Guest guest Posted July 19, 2011 Report Share Posted July 19, 2011 Hey Guys, I need some help with medium chill. So I've posted a lot about how my phone broke and my office manager left me without any phone at all for 11 days - I had to wait so that I could port my own number out of the office system and get the phone of my choice. So, today she sent a message saying I need to leave my laptop Thursday night. The thing is, i have a huge work appt after hours on Thursday and before work hours on Friday. So no laptop could pose a problem. I am not really on speaking terms with her since the phone situation - it ended with me getting my own phone and losing my number because she screwed up and I was unable to get my number back due to her error. So anyway, the IT guy is my client. I work with him almost every day - we do trade and my services are what we trade. So I responded to the IT guy and asked him if any other times would work for him since I need my laptop. Here is what I got back from the office manager- the IT guy forwarded it to her and told her some other options for times. * " Don’t go around me to talk to Lance! I schedule IT, not you. I don’t know what your problem is, but if you are mad at me over the phone situation, that is absolutely ridiculous. All I did was try to help you!* * * *I also need to know what you are going to do with the phone, since the idiot at the Apple store couldn’t port your number. Every other number that has been ported in or out of has worked just fine. * *If you want to have 2 phones, I don’t care, but I am not going to pay extra to keep that number if you are not using it. You can sell the phone that phone, but we will retain the #. Or maybe you could talk to the idiot and see if he can swap the #’s. " * I have decided to respond with medium chill. I have no interest in talking to her or even dignifying this with a response. However, I need to keep some level of professional relationship with her at least for the time being. I wanted to hear from you guys what you think I should respond with to keep a medium chill. If she is going to refer to my feelings as completely ridiculous, we don't even have a starting point. I do have a response prepared but I wanted feedback first. I talked to boyfriend about it but he doesn't understand the technique. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 19, 2011 Report Share Posted July 19, 2011 i don't know the techniques yet as i am a newbie.  but all i can say is, HOW JUVENILE!   Cassie  ________________________________ To: wtoadultchildren1 <WTOAdultChildren1 > Sent: Tuesday, July 19, 2011 10:12 PM Subject: medium chill help Hey Guys, I need some help with medium chill. So I've posted a lot about how my phone broke and my office manager left me without any phone at all for 11 days - I had to wait so that I could port my own number out of the office system and get the phone of my choice. So, today she sent a message saying I need to leave my laptop Thursday night. The thing is, i have a huge work appt after hours on Thursday and before work hours on Friday. So no laptop could pose a problem. I am not really on speaking terms with her since the phone situation - it ended with me getting my own phone and losing my number because she screwed up and I was unable to get my number back due to her error. So anyway, the IT guy is my client. I work with him almost every day - we do trade and my services are what we trade. So I responded to the IT guy and asked him if any other times would work for him since I need my laptop. Here is what I got back from the office manager- the IT guy forwarded it to her and told her some other options for times. * " Don’t go around me to talk to Lance! I schedule IT, not you. I don’t know what your problem is, but if you are mad at me over the phone situation, that is absolutely ridiculous. All I did was try to help you!* * * *I also need to know what you are going to do with the phone, since the idiot at the Apple store couldn’t port your number. Every other number that has been ported in or out of has worked just fine. * *If you want to have 2 phones, I don’t care, but I am not going to pay extra to keep that number if you are not using it. You can sell the phone that phone, but we will retain the #. Or maybe you could talk to the idiot and see if he can swap the #’s. " * I have decided to respond with medium chill. I have no interest in talking to her or even dignifying this with a response. However, I need to keep some level of professional relationship with her at least for the time being. I wanted to hear from you guys what you think I should respond with to keep a medium chill. If she is going to refer to my feelings as completely ridiculous, we don't even have a starting point. I do have a response prepared but I wanted feedback first. I talked to boyfriend about it but he doesn't understand the technique. