Guest guest Posted July 21, 2011 Report Share Posted July 21, 2011 Sorry it's been a while since I've posted. For some of the members, you might recall that fiance & I are dealing with his likely uBPD ex wife. Well... I called CPS on my step kids' nada. Reported the horder-esq condition of the house, many issues with the kids (missing school because parent not up to get step daughter up, step son's sprained finger that she waited 3 days to tell us about and said " no gas " to take him to ER), reported fiance taking food over there because baby momma stated no food, etc. And the newest revelation that has finally given me the courage to do this... as if all the other shit wasn't bad enough... The receintly got 3 kittens because they have mice (stupid reason). They also have a rabbit they've had for a while. They've had consisten problems with step son putting condiments & windex on the rabbit. Recently he has also pooped his pants & smeared it all over the rabbit's cage... he's still not potty trained. Now that they have kittens, he keeps picking them up by their necks, putting them in the refridgerator, etc. He has been told (supposedly) by his mother not to do these things to the animals, and I have personally chatted with him about it, how it could hurt the kitties & the bunny, etc. But he keeps doing these things. He's 4 and is abusing animals. I apologies for the typos & errors, I am shaking. I told fiance last night that I was calling, and that hopefully it wouldn't interfere with our relationship, but if it did, that was ok because what's happening with the kids at their nada's is NOT ok. Fiance was very sad but also stated " I know it has to be done. I wish there were another way, but I don't know what else to do. " Step son will be 5 next month. They still give him his pacifier at his nada's house. We broke him of it here and it was easy, ddn't take long for him to stop asking for it. But there, he sucks on it constantly. He recently had to have dental surgery and the dentist even told his " mother " to take it away. Not to mention how many times the kids come over filthy... disgustingly filthy. Step daughter starts middle school in the fall... every weekend for the past month or so we have had to DEMATT her hair. Last weekend her dad was helping her with it and asked her when the last time she combed it was... she said when she was here the weekend before. She's also told us on several occasions that the only time she bathes/showers is at our house. Step son is also always filthy. Often comes over with beverage stains on his chest, legs, face, etc that have been left to just dry on his skin... then it gets sticky and dirt will be stuck all over it. I also reported how step son has reported to us, " I am bad. I am horrible. I am terrible. " and told the woman on the phone how I have witnessed their nada saying " HE'S SO TERRIBLE! " while shouting and looking right at him. I reported it all. So yes, World War III is about to begin. And you know what, as scared as I am, it's ok. Those kids deserve better. Now all I can do is wait because I don't know exactly when they will show up at her house... but I am more than fairly certain fiance will hear all about it when it happens. Send good vibes, please. We need them. Mia Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 21, 2011 Report Share Posted July 21, 2011 Stay strong, Mia! Sometimes doing the right thing is the hardest thing to do. > > Sorry it's been a while since I've posted. For some of the members, you > might recall that fiance & I are dealing with his likely uBPD ex wife. > Well... > > I called CPS on my step kids' nada. Reported the horder-esq condition of the > house, many issues with the kids (missing school because parent not up to > get step daughter up, step son's sprained finger that she waited 3 days to > tell us about and said " no gas " to take him to ER), reported fiance taking > food over there because baby momma stated no food, etc. And the newest > revelation that has finally given me the courage to do this... as if all the > other shit wasn't bad enough... > > The receintly got 3 kittens because they have mice (stupid reason). They > also have a rabbit they've had for a while. They've had consisten problems > with step son putting condiments & windex on the rabbit. Recently he has > also pooped his pants & smeared it all over the rabbit's cage... he's still > not potty trained. Now that they have kittens, he keeps picking them up by > their necks, putting them in the refridgerator, etc. He has been told > (supposedly) by his mother not to do these things to the animals, and I have > personally chatted with him about it, how it could hurt the kitties & the > bunny, etc. But he keeps doing these things. He's 4 and is abusing animals. > > I apologies for the typos & errors, I am shaking. I told fiance last night > that I was calling, and that hopefully it wouldn't interfere with our > relationship, but if it did, that was ok because what's happening with the > kids at their nada's is NOT ok. Fiance was very sad but also stated " I know > it has to be done. I wish there were another way, but I don't know what else > to do. " > > Step son will be 5 next month. They still give him his pacifier at his > nada's house. We broke him of it here and it was easy, ddn't take long for > him to stop asking for it. But there, he sucks on it constantly. He recently > had to have dental surgery and the dentist even told his " mother " to take it > away. Not to mention how many times the kids come over filthy... > disgustingly filthy. Step daughter starts middle school in the fall... every > weekend for the past month or so we have had to DEMATT her hair. Last > weekend her dad was helping her with it and asked her when the last time she > combed it was... she said when she was here the weekend before. She's also > told us on several occasions that the only time she bathes/showers is at our > house. Step son is also always filthy. Often comes over with beverage stains > on his chest, legs, face, etc that have been left to just dry on his skin... > then it gets sticky and dirt will be stuck all over it. > > I also reported how step son has reported