Re: Soothing Anxiety Techniques (2)

[Guest guest]

Dear all,

I want to say from all this how real it is, to deal with trauma and attacks for

KOs. For those of you still in touch with nadas, I would say it might be worth

it to take a really good look at what physical stress nada is causing, emotional

stress too, that is taking up energy that should be used at your work. Here's

why I say so...

This has been such a nightmare of an experience! I've actually bought in my

laptop and I am posting from work now. I'm sorry to report that I've missed two

days of work because of the severe effects this whole situation has had on my

body (before I figured it out). I called a hotline number this morning, to help

soothe my anxiety--and it actually did. But I am having a hard time here at

work. Dealing with yet another abusive situation--even though this one was only

emotionally threatening, so far--it drains my energy and I really *need to be at

home today, recovering...but can't. We have commitments at my work that can't

be changed. So, I am here. Posting. If I don't get a migraine today I'll be

lucky!

I want to just emphasize how very real it is, the effect that nadas and other

similar abusive domestic experiences can have on our work capabilities. It's

serious, it's awful, it's a waste of good energy we could be using working!

--Charlie

> > Sometimes I think the best recovery we can effect as KOs, is, trust and

believe yourself--what feels good DOES feel good, bad, DOES feel bad; pain means

something is wrong; happiness means you are safe; if you sense danger or injury,

someone HAS indeed harmed you. Nadas and society spend decades trying to force

us to be blind to this. If I was, I might not even be alive today; or I might

be full course down the road, to another abusive and debilitating relationship

with a world-class chauvinist. Whew! Thanks, guys!!

> >

> > Charlotte

>

>

> I'm SO glad you were able to put 2 & 2 together! Good job! I think you're

exactly right, we're trained by our nadas to second-guess our instincts and put

them aside for the sake of not offending someone else. I'm so happy to hear that

you're giving yourself credit and feeling the freedom to just walk away! In the

future, you have this experience to add to your knowledge and will see

boundary-violators even sooner =)

>

> Good work, Charlotte.

>

[Guest guest]

oh sweetie all I can say is hugs. Glad you are posting and called the

hotline. Any T appts on the horizon? How about body work opportunities.

I probably post more from work - I have more stress, haters and am attacked

more at work than in any other part of my life.

On Tue, Aug 2, 2011 at 1:24 PM, charlottehoneychurch <

charlottehoneychurch@...> wrote:

> **

>

>

> Dear all,

>

> I want to say from all this how real it is, to deal with trauma and attacks

> for KOs. For those of you still in touch with nadas, I would say it might be

> worth it to take a really good look at what physical stress nada is causing,

> emotional stress too, that is taking up energy that should be used at your

> work. Here's why I say so...

>

> This has been such a nightmare of an experience! I've actually bought in my

> laptop and I am posting from work now. I'm sorry to report that I've missed

> two days of work because of the severe effects this whole situation has had

> on my body (before I figured it out). I called a hotline number this

> morning, to help soothe my anxiety--and it actually did. But I am having a

> hard time here at work. Dealing with yet another abusive situation--even

> though this one was only emotionally threatening, so far--it drains my

> energy and I really *need to be at home today, recovering...but can't. We

> have commitments at my work that can't be changed. So, I am here. Posting.

> If I don't get a migraine today I'll be lucky!

> hotli

> I want to just emphasize how very real it is, the effect that nadas and

> other similar abusive domestic experiences can have on our work

> capabilities. It's serious, it's awful, it's a waste of good energy we could

> be using working!

>

> --Charlie

>

>

> > > Sometimes I think the best recovery we can effect as KOs, is, trust and

> believe yourself--what feels good DOES feel good, bad, DOES feel bad; pain

> means something is wrong; happiness means you are safe; if you sense danger

> or injury, someone HAS indeed harmed you. Nadas and society spend decades

> trying to force us to be blind to this. If I was, I might not even be alive

> today; or I might be full course down the road, to another abusive and

> debilitating relationship with a world-class chauvinist. Whew! Thanks,

> guys!!

> > >

> > > Charlotte

> >

> >

> > I'm SO glad you were able to put 2 & 2 together! Good job! I think you're

> exactly right, we're trained by our nadas to second-guess our instincts and

> put them aside for the sake of not offending someone else. I'm so happy to

> hear that you're giving yourself credit and feeling the freedom to just walk

> away! In the future, you have this experience to add to your knowledge and

> will see boundary-violators even sooner =)

> >

> > Good work, Charlotte.

> >

>

>

>