weddings (was: Re: Mother n law with bpd)

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> Amy,

> I think they have an issue with any occasion where someone else

> is meant to be the center of attention. Weddings are all about

> the bride and the groom, not about nada or fada.

That's true. But a child's wedding is often also an abandonment trigger. The

child has grown up and is showing the world that they would rather live with

someone else than at " home. " The parent w/BPD feels rejected and replaced. Every

parent with BPD, no matter which subtype, will find something triggering about

their child's wedding. (And, as you mentioned, their graduations or their

becoming parents themselves.)