OT: Can I just blah blah blah about Maia's birthday yesterday?

[Guest guest]

She just turned 5 yesterday and I threw her a little thing. I invited

some of my friends from work who have kids (Maia's played with a few

of the kids before).

There was one of my friends' children and this little girl has rubbed

me the wrong way before. She's 7, very talkative and uses her

superficial manners but this little girl has a (I don't really have an

accurate word for it... " off? " maybe) streak in her. She's a kid

that's definitely popular in school but something about her strikes me

funny and malicious.

I'd never talked to Maia about her except to tell Maia that she was

going to come to her birthday party. Maia was really excited about

her party and understood that it was her birthday party. She

understood that people coming over means a party and we open presents,

etc. I was thrilled that receptively, she understood about her

birthday.

When Maia met this very talkative girl (I'll call her " " just

because we don't really know anyone named in real life), she

just kept away. She stuck close to me, I didn't see anything odd

happen with them. All the little kids gravitated to this

girl...except Maia. I tried to integrate her in group play. Nope.

She just wanted nothing to do with this girl.

Maia came and told me she was " bored " . I asked her why, she's had fun

with the other kids before and she came out and said, " Because I don't

like . " People often say that our kids aren't intuitive to

people, but I think the opposite is true...I almost think our kids are

hyper-intuitive to others. And then Maia told me that " is

bad. " I know from talking to 's mom that does have some

issues (not related to developmental delay, but with just some

behavioral issues) -- she's a very bright girl, very outgoing, but can

be very mean (especially to her own family). I tried to probe further

and ask why but Maia just didn't have the verbal motor skills to tell

me why she thought this. I tried to see if it was because said she

didn't like because she didn't have a good time at her party so

I asked her if she liked some of the other kids and she said, " Yes. "

but when I got to , Maia adamantly said, " NO! She's bad. " I

asked if it was because she wanted to play with them but she didn't

know how. Maia said, " No! I don't want to play with . " (it

took her a lot of effort and time to say this...she worked really hard

to get the words out).

was well behaved that day and there were many adults

supervising the whole time. did not have a chance to be

malicious to anyone. What did Maia see that I didn't?

It was just odd. Or maybe that's what makes some of our kids odd in

society? Maia acted very appropriately for someone who didn't like

someone. She expressed it very appropriately by telling me. But it

struck me as odd because I have never ever in my life heard her say

that she doesn't like somebody. Even people she doesn't know very

well, she never says that she doesn't like them. She usually feels

neutral or likes other people and I can't think of anyone she doesn't

say she likes.

Or was I seeing a developmental milestone? Is it a developmental

milestone to decide that you don't like somebody?

[Guest guest]

YaY for Maia! and happy birthday...my son also just turned five and we had his

very first birthday party:)

anyways please this is really good! encourage Maia to listen to her feelings

about people....if more people could listen to this intuition it would save them

so much trouble.

I would tell Maia good for her to know her feelings and if she feels this

tereas is bad then she should stay away from her and just be polite when in

group situations.

I hope my son to develop this intuition one day...

channa

>

> She just turned 5 yesterday and I threw her a little thing. I invited

> some of my friends from work who have kids (Maia's played with a few

> of the kids before).

>

> There was one of my friends' children and this little girl has rubbed

> me the wrong way before. She's 7, very talkative and uses her

> superficial manners but this little girl has a (I don't really have an

> accurate word for it... " off? " maybe) streak in her. She's a kid

> that's definitely popular in school but something about her strikes me

> funny and malicious.

>

> I'd never talked to Maia about her except to tell Maia that she was

> going to come to her birthday party. Maia was really excited about

> her party and understood that it was her birthday party. She

> understood that people coming over means a party and we open presents,

> etc. I was thrilled that receptively, she understood about her

> birthday.

>

> When Maia met this very talkative girl (I'll call her " " just

> because we don't really know anyone named in real life), she

> just kept away. She stuck close to me, I didn't see anything odd

> happen with them. All the little kids gravitated to this

> girl...except Maia. I tried to integrate her in group play. Nope.

> She just wanted nothing to do with this girl.

>

> Maia came and told me she was " bored " . I asked her why, she's had fun

> with the other kids before and she came out and said, " Because I don't

> like . " People often say that our kids aren't intuitive to

> people, but I think the opposite is true...I almost think our kids are

> hyper-intuitive to others. And then Maia told me that " is

> bad. " I know from talking to 's mom that does have some

> issues (not related to developmental delay, but with just some

> behavioral issues) -- she's a very bright girl, very outgoing, but can

> be very mean (especially to her own family). I tried to probe further

> and ask why but Maia just didn't have the verbal motor skills to tell

> me why she thought this. I tried to see if it was because said she

> didn't like because she didn't have a good time at her party so

> I asked her if she liked some of the other kids and she said, " Yes. "

> but when I got to , Maia adamantly said, " NO! She's bad. " I

> asked if it was because she wanted to play with them but she didn't

> know how. Maia said, " No! I don't want to play with . " (it

> took her a lot of effort and time to say this...she worked really hard

> to get the words out).

>

> was well behaved that day and there were many adults

> supervising the whole time. did not have a chance to be

> malicious to anyone. What did Maia see that I didn't?

>

> It was just odd. Or maybe that's what makes some of our kids odd in

> society? Maia acted very appropriately for someone who didn't like

> someone. She expressed it very appropriately by telling me. But it

> struck me as odd because I have never ever in my life heard her say

> that she doesn't like somebody. Even people she doesn't know very

> well, she never says that she doesn't like them. She usually feels

> neutral or likes other people and I can't think of anyone she doesn't

> say she likes.

>

> Or was I seeing a developmental milestone? Is it a developmental

> milestone to decide that you don't like somebody?

>

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You should be very proud of her ( and tell her so!)You should also be proud of yourself :)Sent from my iPhone

She just turned 5 yesterday and I threw her a little thing. I invited

some of my friends from work who have kids (Maia's played with a few

of the kids before).