to us, " I am bad. I am horrible. I > am terrible. " and told the woman on the phone how I have witnessed their > nada saying " HE'S SO TERRIBLE! " while shouting and looking right at him. > > I reported it all. > > So yes, World War III is about to begin. And you know what, as scared as I > am, it's ok. Those kids deserve better. Now all I can do is wait because I > don't know exactly when they will show up at her house... but I am more than > fairly certain fiance will hear all about it when it happens. > > Send good vibes, please. We need them. > > Mia > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 21, 2011 Report Share Posted July 21, 2011 I second that, Mia and commend you on having the courage to do what you needed to do. Those kids are damn lucky to have you in their corner! Please keep us posted. > > > > Sorry it's been a while since I've posted. For some of the members, you > > might recall that fiance & I are dealing with his likely uBPD ex wife. > > Well... > > > > I called CPS on my step kids' nada. Reported the horder-esq condition of the > > house, many issues with the kids (missing school because parent not up to > > get step daughter up, step son's sprained finger that she waited 3 days to > > tell us about and said " no gas " to take him to ER), reported fiance taking > > food over there because baby momma stated no food, etc. And the newest > > revelation that has finally given me the courage to do this... as if all the > > other shit wasn't bad enough... > > > > The receintly got 3 kittens because they have mice (stupid reason). They > > also have a rabbit they've had for a while. They've had consisten problems > > with step son putting condiments & windex on the rabbit. Recently he has > > also pooped his pants & smeared it all over the rabbit's cage... he's still > > not potty trained. Now that they have kittens, he keeps picking them up by > > their necks, putting them in the refridgerator, etc. He has been told > > (supposedly) by his mother not to do these things to the animals, and I have > > personally chatted with him about it, how it could hurt the kitties & the > > bunny, etc. But he keeps doing these things. He's 4 and is abusing animals. > > > > I apologies for the typos & errors, I am shaking. I told fiance last night > > that I was calling, and that hopefully it wouldn't interfere with our > > relationship, but if it did, that was ok because what's happening with the > > kids at their nada's is NOT ok. Fiance was very sad but also stated " I know > > it has to be done. I wish there were another way, but I don't know what else > > to do. " > > > > Step son will be 5 next month. They still give him his pacifier at his > > nada's house. We broke him of it here and it was easy, ddn't take long for > > him to stop asking for it. But there, he sucks on it constantly. He recently > > had to have dental surgery and the dentist even told his " mother " to take it > > away. Not to mention how many times the kids come over filthy... > > disgustingly filthy. Step daughter starts middle school in the fall... every > > weekend for the past month or so we have had to DEMATT her hair. Last > > weekend her dad was helping her with it and asked her when the last time she > > combed it was... she said when she was here the weekend before. She's also > > told us on several occasions that the only time she bathes/showers is at our > > house. Step son is also always filthy. Often comes over with beverage stains > > on his chest, legs, face, etc that have been left to just dry on his skin... > > then it gets sticky and dirt will be stuck all over it. > > > > I also reported how step son has reported to us, " I am bad. I am horrible. I > > am terrible. " and told the woman on the phone how I have witnessed their > > nada saying " HE'S SO TERRIBLE! " while shouting and looking right at him. > > > > I reported it all. > > > > So yes, World War III is about to begin. And you know what, as scared as I > > am, it's ok. Those kids deserve better. Now all I can do is wait because I > > don't know exactly when they will show up at her house... but I am more than > > fairly certain fiance will hear all about it when it happens. > > > > Send good vibes, please. We need them. > > > > Mia > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 21, 2011 Report Share Posted July 21, 2011 Stay strong! You did the right thing. You absolutely did. Those kids are lucky to have you as a mom > ** > > > Sorry it's been a while since I've posted. For some of the members, you > might recall that fiance & I are dealing with his likely uBPD ex wife. > Well... > > I called CPS on my step kids' nada. Reported the horder-esq condition of > the > house, many issues with the kids (missing school because parent not up to > get step daughter up, step son's sprained finger that she waited 3 days to > tell us about and said " no gas " to take him to ER), reported fiance taking > food over there because baby momma stated no food, etc. And the newest > revelation that has finally given me the courage to do this... as if all > the > other shit wasn't bad enough... > > The receintly got 3 kittens because they have mice (stupid reason). They > also have a rabbit they've had for a while. They've had consisten problems > with step son putting condiments & windex on the rabbit. Recently he has > also pooped his pants & smeared it all over the rabbit's cage... he's still > not potty trained. Now that they have kittens, he keeps picking them up by > their necks, putting them in the refridgerator, etc. He has been told > (supposedly) by his mother not to do these things to the animals, and I > have > personally chatted with him about it, how it could hurt the kitties & the > bunny, etc. But he keeps doing these things. He's 4 and is abusing animals. > > I apologies for the typos & errors, I am shaking. I told fiance last night > that I was calling, and that hopefully it wouldn't interfere with our > relationship, but if it did, that was ok because what's happening with the > kids at their nada's is NOT ok. Fiance was very sad but also stated " I know > it has to be done. I wish there were another way, but I don't know what > else > to