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 19, 2011 Report Share Posted July 19, 2011 ha ha thanks cassie. So medium chill is like a conversation is a poker game and you aren't going to give anything away about your hand - but its not because you want to win its because you want to escape w/o a battle. So I was thinking of just saying someting like " my bad in both cases. Won't happen again. Have a nice day. " Something like that. On Tue, Jul 19, 2011 at 10:21 PM, Cassie C. wrote: > ** > > > i don't know the techniques yet as i am a newbie. but all i can say is, > HOW JUVENILE! > > > Cassie > > > ________________________________ > > To: wtoadultchildren1 <WTOAdultChildren1 > > Sent: Tuesday, July 19, 2011 10:12 PM > Subject: medium chill help > > > Hey Guys, > I need some help with medium chill. > > So I've posted a lot about how my phone broke and my office manager left me > without any phone at all for 11 days - I had to wait so that I could port > my > own number out of the office system and get the phone of my choice. > > So, today she sent a message saying I need to leave my laptop Thursday > night. The thing is, i have a huge work appt after hours on Thursday and > before work hours on Friday. So no laptop could pose a problem. > > I am not really on speaking terms with her since the phone situation - it > ended with me getting my own phone and losing my number because she screwed > up and I was unable to get my number back due to her error. > > So anyway, the IT guy is my client. I work with him almost every day - we > do > trade and my services are what we trade. So I responded to the IT guy and > asked him if any other times would work for him since I need my laptop. > > Here is what I got back from the office manager- the IT guy forwarded it to > her and told her some other options for times. > > * " Don’t go around me to talk to Lance! I schedule IT, not you. I don’t > know what your problem is, but if you are mad at me over the phone > situation, that is absolutely ridiculous. All I did was try to help you!* > > * * > > *I also need to know what you are going to do with the phone, since the > idiot at the Apple store couldn’t port your number. Every other number > that > has been ported in or out of has worked just fine. > * > > *If you want to have 2 phones, I don’t care, but I am not going to pay > extra > to keep that number if you are not using it. You can sell the phone that > phone, but we will retain the #. Or maybe you could talk to the idiot and > see if he can swap the #’s. " * > > I have decided to respond with medium chill. I have no interest in talking > to her or even dignifying this with a response. However, I need to keep > some > level of professional relationship with her at least for the time being. I > wanted to hear from you guys what you think I should respond with to keep a > medium chill. If she is going to refer to my feelings as completely > ridiculous, we don't even have a starting point. I do have a response > prepared but I wanted feedback first. I talked to boyfriend about it but he > doesn't understand the technique. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 19, 2011 Report Share Posted July 19, 2011 This is tough because you need to keep your individual boundaries AND do medium chill. And you do have a professional relationship, so you need to respond. She is one toxic bitch, btw. She is purposely baiting you--so stay strong. Here's my go: " Thursday night is not convenient for me to leave my laptop. As you know, Lance and I have a professional relationship. Since my laptop is used when working with clients, it seemed more expedient to make arrangements for the exact time directly with him. Since you would prefer to be the touch stone for all my IT communication with him, please let him know 'blank blank' would be the best time for me. Send me a confirmation when you have it arranged. " (HA-HA--let her be your Admin!) " As for the phone, my issue has already been resolved. I have no further involvement with the old number assigned to me. " I wouldn't respond to her accusations, or childish attitude. But I would save that email in a file, ready to whip out if you ever have the opportunity to cut her throat. Good luck! > > Hey Guys, > I need some help with medium chill. > > So I've posted a lot about how my phone broke and my office manager left me > without any phone at all for 11 days - I had to wait so that I could port my > own number out of the office system and get the phone of my choice. > > So, today she sent a message saying I need to leave my laptop Thursday > night. The thing is, i have a huge work appt after hours on Thursday and > before work hours on Friday. So no laptop could pose a problem. > > I am not really on speaking terms with her since the phone situation - it > ended with me getting my own phone and losing my number because she screwed > up and I was unable to get my number back due to her error. > > So anyway, the IT guy is my client. I work with him almost every day - we do > trade and my services are what we trade. So I responded to the IT guy and > asked him if any other times would work for him since I need my laptop. > > Here is what I got back from the office manager- the IT guy forwarded it to > her and told her some other options for times. > > * " Don't go around me to talk to Lance! I schedule IT, not you. I don't > know what your problem is, but if you are mad at me over the phone > situation, that is absolutely ridiculous. All I did was try to help you!