Guest guest Posted March 4, 2012 Report Share Posted March 4, 2012 Hi I am new to the oz community. I am not new to the devastation that my Nada Bpd has caused in my life and many others. I am 38 and still cry like a baby everytime I think about the mother I need in my life. I have been NS from her for three years this time. We have had a very hot and cold relationship for ever, I always thought I could make it better not knowing that I was dealing with a nada with bpd. I was the bad/ black daughter and my sister was the good / white daughter. My nada and sister have been like a tag team of bpd in full swing. My birthday is coming up and that is the time of year when my nada always starts the emotional roller coaster. She calls it our birthday. This year the texts started 9 days before my birthday. She feels intitled to see me, asking if she could come to our home to give me a gift. I share our home with my husband that my nada does not like. I told her " the situation is to stressful, sorry " . She replyed have the happiest of birthdays. Her text triggered a 3 day migrain. I thought it was over nope,she texted me again yesterday wanting to drop the gift off in my mailbox. I didnt answer her text. I have been disabled for five years with a back injury, I have three ruptured discs and require major surgery. My nada has never offer to do a single thing to help me since I got injured. My husband is my total caregiver, I would be all alone without him. My nada has no respect for him. He was doing the grocery shopping yesterday and ran into my nada. The gave him a smug look and kept walking. He couldnt control himself, he ripped into her. Stating she hasent done a darn thing to help her disabled daughter in five years the only time she calls is once a year on my birthday and it stirs everything up. He sees me in pain all the time over the situation. I have been crying for three days since her first text. My husband was crying last night because he got so angry and yelled at her. I keep thinking about my nada being in pain, Im in pain and my husband. The reason for the most resent ns is because my nada told me I ruined her life because I didnt have grandchildren for her. This is a very very painful subject! We didnt have the choice, I became injured two years into our marriage and have progressivly getten worse in the last five years. I have chronic pain that requires pain medication and my injury is to bad to carry a child. Not to mention I cant take care of myself. She knows all of this and still chose to hurt me to the core. Blue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 5, 2012 Report Share Posted March 5, 2012 Wow, please please don't accept correspondence from your mother. Good luck with your difficult situation. Look out for you and the ones who love you. Hugs! On Sun, Mar 4, 2012 at 11:42 AM, bluepeepersmendo < bluepeepersmendo@...> wrote: > ** > > > Hi I am new to the oz community. I am not new to the devastation that my > Nada Bpd has caused in my life and many others. I am 38 and still cry like > a baby everytime I think about the mother I need in my life. I have been NS > from her for three years this time. We have had a very hot and cold > relationship for ever, I always thought I could make it better not knowing > that I was dealing with a nada with bpd. I was the bad/ black daughter and > my sister was the good / white daughter. My nada and sister have been like > a tag team of bpd in full swing. > My birthday is coming up and that is the time of year when my nada always > starts the emotional roller coaster. She calls it our birthday. This year > the texts started 9 days before my birthday. She feels intitled to see me, > asking if she could come to our home to give me a gift. I share our home > with my husband that my nada does not like. I told her " the situation is to > stressful, sorry " . She replyed have the happiest of birthdays. Her text > triggered a 3 day migrain. I thought it was over nope,she texted me again > yesterday wanting to drop the gift off in my mailbox. I didnt answer her > text. > I have been disabled for five years with a back injury, I have three > ruptured discs and require major surgery. My nada has never offer to do a > single thing to help me since I got injured. My husband is my total > caregiver, I would be all alone without him. My nada has no respect for > him. He was doing the grocery shopping yesterday and ran into my nada. The > gave him a smug look and kept walking. He couldnt control himself, he > ripped into her. Stating she hasent done a darn thing to help her disabled > daughter in five years the only time she calls is once a year on my > birthday and it stirs everything up. He sees me in pain all the time over > the situation. I have been crying for three days since her first text. My > husband was crying last night because he got so angry and yelled at her. I > keep thinking about my nada being in pain, Im in pain and my husband. > The reason for the most resent ns is because my nada told me I ruined her > life because I didnt have grandchildren for her. This is a very very > painful subject! We didnt have the choice, I became injured two years into > our marriage and have progressivly getten worse in the last five years. I > have chronic pain that requires pain medication and my injury is to bad to > carry a child. Not to mention I cant take care of myself. She knows all of > this and still chose to hurt me to the core. Blue > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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