do. " > > Step son will be 5 next month. They still give him his pacifier at his > nada's house. We broke him of it here and it was easy, ddn't take long for > him to stop asking for it. But there, he sucks on it constantly. He > recently > had to have dental surgery and the dentist even told his " mother " to take > it > away. Not to mention how many times the kids come over filthy... > disgustingly filthy. Step daughter starts middle school in the fall... > every > weekend for the past month or so we have had to DEMATT her hair. Last > weekend her dad was helping her with it and asked her when the last time > she > combed it was... she said when she was here the weekend before. She's also > told us on several occasions that the only time she bathes/showers is at > our > house. Step son is also always filthy. Often comes over with beverage > stains > on his chest, legs, face, etc that have been left to just dry on his > skin... > then it gets sticky and dirt will be stuck all over it. > > I also reported how step son has reported to us, " I am bad. I am horrible. > I > am terrible. " and told the woman on the phone how I have witnessed their > nada saying " HE'S SO TERRIBLE! " while shouting and looking right at him. > > I reported it all. > > So yes, World War III is about to begin. And you know what, as scared as I > am, it's ok. Those kids deserve better. Now all I can do is wait because I > don't know exactly when they will show up at her house... but I am more > than > fairly certain fiance will hear all about it when it happens. > > Send good vibes, please. We need them. > > Mia > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 21, 2011 Report Share Posted July 21, 2011 Thanks all. I will try to keep you posted. I have 3 months left in my nursing program, will be done in October. They weren't lying when they said each class got harder & the work load heavier. It takes up pretty much all my time. Which is why I have been pretty inactive. But as for the kids my only regret at this moment is not having called sooner. I burst into tears when she read the report back to me and the guilt got me... for not calling sooner. But, it's going to be ok. Hard, but ok. Thank you again for listening and for your support. I am very very grateful for it. Mia On Thu, Jul 21, 2011 at 4:35 PM, Holly Lipschultz < hollymichellebyers@...> wrote: > Stay strong! You did the right thing. You absolutely did. Those kids are > lucky to have you as a mom > > > > > ** > > > > > > Sorry it's been a while since I've posted. For some of the members, you > > might recall that fiance & I are dealing with his likely uBPD ex wife. > > Well... > > > > I called CPS on my step kids' nada. Reported the horder-esq condition of > > the > > house, many issues with the kids (missing school because parent not up to > > get step daughter up, step son's sprained finger that she waited 3 days > to > > tell us about and said " no gas " to take him to ER), reported fiance > taking > > food over there because baby momma stated no food, etc. And the newest > > revelation that has finally given me the courage to do this... as if all > > the > > other shit wasn't bad enough... > > > > The receintly got 3 kittens because they have mice (stupid reason). They > > also have a rabbit they've had for a while. They've had consisten > problems > > with step son putting condiments & windex on the rabbit. Recently he has > > also pooped his pants & smeared it all over the rabbit's cage... he's > still > > not potty trained. Now that they have kittens, he keeps picking them up > by > > their necks, putting them in the refridgerator, etc. He has been told > > (supposedly) by his mother not to do these things to the animals, and I > > have > > personally chatted with him about it, how it could hurt the kitties & the > > bunny, etc. But he keeps doing these things. He's 4 and is abusing > animals. > > > > I apologies for the typos & errors, I am shaking. I told fiance last > night > > that I was calling, and that hopefully it wouldn't interfere with our > > relationship, but if it did, that was ok because what's happening with > the > > kids at their nada's is NOT ok. Fiance was very sad but also stated " I > know > > it has to be done. I wish there were another way, but I don't know what > > else > > to do. " > > > > Step son will be 5 next month. They still give him his pacifier at his > > nada's house. We broke him of it here and it was easy, ddn't take long > for > > him to stop asking for it. But there, he sucks on it constantly. He > > recently > > had to have dental surgery and the dentist even told his " mother " to take > > it > > away. Not to mention how many times the kids come over filthy... > > disgustingly filthy. Step daughter starts middle school in the fall... > > every > > weekend for the past month or so we have had to DEMATT her hair. Last > > weekend her dad was helping her with it and asked her when the last time > > she > > combed it was... she said when she was here the weekend before. She's > also > > told us on several occasions that the only time she bathes/showers is at > > our > > house. Step son is also always filthy. Often comes over with beverage > > stains > > on his chest, legs, face, etc that have been left to just dry on his > > skin... > > then it gets sticky and dirt will be stuck all over it. > > > > I also reported how step son has reported to us, " I am bad. I am > horrible. > > I > > am terrible. " and told the woman on the phone how I have witnessed their > > nada saying " HE'S SO TERRIBLE! " while shouting and looking right at him. > > > > I reported it all. > > > > So yes, World War III is about to begin. And you know what, as scared as > I > > am, it's ok. Those kids deserve better. Now all I can do is wait because > I > > don't know exactly when they will show up at her house... but I am more > > than > > fairly certain fiance will hear all about it when it happens. > > > > Send good vibes, please. We need them. > > > > Mia > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 21, 2011 Report Share Posted July 21, 2011 Your humanity and compassion are to be commended and honored for trying to rescue these kids. They