Guest guest Posted January 19, 2011 Report Share Posted January 19, 2011 What to do...? I have a neighbor who has been in the process of getting supplemental income while waiting for his disability to come through. I thought I was doing him a favor (that he asked me to do) by stating to the folks at supplemental that I had been helping him out to the tune of $400/mo. That wasn't completely true. We helped him get his car out of storage for $300; paid for groceries at times; helped with gas, etc. Now he has received his supplemental to the tune of barely over $400/mo. He should be eligible for $800/mo. I think I screwed him, without meaning to do so. I thought the more I said I helped him, the more it looked like he needed help. Now he is having me write a letter (he doesn't know that I told them that I was helping with $400/mo.--) stating that I have helped him from time to time, and now am unable to assist him any longer. I wrote the letter for him, and said that I helped from time to time and that I have 5 kids and am on disability myself, and no longer have the means to help him...but I feel like I'm the one who made the big mistake in the first place....should I tell him, or just leave it? I'm feeling guilty, nervous, confused and just all-around bad. ;O(hugs to all,Kate Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 19, 2011 Report Share Posted January 19, 2011 Write the letter and just leave it. The letters should clear up any issues they have. You have a good heart sweetie.   ~*~Hugs~*~ ~*~Akiba~*~ Pragmatic Visionary http://www.affiliates-natural-salt-lamps.com/pages/156.php -- big mistake.... What to do...? I have a neighbor who has been in the process of getting supplemental income while waiting for his disability to come through. I thought I was doing him a favor (that he asked me to do) by stating to the folks at supplemental that I had been helping him out to the tune of $400/mo. That wasn't completely true. We helped him get his car out of storage for $300; paid for groceries at times; helped with gas, etc. Now he has received his supplemental to the tune of barely over $400/mo. He should be eligible for $800/mo. I think I screwed him, without meaning to do so. I thought the more I said I helped him, the more it looked like he needed help. Now he is having me write a letter (he doesn't know that I told them that I was helping with $400/mo.--) stating that I have helped him from time to time, and now am unable to assist him any longer. I wrote the letter for him, and said that I helped from time to time and that I have 5 kids and am on disability myself, and no longer have the means to help him...but I feel like I'm the one who made the big mistake in the first place....should I tell him, or just leave it? I'm feeling guilty, nervous, confused and just all-around bad. ;O(hugs to all,Kate Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 19, 2011 Report Share Posted January 19, 2011 So you don't think I should tell him that I may have screwed him up; just give him the letter to submit? Thanks for writing back to me on this ,Akiba. I was trying to take a nap, but this has been gnawing at me!love ya, sis, KateSubject: Re: big mistake....To: MSersLife Date: Wednesday, January 19, 2011, 3:21 PM Write the letter and just leave it. The letters should clear up any issues they have. You have a good heart sweetie.   ~*~Hugs~*~ ~*~Akiba~*~ Pragmatic Visionary http://www.affiliates-natural-salt-lamps.com/pages/156.php -- big mistake.... What to do...? I have a neighbor who has been in the process of getting supplemental income while waiting for his disability to come through. I thought I was doing him a favor (that he asked me to do) by stating to the folks at supplemental that I had been helping him out to the tune of $400/mo. That wasn't completely true. We helped him get his car out of storage for $300; paid for groceries at times; helped with gas, etc. Now he has received his supplemental to the tune of barely over $400/mo. He should be eligible for $800/mo. I think I screwed him, without meaning to do so. I thought the more I said I helped him, the more it looked like he needed help. Now he is having me write a letter (he doesn't know that I told them that I was helping with $400/mo.--) stating that I have helped him from time to time, and now am unable to assist him any longer. I wrote the letter for him, and said that I helped from time to time and that I have 5 kids and am on disability myself, and no longer have the means to help him...but I feel like I'm the one who made the big mistake in the first place....should I tell him, or just leave it? I'm feeling guilty, nervous, confused and just all-around bad. ;O(hugs to all,Kate Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 19, 2011 Report Share Posted January 19, 2011 No, what is done is done, why compound it? The letter should clear everything up, no reason to lose a friend over something you did not mean.   ~*~Hugs~*~ ~*~Akiba~*~ Pragmatic Visionary http://www.affiliates-natural-salt-lamps.com/pages/156.php -- big mistake.... What to do...? I have a neighbor who has been in the process of getting supplemental income while waiting for his disability to come through. I thought I was doing him a favor (that he asked me to do) by stating to the folks at supplemental that I had been helping him out to the tune of $400/mo. That wasn't completely true. We helped him get his car out of storage for $300; paid for groceries at times; helped with gas, etc. Now he has received his supplemental to the tune of barely over $400/mo. He should be eligible for $800/mo. I think I screwed him, without meaning to do so. I thought the more I said I helped him, the more it looked like he needed help. Now he is having me write a letter (he doesn't know that I told them that I was helping with $400/mo.--) stating that I have helped him from time to time, and now am unable to assist him any longer. I wrote the letter for him, and said that I helped from time to time and that I have 5 kids and am on disability myself, and no longer have the means to help him...but I feel like I'm the one who made the big mistake in the first place....should I tell him, or just leave it? I'm feeling guilty, nervous, confused and just all-around bad. ;O(hugs to all,Kate Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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