There was one of my friends' children and this little girl has rubbed

me the wrong way before. She's 7, very talkative and uses her

superficial manners but this little girl has a (I don't really have an

accurate word for it..."off?" maybe) streak in her. She's a kid

that's definitely popular in school but something about her strikes me

funny and malicious.

I'd never talked to Maia about her except to tell Maia that she was

going to come to her birthday party. Maia was really excited about

her party and understood that it was her birthday party. She

understood that people coming over means a party and we open presents,

etc. I was thrilled that receptively, she understood about her

birthday.

When Maia met this very talkative girl (I'll call her "" just

because we don't really know anyone named in real life), she

just kept away. She stuck close to me, I didn't see anything odd

happen with them. All the little kids gravitated to this

girl...except Maia. I tried to integrate her in group play. Nope.

She just wanted nothing to do with this girl.

Maia came and told me she was "bored". I asked her why, she's had fun

with the other kids before and she came out and said, "Because I don't

like ." People often say that our kids aren't intuitive to

people, but I think the opposite is true...I almost think our kids are

hyper-intuitive to others. And then Maia told me that " is

bad." I know from talking to 's mom that does have some

issues (not related to developmental delay, but with just some

behavioral issues) -- she's a very bright girl, very outgoing, but can

be very mean (especially to her own family). I tried to probe further

and ask why but Maia just didn't have the verbal motor skills to tell

me why she thought this. I tried to see if it was because said she

didn't like because she didn't have a good time at her party so

I asked her if she liked some of the other kids and she said, "Yes."

but when I got to , Maia adamantly said, "NO! She's bad." I

asked if it was because she wanted to play with them but she didn't

know how. Maia said, "No! I don't want to play with ." (it

took her a lot of effort and time to say this...she worked really hard

to get the words out).

was well behaved that day and there were many adults

supervising the whole time. did not have a chance to be

malicious to anyone. What did Maia see that I didn't?

It was just odd. Or maybe that's what makes some of our kids odd in

society? Maia acted very appropriately for someone who didn't like

someone. She expressed it very appropriately by telling me. But it

struck me as odd because I have never ever in my life heard her say

that she doesn't like somebody. Even people she doesn't know very

well, she never says that she doesn't like them. She usually feels

neutral or likes other people and I can't think of anyone she doesn't

say she likes.

Or was I seeing a developmental milestone? Is it a developmental

milestone to decide that you don't like somebody?

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[Guest guest]

OK, thanks...that's good then. I just didn't know what to make of it

when she said it to me. She's usually so happy-go-lucky and I just

never heard this from her before. I didn't know if I should be

concerned or what.

I told her that it's ok for her to not like somebody and it's ok to

not play with people she doesn't like. And that it's ok for her to

tell mommy when she doesn't like somebody.

> You should be very proud of her ( and tell her so!)

> You should also be proud of yourself

>

> Sent from my iPhone

>

>

>

> She just turned 5 yesterday and I threw her a little thing. I invited

> some of my friends from work who have kids (Maia's played with a few

> of the kids before).

>

> There was one of my friends' children and this little girl has rubbed

> me the wrong way before. She's 7, very talkative and uses her

> superficial manners but this little girl has a (I don't really have an

> accurate word for it... " off? " maybe) streak in her. She's a kid

> that's definitely popular in school but something about her strikes me

> funny and malicious.

>

> I'd never talked to Maia about her except to tell Maia that she was

> going to come to her birthday party. Maia was really excited about

> her party and understood that it was her birthday party. She

> understood that people coming over means a party and we open presents,

> etc. I was thrilled that receptively, she understood about her

> birthday.

>

> When Maia met this very talkative girl (I'll call her " " just

> because we don't really know anyone named in real life), she

> just kept away. She stuck close to me, I didn't see anything odd

> happen with them. All the little kids gravitated to this

> girl...except Maia. I tried to integrate her in group play. Nope.

> She just wanted nothing to do with this girl.

>

> Maia came and told me she was " bored " . I asked her why, she's had fun

> with the other kids before and she came out and said, " Because I don't

> like . " People often say that our kids aren't intuitive to

> people, but I think the opposite is true...I almost think our kids are

> hyper-intuitive to others. And then Maia told me that " is

> bad. " I know from talking to 's mom that does have some

> issues (not related to developmental delay, but with just some

> behavioral issues) -- she's a very bright girl, very outgoing, but can

> be very mean (especially to her own family). I tried to probe further

> and ask why but Maia just didn't have the verbal motor skills to tell

> me why she thought this. I tried to see if it was because said she

> didn't like because she didn't have a good time at her party so

> I asked her if she liked some of the other kids and she said, " Yes. "

> but when I got to , Maia adamantly said, " NO! She's bad. " I

> asked if it was because she wanted to play with them but she didn't

> know how. Maia said, " No! I don't want to play with . " (it

> took her a lot of effort and time to say this...she worked really hard

> to get the words out).

>

> was well behaved that day and there were many adults

> supervising the whole time. did not have a chance to be

> malicious to anyone. What did Maia see that I didn't?

>

> It was just odd. Or maybe that's what makes some of our kids odd in

> society? Maia acted very appropriately for someone who didn't like

> someone. She expressed it very appropriately by telling me. But it

> struck me as odd because I have never ever in my life heard her say

> that she doesn't like somebody. Even people she doesn't know very

> well, she never says that she doesn't like them. She usually feels

> neutral or likes other people and I can't think of anyone she doesn't

> say she likes.

>

> Or was I seeing a developmental milestone? Is it a developmental

> milestone to decide that you don't like somebody?

>

>

>

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That's all true. I think you should be most proud she is articulating her

feelings:)

Sent from my iPhone

OK, thanks...that's good then. I just didn't know what to make of it

when she said it to me. She's usually so happy-go-lucky and I just

never heard this from her before. I didn't know if I should be

concerned or what.

I told her that it's ok for her to not like somebody and it's ok to

not play with people she doesn't like. And that it's ok for her to

tell mommy when she doesn't like somebody.

You should be very proud of her ( and tell her so!)