are being horribly neglected and abused, and you're right: they do deserve better. Its very concerning that the almost 5 year old is cruel to animals, that is not a good sign. This little boy needs therapy. I'm wishing you all the stamina and courage you need to see that they will have a chance at a normal life with you and their dad. -Annie > > Sorry it's been a while since I've posted. For some of the members, you > might recall that fiance & I are dealing with his likely uBPD ex wife. > Well... > > I called CPS on my step kids' nada. Reported the horder-esq condition of the > house, many issues with the kids (missing school because parent not up to > get step daughter up, step son's sprained finger that she waited 3 days to > tell us about and said " no gas " to take him to ER), reported fiance taking > food over there because baby momma stated no food, etc. And the newest > revelation that has finally given me the courage to do this... as if all the > other shit wasn't bad enough... > > The receintly got 3 kittens because they have mice (stupid reason). They > also have a rabbit they've had for a while. They've had consisten problems > with step son putting condiments & windex on the rabbit. Recently he has > also pooped his pants & smeared it all over the rabbit's cage... he's still > not potty trained. Now that they have kittens, he keeps picking them up by > their necks, putting them in the refridgerator, etc. He has been told > (supposedly) by his mother not to do these things to the animals, and I have > personally chatted with him about it, how it could hurt the kitties & the > bunny, etc. But he keeps doing these things. He's 4 and is abusing animals. > > I apologies for the typos & errors, I am shaking. I told fiance last night > that I was calling, and that hopefully it wouldn't interfere with our > relationship, but if it did, that was ok because what's happening with the > kids at their nada's is NOT ok. Fiance was very sad but also stated " I know > it has to be done. I wish there were another way, but I don't know what else > to do. " > > Step son will be 5 next month. They still give him his pacifier at his > nada's house. We broke him of it here and it was easy, ddn't take long for > him to stop asking for it. But there, he sucks on it constantly. He recently > had to have dental surgery and the dentist even told his " mother " to take it > away. Not to mention how many times the kids come over filthy... > disgustingly filthy. Step daughter starts middle school in the fall... every > weekend for the past month or so we have had to DEMATT her hair. Last > weekend her dad was helping her with it and asked her when the last time she > combed it was... she said when she was here the weekend before. She's also > told us on several occasions that the only time she bathes/showers is at our > house. Step son is also always filthy. Often comes over with beverage stains > on his chest, legs, face, etc that have been left to just dry on his skin... > then it gets sticky and dirt will be stuck all over it. > > I also reported how step son has reported to us, " I am bad. I am horrible. I > am terrible. " and told the woman on the phone how I have witnessed their > nada saying " HE'S SO TERRIBLE! " while shouting and looking right at him. > > I reported it all. > > So yes, World War III is about to begin. And you know what, as scared as I > am, it's ok. Those kids deserve better. Now all I can do is wait because I > don't know exactly when they will show up at her house... but I am more than > fairly certain fiance will hear all about it when it happens. > > Send good vibes, please. We need them. > > Mia > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 21, 2011 Report Share Posted July 21, 2011 Thanks Annie. He & my step daughter both go to therapy. Fiance put in a call to their T today to see if she'd see him again this weekend (they usually go every other week, just went last week) because yes, we're extremely concerned with the animal abuse! That is such a horrible thing any time, but I am also aware it can be a sign of much worse to come in the future. =( Due to it not being " severe abuse " , chances are the kids won't just be sent here. They will likely give nada a chance to get her act together. But, at least now it is officially on record, and I have no doubt that they will find SOMETHING that will have them checking in on the kids for some time to come. We do not have a lawyer as of yet to try & get perm custody... but, that is the next step. With school being almost done, I should be working by Mid - late November, so the next step is to save money for that very expensive lawyer who deals with tribal law. Thanks Annie, very much. Glad to hear from you guys! Mia On Thu, Jul 21, 2011 at 5:05 PM, anuria67854 wrote: > > > Your humanity and compassion are to be commended and honored for trying to > rescue these kids. They are being horribly neglected and abused, and you're > right: they do deserve better. Its very concerning that the almost 5 year > old is cruel to animals, that is not a good sign. This little boy needs > therapy. I'm wishing you all the stamina and courage you need to see that > they will have a chance at a normal life with you and their dad. > > -Annie > > > > > > > Sorry it's been a while since I've posted. For some of the members, you > > might recall that fiance & I are dealing with his likely uBPD ex wife. > > Well... > > > > I called CPS on my step kids' nada. Reported the horder-esq condition of > the > > house, many issues with the kids (missing school because parent not up to > > get step daughter up, step son's sprained finger that she waited 3 days > to > > tell us about and said " no gas " to take him to ER), reported fiance > taking > > food over there because baby momma stated no food, etc. And the newest > > revelation that has finally given me the courage to do this... as if all > the > > other shit wasn't bad enough... > > > > The receintly got 3 kittens because they have mice (stupid reason). They > > also have a rabbit they've had for a while. They've had consisten > problems > > with step son putting condiments & windex on the rabbit. Recently he has > > also