* > > * * > > *I also need to know what you are going to do with the phone, since the > idiot at the Apple store couldn't port your number. Every other number that > has been ported in or out of has worked just fine. > * > > *If you want to have 2 phones, I don't care, but I am not going to pay extra > to keep that number if you are not using it. You can sell the phone that > phone, but we will retain the #. Or maybe you could talk to the idiot and > see if he can swap the #'s. " * > > > I have decided to respond with medium chill. I have no interest in talking > to her or even dignifying this with a response. However, I need to keep some > level of professional relationship with her at least for the time being. I > wanted to hear from you guys what you think I should respond with to keep a > medium chill. If she is going to refer to my feelings as completely > ridiculous, we don't even have a starting point. I do have a response > prepared but I wanted feedback first. I talked to boyfriend about it but he > doesn't understand the technique. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 20, 2011 Report Share Posted July 20, 2011 WOW is someone having Control Issues? This is why I hate working under women...we can be total Biotches...lol lol lol Give me a male boss any day.... Anywho... I wouldn't kiss any butt or anything...however that said I would just say hey whatever you feel needs to be done since clearly she thinks her position has been over stepped. (an insecure woman thang) ~~Velvet_Tears74~~ Whatever it takes..... medium chill help > > > Hey Guys, > I need some help with medium chill. > > So I've posted a lot about how my phone broke and my office manager left me > without any phone at all for 11 days - I had to wait so that I could port > my > own number out of the office system and get the phone of my choice. > > So, today she sent a message saying I need to leave my laptop Thursday > night. The thing is, i have a huge work appt after hours on Thursday and > before work hours on Friday. So no laptop could pose a problem. > > I am not really on speaking terms with her since the phone situation - it > ended with me getting my own phone and losing my number because she screwed > up and I was unable to get my number back due to her error. > > So anyway, the IT guy is my client. I work with him almost every day - we > do > trade and my services are what we trade. So I responded to the IT guy and > asked him if any other times would work for him since I need my laptop. > > Here is what I got back from the office manager- the IT guy forwarded it to > her and told her some other options for times. > > * " Don't go around me to talk to Lance! I schedule IT, not you. I don't > know what your problem is, but if you are mad at me over the phone > situation, that is absolutely ridiculous. All I did was try to help you!* > > * * > > *I also need to know what you are going to do with the phone, since the > idiot at the Apple store couldn't port your number. Every other number > that > has been ported in or out of has worked just fine. > * > > *If you want to have 2 phones, I don't care, but I am not going to pay > extra > to keep that number if you are not using it. You can sell the phone that > phone, but we will retain the #. Or maybe you could talk to the idiot and > see if he can swap the #'s. " * > > I have decided to respond with medium chill. I have no interest in talking > to her or even dignifying this with a response. However, I need to keep > some > level of professional relationship with her at least for the time being. I > wanted to hear from you guys what you think I should respond with to keep a > medium chill. If she is going to refer to my feelings as completely > ridiculous, we don't even have a starting point. I do have a response > prepared but I wanted feedback first. I talked to boyfriend about it but he > doesn't understand the technique. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 20, 2011 Report Share Posted July 20, 2011 The funny thing is she's not my boss. She's the office manager and HR director. I've worked for men too - seems that they spend most of their time staring at my boobs. Except for the one who likes to ask me why I let o myself get so fat UGH Thanks for the feedback. On Wed, Jul 20, 2011 at 12:35 AM, Stacey Corsa wrote: > ** > > > WOW is someone having Control Issues? > > This is why I hate working under women...we can be total Biotches...lol lol > lol > > Give me a male boss any day.... > Anywho... I wouldn't kiss any butt or anything...however that said I would > just say hey whatever you feel needs to be done since clearly she thinks > her > position has been over stepped. (an insecure woman thang) > n > ~~Velvet_Tears74~~ > > Whatever it takes..... > > medium chill help > > > > > > Hey Guys, > > I need some help with medium chill. > > > > So I've posted a lot about how my phone broke and my office manager left > me > > without any phone at all for 11 days - I had to wait so that I could port > > my > > own number out of the office system and get the phone of my choice. > > > > So, today she sent a message saying I need to leave my laptop Thursday > > night. The thing is, i have a huge work appt after hours on Thursday and > > before work hours on Friday. So no laptop could pose a problem. > > > > I am not really on speaking terms with her since the phone situation - it > > ended with me getting my own phone and losing my number because she > screwed > > up and I was unable to get my number back due to her error. > > > > So anyway, the IT guy is my client. I work with him almost every day - we > > do > > trade and my services are what we trade. So I responded to the IT guy and > > asked him if any other times would work for him since I need my laptop. > > > > Here is what I got back from the office manager- the IT guy forwarded it > to > > her and told her some other options for times. > > > > * " Don't go around me to talk to Lance! I schedule IT, not you. I don't > > know what your problem is, but if you are mad at me over the phone > > situation, that is absolutely ridiculous. All I did was try to help you!