Guest guest Posted July 17, 2011 Report Share Posted July 17, 2011 So I went and stayed with my friend last night whose husband " tried " to off himself this time last week. He got out of the hospital Thursday and then a family member came and got him. In the hospital they diagnosed him with BPD. Wow, ton of bricks. And my friend is just totally grief stricken. I'm hoping she leaves him, but I don't know if she will. He really hasn't contributed much for the last 2 years. . . I don't se e all the criteria in him - I've never seen him split and he seems to have a consistent identity, but I see a lot of the others - esp the raging and self injuring. At the same time this was going on, a guy I have only met for a few minutes sent me an e-mail to tell me that I shouldn't use live models in my artwork in the future. He said it detracts from my work. What the hell???? First of all, he has no freaking right to even have an opinion, I BARELY even know him. Second of all, who tells a fashion/costume designer that their model - who an outfit was created to represent - that the model detracts. I told him it was like telling someone that the gift inside of a gift-wrapped package detracts from the ribbon on top. So we got in kind of a fight. I don't get it - he volunteered at my friend's gallery. I suspect I have spent more time in that gallery than he has. Then 8 days after I did something mildly controversial with live models at the gallery (with the gallery owner's permission), he e-mails me and tells me I got the presentation wrong on my own work? So anyway I'm just bugged as hell about that. I unfriended him electronically and I won't be talking to him again. We think he has that too big for his britches intern syndrome. Ok and then there is more. I just had another horrible horrible horrible migraine. Puking, crying etc etc etc. I don't know how I'm going to get through this with the pain that just comes out of no where and completely envelopes me. It was actually really scary. I can't get a neurologist to take me - not that they helped me that much in the past when they were bad. I wish I had an emergency eject button, but instead I took a couple of tynenol PMs the analgesic doesn't even touch it, but to escape into sleep for a few hours is miraculous. .. Effffff kinda hating my life right now. Also having a lot of probs with equipment breaking down. And I'm still not on speaking terms with my office manager because she left me without a phone for 11 days (in the middle of a horrible migraine flare) and then she made me jump through a thousand hoops to get my phone number back and I ended up having to get a new number anyway because she was lazy/mistrustful/bitchy and humiliated me. That's my world in a nutshell. UGGGGGH anyone want to trade? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 20, 2011 Report Share Posted July 20, 2011 Me. Sorry you're having such a rough time. How did that fashion show go? --. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 20, 2011 Report Share Posted July 20, 2011 HA HA lets trade. I lost about 10 years worth of pictures today when my hard drive went out. THe fashion show was a pain but went off without a hitch and I got feedback that it was the most professional one yet. So that was good, But the conflict is very hard on me!!!!! Should I hide out? I don't know. This weekend a dumbass who I have only met for a few min sent me a critique of my art and told me my whole approach detracts. HELP ME MAKE IT STOP HA HA ok I was just being dramatic. I'm doing better this hour. > ** > > > > Me. > > Sorry you're having such a rough time. > > How did that fashion show go? > > --. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 20, 2011 Report Share Posted July 20, 2011 Girlscout, I know it's hard, but just say " thank you for your feedback " and DELETE. Don't give it any other thought. Treat the jerk just like your nada. I wish I had done the same thing with a guy who did the same " I know everything " thing to me about a year ago, and I actually called him out on it. Well, now I wish I hadn't because I've changed jobs and he's a donor (albeit not the biggest by far) to the organization I work for now. Of course, I can, fortunately, have others deal with him, and if it ever comes up I can completely defend myself, I can show the emails and how rude he was (he actually accused me of being bipolar when I told him, after saying " no thanks " a number of times, to stop forcing unsolicited advice on me). So just delete and move on. Some fights are not worth it at all. This guy doesn't sound worth the effort of getting worked up. I say just laugh at his pathetic ass and move on. Seriously, we all need bigger egos. We get crushed by the smallest little jerks. If we had bigger egos, we would just laugh at them like the puny little children they are and walk away. > > > ** > > > > > > > > Me. > > > > Sorry you're having such a rough time. > > > > How did that fashion show go? > > > > --. > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 20, 2011 Report Share Posted July 20, 2011 Thank you. On the topic of ego, I have a role model. I watch my friend, a transvestite and utter queen. She is always always nice- but always always confident and doesn't waste time on people who don't realize she is a total star. Now I feel guilty for saying that I see myself as a star - but good god when you are a spokeswoman, pro dancer, fashion designer, runway organizer, social media personality and artist. . . well at some point you have to stop seeing yourself as an unworthy piece of shit That's how I've progressed through all my issues in therapy to date. I find a role model or an image or photo to fixate on, and then I work around that until I'm comfortable. Wow, I'm really uncomfortable with this one. But I can't go through life feeling like I'm dirt under a shoe. And I know I have just a little of that something Tyler More had - she can turn the world on with her smile. . . type of thing. Help me guys I feel like an ass admitting that I picked a tranny queen with Tyler charisma for my role model - but I'm telling you she shakes her platnum hair and 5 hot guys pick up her chair and twirl her around. Meanwhile she makes everyone feel beautiful, loved, cherished. . . so long as they deserve it. Yeah next time I will delete. I asked him a few questions and then I did just that. What a jackass. And they always end up being a client/donor eventually. But I do have my ways with clients - I don't think they would translate to donors. . . XOXO On Wed, Jul 20, 2011 at 7:23 PM, afldancer ne fwrote: > ** > > > Girlscout, I know it's hard, but just say " thank you for your feedback " and > DELETE. Don't give it any other thought. Treat the jerk just like your nada. > > > I wish I had done the same thing with a guy who did the same " I know > everything " thing to me about a year ago, and I actually called him out on > it. Well, now I wish I hadn't because I've changed jobs and he's a donor > (albeit not the biggest by far) to the organization I work for now. Of > course, I can, fortunately, have others deal with him, and if it ever comes > up I can completely defend myself, I can show the emails and how rude he was > (he actually accused me of being bipolar when I told him, after saying " no > thanks " a number of times, to stop forcing unsolicited advice on me). So > just delete and move on. Some fights are not worth it at all. This guy > doesn't sound worth the effort of getting worked up. I say just laugh at his > pathetic ass and move on. > > Seriously, we all need bigger egos. We get crushed by the smallest little > jerks. If we had bigger egos, we would just laugh at them like the puny > little children they are and walk away. > > e > > > > > > > > ** > > > > > > > > > > > > Me. > > > > > > Sorry you're having such a rough time. > > > > > > How did that fashion show go? > > > > > > --. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 21, 2011 Report Share Posted July 21, 2011 " She is always always nice- but always always confident and doesn't waste time on people who don't realize she is a total star. " Wow, I love that! I want to be like that. It really is a waste of time trying to make people you don't even like see what they'll never see. > > > > > > > ** > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Me. > > > > > > > > Sorry you're having such a rough time. > > > > > > > > How did that fashion show go? > > > > > > > > --. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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