a complete monster.

It's heartbreaking and scary at the same time. The rest of his family is angry

with me, but I really could care less. The only good thing-she has told my

husband she is afraid of me.

>

> Anyway, lesson learned. I can't force her to take responsibility for anything.

I love the " medium chill " concept posted previously and will be using it as it's

brilliant for those situations where you can't go completely NC-so thanks so

much for sharing that!

>

[Guest guest]

Wowzers. Watch out for the triangulation maneuver...if your DH drinks the

Koolaid, then feels sorry for her and angry at you for scaring her, things could

get worse!

> >

> > Hello,

> >

> > Over a month ago I posted about my nada in law taking out a life insurance

policy on my 1 year old son. The policy listed her as beneficiary AND my

signature was forged to get the policy...

> >

> > SO-I went after her through the insurance company investigators and went NC

with her. My husband did the same. I guess I really shouldn't be surprised. I

believe she lied to the investigators and guess what? The insurance agent was

fired and she comes out acting like a victim! It was definitely a wake up to me

to never forget how smooth and manipulative BPs can be (my BP grand-nada-the

reason I'm on this site has been dead 7 years) but the slickness that nada in

law side stepped any responsibility made me think grand nada had risen from her

grave! The saddest part of this-my husband believes her-that she had no idea she

would benefit from something happening to our son, that she would never have

forged the signature that she very innocently just signed where she was told to.

He says he has to or accept that or believe his mother is a complete monster.

It's heartbreaking and scary at the same time. The rest of his family is angry

with me, but I really could care less. The only good thing-she has told my

husband she is afraid of me.

> >

> > Anyway, lesson learned. I can't force her to take responsibility for

anything. I love the " medium chill " concept posted previously and will be using

it as it's brilliant for those situations where you can't go completely NC-so

thanks so much for sharing that!

> >

>

[Guest guest]

I'm with kimberj103, watch out for triangulation. When she says she is " afraid "

of you my warning bells go off that she is setting you up for later down the

road.

>

> Hello,

>

> Over a month ago I posted about my nada in law taking out a life insurance

policy on my 1 year old son. The policy listed her as beneficiary AND my

signature was forged to get the policy...

>

> SO-I went after her through the insurance company investigators and went NC

with her. My husband did the same. I guess I really shouldn't be surprised. I

believe she lied to the investigators and guess what? The insurance agent was

fired and she comes out acting like a victim! It was definitely a wake up to me

to never forget how smooth and manipulative BPs can be (my BP grand-nada-the

reason I'm on this site has been dead 7 years) but the slickness that nada in

law side stepped any responsibility made me think grand nada had risen from her

grave! The saddest part of this-my husband believes her-that she had no idea she

would benefit from something happening to our son, that she would never have

forged the signature that she very innocently just signed where she was told to.

He says he has to or accept that or believe his mother is a complete monster.

It's heartbreaking and scary at the same time. The rest of his family is angry

with me, but I really could care less. The only good thing-she has told my

husband she is afraid of me.

>

> Anyway, lesson learned. I can't force her to take responsibility for anything.

I love the " medium chill " concept posted previously and will be using it as it's

brilliant for those situations where you can't go completely NC-so thanks so

much for sharing that!

>

[Guest guest]

Thanks everyone for the comments and support! I'm sure there will be revenge

down the line-there always is with her. I'm really hoping to become a medium

chill master and somehow manage to have a cool but civil relationship...though

I'm sure she will see that civility will never be possible-not enough chaos and

crisis for her tastes! However,my goal is to deal with her crap with grace and

dignity and not let her under my skin or let her get me flustered and upset

(which she enjoys). I think my new found cold Marvin the Martian anger is the

scariest thing for her because she doesn't know how to push my buttons or get at

me and I just do whatever has to be done to set the boundary.

I would like to thank everyone on this message board. Reading your posts and

comments has really helped give me strength and taken away the isolation. So

thanks everyone for giving me courage!

> >

> > Hello,

> >

> > Over a month ago I posted about my nada in law taking out a life insurance

policy on my 1 year old son. The policy listed her as beneficiary AND my

signature was forged to get the policy...

> >

> > SO-I went after her through the insurance company investigators and went NC

with her. My husband did the same. I guess I really shouldn't be surprised. I

believe she lied to the investigators and guess what? The insurance agent was

fired and she comes out acting like a victim! It was definitely a wake up to me

to never forget how smooth and manipulative BPs can be (my BP grand-nada-the

reason I'm on this site has been dead 7 years) but the slickness that nada in

law side stepped any responsibility made me think grand nada had risen from her

grave! The saddest part of this-my husband believes her-that she had no idea she

would benefit from something happening to our son, that she would never have

forged the signature that she very innocently just signed where she was told to.

He says he has to or accept that or believe his mother is a complete monster.

It's heartbreaking and scary at the same time. The rest of his family is angry

with me, but I really could care less. The only good thing-she has told my

husband she is afraid of me.

> >

> > Anyway, lesson learned. I can't force her to take responsibility for

anything. I love the " medium chill " concept posted previously and will be using

it as it's brilliant for those situations where you can't go completely NC-so

thanks so much for sharing that!

> >

>