* > > > > * * > > > > *I also need to know what you are going to do with the phone, since the > > idiot at the Apple store couldn't port your number. Every other number > > that > > has been ported in or out of has worked just fine. > > * > > > > *If you want to have 2 phones, I don't care, but I am not going to pay > > extra > > to keep that number if you are not using it. You can sell the phone that > > phone, but we will retain the #. Or maybe you could talk to the idiot and > > see if he can swap the #'s. " * > > > > I have decided to respond with medium chill. I have no interest in > talking > > to her or even dignifying this with a response. However, I need to keep > > some > > level of professional relationship with her at least for the time being. > I > > wanted to hear from you guys what you think I should respond with to keep > a > > medium chill. If she is going to refer to my feelings as completely > > ridiculous, we don't even have a starting point. I do have a response > > prepared but I wanted feedback first. I talked to boyfriend about it but > he > > doesn't understand the technique. > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 20, 2011 Report Share Posted July 20, 2011 Oh boy - that was a rough night last night. I worked out for about 2 hours, but I was amped after. Its hotter than hell here too very difficult to sleep. I really appreciate all the help and feedback. Despite all the knowledge I have, it still really upsets me when people attack me. And its funny because this month I've been attacked a hell of a lot. Here's what I wrote. I don't necessiaily believe it, but I think that by agreeing with her/acquiessing I can hopefully get her off my back. I have known her for a long time, and I think she wants us to yell at each other and have a big scene, and then it will blow over. Kind of like a weather pattern. She is just stirring up intensity. So here's what I sent - " Oh, so sorry to step on your toes. I won’t speak to Lance again. Thought I was helping. As for the phone, since it was my decision to port my number into thet system I have no one but myself to blame for the consequences. Have a nice morning. " I figure I am 1) covering my ass. If she shows this to someone to say look how horrible Girlscout is behaving I can just say - does this look horrible to you? and 2) I am not giving her what she wants - its like I'm responding without responding - so she will be frustrated but unsure how to procede. I would have liked to do a much more chill medium chill but that would undoubtedly lead to escalation. On Wed, Jul 20, 2011 at 6:56 AM, Girlscout Cowboy < girlscout.cowboy@...> wrote: > The funny thing is she's not my boss. She's the office manager and HR > director. > > I've worked for men too - seems that they spend most of their time staring > at my boobs. Except for the one who likes to ask me why I let o myself get > so fat UGH > > Thanks for the feedback. > On Wed, Jul 20, 2011 at 12:35 AM, Stacey Corsa wrote: > >> ** >> >> >> WOW is someone having Control Issues? >> >> This is why I hate working under women...we can be total Biotches...lol >> lol >> lol >> irls >> Give me a male boss any day.... >> Anywho... I wouldn't kiss any butt or anything...however that said I would >> just say hey whatever you feel needs to be done since clearly she thinks >> her >> position has been over stepped. (an insecure woman thang) >> n >> ~~Velvet_Tears74~~ >> >> Whatever it takes..... >> >> medium chill help >> > >> > >> > Hey Guys, >> > I need some help with medium chill. >> > >> > So I've posted a lot about how my phone broke and my office manager left >> me >> > without any phone at all for 11 days - I had to wait so that I could >> port >> > my >> > own number out of the office system and get the phone of my choice. >> > >> > So, today she sent a message saying I need to leave my laptop Thursday >> > night. The thing is, i have a huge work appt after hours on Thursday and >> > before work hours on Friday. So no laptop could pose a problem. >> > >> > I am not really on speaking terms with her since the phone situation - >> it >> > ended with me getting my own phone and losing my number because she >> screwed >> > up and I was unable to get my number back due to her error. >> > >> > So anyway, the IT guy is my client. I work with him almost every day - >> we >> > do >> > trade and my services are what we trade. So I responded to the IT guy >> and >> > asked him if any other times would work for him since I need my laptop. >> > >> > Here is what I got back from the office manager- the IT guy forwarded it >> to >> > her and told her some other options for times. >> > >> > * " Don't go around me to talk to Lance! I schedule IT, not you. I don't >> > know what your problem is, but if you are mad at me over the phone >> > situation, that is absolutely ridiculous. All I did was try to help >> you!