You should also be proud of yourself

Sent from my iPhone

She just turned 5 yesterday and I threw her a little thing. I invited

some of my friends from work who have kids (Maia's played with a few

of the kids before).

There was one of my friends' children and this little girl has rubbed

me the wrong way before. She's 7, very talkative and uses her

superficial manners but this little girl has a (I don't really have an

accurate word for it... " off? " maybe) streak in her. She's a kid

that's definitely popular in school but something about her strikes me

funny and malicious.

I'd never talked to Maia about her except to tell Maia that she was

going to come to her birthday party. Maia was really excited about

her party and understood that it was her birthday party. She

understood that people coming over means a party and we open presents,

etc. I was thrilled that receptively, she understood about her

birthday.

When Maia met this very talkative girl (I'll call her " " just

because we don't really know anyone named in real life), she

just kept away. She stuck close to me, I didn't see anything odd

happen with them. All the little kids gravitated to this

girl...except Maia. I tried to integrate her in group play. Nope.

She just wanted nothing to do with this girl.

Maia came and told me she was " bored " . I asked her why, she's had fun

with the other kids before and she came out and said, " Because I don't

like . " People often say that our kids aren't intuitive to

people, but I think the opposite is true...I almost think our kids are

hyper-intuitive to others. And then Maia told me that " is

bad. " I know from talking to 's mom that does have some

issues (not related to developmental delay, but with just some

behavioral issues) -- she's a very bright girl, very outgoing, but can

be very mean (especially to her own family). I tried to probe further

and ask why but Maia just didn't have the verbal motor skills to tell

me why she thought this. I tried to see if it was because said she

didn't like because she didn't have a good time at her party so

I asked her if she liked some of the other kids and she said, " Yes. "

but when I got to , Maia adamantly said, " NO! She's bad. " I

asked if it was because she wanted to play with them but she didn't

know how. Maia said, " No! I don't want to play with . " (it

took her a lot of effort and time to say this...she worked really hard

to get the words out).

was well behaved that day and there were many adults

supervising the whole time. did not have a chance to be

malicious to anyone. What did Maia see that I didn't?

It was just odd. Or maybe that's what makes some of our kids odd in

society? Maia acted very appropriately for someone who didn't like

someone. She expressed it very appropriately by telling me. But it

struck me as odd because I have never ever in my life heard her say

that she doesn't like somebody. Even people she doesn't know very

well, she never says that she doesn't like them. She usually feels

neutral or likes other people and I can't think of anyone she doesn't

say she likes.

Or was I seeing a developmental milestone? Is it a developmental

milestone to decide that you don't like somebody?

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I think it is great. My son started showing this a couple years ago when he

didn't want to be close to a big boy in his class. Every time that boy wanted to

play with him or hug him, my son would start crying or hiding behind me. Then I

observed his interaction with other boys in class and he does fine with them.

Later on I witness what the big boy does in the class. He is not mean to anybody

but he is very sensory. He hits his chest really hard all day and sometimes even

dives on the floor hitting with his chest. Sometimes hugs children really hard

in the class and that scares my kid who was always a coward type.. So our kids

are actually telling us what exactly they feel and it is great that Maia can

verbalize this.

And Happy Birthday to Maia!

is

> >

> > She just turned 5 yesterday and I threw her a little thing. I invited

> > some of my friends from work who have kids (Maia's played with a few

> > of the kids before).

> >

> > There was one of my friends' children and this little girl has rubbed

> > me the wrong way before. She's 7, very talkative and uses her

> > superficial manners but this little girl has a (I don't really have an

> > accurate word for it... " off? " maybe) streak in her. She's a kid

> > that's definitely popular in school but something about her strikes me

> > funny and malicious.

> >

> > I'd never talked to Maia about her except to tell Maia that she was

> > going to come to her birthday party. Maia was really excited about

> > her party and understood that it was her birthday party. She

> > understood that people coming over means a party and we open presents,

> > etc. I was thrilled that receptively, she understood about her

> > birthday.

> >

> > When Maia met this very talkative girl (I'll call her " " just

> > because we don't really know anyone named in real life), she

> > just kept away. She stuck close to me, I didn't see anything odd

> > happen with them. All the little kids gravitated to this

> > girl...except Maia. I tried to integrate her in group play. Nope.

> > She just wanted nothing to do with this girl.

> >

> > Maia came and told me she was " bored " . I asked her why, she's had fun

> > with the other kids before and she came out and said, " Because I don't

> > like . " People often say that our kids aren't intuitive to

> > people, but I think the opposite is true...I almost think our kids are

> > hyper-intuitive to others. And then Maia told me that " is

> > bad. " I know from talking to 's mom that does have some

> > issues (not related to developmental delay, but with just some

> > behavioral issues) -- she's a very bright girl, very outgoing, but can

> > be very mean (especially to her own family). I tried to probe further

> > and ask why but Maia just didn't have the verbal motor skills to tell

> > me why she thought this. I tried to see if it was because said she

> > didn't like because she didn't have a good time at her party so

> > I asked her if she liked some of the other kids and she said, " Yes. "

> > but when I got to , Maia adamantly said, " NO! She's bad. " I

> > asked if it was because she wanted to play with them but she didn't

> > know how. Maia said, " No! I don't want to play with . " (it

> > took her a lot of effort and time to say this...she worked really hard

> > to get the words out).

> >

> > was well behaved that day and there were many adults

> > supervising the whole time. did not have a chance to be

> > malicious to anyone. What did Maia see that I didn't?

> >

> > It was just odd. Or maybe that's what makes some of our kids odd in

> > society? Maia acted very appropriately for someone who didn't like

> > someone. She expressed it very appropriately by telling me. But it

> > struck me as odd because I have never ever in my life heard her say

> > that she doesn't like somebody. Even people she doesn't know very

> > well, she never says that she doesn't like them. She usually feels

> > neutral or likes other people and I can't think of anyone she doesn't

> > say she likes.

> >

> > Or was I seeing a developmental milestone? Is it a developmental

> > milestone to decide that you don't like somebody?

