Guest guest Posted February 18, 2012 Report Share Posted February 18, 2012 Hi to all!!! Since i am new here, i hope that there is someone who can understand my story! I have BPD and that i just knew it cause of my partner...and this i work to change the way i thinking and to get some inspiration and read some others and listen to thier story...For some mail i got lastnight i been touch and understand but i dont have yet related with my problems, I just wanted 2 have someone who has the same as my experience that someone who can help me and give me some advice,! We have a long distance relastionship with my boyfriend and that it is so hard for me, most of the time we are fighting for something which its not so important, im the one who always wanted 2 make it big and that my boyfriend has almost in the clinic and that he cant work anymore, i got this felling that maybe he can find others there, or that he is together now with ex gf or maybe soon he cant Love me anymore..which in short im jelousy, anxiety, and etc fellings which i dont understand anymore! I hate this fellings i got! specially when he is suffering i notice it always when i finish my attack and when im calmdown... When i have a attack of thinking which i dont understand i am so crazy no one around me cant control me, i have in time which i almost give up! And now, we dont have nice communication with my boyfriend and i was so sad,! i promise myself i help to change the way i thinking as soon as posible i know its not instant, but maybe when someone who can give me advice and can tell me what i do and make so that i fell better! I decide in the morning that i need to stop with him until im healed and i can love him like a normal lovers! is this the right decision i made? i dont want to cry at last, and wokeup his not mine anymore and that he has another..but i do it to tell him already that i stop with for awhile, I am so nervous cause he didnt call me yet cause we have a different time!!! but i am nervous what his reaction when his wokeup cause i send it through email..cause we didnt talk somedays already.. Pls someone who can advice me,, its my pleasure!!! i dont have nobody can talk to this subject here and i have only my daughters and they are too young to talk to about this!! My wish who can answer this question its my pleasure that i have you!! my question is: 1.) is this right decision 2 stop with him and working myself to change the way i thinking? 2.) what can i do?, so that i can trust him? 3.)shall i let him also have some space with me?? he is suffering alot of me already and that i notice when i finish my attact. 4.) i am selfish, anxiety,jelousy, and others some issue about BPD.. someone can tell me what shall i do to beware that thinking?pls 5.)my childhood is horrible my mother is deep with BPD and i cant help her, shall i stop to think of that past and how can i start to forget it?? pls help me!! someone outhere!! i dont know how to write this in the right content I apologize it!! and my english not so good and i hope i get some one who can understand me and give me some tips about to what to do when i get my attact i promise it i can apply it instant with my bahave!!! thanks you for this Site!!! i hope that i can have some reponse soon!!! God bless 2 all!! Jean Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 19, 2012 Report Share Posted February 19, 2012 Hi Jenalyn, Actually, this support Group is for those who do not have borderline pd, but are the children (adult children) of parents who have borderline personality disorder. The discussions here are about having borderline pd parents. If you have bpd yourself, you will probably find the topics and discussions at this Group very triggering or upsetting instead of helpful to you. There are support Groups on the Internet for those who have borderline pd; here are some links to groups for those with borderline pd, that seem to have a good-sized membership and are active: http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/borderline-personality-discussions http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/BPDTodayNewsletter/ http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/PersonalityDisorders/ http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/dbtclass/ I hope that helps. -Annie > > Hi to all!!! > > Since i am new here, i hope that there is someone who can understand my > story! > I have BPD and that i just knew it cause of my partner...and this i work > to change the way i thinking and to get some > inspiration and read some others and listen to thier story...For some > mail i got lastnight i been touch and understand but > i dont have yet related with my problems, > I just wanted 2 have someone who has the same as my experience that > someone who can help me and give me some advice,! > > We have a long distance relastionship with my boyfriend and that it is > so hard for me, most of the time we are fighting for > something which its not so important, im the one who always wanted 2 > make it big and that my boyfriend has almost in the clinic > and that he cant work anymore, i got this felling that maybe he can find > others there, or that he is together now with ex gf or > maybe soon he cant Love me anymore..which