pooped his pants & smeared it all over the rabbit's cage... he's > still > > not potty trained. Now that they have kittens, he keeps picking them up > by > > their necks, putting them in the refridgerator, etc. He has been told > > (supposedly) by his mother not to do these things to the animals, and I > have > > personally chatted with him about it, how it could hurt the kitties & the > > bunny, etc. But he keeps doing these things. He's 4 and is abusing > animals. > > > > I apologies for the typos & errors, I am shaking. I told fiance last > night > > that I was calling, and that hopefully it wouldn't interfere with our > > relationship, but if it did, that was ok because what's happening with > the > > kids at their nada's is NOT ok. Fiance was very sad but also stated " I > know > > it has to be done. I wish there were another way, but I don't know what > else > > to do. " > > > > Step son will be 5 next month. They still give him his pacifier at his > > nada's house. We broke him of it here and it was easy, ddn't take long > for > > him to stop asking for it. But there, he sucks on it constantly. He > recently > > had to have dental surgery and the dentist even told his " mother " to take > it > > away. Not to mention how many times the kids come over filthy... > > disgustingly filthy. Step daughter starts middle school in the fall... > every > > weekend for the past month or so we have had to DEMATT her hair. Last > > weekend her dad was helping her with it and asked her when the last time > she > > combed it was... she said when she was here the weekend before. She's > also > > told us on several occasions that the only time she bathes/showers is at > our > > house. Step son is also always filthy. Often comes over with beverage > stains > > on his chest, legs, face, etc that have been left to just dry on his > skin... > > then it gets sticky and dirt will be stuck all over it. > > > > I also reported how step son has reported to us, " I am bad. I am > horrible. I > > am terrible. " and told the woman on the phone how I have witnessed their > > nada saying " HE'S SO TERRIBLE! " while shouting and looking right at him. > > > > I reported it all. > > > > So yes, World War III is about to begin. And you know what, as scared as > I > > am, it's ok. Those kids deserve better. Now all I can do is wait because > I > > don't know exactly when they will show up at her house... but I am more > than > > fairly certain fiance will hear all about it when it happens. > > > > Send good vibes, please. We need them. > > > > Mia > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 21, 2011 Report Share Posted July 21, 2011 We've got your back, Mia. You absolutely did the right thing - these children deserve better than this, and Annie's right, the young boy needs therapy, the sooner the better. And surely they won't know who called - it could be anyone from a neighbor to a teacher to a doctor to the ER doc that treated the finger to a shopkeeper. So I wouldn't worry too much. Keep studying! :-) > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 21, 2011 Report Share Posted July 21, 2011 I wish there was some way you could get a tribal lawyer to start working for you even before you save up money--maybe prorate the services or reduce the prices a little bit? Kudos to you both for working hard for the sake of the kiddos! > ** > > > We've got your back, Mia. You absolutely did the right thing - these > children deserve better than this, and Annie's right, the young boy needs > therapy, the sooner the better. > And surely they won't know who called - it could be anyone from a neighbor > to a teacher to a doctor to the ER doc that treated the finger to a > shopkeeper. So I wouldn't worry too much. > Keep studying! :-) > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 21, 2011 Report Share Posted July 21, 2011 Thanks again ladies =) , yep, you're right. And, it could be his therapist who called for all she knows lol. Fiance called step son's T first thing this morning about the animal abuse. Unfortunately, she hasn't called back yet, but the kids' nada doesn't need to know that. If asked, I'm just going to play stupid. " Oh, nope, don't know a thing about that. Gee, how... unfortunate " . Oh, and she's been on a kick this week with asking fiance to ask me for medical advice. I keep telling him to tell her, " You need to talk to your health care provider about it " but she keeps asking. I guess she thinks it's coming from him, not me because tonight she asked him for my cell phone number. Uh, HELL NO! When he took the dictation of my reply to her, again, for medical advice, she then texted him back saying, " Oh right, I forgot you're (fiance) paranoid " . Oh and last week she wanted a key to our new apartment so that if step daughter wants to come over after school, she can get in if we're not home. THE KID IS 11!!!! I do NOT feel comfortable with that, nor does fiance. THERE IS SOMETHING SERIOUSLY WRONG WITH THIS WOMAN! > Mia - who feels as if she sprouted a pair of her very own shiny brass " knockers " On Thu, Jul 21, 2011 at 10:18 PM, Holly Lipschultz < hollymichellebyers@...> wrote: > I wish there was some way you could get a tribal lawyer to start working > for > you even before you save up money--maybe prorate the services or reduce the > prices a little bit? Kudos to you both for working hard for the sake of the > kiddos! > > > > > ** > > > > > > We've got your back, Mia. You absolutely did the right thing - these > > children deserve better than this, and Annie's right, the young boy needs > > therapy, the sooner the better. > > And surely they won't know who called - it could be anyone from a > neighbor > > to a teacher to a doctor to the ER doc that treated the finger to a > > shopkeeper. So I wouldn't worry too much. > > Keep studying! :-) > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 22, 2011 Report Share Posted July 22, 2011 God bless you, mia. I know how hard it is to live with the pain of watching kids mistreated and not know what to do. I hope they will act and remove the kids from her. What you did was very courageous. many hugs. > > Sorry it's been a while since I've posted. For some of