* >> > >> > * * >> > >> > *I also need to know what you are going to do with the phone, since the >> > idiot at the Apple store couldn't port your number. Every other number >> > that >> > has been ported in or out of has worked just fine. >> > * >> > >> > *If you want to have 2 phones, I don't care, but I am not going to pay >> > extra >> > to keep that number if you are not using it. You can sell the phone that >> > phone, but we will retain the #. Or maybe you could talk to the idiot >> and >> > see if he can swap the #'s. " * >> > >> > I have decided to respond with medium chill. I have no interest in >> talking >> > to her or even dignifying this with a response. However, I need to keep >> > some >> > level of professional relationship with her at least for the time being. >> I >> > wanted to hear from you guys what you think I should respond with to >> keep >> a >> > medium chill. If she is going to refer to my feelings as completely >> > ridiculous, we don't even have a starting point. I do have a response >> > prepared but I wanted feedback first. I talked to boyfriend about it but >> he >> > doesn't understand the technique. >> > >> > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 20, 2011 Report Share Posted July 20, 2011 OMG seriously she's not your boss? Then you don't really owe her anything...not really. Do you? ~~Velvet_Tears74~~ Whatever it takes..... medium chill help > > > > > > Hey Guys, > > I need some help with medium chill. > > > > So I've posted a lot about how my phone broke and my office manager left > me > > without any phone at all for 11 days - I had to wait so that I could port > > my > > own number out of the office system and get the phone of my choice. > > > > So, today she sent a message saying I need to leave my laptop Thursday > > night. The thing is, i have a huge work appt after hours on Thursday and > > before work hours on Friday. So no laptop could pose a problem. > > > > I am not really on speaking terms with her since the phone situation - it > > ended with me getting my own phone and losing my number because she > screwed > > up and I was unable to get my number back due to her error. > > > > So anyway, the IT guy is my client. I work with him almost every day - we > > do > > trade and my services are what we trade. So I responded to the IT guy and > > asked him if any other times would work for him since I need my laptop. > > > > Here is what I got back from the office manager- the IT guy forwarded it > to > > her and told her some other options for times. > > > > * " Don't go around me to talk to Lance! I schedule IT, not you. I don't > > know what your problem is, but if you are mad at me over the phone > > situation, that is absolutely ridiculous. All I did was try to help you!* > > > > * * > > > > *I also need to know what you are going to do with the phone, since the > > idiot at the Apple store couldn't port your number. Every other number > > that > > has been ported in or out of has worked just fine. > > * > > > > *If you want to have 2 phones, I don't care, but I am not going to pay > > extra > > to keep that number if you are not using it. You can sell the phone that > > phone, but we will retain the #. Or maybe you could talk to the idiot and > > see if he can swap the #'s. " * > > > > I have decided to respond with medium chill. I have no interest in > talking > > to her or even dignifying this with a response. However, I need to keep > > some > > level of professional relationship with her at least for the time being. > I > > wanted to hear from you guys what you think I should respond with to keep > a > > medium chill. If she is going to refer to my feelings as completely > > ridiculous, we don't even have a starting point. I do have a response > > prepared but I wanted feedback first. I talked to boyfriend about it but > he > > doesn't understand the technique. > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 20, 2011 Report Share Posted July 20, 2011 Well, she's the director of HR. So she is responsible for mediating disputes (ha), approving raises, and has a say in hiring and firing. And clearly she is highly trained in workplace psychology based on her professional behavior! I have practiced my lines all night for when she attacks me face to face. I'm planning to say things like " You are certainly entitled to your own opinion . " and " I may not agree with you but I respect your right to see it your way. " " and " I'll respect your wishes. " and " what you do next is entirely your choice. " And I expect her to demand my new phone number - to which I will say something like " I get my e-mails on my phone so you are welcome to reach me that way at any time. " And if really pressed something like " I think your accusations are an effort to start a fight with me and that is not going to work. I've noticed in the past that this is how you attempt to clear the air. I have no intention of fighting back. " or even just simply " You are entitled to your opinions and I have no interest in fighting back. If you would like to talk to me why don't you come back when you are more relaxed. " She has been here for about 40 min and hasn't attacked me yet. But I feel like barfing. On Wed, Jul 20, 2011 at 10:57 AM, Stacey Corsa wrote: > ** > > > OMG seriously she's not your boss? Then you don't really owe her > anything...not really. Do you? > > > ~~Velvet_Tears74~~ > > Whatever it takes..... > > medium chill help > > > > > > > > > Hey Guys, > > > I need some help with medium chill. > > > > > > So I've posted a lot about how my phone broke and my office manager > left > > me > > > without any phone at all for 11 days - I had to wait so that I could > port > > > my > > > own number out of the office