in short im jelousy, anxiety, > and etc fellings which i dont understand anymore! > I hate this fellings i got! specially when he is suffering i notice it > always when i finish my attack and when im calmdown... > When i have a attack of thinking which i dont understand i am so crazy > no one around me cant control me, i have in time > which i almost give up! And now, we dont have nice communication with my > boyfriend and i was so sad,! i promise myself i help to change the > way i thinking as soon as posible i know its not instant, but maybe when > someone who can give me advice and can tell me what > i do and make so that i fell better! > > I decide in the morning that i need to stop with him until im healed and > i can love him like a normal lovers! > is this the right decision i made? i dont want to cry at last, and > wokeup his not mine anymore and that he has > another..but i do it to tell him already that i stop with for awhile, I > am so nervous cause he didnt call me yet cause we have a different > time!!! but i am nervous what his reaction when his wokeup cause i send > it through email..cause we didnt talk somedays already.. > > Pls someone who can advice me,, its my pleasure!!! i dont have nobody > can talk to this subject here and i have only my > daughters and they are too young to talk to about this!! > > My wish who can answer this question its my pleasure that i have you!! > > my question is: > 1.) is this right decision 2 stop with him and working myself to change > the way i thinking? > 2.) what can i do?, so that i can trust him? > 3.)shall i let him also have some space with me?? he is suffering alot > of me already and that i notice when i finish my attact. > 4.) i am selfish, anxiety,jelousy, and others some issue about BPD.. > someone can tell me what shall i do to beware that thinking?pls > 5.)my childhood is horrible my mother is deep with BPD and i cant help > her, shall i stop to think of that past and how can i start to forget it?? > > pls help me!! someone outhere!! i dont know how to write this in the > right content I apologize it!! > and my english not so good and i hope i get some one who can understand > me and give me some tips about to what to do > when i get my attact i promise it i can apply it instant with my bahave!!! > > thanks you for this Site!!! i hope that i can have some reponse soon!!! > God bless 2 all!! > > Jean > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 19, 2012 Report Share Posted February 19, 2012 Hi Jenalyn, please check out the links Annie gave you - support groups for those with BPD would be best for you. I will answer a couple of things in your post though. Yes, I agree with your option (1) that you should stop your involvement with your boyfriend and work on your own issues for your own sake and that of your young daughters. While whatever is happening with him feels intense to you, trust me that it is not really what matters right now. It is possible for people with BPD to do better with lots of hard work in therapy - a better future for you and your children is possible if you fully commit to it. This is what matters most. Wishing you well. Eliza > > > > Hi to all!!! > > > > Since i am new here, i hope that there is someone who can understand my > > story! > > I have BPD and that i just knew it cause of my partner...and this i work > > to change the way i thinking and to get some > > inspiration and read some others and listen to thier story...For some > > mail i got lastnight i been touch and understand but > > i dont have yet related with my problems, > > I just wanted 2 have someone who has the same as my experience that > > someone who can help me and give me some advice,! > > > > We have a long distance relastionship with my boyfriend and that it is > > so hard for me, most of the time we are fighting for > > something which its not so important, im the one who always wanted 2 > > make it big and that my boyfriend has almost in the clinic > > and that he cant work anymore, i got this felling that maybe he can find > > others there, or that he is together now with ex gf or > > maybe soon he cant Love me anymore..which in short im jelousy, anxiety, > > and etc fellings which i dont understand anymore! > > I hate this fellings i got! specially when he is suffering i notice it > > always when i finish my attack and when im calmdown... > > When i have a attack of thinking which i dont understand i am so crazy > > no one around me cant control me, i have in time > > which i almost give up! And now, we dont have nice communication with my > > boyfriend and i was so sad,! i promise myself i help to change the > > way i thinking as soon as posible i know its not instant, but maybe when > > someone who can give me advice and can tell me what > > i do and make so that i fell better! > > > > I decide in the morning that i need to stop with him until im healed and > > i can love him like a normal lovers! > > is this the right decision i made? i dont want to cry at last, and > > wokeup his not mine anymore and that he has > > another..but i do it to tell him already that i stop with for awhile, I > > am so nervous cause he didnt call me yet cause we have a different > > time!!! but i am nervous what his reaction when