the members, you > might recall that fiance & I are dealing with his likely uBPD ex wife. > Well... > > I called CPS on my step kids' nada. Reported the horder-esq condition of the > house, many issues with the kids (missing school because parent not up to > get step daughter up, step son's sprained finger that she waited 3 days to > tell us about and said " no gas " to take him to ER), reported fiance taking > food over there because baby momma stated no food, etc. And the newest > revelation that has finally given me the courage to do this... as if all the > other shit wasn't bad enough... > > The receintly got 3 kittens because they have mice (stupid reason). They > also have a rabbit they've had for a while. They've had consisten problems > with step son putting condiments & windex on the rabbit. Recently he has > also pooped his pants & smeared it all over the rabbit's cage... he's still > not potty trained. Now that they have kittens, he keeps picking them up by > their necks, putting them in the refridgerator, etc. He has been told > (supposedly) by his mother not to do these things to the animals, and I have > personally chatted with him about it, how it could hurt the kitties & the > bunny, etc. But he keeps doing these things. He's 4 and is abusing animals. > > I apologies for the typos & errors, I am shaking. I told fiance last night > that I was calling, and that hopefully it wouldn't interfere with our > relationship, but if it did, that was ok because what's happening with the > kids at their nada's is NOT ok. Fiance was very sad but also stated " I know > it has to be done. I wish there were another way, but I don't know what else > to do. " > > Step son will be 5 next month. They still give him his pacifier at his > nada's house. We broke him of it here and it was easy, ddn't take long for > him to stop asking for it. But there, he sucks on it constantly. He recently > had to have dental surgery and the dentist even told his " mother " to take it > away. Not to mention how many times the kids come over filthy... > disgustingly filthy. Step daughter starts middle school in the fall... every > weekend for the past month or so we have had to DEMATT her hair. Last > weekend her dad was helping her with it and asked her when the last time she > combed it was... she said when she was here the weekend before. She's also > told us on several occasions that the only time she bathes/showers is at our > house. Step son is also always filthy. Often comes over with beverage stains > on his chest, legs, face, etc that have been left to just dry on his skin... > then it gets sticky and dirt will be stuck all over it. > > I also reported how step son has reported to us, " I am bad. I am horrible. I > am terrible. " and told the woman on the phone how I have witnessed their > nada saying " HE'S SO TERRIBLE! " while shouting and looking right at him. > > I reported it all. > > So yes, World War III is about to begin. And you know what, as scared as I > am, it's ok. Those kids deserve better. Now all I can do is wait because I > don't know exactly when they will show up at her house... but I am more than > fairly certain fiance will hear all about it when it happens. > > Send good vibes, please. We need them. > > Mia > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 22, 2011 Report Share Posted July 22, 2011 Mia, GOOD FOR YOU. It's so easy to just look the other way or ignore it for the sake of " peace. " The conditions you describe are tragic and sick. Getting kittens to get rid of mice?? I cannot imagine. Stay strong, we're here for you!! And proud of you!! > > Sorry it's been a while since I've posted. For some of the members, you > might recall that fiance & I are dealing with his likely uBPD ex wife. > Well... > > I called CPS on my step kids' nada. Reported the horder-esq condition of the > house, many issues with the kids (missing school because parent not up to > get step daughter up, step son's sprained finger that she waited 3 days to > tell us about and said " no gas " to take him to ER), reported fiance taking > food over there because baby momma stated no food, etc. And the newest > revelation that has finally given me the courage to do this... as if all the > other shit wasn't bad enough... > > The receintly got 3 kittens because they have mice (stupid reason). They > also have a rabbit they've had for a while. They've had consisten problems > with step son putting condiments & windex on the rabbit. Recently he has > also pooped his pants & smeared it all over the rabbit's cage... he's still > not potty trained. Now that they have kittens, he keeps picking them up by > their necks, putting them in the refridgerator, etc. He has been told > (supposedly) by his mother not to do these things to the animals, and I have > personally chatted with him about it, how it could hurt the kitties & the > bunny, etc. But he keeps doing these things. He's 4 and is abusing animals. > > I apologies for the typos & errors, I am shaking. I told fiance last night > that I was calling, and that hopefully it wouldn't interfere with our > relationship, but if it did, that was ok because what's happening with the > kids at their nada's is NOT ok. Fiance was very sad but also stated " I know > it has to be done. I wish there were another way, but I don't know what else > to do. " > > Step son will be 5 next month. They still give him his pacifier at his > nada's house. We broke him of it here and it was easy, ddn't take long for > him to stop asking for it. But there, he sucks on it constantly. He recently > had to have dental surgery and the dentist even told his " mother " to take it > away. Not to mention how many times the kids come over filthy... > disgustingly filthy. Step daughter starts middle school in the fall... every > weekend for the past month or so we have had to DEMATT her hair. Last > weekend her dad was helping her with it and asked her when the last time she > combed it was... she said when she was here the weekend before. She's also > told us on several occasions that the only time she bathes/showers is at our > house. Step son is also always filthy. Often comes over with beverage stains > on his