system and get the phone of my choice. > > > > > > So, today she sent a message saying I need to leave my laptop Thursday > > > night. The thing is, i have a huge work appt after hours on Thursday > and > > > before work hours on Friday. So no laptop could pose a problem. > > > > > > I am not really on speaking terms with her since the phone situation - > it > > > ended with me getting my own phone and losing my number because she > > screwed > > > up and I was unable to get my number back due to her error. > > > > > > So anyway, the IT guy is my client. I work with him almost every day - > we > > > do > > > trade and my services are what we trade. So I responded to the IT guy > and > > > asked him if any other times would work for him since I need my laptop. > > > > > > Here is what I got back from the office manager- the IT guy forwarded > it > > to > > > her and told her some other options for times. > > > > > > * " Don't go around me to talk to Lance! I schedule IT, not you. I don't > > > know what your problem is, but if you are mad at me over the phone > > > situation, that is absolutely ridiculous. All I did was try to help > you!* > > > > > > * * > > > > > > *I also need to know what you are going to do with the phone, since the > > > idiot at the Apple store couldn't port your number. Every other number > > > that > > > has been ported in or out of has worked just fine. > > > * > > > > > > *If you want to have 2 phones, I don't care, but I am not going to pay > > > extra > > > to keep that number if you are not using it. You can sell the phone > that > > > phone, but we will retain the #. Or maybe you could talk to the idiot > and > > > see if he can swap the #'s. " * > > > > > > I have decided to respond with medium chill. I have no interest in > > talking > > > to her or even dignifying this with a response. However, I need to keep > > > some > > > level of professional relationship with her at least for the time > being. > > I > > > wanted to hear from you guys what you think I should respond with to > keep > > a > > > medium chill. If she is going to refer to my feelings as completely > > > ridiculous, we don't even have a starting point. I do have a response > > > prepared but I wanted feedback first. I talked to boyfriend about it > but > > he > > > doesn't understand the technique. > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 20, 2011 Report Share Posted July 20, 2011 I'm thinking my medium chill e-mail may have worked. I haven't heard anything or been confronted so far today. Of course, I took a long lunch break, so who knows. But I would imagine that if I hadn't been successful in diffusing the rage I would have been attacked by now. I know you guys are on pins and needles. HA HA Is confrontation this hard for everyone???? On Wed, Jul 20, 2011 at 11:15 AM, Girlscout Cowboy < girlscout.cowboy@...> wrote: > Well, she's the director of HR. So she is responsible for mediating > disputes (ha), approving raises, and has a say in hiring and firing. And > clearly she is highly trained in workplace psychology based on her > professional behavior! > > I have practiced my lines all night for when she attacks me face to face. > I'm planning to say things like " You are certainly entitled to your own > opinion . " and " I may not agree with you but I respect your right to see it > your way. " " and " I'll respect your wishes. " and " what you do next is > entirely your choice. " And I expect her to demand my new phone number - to > which I will say something like " I get my e-mails on my phone so you are > welcome to reach me that way at any time. " > > And if really pressed something like " I think your accusations are an > effort to start a fight with me and that is not going to work. I've noticed > in the past that this is how you attempt to clear the air. I have no > intention of fighting back. " or even just simply " You are entitled to your > opinions and I have no interest in fighting back. If you would like to talk > to me why don't you come back when you are more relaxed. " > > She has been here for about 40 min and hasn't attacked me yet. But I feel > like barfing. > > > On Wed, Jul 20, 2011 at 10:57 AM, Stacey Corsa wrote: > >> ** >> >> >> OMG seriously she's not your boss? Then you don't really owe her >> anything...not really. Do you? >> >> >> ~~Velvet_Tears74~~ >> >> Whatever it takes..... >> >> medium chill help >> > > >> > > >> > > Hey Guys, >> > > I need some help with medium chill. >> > > >> > > So I've posted a lot about how my phone broke and my office manager >> left >> > me >> > > without any phone at all for 11 days - I had to wait so that I could >> port >> > > my >> > > own number out of the office system and get the phone of my choice. >> > > >> > > So, today she sent a message saying I need to leave my laptop Thursday >> > > night. The thing is, i have a huge work appt after hours on Thursday >> and >> > > before work hours on Friday. So no laptop could pose a problem. >> > > >> > > I am not really on speaking terms with her since the phone situation - >> it >> > > ended with me getting my own phone and losing my number because she >> > screwed >> > > up and I was unable to get my number back due to her error. >> > > >> > > So anyway, the IT guy is my client. I work with him almost every day - >> we >> > > do >> > > trade and my services are what we trade. So I responded to the IT guy >> and >> > > asked him if any other times would work for him since I need my >> laptop. >> > > >> > > Here is what I got back from the office manager- the IT guy forwarded >> it >> > to >> > > her and told her some other options for times. >> > > >> > > * " Don't go around me to talk to Lance! I schedule IT, not you. I don't >> > > know what your problem is, but if you are mad at me over the phone >> > > situation, that is absolutely ridiculous. All I did was try to help >> you!