his wokeup cause i send > > it through email..cause we didnt talk somedays already.. > > > > Pls someone who can advice me,, its my pleasure!!! i dont have nobody > > can talk to this subject here and i have only my > > daughters and they are too young to talk to about this!! > > > > My wish who can answer this question its my pleasure that i have you!! > > > > my question is: > > 1.) is this right decision 2 stop with him and working myself to change > > the way i thinking? > > 2.) what can i do?, so that i can trust him? > > 3.)shall i let him also have some space with me?? he is suffering alot > > of me already and that i notice when i finish my attact. > > 4.) i am selfish, anxiety,jelousy, and others some issue about BPD.. > > someone can tell me what shall i do to beware that thinking?pls > > 5.)my childhood is horrible my mother is deep with BPD and i cant help > > her, shall i stop to think of that past and how can i start to forget it?? > > > > pls help me!! someone outhere!! i dont know how to write this in the > > right content I apologize it!! > > and my english not so good and i hope i get some one who can understand > > me and give me some tips about to what to do > > when i get my attact i promise it i can apply it instant with my bahave!!! > > > > thanks you for this Site!!! i hope that i can have some reponse soon!!! > > God bless 2 all!! > > > > Jean > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 19, 2012 Report Share Posted February 19, 2012 > > Hi Jenalyn, > > Actually, this support Group is for those who do not have borderline > pd, but are the children (adult children) of parents who have > borderline personality disorder. The discussions here are about having > borderline pd parents. > > If you have bpd yourself, you will probably find the topics and > discussions at this Group very triggering or upsetting instead of > helpful to you. > > There are support Groups on the Internet for those who have borderline > pd; here are some links to groups for those with borderline pd, that > seem to have a good-sized membership and are active: > > http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/borderline-personality-discussions > > http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/BPDTodayNewsletter/ > > http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/PersonalityDisorders/ > > http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/dbtclass/ > > I hope that helps. > > -Annie > > > > > > Hi to all!!! > > > > Since i am new here, i hope that there is someone who can understand my > > story! > > I have BPD and that i just knew it cause of my partner...and this i > work > > to change the way i thinking and to get some > > inspiration and read some others and listen to thier story...For some > > mail i got lastnight i been touch and understand but > > i dont have yet related with my problems, > > I just wanted 2 have someone who has the same as my experience that > > someone who can help me and give me some advice,! > > > > We have a long distance relastionship with my boyfriend and that it is > > so hard for me, most of the time we are fighting for > > something which its not so important, im the one who always wanted 2 > > make it big and that my boyfriend has almost in the clinic > > and that he cant work anymore, i got this felling that maybe he can > find > > others there, or that he is together now with ex gf or > > maybe soon he cant Love me anymore..which in short im jelousy, anxiety, > > and etc fellings which i dont understand anymore! > > I hate this fellings i got! specially when he is suffering i notice it > > always when i finish my attack and when im calmdown... > > When i have a attack of thinking which i dont understand i am so crazy > > no one around me cant control me, i have in time > > which i almost give up! And now, we dont have nice communication > with my > > boyfriend and i was so sad,! i promise myself i help to change the > > way i thinking as soon as posible i know its not instant, but maybe > when > > someone who can give me advice and can tell me what > > i do and make so that i fell better! > > > > I decide in the morning that i need to stop with him until im healed > and > > i can love him like a normal lovers! > > is this the right decision i made? i dont want to cry at last, and > > wokeup his not mine anymore and that he has > > another..but i do it to tell him already that i stop with for awhile, I > > am so nervous cause he didnt call me yet cause we have a different > > time!!! but i am nervous what his reaction when his wokeup cause i send > > it through email..cause we didnt talk somedays already.. > > > > Pls someone who can advice me,, its my pleasure!!! i dont have nobody > > can talk to this subject here and i have only my > > daughters and they are too young to talk to about this!! > > > > My wish who can answer this question its my pleasure that i have you!! > > > > my question is: > > 1.) is this right decision 2 stop with him and working myself to change > > the way i thinking? > > 2.) what can i do?, so that i can trust him? > > 3.)shall i let him also have some space with me?? he is suffering alot > > of me already and that i notice when i finish my attact. > > 4.) i am