weddings (was: Re: Mother n law with bpd)

[Guest guest]

Amy,

I think they have an issue with any occasion where someone else

is meant to be the center of attention. Weddings are all about

the bride and the groom, not about nada or fada. Graduations and

funerals are other examples of occasions where they aren't

usually the center of attention. They tend to react to that by

creating drama that puts them at the center of attention.

Refusing to attend if they don't get their way is one method of

creating drama. They hope to either have people begging them to

come or being upset over their absense. Coming but making a

scene in some way is another way they try to draw attention to

themselves.

I've never gotten married but I decided long ago that there was

no way I was ever going to have a big wedding where my nada

could cause a commotion. My brother got married, but he did it

in Japan without even telling us his exact plans and thus

escaped from having nada cause trouble. (We knew he intended to

get married once some immigration issues were dealt with but

that's it.)

At 03:44 PM 07/20/2011 Amy Leah wrote:

>What is it with BPD's and weddings? My nada did not attend my

>wedding either....I let her make my wedding day feel sad and

>tearful. No more.

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Katrina