* >> > > >> > > * * >> > > >> > > *I also need to know what you are going to do with the phone, since >> the >> > > idiot at the Apple store couldn't port your number. Every other number >> > > that >> > > has been ported in or out of has worked just fine. >> > > * >> > > >> > > *If you want to have 2 phones, I don't care, but I am not going to pay >> > > extra >> > > to keep that number if you are not using it. You can sell the phone >> that >> > > phone, but we will retain the #. Or maybe you could talk to the idiot >> and >> > > see if he can swap the #'s. " * >> > > >> > > I have decided to respond with medium chill. I have no interest in >> > talking >> > > to her or even dignifying this with a response. However, I need to >> keep >> > > some >> > > level of professional relationship with her at least for the time >> being. >> > I >> > > wanted to hear from you guys what you think I should respond with to >> keep >> > a >> > > medium chill. If she is going to refer to my feelings as completely >> > > ridiculous, we don't even have a starting point. I do have a response >> > > prepared but I wanted feedback first. I talked to boyfriend about it >> but >> > he >> > > doesn't understand the technique. >> > > >> > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 20, 2011 Report Share Posted July 20, 2011 Sounds like you have an awesome plan...hang in there! ~~Velvet_Tears74~~ Whatever it takes..... medium chill help > > > > > > > > > Hey Guys, > > > I need some help with medium chill. > > > > > > So I've posted a lot about how my phone broke and my office manager > left > > me > > > without any phone at all for 11 days - I had to wait so that I could > port > > > my > > > own number out of the office system and get the phone of my choice. > > > > > > So, today she sent a message saying I need to leave my laptop Thursday > > > night. The thing is, i have a huge work appt after hours on Thursday > and > > > before work hours on Friday. So no laptop could pose a problem. > > > > > > I am not really on speaking terms with her since the phone situation - > it > > > ended with me getting my own phone and losing my number because she > > screwed > > > up and I was unable to get my number back due to her error. > > > > > > So anyway, the IT guy is my client. I work with him almost every day - > we > > > do > > > trade and my services are what we trade. So I responded to the IT guy > and > > > asked him if any other times would work for him since I need my laptop. > > > > > > Here is what I got back from the office manager- the IT guy forwarded > it > > to > > > her and told her some other options for times. > > > > > > * " Don't go around me to talk to Lance! I schedule IT, not you. I don't > > > know what your problem is, but if you are mad at me over the phone > > > situation, that is absolutely ridiculous. All I did was try to help > you!* > > > > > > * * > > > > > > *I also need to know what you are going to do with the phone, since the > > > idiot at the Apple store couldn't port your number. Every other number > > > that > > > has been ported in or out of has worked just fine. > > > * > > > > > > *If you want to have 2 phones, I don't care, but I am not going to pay > > > extra > > > to keep that number if you are not using it. You can sell the phone > that > > > phone, but we will retain the #. Or maybe you could talk to the idiot > and > > > see if he can swap the #'s. " * > > > > > > I have decided to respond with medium chill. I have no interest in > > talking > > > to her or even dignifying this with a response. However, I need to keep > > > some > > > level of professional relationship with her at least for the time > being. > > I > > > wanted to hear from you guys what you think I should respond with to > keep > > a > > > medium chill. If she is going to refer to my feelings as completely > > > ridiculous, we don't even have a starting point. I do have a response > > > prepared but I wanted feedback first. I talked to boyfriend about it > but > > he > > > doesn't understand the technique. > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 20, 2011 Report Share Posted July 20, 2011 Ignore her accusations and simply answer her question. Dear BLANK: I cannot leave laptop on Thursday due to a work appointment at such and such time. BLANK time would be good for IT to do the work they need to do. Regarding phone, I will speak again with phone guy to see if he can port numbers, but, as I said earlier, they were unsuccessful before. If they cannot, I will return said phone to you to process as you deem fit. Do not give explanations, do not give her anything else. Just answer the questions. Everything is else is moot and pointless. Just answer her questions. On an aside: WHAT A BITCH! > > Hey Guys, > I need some help with medium chill. > > So I've posted a lot about how my phone broke and my office manager left me > without any phone at all for 11 days - I had to wait so that I could port my > own number out of the