selfish, anxiety,jelousy, and others some issue about BPD.. > > someone can tell me what shall i do to beware that thinking?pls > > 5.)my childhood is horrible my mother is deep with BPD and i cant help > > her, shall i stop to think of that past and how can i start to > forget it?? > > > > pls help me!! someone outhere!! i dont know how to write this in the > > right content I apologize it!! > > and my english not so good and i hope i get some one who can understand > > me and give me some tips about to what to do > > when i get my attact i promise it i can apply it instant with my > bahave!!! > > > > thanks you for this Site!!! i hope that i can have some reponse soon!!! > > God bless 2 all!! > > > > Jean > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 21, 2012 Report Share Posted February 21, 2012 > > Hi Jenalyn, please check out the links Annie gave you - support groups > for those with BPD would be best for you. I will answer a couple of > things in your post though. Yes, I agree with your option (1) that you > should stop your involvement with your boyfriend and work on your own > issues for your own sake and that of your young daughters. While > whatever is happening with him feels intense to you, trust me that it > is not really what matters right now. It is possible for people with > BPD to do better with lots of hard work in therapy - a better future > for you and your children is possible if you fully commit to it. This > is what matters most. Wishing you well. > > Eliza > > > > > > > > Hi to all!!! > > > > > > Since i am new here, i hope that there is someone who can > understand my > > > story! > > > I have BPD and that i just knew it cause of my partner...and this > i work > > > to change the way i thinking and to get some > > > inspiration and read some others and listen to thier story...For some > > > mail i got lastnight i been touch and understand but > > > i dont have yet related with my problems, > > > I just wanted 2 have someone who has the same as my experience that > > > someone who can help me and give me some advice,! > > > > > > We have a long distance relastionship with my boyfriend and that > it is > > > so hard for me, most of the time we are fighting for > > > something which its not so important, im the one who always wanted 2 > > > make it big and that my boyfriend has almost in the clinic > > > and that he cant work anymore, i got this felling that maybe he > can find > > > others there, or that he is together now with ex gf or > > > maybe soon he cant Love me anymore..which in short im jelousy, > anxiety, > > > and etc fellings which i dont understand anymore! > > > I hate this fellings i got! specially when he is suffering i > notice it > > > always when i finish my attack and when im calmdown... > > > When i have a attack of thinking which i dont understand i am so > crazy > > > no one around me cant control me, i have in time > > > which i almost give up! And now, we dont have nice communication > with my > > > boyfriend and i was so sad,! i promise myself i help to change the > > > way i thinking as soon as posible i know its not instant, but > maybe when > > > someone who can give me advice and can tell me what > > > i do and make so that i fell better! > > > > > > I decide in the morning that i need to stop with him until im > healed and > > > i can love him like a normal lovers! > > > is this the right decision i made? i dont want to cry at last, and > > > wokeup his not mine anymore and that he has > > > another..but i do it to tell him already that i stop with for > awhile, I > > > am so nervous cause he didnt call me yet cause we have a different > > > time!!! but i am nervous what his reaction when his wokeup cause i > send > > > it through email..cause we didnt talk somedays already.. > > > > > > Pls someone who can advice me,, its my pleasure!!! i dont have nobody > > > can talk to this subject here and i have only my > > > daughters and they are too young to talk to about this!! > > > > > > My wish who can answer this question its my pleasure that i have you!! > > > > > > my question is: > > > 1.) is this right decision 2 stop with him and working myself to > change > > > the way i thinking? > > > 2.) what can i do?, so that i can trust him? > > > 3.)shall i let him also have some space with me?? he is suffering > alot > > > of me already and that i notice when i finish my attact. > > > 4.) i am selfish, anxiety,jelousy, and others some issue about BPD.. > > > someone can tell me what shall i do to beware that thinking?pls > > > 5.)my childhood is horrible my mother is deep with BPD and i cant > help > > > her, shall i stop to think of that past and how can i start to > forget it?? > > > > > > pls help me!! someone outhere!! i dont know how to write this in the > > > right content I apologize it!! > > > and my english not so good and i hope i get some one who can > understand > > > me and give me some tips about to what to do > > > when i get my attact i promise it i can apply it instant with my > bahave!!! > > > > > > thanks you for this Site!!! i hope that i can have some reponse > soon!!! > > > God bless 2 all!! > > > > > > Jean > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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