My parents are stalking my children

[Guest guest]

*sigh*

Four years NC. The parents have been told explicitly that they are not to drop

by my house or call. In spite of this, they have dropped by my house (door

unanswered) and called (phone left to ring). They have also attempted to do this

while I'm at work, at a time when they know my husband and I won't be home but

our children will be. Same thing-neither door nor phone is answered.

Today, my twelve-year-old daughter called me at work to let me know that while

she and her two younger siblings were outside washing a car, my parents pulled

up and tried to engage them in conversation. My sitter was there and hustled the

kids inside, but apparently she had noticed their car (she didn't know it was

their car at the time) parked a half block down and across the street for about

five minutes before that--she just thought it was someone who was lost.

I am so creeped out right now I could vomit. And my kids! My oldest made it

sound like everyone was okay, but they must have been scared, too.

I've started a stalking log, but that seems really anemic when every fiber of my

being wants to scream in outrage. I clearly don't count to them. I don't matter.

What I need is irrelevant, if it's at odds with what they want. Worse, did they

even consider what effect their unannounced visit would have on my kids, who

have been told that we can't see them anymore because of the way they behave?

AAAARRRrrrrrRRRRRGGGGGHHHH!!!

[Guest guest]

Its like a bratty kid who is going to do the opposite of what you say. I'd

say its a power play, not desperation to see the kids because they LOOOOOOVe

them. . . So sorry. Call the cops. XOXO

On Fri, Jul 29, 2011 at 2:04 PM, writermanque wrote:

> **

>

>

> *sigh*

>

> Four years NC. The parents have been told explicitly that they are not to

> drop by my house or call. In spite of this, they have dropped by my house

> (door unanswered) and called (phone left to ring). They have also attempted

> to do this while I'm at work, at a time when they know my husband and I

> won't be home but our children will be. Same thing-neither door nor phone is

> answered.

>

> Today, my twelve-year-old daughter called me at work to let me know that

> while she and her two younger siblings were outside washing a car, my

> parents pulled up and tried to engage them in conversation. My sitter was

> there and hustled the kids inside, but apparently she had noticed their car

> (she didn't know it was their car at the time) parked a half block down and

> across the street for about five minutes before that--she just thought it

> was someone who was lost.

>

> I am so creeped out right now I could vomit. And my kids! My oldest made it

> sound like everyone was okay, but they must have been scared, too.

>

> I've started a stalking log, but that seems really anemic when every fiber

> of my being wants to scream in outrage. I clearly don't count to them. I

> don't matter. What I need is irrelevant, if it's at odds with what they

> want. Worse, did they even consider what effect their unannounced visit

> would have on my kids, who have been told that we can't see them anymore

> because of the way they behave?

>

> AAAARRRrrrrrRRRRRGGGGGHHHH!!!

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Oh my gosh, that is so awful. I can understand your frustration and imagine

how angry you must be! What an absolute violation of you & your kids' lives!

Most states have anti-stalking laws. If you've been documenting when they

call/come over, then it may very well be worth looking in to. They have no

right at all to do this to you or your kids if you have expressed you want

nothing to do with them!

You've just described my worst nightmare. I'm so sorry you're living it.

Hang in there, and take a bit of time to see what the anti-stalking laws are

in your state.

Mia

On Fri, Jul 29, 2011 at 4:04 PM, writermanque wrote:

>

>

> *sigh*

>

> Four years NC. The parents have been told explicitly that they are not to

> drop by my house or call. In spite of this, they have dropped by my house

> (door unanswered) and called (phone left to ring). They have also attempted

> to do this while I'm at work, at a time when they know my husband and I

> won't be home but our children will be. Same thing-neither door nor phone is

> answered.

>

> Today, my twelve-year-old daughter called me at work to let me know that

> while she and her two younger siblings were outside washing a car, my

> parents pulled up and tried to engage them in conversation. My sitter was

> there and hustled the kids inside, but apparently she had noticed their car

> (she didn't know it was their car at the time) parked a half block down and

> across the street for about five minutes before that--she just thought it

> was someone who was lost.