office system and get the phone of my choice. > > So, today she sent a message saying I need to leave my laptop Thursday > night. The thing is, i have a huge work appt after hours on Thursday and > before work hours on Friday. So no laptop could pose a problem. > > I am not really on speaking terms with her since the phone situation - it > ended with me getting my own phone and losing my number because she screwed > up and I was unable to get my number back due to her error. > > So anyway, the IT guy is my client. I work with him almost every day - we do > trade and my services are what we trade. So I responded to the IT guy and > asked him if any other times would work for him since I need my laptop. > > Here is what I got back from the office manager- the IT guy forwarded it to > her and told her some other options for times. > > * " Don't go around me to talk to Lance! I schedule IT, not you. I don't > know what your problem is, but if you are mad at me over the phone > situation, that is absolutely ridiculous. All I did was try to help you!* > > * * > > *I also need to know what you are going to do with the phone, since the > idiot at the Apple store couldn't port your number. Every other number that > has been ported in or out of has worked just fine. > * > > *If you want to have 2 phones, I don't care, but I am not going to pay extra > to keep that number if you are not using it. You can sell the phone that > phone, but we will retain the #. Or maybe you could talk to the idiot and > see if he can swap the #'s. " * > > > I have decided to respond with medium chill. I have no interest in talking > to her or even dignifying this with a response. However, I need to keep some > level of professional relationship with her at least for the time being. I > wanted to hear from you guys what you think I should respond with to keep a > medium chill. If she is going to refer to my feelings as completely > ridiculous, we don't even have a starting point. I do have a response > prepared but I wanted feedback first. I talked to boyfriend about it but he > doesn't understand the technique. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 20, 2011 Report Share Posted July 20, 2011 LOVE IT THanks > ** > > > Ignore her accusations and simply answer her question. > > Dear BLANK: I cannot leave laptop on Thursday due to a work appointment at > such and such time. BLANK time would be good for IT to do the work they need > to do. > > Regarding phone, I will speak again with phone guy to see if he can port > numbers, but, as I said earlier, they were unsuccessful before. If they > cannot, I will return said phone to you to process as you deem fit. > > Do not give explanations, do not give her anything else. Just answer the > questions. Everything is else is moot and pointless. Just answer her > questions. > > On an aside: WHAT A BITCH! > > > > > > > > > Hey Guys, > > I need some help with medium chill. > > > > So I've posted a lot about how my phone broke and my office manager left > me > > without any phone at all for 11 days - I had to wait so that I could port > my > > own number out of the office system and get the phone of my choice. > > > > So, today she sent a message saying I need to leave my laptop Thursday > > night. The thing is, i have a huge work appt after hours on Thursday and > > before work hours on Friday. So no laptop could pose a problem. > > > > I am not really on speaking terms with her since the phone situation - it > > ended with me getting my own phone and losing my number because she > screwed > > up and I was unable to get my number back due to her error. > > > > So anyway, the IT guy is my client. I work with him almost every day - we > do > > trade and my services are what we trade. So I responded to the IT guy and > > asked him if any other times would work for him since I need my laptop. > > > > Here is what I got back from the office manager- the IT guy forwarded it > to > > her and told her some other options for times. > > > > * " Don't go around me to talk to Lance! I schedule IT, not you. I don't > > know what your problem is, but if you are mad at me over the phone > > situation, that is absolutely ridiculous. All I did was try to help you!* > > > > * * > > > > *I also need to know what you are going to do with the phone, since the > > idiot at the Apple store couldn't port your number. Every other number > that > > has been ported in or out of has worked just fine. > > * > > > > *If you want to have 2 phones, I don't care, but I am not going to pay > extra > > to keep that number if you are not using it. You can sell the phone that > > phone, but we will retain the #. Or maybe you could talk to the idiot and > > see if he can swap the #'s. " * > > > > > > I have decided to respond with medium chill. I have no interest in > talking > > to her or even dignifying this with a response. However, I need to keep > some > > level of professional relationship with her at least for the time being. > I > > wanted to hear from you guys what you think I should respond with to keep > a > > medium chill. If she is going to refer to my feelings as completely > > ridiculous, we don't even have a starting point. I do have a response > > prepared but I wanted feedback first. I talked to boyfriend about it but > he > > doesn't understand the technique. > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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