> >

> >

> >

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Wonderful! Happy birthday, Maia!I agree Alberta, that our kids are in many ways more sensitive than others. My children are, to be sure. I think my purpose is to serve as their guide, helping them to sort out these kinds of feelings, which, for us, turn out never to be wrong. I am sure that the girl, Theresa is not an unkind girl, but she probably does have some negative, unkind energy that Maia picked up on. Jean

I think it is great. My son started showing this a couple years ago when he didn't want to be close to a big boy in his class. Every time that boy wanted to play with him or hug him, my son would start crying or hiding behind me. Then I observed his interaction with other boys in class and he does fine with them. Later on I witness what the big boy does in the class. He is not mean to anybody but he is very sensory. He hits his chest really hard all day and sometimes even dives on the floor hitting with his chest. Sometimes hugs children really hard in the class and that scares my kid who was always a coward type.. So our kids are actually telling us what exactly they feel and it is great that Maia can verbalize this.

And Happy Birthday to Maia!

is

> >

> > She just turned 5 yesterday and I threw her a little thing. I invited

> > some of my friends from work who have kids (Maia's played with a few

> > of the kids before).

> >

> > There was one of my friends' children and this little girl has rubbed

> > me the wrong way before. She's 7, very talkative and uses her

> > superficial manners but this little girl has a (I don't really have an

> > accurate word for it..."off?" maybe) streak in her. She's a kid

> > that's definitely popular in school but something about her strikes me

> > funny and malicious.

> >

> > I'd never talked to Maia about her except to tell Maia that she was

> > going to come to her birthday party. Maia was really excited about

> > her party and understood that it was her birthday party. She

> > understood that people coming over means a party and we open presents,

> > etc. I was thrilled that receptively, she understood about her

> > birthday.

> >

> > When Maia met this very talkative girl (I'll call her "" just

> > because we don't really know anyone named in real life), she

> > just kept away. She stuck close to me, I didn't see anything odd

> > happen with them. All the little kids gravitated to this

> > girl...except Maia. I tried to integrate her in group play. Nope.

> > She just wanted nothing to do with this girl.

> >

> > Maia came and told me she was "bored". I asked her why, she's had fun

> > with the other kids before and she came out and said, "Because I don't

> > like ." People often say that our kids aren't intuitive to

> > people, but I think the opposite is true...I almost think our kids are

> > hyper-intuitive to others. And then Maia told me that " is

> > bad." I know from talking to 's mom that does have some

> > issues (not related to developmental delay, but with just some

> > behavioral issues) -- she's a very bright girl, very outgoing, but can

> > be very mean (especially to her own family). I tried to probe further

> > and ask why but Maia just didn't have the verbal motor skills to tell

> > me why she thought this. I tried to see if it was because said she

> > didn't like because she didn't have a good time at her party so

> > I asked her if she liked some of the other kids and she said, "Yes."

> > but when I got to , Maia adamantly said, "NO! She's bad." I

> > asked if it was because she wanted to play with them but she didn't

> > know how. Maia said, "No! I don't want to play with ." (it

> > took her a lot of effort and time to say this...she worked really hard

> > to get the words out).

> >

> > was well behaved that day and there were many adults

> > supervising the whole time. did not have a chance to be

> > malicious to anyone. What did Maia see that I didn't?

> >

> > It was just odd. Or maybe that's what makes some of our kids odd in

> > society? Maia acted very appropriately for someone who didn't like

> > someone. She expressed it very appropriately by telling me. But it

> > struck me as odd because I have never ever in my life heard her say

> > that she doesn't like somebody. Even people she doesn't know very

> > well, she never says that she doesn't like them. She usually feels

> > neutral or likes other people and I can't think of anyone she doesn't

> > say she likes.

> >

> > Or was I seeing a developmental milestone? Is it a developmental

> > milestone to decide that you don't like somebody?

> >

> >

> >

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First Happy Birthday Maia,Second, my son has this intuition. When he was nonverbal he stayed away from peole that we either knew they are not good, kids and adults,or found out later they are not nice people. Now sonce he has some words he just say NO to peole he doesn't like. It never fails, he is always right, if he doesn't like someone that person for sure is not s nice person, and everyone should stay away from  them. I actually learned to read my son's body language to find out how some people are.

Amazing ability these kids have, and they say our kids are special needs. More like it us  who are needing some special help. I can not ever say someone is bad unless they do something to me. Tunde

 

She just turned 5 yesterday and I threw her a little thing. I invited

some of my friends from work who have kids (Maia's played with a few

of the kids before).

There was one of my friends' children and this little girl has rubbed

me the wrong way before. She's 7, very talkative and uses her

superficial manners but this little girl has a (I don't really have an

accurate word for it... " off? " maybe) streak in her. She's a kid

that's definitely popular in school but something about her strikes me

funny and malicious.

I'd never talked to Maia about her except to tell Maia that she was

going to come to her birthday party. Maia was really excited about

her party and understood that it was her birthday party. She

understood that people coming over means a party and we open presents,

etc. I was thrilled that receptively, she understood about her

birthday.

When Maia met this very talkative girl (I'll call her " " just

because we don't really know anyone named in real life), she

just kept away. She stuck close to me, I didn't see anything odd

happen with them. All the little kids gravitated to this

girl...except Maia. I tried to integrate her in group play. Nope.

She just wanted nothing to do with this girl.

Maia came and told me she was " bored " . I asked her why, she's had fun

with the other kids before and she came out and said, " Because I don't

like . " People often say that our kids aren't intuitive to

people, but I think the opposite is true...I almost think our kids are

hyper-intuitive to others. And then Maia told me that " is

bad. " I know from talking to 's mom that does have some

issues (not related to developmental delay, but with just some

behavioral issues) -- she's a very bright girl, very outgoing, but can

be very mean (especially to her own family). I tried to probe further

and ask why but Maia just didn't have the verbal motor skills to tell

me why she thought this. I tried to see if it was because said she

didn't like because she didn't have a good time at her party so

I asked her if she liked some of the other kids and she said, " Yes. "

but when I got to , Maia adamantly said, " NO! She's bad. " I

asked if it was because she wanted to play with them but she didn't

know how. Maia said, " No! I don't want to play with . " (it

took her a lot of effort and time to say this...she worked really hard

to get the words out).

was well behaved that day and there were many adults

supervising the whole time. did not have a chance to be

malicious to anyone. What did Maia see that I didn't?