chest, legs, face, etc that have been left to just dry on his skin... > then it gets sticky and dirt will be stuck all over it. > > I also reported how step son has reported to us, " I am bad. I am horrible. I > am terrible. " and told the woman on the phone how I have witnessed their > nada saying " HE'S SO TERRIBLE! " while shouting and looking right at him. > > I reported it all. > > So yes, World War III is about to begin. And you know what, as scared as I > am, it's ok. Those kids deserve better. Now all I can do is wait because I > don't know exactly when they will show up at her house... but I am more than > fairly certain fiance will hear all about it when it happens. > > Send good vibes, please. We need them. > > Mia > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 22, 2011 Report Share Posted July 22, 2011 OMG mia, I'm so glad those kids have you! Those conditions are unbelievable!!! XOXO > ** > > > Mia, GOOD FOR YOU. It's so easy to just look the other way or ignore it for > the sake of " peace. " The conditions you describe are tragic and sick. > Getting kittens to get rid of mice?? I cannot imagine. > > Stay strong, we're here for you!! And proud of you!! > > > > > > > Sorry it's been a while since I've posted. For some of the members, you > > might recall that fiance & I are dealing with his likely uBPD ex wife. > > Well...u - > > > > I called CPS on my step kids' nada. Reported the horder-esq condition of > the > > house, many issues with the kids (missing school because parent not up to > > get step daughter up, step son's sprained finger that she waited 3 days > to > > tell us about and said " no gas " to take him to ER), reported fiance > taking > > food over there because baby momma stated no food, etc. And the newest > > revelation that has finally given me the courage to do this... as if all > the > > other shit wasn't bad enough... > > > > The receintly got 3 kittens because they have mice (stupid reason). They > > also have a rabbit they've had for a while. They've had consisten > problems > > with step son putting condiments & windex on the rabbit. Recently he has > > also pooped his pants & smeared it all over the rabbit's cage... he's > still > > not potty trained. Now that they have kittens, he keeps picking them up > by > > their necks, putting them in the refridgerator, etc. He has been told > > (supposedly) by his mother not to do these things to the animals, and I > have > > personally chatted with him about it, how it could hurt the kitties & the > > bunny, etc. But he keeps doing these things. He's 4 and is abusing > animals. > > > > I apologies for the typos & errors, I am shaking. I told fiance last > night > > that I was calling, and that hopefully it wouldn't interfere with our > > relationship, but if it did, that was ok because what's happening with > the > > kids at their nada's is NOT ok. Fiance was very sad but also stated " I > know > > it has to be done. I wish there were another way, but I don't know what > else > > to do. " > > > > Step son will be 5 next month. They still give him his pacifier at his > > nada's house. We broke him of it here and it was easy, ddn't take long > for > > him to stop asking for it. But there, he sucks on it constantly. He > recently > > had to have dental surgery and the dentist even told his " mother " to take > it > > away. Not to mention how many times the kids come over filthy... > > disgustingly filthy. Step daughter starts middle school in the fall... > every > > weekend for the past month or so we have had to DEMATT her hair. Last > > weekend her dad was helping her with it and asked her when the last time > she > > combed it was... she said when she was here the weekend before. She's > also > > told us on several occasions that the only time she bathes/showers is at > our > > house. Step son is also always filthy. Often comes over with beverage > stains > > on his chest, legs, face, etc that have been left to just dry on his > skin... > > then it gets sticky and dirt will be stuck all over it. > > > > I also reported how step son has reported to us, " I am bad. I am > horrible. I > > am terrible. " and told the woman on the phone how I have witnessed their > > nada saying " HE'S SO TERRIBLE! " while shouting and looking right at him. > > > > I reported it all. > > > > So yes, World War III is about to begin. And you know what, as scared as > I > > am, it's ok. Those kids deserve better. Now all I can do is wait because > I > > don't know exactly when they will show up at her house... but I am more > than > > fairly certain fiance will hear all about it when it happens. > > > > Send good vibes, please. We need them. > > > > Mia > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 22, 2011 Report Share Posted July 22, 2011 Mia, That was the right thing to do. Whatever the fallout, you tried to stop the abuse and get them help. The stories about the animal abusing son are very disturbing. > > Sorry it's been a while since I've posted. For some of the members, you > might recall that fiance & I are dealing with his likely uBPD ex wife. > Well... > > I called CPS on my step kids' nada. Reported the horder-esq condition of the > house, many issues with the kids (missing school because parent not up to > get step daughter up, step son's sprained finger that she waited 3 days to > tell us about and said " no gas " to take him to ER), reported fiance taking > food over there because baby momma stated no food, etc. And the newest > revelation that has finally given me the courage to do this... as if all the > other shit wasn't bad enough... > > The receintly got 3 kittens because they have mice (stupid reason). They > also have a rabbit they've had for a while. They've had consisten problems > with step son putting condiments & windex on the rabbit. Recently he has > also pooped his pants & smeared it all over the rabbit's cage... he's still > not potty trained. Now that they have kittens, he keeps picking them up by > their necks, putting them in the refridgerator, etc. He has been told > (supposedly) by his mother not to do these things to the animals, and I have > personally chatted with him about it, how it could hurt the