>

> I am so creeped out right now I could vomit. And my kids! My oldest made it

> sound like everyone was okay, but they must have been scared, too.

>

> I've started a stalking log, but that seems really anemic when every fiber

> of my being wants to scream in outrage. I clearly don't count to them. I

> don't matter. What I need is irrelevant, if it's at odds with what they

> want. Worse, did they even consider what effect their unannounced visit

> would have on my kids, who have been told that we can't see them anymore

> because of the way they behave?

>

> AAAARRRrrrrrRRRRRGGGGGHHHH!!!

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

This is horrible. I am so sorry that you have to go through with that. Maybe you

need to call or send someone to speak to them to set the record straight. That

is creepy wierd and you may need to get law enforcement involved.

AJ

>

> *sigh*

>

> Four years NC. The parents have been told explicitly that they are not to drop

by my house or call. In spite of this, they have dropped by my house (door

unanswered) and called (phone left to ring). They have also attempted to do this

while I'm at work, at a time when they know my husband and I won't be home but

our children will be. Same thing-neither door nor phone is answered.

>

> Today, my twelve-year-old daughter called me at work to let me know that while

she and her two younger siblings were outside washing a car, my parents pulled

up and tried to engage them in conversation. My sitter was there and hustled the

kids inside, but apparently she had noticed their car (she didn't know it was

their car at the time) parked a half block down and across the street for about

five minutes before that--she just thought it was someone who was lost.

>

> I am so creeped out right now I could vomit. And my kids! My oldest made it

sound like everyone was okay, but they must have been scared, too.

>

> I've started a stalking log, but that seems really anemic when every fiber of

my being wants to scream in outrage. I clearly don't count to them. I don't

matter. What I need is irrelevant, if it's at odds with what they want. Worse,

did they even consider what effect their unannounced visit would have on my

kids, who have been told that we can't see them anymore because of the way they

behave?

>

> AAAARRRrrrrrRRRRRGGGGGHHHH!!!

>

[Guest guest]

Thanks to all for responding. My state's stalking laws are a little loose around

the edges, but I've started a stalking log and if there are enough " events " ,

especially with witnesses, I'll have a case.

My kids are confused...they're for the most part too young to remember the

grandparents' behaviors that caused our NC in the first place. All they see are

these old people who keep trying to visit and send them gifts. My oldest had

questions about why we won't see them. I answered with something along the lines

of " If someone says they love you they also have to act like they love you. Your

grandparents weren't doing that, and we didn't think that was good for you or

your brother and sister. " I hope I'm not committing my kids to years of therapy.

>

> >

> >

> > *sigh*

> >

> > Four years NC. The parents have been told explicitly that they are not to

> > drop by my house or call. In spite of this, they have dropped by my house

> > (door unanswered) and called (phone left to ring). They have also attempted

> > to do this while I'm at work, at a time when they know my husband and I

> > won't be home but our children will be. Same thing-neither door nor phone is

> > answered.

> >

> > Today, my twelve-year-old daughter called me at work to let me know that

> > while she and her two younger siblings were outside washing a car, my

> > parents pulled up and tried to engage them in conversation. My sitter was

> > there and hustled the kids inside, but apparently she had noticed their car

> > (she didn't know it was their car at the time) parked a half block down and

> > across the street for about five minutes before that--she just thought it

> > was someone who was lost.

> >

> > I am so creeped out right now I could vomit. And my kids! My oldest made it

> > sound like everyone was okay, but they must have been scared, too.

> >

> > I've started a stalking log, but that seems really anemic when every fiber

> > of my being wants to scream in outrage. I clearly don't count to them. I

> > don't matter. What I need is irrelevant, if it's at odds with what they

> > want. Worse, did they even consider what effect their unannounced visit

> > would have on my kids, who have been told that we can't see them anymore

> > because of the way they behave?

> >

> > AAAARRRrrrrrRRRRRGGGGGHHHH!!!

> >

> >

> >

>

>

>