It was just odd. Or maybe that's what makes some of our kids odd in

society? Maia acted very appropriately for someone who didn't like

someone. She expressed it very appropriately by telling me. But it

struck me as odd because I have never ever in my life heard her say

that she doesn't like somebody. Even people she doesn't know very

well, she never says that she doesn't like them. She usually feels

neutral or likes other people and I can't think of anyone she doesn't

say she likes.

Or was I seeing a developmental milestone? Is it a developmental

milestone to decide that you don't like somebody?

-- " Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter. " MLK

[Guest guest]

I love this thread. Tom is super-keen to people too. When he avoids them, I've learned to never push it because he turns out to be right.

Happy Birthday, Maia!! I'm just as impressed by her ability to verbally share this with you as I am by her intiition. Man oh man...she's come along way!

Tammy

Sent from my Kindle Fire

Sent: Tue Apr 10 16:07:56 EDT 2012

To: mb12valtrex

Subject: Re: OT: Can I just blah blah blah about Maia's birthday yesterday?

First Happy Birthday Maia,Second, my son has this intuition. When he was nonverbal he stayed away from peole that we either knew they are not good, kids and adults,or found out later they are not nice people. Now sonce he has some words he just say NO to peole he doesn't like. It never fails, he is always right, if he doesn't like someone that person for sure is not s nice person, and everyone should stay away from  them. I actually learned to read my son's body language to find out how some people are.

Amazing ability these kids have, and they say our kids are special needs. More like it us  who are needing some special help. I can not ever say someone is bad unless they do something to me. Tunde

 

She just turned 5 yesterday and I threw her a little thing. I invited

some of my friends from work who have kids (Maia's played with a few

of the kids before).

There was one of my friends' children and this little girl has rubbed

me the wrong way before. She's 7, very talkative and uses her

superficial manners but this little girl has a (I don't really have an

accurate word for it... " off? " maybe) streak in her. She's a kid

that's definitely popular in school but something about her strikes me

funny and malicious.

I'd never talked to Maia about her except to tell Maia that she was

going to come to her birthday party. Maia was really excited about

her party and understood that it was her birthday party. She

understood that people coming over means a party and we open presents,

etc. I was thrilled that receptively, she understood about her

birthday.

When Maia met this very talkative girl (I'll call her " " just

because we don't really know anyone named in real life), she

just kept away. She stuck close to me, I didn't see anything odd

happen with them. All the little kids gravitated to this

girl...except Maia. I tried to integrate her in group play. Nope.

She just wanted nothing to do with this girl.

Maia came and told me she was " bored " . I asked her why, she's had fun

with the other kids before and she came out and said, " Because I don't

like . " People often say that our kids aren't intuitive to

people, but I think the opposite is true...I almost think our kids are

hyper-intuitive to others. And then Maia told me that " is

bad. " I know from talking to 's mom that does have some

issues (not related to developmental delay, but with just some

behavioral issues) -- she's a very bright girl, very outgoing, but can

be very mean (especially to her own family). I tried to probe further

and ask why but Maia just didn't have the verbal motor skills to tell

me why she thought this. I tried to see if it was because said she

didn't like because she didn't have a good time at her party so

I asked her if she liked some of the other kids and she said, " Yes. "

but when I got to , Maia adamantly said, " NO! She's bad. " I

asked if it was because she wanted to play with them but she didn't

know how. Maia said, " No! I don't want to play with . " (it

took her a lot of effort and time to say this...she worked really hard

to get the words out).

was well behaved that day and there were many adults

supervising the whole time. did not have a chance to be

malicious to anyone. What did Maia see that I didn't?

It was just odd. Or maybe that's what makes some of our kids odd in

society? Maia acted very appropriately for someone who didn't like

someone. She expressed it very appropriately by telling me. But it

struck me as odd because I have never ever in my life heard her say

that she doesn't like somebody. Even people she doesn't know very

well, she never says that she doesn't like them. She usually feels

neutral or likes other people and I can't think of anyone she doesn't

say she likes.

Or was I seeing a developmental milestone? Is it a developmental

milestone to decide that you don't like somebody?

-- " Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter. " MLK

[Guest guest]

I gotta say, I've been so proud of both her...it takes her a hundred times more effort to do the things that typical kids do w/o a second thought but she works so hard at everything she tries.  So many moments lately that have brought tears to my eyes -- such a wonderful, wonderful kid and person.  I see so many typical kids who have everything going for them but who still aren't half the amazing kid she is.  Both my kids...really awesome kids.  I dont even have the words to express how much their perspectives have taught me.  

[Guest guest]

Not discovering biomed until Tom was 7, we got off to a late start. I have no doubt Maia will recover more quickly...she's got a champ working very hard for her. As almost everyone here knows, Tom is a sports fanatic. Total jock. I watched for a looooong time as he worked twice as hard to be half as good as his peers. Sometimes it has been painful. I've often considered how deep his love for these things must be in order to put up with the demanding workouts and feeling "left out" by his team mates. Some have been very kind - some have been down right cruel. I can remember many days of crying behind my sunglasses and clenching my coffee cup very hard in order not to get up to wring the neck of some little

brat.Baseball season started a couple of weeks ago. Because he is nearly 10, there was no choice but to move him up. This year, he is with kids his own age. Most have never met him before this season. I am so excited to tell you guys that there are HUGE changes in him this year. He is much better at taking oral directions from his coach. I've noticed that he doesn't have to rely on cues from his team mates anymore. He is able to take instruction and just do it without having to watch everyone else a hundred times before "getting it". Physically, he is able to keep up with ease. He is no longer struggling just to be at the "back of the pack". It is AWESOME to see his team mates giving him daps and high fives because he's making great plays and they respect his abilities as opposed to doing it because they "HAVE" to be nice or because they feel bad. He is a true peer. What a

difference. He's having a GREAT time and is proving to be a really decent ball player. The kid's got the heart of a lion. The best part of it: His goodness is following along. It looks as if his acceptance of people just the way they are and his good nature are here to stay. I'm so proud of him. He's a great kid. Someday soon Maia will not have to work so hard and her body will be just as strong as her heart and mind. She'll be a leader among her peers because she's tough and smart and kind. : )xoxoxoxTammy To: "mb12valtrex " <mb12valtrex > Sent: Thursday, April 12, 2012 12:01 AM Subject: Re: OT: Can I just blah blah blah about Maia's birthday yesterday?