kitties & the > bunny, etc. But he keeps doing these things. He's 4 and is abusing animals. > > I apologies for the typos & errors, I am shaking. I told fiance last night > that I was calling, and that hopefully it wouldn't interfere with our > relationship, but if it did, that was ok because what's happening with the > kids at their nada's is NOT ok. Fiance was very sad but also stated " I know > it has to be done. I wish there were another way, but I don't know what else > to do. " > > Step son will be 5 next month. They still give him his pacifier at his > nada's house. We broke him of it here and it was easy, ddn't take long for > him to stop asking for it. But there, he sucks on it constantly. He recently > had to have dental surgery and the dentist even told his " mother " to take it > away. Not to mention how many times the kids come over filthy... > disgustingly filthy. Step daughter starts middle school in the fall... every > weekend for the past month or so we have had to DEMATT her hair. Last > weekend her dad was helping her with it and asked her when the last time she > combed it was... she said when she was here the weekend before. She's also > told us on several occasions that the only time she bathes/showers is at our > house. Step son is also always filthy. Often comes over with beverage stains > on his chest, legs, face, etc that have been left to just dry on his skin... > then it gets sticky and dirt will be stuck all over it. > > I also reported how step son has reported to us, " I am bad. I am horrible. I > am terrible. " and told the woman on the phone how I have witnessed their > nada saying " HE'S SO TERRIBLE! " while shouting and looking right at him. > > I reported it all. > > So yes, World War III is about to begin. And you know what, as scared as I > am, it's ok. Those kids deserve better. Now all I can do is wait because I > don't know exactly when they will show up at her house... but I am more than > fairly certain fiance will hear all about it when it happens. > > Send good vibes, please. We need them. > > Mia > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 25, 2011 Report Share Posted July 25, 2011 Mia, my heart breaks for those kids. Thank heavens they have someone as courageous and caring as you to fight the horrible cards they were dealt with such Nada. I'm so glad they're in therapy - the stories of animal abuse are disturbing. The legal red-tape you're facing makes me sick. I wish you the best success and am rooting for you and your fiance! Good luck and keep us posted! Keep studying! I can relate to how hard it is to concentrate on difficult school work when the sh*t hits the fan! > > > > Sorry it's been a while since I've posted. For some of the members, you > > might recall that fiance & I are dealing with his likely uBPD ex wife. > > Well... > > > > I called CPS on my step kids' nada. Reported the horder-esq condition of the > > house, many issues with the kids (missing school because parent not up to > > get step daughter up, step son's sprained finger that she waited 3 days to > > tell us about and said " no gas " to take him to ER), reported fiance taking > > food over there because baby momma stated no food, etc. And the newest > > revelation that has finally given me the courage to do this... as if all the > > other shit wasn't bad enough... > > > > The receintly got 3 kittens because they have mice (stupid reason). They > > also have a rabbit they've had for a while. They've had consisten problems > > with step son putting condiments & windex on the rabbit. Recently he has > > also pooped his pants & smeared it all over the rabbit's cage... he's still > > not potty trained. Now that they have kittens, he keeps picking them up by > > their necks, putting them in the refridgerator, etc. He has been told > > (supposedly) by his mother not to do these things to the animals, and I have > > personally chatted with him about it, how it could hurt the kitties & the > > bunny, etc. But he keeps doing these things. He's 4 and is abusing animals. > > > > I apologies for the typos & errors, I am shaking. I told fiance last night > > that I was calling, and that hopefully it wouldn't interfere with our > > relationship, but if it did, that was ok because what's happening with the > > kids at their nada's is NOT ok. Fiance was very sad but also stated " I know > > it has to be done. I wish there were another way, but I don't know what else > > to do. " > > > > Step son will be 5 next month. They still give him his pacifier at his > > nada's house. We broke him of it here and it was easy, ddn't take long for > > him to stop asking for it. But there, he sucks on it constantly. He recently > > had to have dental surgery and the dentist even told his " mother " to take it > > away. Not to mention how many times the kids come over filthy... > > disgustingly filthy. Step daughter starts middle school in the fall... every > > weekend for the past month or so we have had to DEMATT her hair. Last > > weekend her dad was helping her with it and asked her when the last time she > > combed it was... she said when she was here the weekend before. She's also > > told us on several occasions that the only time she bathes/showers is at our > > house. Step son is also always filthy. Often comes over with beverage stains > > on his chest, legs, face, etc that have been left to just dry on his skin... > > then it gets sticky and dirt will be stuck all over it. > > > > I also reported how step son has reported to us, " I am bad. I am horrible. I > > am terrible. " and told the woman on the phone how I have witnessed their > > nada saying " HE'S SO TERRIBLE! " while shouting and looking right at him. > > > > I reported it all. > > > > So yes, World War III is about to begin. And you know what, as scared as I > > am, it's ok. Those kids deserve better. Now all I can do is wait because I > > don't know exactly when they will show up at her house... but I am more than > > fairly certain fiance will hear all about it when it happens. > > > > Send good vibes, please. We need them. > > > > Mia > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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