Re: Beware Nada Bearing Gifts?-update

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First off, thank you all for your wonderful wisdom. Seriously, I am so happy to

have found this group!

Well, after being in near hysterics from the mystery package, I had my DH take

it straight from the porch to the garage. He opened it for me, and it was, as

Sunspot said, a box o' crap, sent for pure manipulation. On the address label,

instead of writing TO:, she wrote " Missed: " . I haven't even looked at the

contents yet, my DH said it is full of photos.

Knowing this was a trojan horse stunt, I called an old family friend who is very

familiar with the situation. I had a funny feeling that she was being dragged

into this as well. Sure enough, Nada called her and went OFF. As I was told, the

phone call went like this-the call only lasted 5 minutes and Nada did nothing

but trash me the whole time. It sure didn't sound like I was " missed " !. Friend

said it was so bad she told Nada not to call her ever again and hung up on her.

Friend said that she felt sick and depressed from the call for a whole day

afterwards. She said that Nada sounded totally " nutty " and she realized that

Nada never learns any lessons and NEVER accepts any responsibility for her

actions. She even told Nada that (heheh) you can imagine how well that went

over!

My dear friend then told me this...she felt sick for 24 hours after this call

because she felt bad for me. I don't deserve this and I am a great girl. Friend

said that she doesn't understand Nada, because mothers should treasure their

relationship with their daughters, not poison it. She could not understand why

Nada refuses to ever be happy for me, it is as if she is jealous of me and hates

anything that goes well for me or anyone else for that matter. She also told me

to remember the good times with Nada, because she was sure there would be no

more good times to come with her.

Those are all things we know here right? In my gut I always knew those things.

However, hearing this kind friend say these things to me, was so painful because

it made this situation even more REAL. Does that make any sense? Hearing someone

say these things that I am often thinking to myself just broke my heart.

I don't know what else to say about the situation. I don't know if I should get

a restraining order against nada or if I should just continue to put her on

ignore and hope for the best. Nada always works her black magic on me, because

deep down I am scared of when/if she is going to pop up on me next.

Hugs to you all,

Natalia

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> > > > > I have been NC with nada for almost a year. It was because of a

> > fight with her when we were LC (she lives in another state, hundreds of

> > miles from me. I have not actually seen her since about 2006.) Anyway,

> > during this phone fight, she told me how horrible I was, and not to talk to

> > her. She then emailed me and told me not to write her because she would not

> > read it. I figured she was giving me an easy out for NC, so I took it.

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> > > > > Well, now she is ringing my phone every now and then...leaving

> > messages saying that she doesn't know why I am not talking to her. I don't

> > even listen to these messages because just hearing her voice upsets me. I

> > feel like a little kid getting yelled at all over again and it screws up my

> > nerves for days.

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> > > > > Then today....I get a huge package on my front porch from her.

> > BUT...I never gave her the address I am at now. In fact, I have desperately

> > done practically everything possible to get my name & address off the

> > internet...but as we all know and as I have seen today....it didn't work.

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> > > > > So, what do I do? I was so shocked to see this huge package...I

> > started sweating and my hands and feet went cold. I feel like crying. I am

> > fighting back the tears because I feel like if I start to cry, I will

> > become hysterical. She just won't leave me alone and I KNOW how she revels

> > in antagonizing people. I see this as some kind of stunt, I mean, this is

> > from a woman who last gave me a $10 store catalog for my one and only Xmas

> > present. This is a calculated move, she has a long history of this kind of

> > stuff.

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> > > > > This package is still on my front porch. I haven't even touched it.

> > My DH said we should sent it back " Return to Sender " . I honestly do not

> > know what to do...I don't know what to think. Mission accomplished, Nada.

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