I gotta say, I've been so proud of both her...it takes her a hundred times more effort to do the things that typical kids do w/o a second thought but she works so hard at everything she tries. So many moments lately that have brought tears to my eyes -- such a wonderful, wonderful kid and person. I see so many typical kids who have everything going for them but who still aren't half the amazing kid she is. Both my kids...really awesome kids. I dont even have the words to express how much their perspectives have taught me.

[Guest guest]

Tammy u are great mum and uo son is soo blessed and I thank God he is enjoying life!!!!Sent from my iPod

Not discovering biomed until Tom was 7, we got off to a late start. I have no doubt Maia will recover more quickly...she's got a champ working very hard for her. As almost everyone here knows, Tom is a sports fanatic. Total jock. I watched for a looooong time as he worked twice as hard to be half as good as his peers. Sometimes it has been painful. I've often considered how deep his love for these things must be in order to put up with the demanding workouts and feeling "left out" by his team mates. Some have been very kind - some have been down right cruel. I can remember many days of crying behind my sunglasses and clenching my coffee cup very hard in order not to get up to wring the neck of some little

brat.Baseball season started a couple of weeks ago. Because he is nearly 10, there was no choice but to move him up. This year, he is with kids his own age. Most have never met him before this season. I am so excited to tell you guys that there are HUGE changes in him this year. He is much better at taking oral directions from his coach. I've noticed that he doesn't have to rely on cues from his team mates anymore. He is able to take instruction and just do it without having to watch everyone else a hundred times before "getting it". Physically, he is able to keep up with ease. He is no longer struggling just to be at the "back of the pack". It is AWESOME to see his team mates giving him daps and high fives because he's making great plays and they respect his abilities as opposed to doing it because they "HAVE" to be nice or because they feel bad. He is a true peer. What a

difference. He's having a GREAT time and is proving to be a really decent ball player. The kid's got the heart of a lion. The best part of it: His goodness is following along. It looks as if his acceptance of people just the way they are and his good nature are here to stay. I'm so proud of him. He's a great kid. Someday soon Maia will not have to work so hard and her body will be just as strong as her heart and mind. She'll be a leader among her peers because she's tough and smart and kind. : )xoxoxoxTammy To: "mb12valtrex " <mb12valtrex > Sent: Thursday, April 12, 2012 12:01 AM Subject: Re: OT: Can I just blah blah blah about Maia's birthday yesterday?

I gotta say, I've been so proud of both her...it takes her a hundred times more effort to do the things that typical kids do w/o a second thought but she works so hard at everything she tries. So many moments lately that have brought tears to my eyes -- such a wonderful, wonderful kid and person. I see so many typical kids who have everything going for them but who still aren't half the amazing kid she is. Both my kids...really awesome kids. I dont even have the words to express how much their perspectives have taught me.

[Guest guest]

Tammy,

This is not related to the thread. But I just wanted to say that having you on

the forum is one of the most relaxing thing about this forum. You are always so

positive and so encouraging for all the parents. Every time I see any of your

posts, I just want to read it as I know that even if it will not answer my

question, I will at least feel encouraged as you offer a calming effect and I

always hope I can be as positive as you are. I told you before also, I wish you

could be my neighbour.

Luv u girl!

is

>

>  Not discovering biomed until Tom was 7, we got off to a late start.  I have

no doubt Maia will recover more quickly...she's got a champ working very hard

for her.

>

>  As almost everyone here knows, Tom is a sports fanatic. Total jock.  I

watched for a looooong time as he worked twice as hard to be half as good as his

peers.  Sometimes it has been painful.  I've often considered how deep his

love for these things must be in order to put up with the demanding workouts and

feeling " left out " by his team mates.  Some have been very kind - some have

been down right cruel.  I can remember many days of crying behind my sunglasses

and clenching my coffee cup very hard in order not to get up to wring the neck

of some little brat.

>

> Baseball season started a couple of weeks ago.  Because he is nearly 10,

there was no choice but to move him up. This year, he is with kids his own age.

Most have never met him before this season.  I am so excited to tell you guys

that there are HUGE changes in him this year.  He is much better at taking oral

directions from his coach. I've noticed that he doesn't have to rely on cues

from his team mates anymore.  He is able to take instruction and just do it

without having to watch everyone else a hundred times before " getting it " .

 Physically, he is able to keep up with ease.  He is no longer struggling just

to be at the " back of the pack " .  It is AWESOME to see his team mates giving

him daps and high fives because he's making great plays and they respect his

abilities as opposed to doing it because they " HAVE " to be nice or because they

feel bad.  He is a true peer. What a difference.  He's having a GREAT time and

is proving to be a really

> decent ball player.  The kid's got the heart of a lion.  The best part of

it:  His goodness is following along. It looks as if his acceptance of people

just the way they are and his good nature are here to stay.  I'm so proud of

him.  He's a great kid.  Someday soon Maia will not have to work so hard and

her body will be just as strong as her heart and mind. She'll be a leader among

her peers because she's tough and smart and kind.

>  : )

>

> xoxoxox

> Tammy

>

> ________________________________

>

> To: " mb12valtrex " <mb12valtrex >

> Sent: Thursday, April 12, 2012 12:01 AM

> Subject: Re: OT: Can I just blah blah blah about Maia's birthday

yesterday?

