Guest guest Posted February 24, 2012 Report Share Posted February 24, 2012 I originally started therapy because I was diagnosed with bpd... After lots of sessions I came to understand more about how bpd affects your personality and that my mother shared many of the same symptoms as me... She is still in denial but I am determined to change so that I will be a better mother than her... My therapist recommended the book " stop walking on eggshells " not only to better understand my own behaviors but to learn how to cope with my mothers as well... She lives with my son and I, and I'm very worried for my son because he is forced to live in the constant war between my mother and I... I just want it all to stop... I want my son to have a happy childhood and not live in fear... Eden Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 26, 2012 Report Share Posted February 26, 2012 Any chance you can ask your mother to move out? If she is older, perhaps you can recommend an assisted living facility. > ** > > > I originally started therapy because I was diagnosed with bpd... After > lots of sessions I came to understand more about how bpd affects your > personality and that my mother shared many of the same symptoms as me... > She is still in denial but I am determined to change so that I will be a > better mother than her... My therapist recommended the book " stop walking > on eggshells " not only to better understand my own behaviors but to learn > how to cope with my mothers as well... > > She lives with my son and I, and I'm very worried for my son because he is > forced to live in the constant war between my mother and I... I just want > it all to stop... I want my son to have a happy childhood and not live in > fear... > > Eden > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 26, 2012 Report Share Posted February 26, 2012 Hi Eden, Actually, this Group is for those who do not have bpd, but are the adult children of bpd parents. I usually offer a disclaimer that if you have been diagnosed with bpd, you will probably find most of the posts here very triggering and upsetting instead of helpful and healing, because this Group is one of the very few places for those who were abused as children and as adults by their bpd parents to freely and openly vent their hurt, to express their anger at being abused and mistreated, and this valid anger is mostly directed at the bpd parent(s) who abused them, and/or at their enmeshed, enabling, co-depenent parent. The anger and hurt expressed here would naturally feel very invalidating, hostile, unsupportive and perhaps even like a personal attack to someone who has bpd. So, you make that determination. There are websites and support groups like this one that are specifically for those who have borderline pd, and are focused on helping those with bpd on their journey toward mental health. Here are some links to groups for those with borderline pd, that seem to have a good-sized membership and are active: http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/borderline-personality-discussions http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/BPDTodayNewsletter/ http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/PersonalityDisorders/ http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/dbtclass/ I hope that you will find a solution to your current situation that works for you, and I hope that your young son has access to therapy as well. You are correct: being exposed to frequent verbal altercations between you and your mother can be not only upsetting to your child but can have a negative impact on his emotional development. -Annie > > I originally started therapy because I was diagnosed with bpd... After lots of sessions I came to understand more about how bpd affects your personality and that my mother shared many of the same symptoms as me... She is still in denial but I am determined to change so that I will be a better mother than her... My therapist recommended the book " stop walking on eggshells " not only to better understand my own behaviors but to learn how to cope with my mothers as well... > > She lives with my son and I, and I'm very worried for my son because he is forced to live in the constant war between my mother and I... I just want it all to stop... I want my son to have a happy childhood and not live in fear... > > Eden > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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