Off topic - Addiction admitted

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Well, my husband finally realizes he is a computer addict. I've been

trying to get concerns through to him for years and no luck. He

finally realizes it is a problem and is impacting his life as well as

our life together.

He works afternoons. He gets off at 11pm and comes home & sits on the

PC all night, usually coming to bed between 4am and 6pm. He then has

to get up by 11am to pick up his 5 year old son to take him to

preschool by noon. Then he comes home & goes back to sleep until it's

time to go to work. This is a daily issue.

He's always complaining he is tired and he often turns his alarm off

in his sleep. So to remedy this, we put his alarm clock across the

room. But sadly, he just gets up, turns it off, and goes back to bed.

He will help out around the house but it is far from consistent. Our

apartment has exploded a bit (not like awful, but it's certainly not

where I like it) because I have been far from motivated to do all this

by my damn self. Especially with returning to work on Monday.

I've been trying to tell him for ages that the reason he's tired is he

gets very little sleep night after night, doesn't eat before going to

work & often not at all while at work. It's a HUGE problem. (Yet I

still married him in September... I love him, but I'm kinda wishing I

hadn't sometimes!)

He blows off everything to play games on the PC.

So when he came to bed at 5am this morning, cursing, I woke up. I

asked what was up, he said, " I didn't mean to stay up this late. I'm

really pissed at myself. I really have to delete all my games off the

computer tomorrow. I keep meaning to come to bed earlier but I lose

track of time. "

Given he will just turn off his alarm & go back to sleep, I have

(after discussing with my therapist today) decided to install a

parental control program that will block out times that the computer

cannot be used.

It is such a huge issue. He blows me off for the computer regularly.

Yet I still married him!!! Yes, I love him very much but good grief,

what was I thinking? I should have waited until this issue was

completely resolved. He'll do " good " for a week and then slip back

into being constantly on the computer.

Really needed to vent. Really not looking forward to him coming home

tonight & me having to tell him that the computer is restricted from

now on. He's an adult, not a kid, but I really see no other way. Any

time I've tried to talk to him about this, ask him how I can help him,

what he thinks he can do to help himself, he says, " I don't know " .

So... Urg. I'm taking charge.

Wish us both luck.

Mia