>

>

>  

> I gotta say, I've been so proud of both her...it takes her a hundred times

more effort to do the things that typical kids do w/o a second thought but she

works so hard at everything she tries.  So many moments lately that have

brought tears to my eyes -- such a wonderful, wonderful kid and person.  I see

so many typical kids who have everything going for them but who still aren't

half the amazing kid she is.  Both my kids...really awesome kids.  I dont even

have the words to express how much their perspectives have taught me.  

>

[Guest guest]

Aw...is...dont be fooled. I'm an animal. Lol.

In all seriousness, I have met so many incredibly generous people along the way who have helped my son in ways I could never repay. Tommy will be long recovered before I am ever able to understand this stuff on the cellular level. I'm not the smart kid in class and I'm constantly blown away by how brilliant some of our moms are. My contributions, beyond the very basics, could never touch what others are able to offer. But I love you all so very much. I honestly feel that each and every one of you and your children are an extension of my family. If I can encourage someone to hang on for one more day, I know one of you smartie pants will come along to help them figure things out. It really does feel like a personal victory when someone reports good news. And I know I 'm not alone when I tell you there have been many a night of sitting at the computer crying my eyeballs out about someone else's kid or someone's bad day. You guys are the best!

best! best! I wish we all lived in the same neighborhood...we could have a street full of spinning and flapping and no one would bat an eye. At the end of that street, there would be a bar with two-for-one specials every day of the week....and maybe an HBOT and zyto in the back room. Lol.

Xoxox

Tammy

XoxoTammy

Sent from my Kindle Fire

Sent: Thu Apr 12 13:50:46 EDT 2012

To: mb12valtrex

Subject: Re: OT: Can I just blah blah blah about Maia's birthday yesterday?

Tammy,

This is not related to the thread. But I just wanted to say that having you on the forum is one of the most relaxing thing about this forum. You are always so positive and so encouraging for all the parents. Every time I see any of your posts, I just want to read it as I know that even if it will not answer my question, I will at least feel encouraged as you offer a calming effect and I always hope I can be as positive as you are. I told you before also, I wish you could be my neighbour.

Luv u girl!

is

>

>  Not discovering biomed until Tom was 7, we got off to a late start.  I have no doubt Maia will recover more quickly...she's got a champ working very hard for her.

>

>  As almost everyone here knows, Tom is a sports fanatic. Total jock.  I watched for a looooong time as he worked twice as hard to be half as good as his peers.  Sometimes it has been painful.  I've often considered how deep his love for these things must be in order to put up with the demanding workouts and feeling " left out " by his team mates.  Some have been very kind - some have been down right cruel.  I can remember many days of crying behind my sunglasses and clenching my coffee cup very hard in order not to get up to wring the neck of some little brat.

>

> Baseball season started a couple of weeks ago.  Because he is nearly 10, there was no choice but to move him up. This year, he is with kids his own age. Most have never met him before this season.  I am so excited to tell you guys that there are HUGE changes in him this year.  He is much better at taking oral directions from his coach. I've noticed that he doesn't have to rely on cues from his team mates anymore.  He is able to take instruction and just do it without having to watch everyone else a hundred times before " getting it " .  Physically, he is able to keep up with ease.  He is no longer struggling just to be at the " back of the pack " .  It is AWESOME to see his team mates giving him daps and high fives because he's making great plays and they respect his abilities as opposed to doing it because they " HAVE " to be nice or because they feel bad.  He is a true peer. What a difference.  He's having a GREAT time and is

proving to be a really

> decent ball player.  The kid's got the heart of a lion.  The best part of it:  His goodness is following along. It looks as if his acceptance of people just the way they are and his good nature are here to stay.  I'm so proud of him.  He's a great kid.  Someday soon Maia will not have to work so hard and her body will be just as strong as her heart and mind. She'll be a leader among her peers because she's tough and smart and kind.

>  : )

>

> xoxoxox

> Tammy

>

> ________________________________

>

> To: " mb12valtrex " <mb12valtrex >

> Sent: Thursday, April 12, 2012 12:01 AM

> Subject: Re: OT: Can I just blah blah blah about Maia's birthday yesterday?

>

>

>  

> I gotta say, I've been so proud of both her...it takes her a hundred times more effort to do the things that typical kids do w/o a second thought but she works so hard at everything she tries.  So many moments lately that have brought tears to my eyes -- such a wonderful, wonderful kid and person.  I see so many typical kids who have everything going for them but who still aren't half the amazing kid she is.  Both my kids...really awesome kids.  I dont even have the words to express how much their perspectives have taught me.  

>

[Guest guest]

What a great post.. Love u all too... Thank u for the creator of this yahoo group thank God I found itSent from my iPod

Aw...is...dont be fooled. I'm an animal. Lol.

In all seriousness, I have met so many incredibly generous people along the way who have helped my son in ways I could never repay. Tommy will be long recovered before I am ever able to understand this stuff on the cellular level. I'm not the smart kid in class and I'm constantly blown away by how brilliant some of our moms are. My contributions, beyond the very basics, could never touch what others are able to offer. But I love you all so very much. I honestly feel that each and every one of you and your children are an extension of my family. If I can encourage someone to hang on for one more day, I know one of you smartie pants will come along to help them figure things out. It really does feel like a personal victory when someone reports good news. And I know I 'm not alone when I tell you there have been many a night of sitting at the computer crying my eyeballs out about someone else's kid or someone's bad day. You guys are the best!

best! best! I wish we all lived in the same neighborhood...we could have a street full of spinning and flapping and no one would bat an eye. At the end of that street, there would be a bar with two-for-one specials every day of the week....and maybe an HBOT and zyto in the back room. Lol.

Xoxox

Tammy

XoxoTammy

Sent from my Kindle Fire

Sent: Thu Apr 12 13:50:46 EDT 2012

To: mb12valtrex

Subject: Re: OT: Can I just blah blah blah about Maia's birthday yesterday?

Tammy,

This is not related to the thread. But I just wanted to say that having you on the forum is one of the most relaxing thing about this forum. You are always so positive and so encouraging for all the parents. Every time I see any of your posts, I just want to read it as I know that even if it will not answer my question, I will at least feel encouraged as you offer a calming effect and I always hope I can be as positive as you are. I told you before also, I wish you could be my neighbour.

Luv u girl!

is

>

> Â Not discovering biomed until Tom was 7, we got off to a late start. Â I have no doubt Maia will recover more quickly...she's got a champ working very hard for her.

>

> Â As almost everyone here knows, Tom is a sports fanatic. Total jock. Â I watched for a looooong time as he worked twice as hard to be half as good as his peers. Â Sometimes it has been painful. Â I've often considered how deep his love for these things must be in order to put up with the demanding workouts and feeling "left out" by his team mates. Â Some have been very kind - some have been down right cruel. Â I can remember many days of crying behind my sunglasses and clenching my coffee cup very hard in order not to get up to wring the neck of some little brat.

>

> Baseball season started a couple of weeks ago. Â Because he is nearly 10, there was no choice but to move him up. This year, he is with kids his own age. Most have never met him before this season. Â I am so excited to tell you guys that there are HUGE changes in him this year. Â He is much better at taking oral directions from his coach. I've noticed that he doesn't have to rely on cues from his team mates anymore. Â He is able to take instruction and just do it without having to watch everyone else a hundred times before "getting it". Â Physically, he is able to keep up with ease. Â He is no longer struggling just to be at the "back of the pack". Â It is AWESOME to see his team mates giving him daps and high fives because he's making great plays and they respect his abilities as opposed to doing it because they "HAVE" to be nice or because they feel bad. Â He is a true peer. What a difference. Â He's having a GREAT time and is

proving to be a really

> decent ball player. Â The kid's got the heart of a lion. Â The best part of it: Â His goodness is following along. It looks as if his acceptance of people just the way they are and his good nature are here to stay. Â I'm so proud of him. Â He's a great kid. Â Someday soon Maia will not have to work so hard and her body will be just as strong as her heart and mind. She'll be a leader among her peers because she's tough and smart and kind.

> Â : )

>

> xoxoxox

> Tammy

>

> ________________________________

>

> To: "mb12valtrex " <mb12valtrex >

> Sent: Thursday, April 12, 2012 12:01 AM

> Subject: Re: OT: Can I just blah blah blah about Maia's birthday yesterday?

>

>

> Â

> I gotta say, I've been so proud of both her...it takes her a hundred times more effort to do the things that typical kids do w/o a second thought but she works so hard at everything she tries. Â So many moments lately that have brought tears to my eyes -- such a wonderful, wonderful kid and person. Â I see so many typical kids who have everything going for them but who still aren't half the amazing kid she is. Â Both my kids...really awesome kids. Â I dont even have the words to express how much their perspectives have taught me. Â

>

[Guest guest]

Tammy, u definitely r one of the smart ones. A lot of your suggestions are

helping my kid and I have learned a lot from ur posts. And yhe best part is that

u r so sweet.

I am always dreaming about our special neighborhood. I like the idea of 2 for 1

special. And if I happen to become skilled enough with dan and other protocols,

we will have a doc available for all the amazing kids in the neighborhood on

site. )

is

> >

> > Â Not discovering biomed until Tom was 7, we got off to a late start. Â I

have no doubt Maia will recover more quickly...she's got a champ working very

hard for her.

> >

> > Â As almost everyone here knows, Tom is a sports fanatic. Total jock. Â I

watched for a looooong time as he worked twice as hard to be half as good as his

peers. Â Sometimes it has been painful. Â I've often considered how deep his

love for these things must be in order to put up with the demanding workouts and

feeling " left out " by his team mates. Â Some have been very kind - some have

been down right cruel. Â I can remember many days of crying behind my

sunglasses and clenching my coffee cup very hard in order not to get up to wring

the neck of some little brat.

> >

> > Baseball season started a couple of weeks ago. Â Because he is nearly 10,

there was no choice but to move him up. This year, he is with kids his own age.

Most have never met him before this season. Â I am so excited to tell you guys

that there are HUGE changes in him this year. Â He is much better at taking

oral directions from his coach. I've noticed that he doesn't have to rely on

cues from his team mates anymore. Â He is able to take instruction and just do

it without having to watch everyone else a hundred times before " getting it " . Â

Physically, he is able to keep up with ease. Â He is no longer struggling just

to be at the " back of the pack " . Â It is AWESOME to see his team mates giving

him daps and high fives because he's making great plays and they respect his

abilities as opposed to doing it because they " HAVE " to be nice or because they

feel bad. Â He is a true peer. What a difference. Â He's having a GREAT time

and is proving to be a really

> > decent ball player. Â The kid's got the heart of a lion. Â The best part

of it: Â His goodness is following along. It looks as if his acceptance of

people just the way they are and his good nature are here to stay. Â I'm so

proud of him. Â He's a great kid. Â Someday soon Maia will not have to work so

hard and her body will be just as strong as her heart and mind. She'll be a

leader among her peers because she's tough and smart and kind.

> > Â : )

> >

> > xoxoxox

> > Tammy

> >

> > ________________________________

> > From: Alberta <gnomederwear@>

> > To: " mb12valtrex " <mb12valtrex >

> > Sent: Thursday, April 12, 2012 12:01 AM

> > Subject: Re: OT: Can I just blah blah blah about Maia's

birthday yesterday?

> >

> >

> > Â

> > I gotta say, I've been so proud of both her...it takes her a hundred times

more effort to do the things that typical kids do w/o a second thought but she

works so hard at everything she tries. Â So many moments lately that have

brought tears to my eyes -- such a wonderful, wonderful kid and person. Â I see

so many typical kids who have everything going for them but who still aren't

half the amazing kid she is. Â Both my kids...really awesome kids. Â I dont

even have the words to express how much their perspectives have taught me. Â

> >

>