My Mom is falsely accusing her doctor of some serious stuff!

[Guest guest]

My Mom has done a lot of crazy stuff, but what surprises me is that there is no

end, It gets worse and more damaging to everyone! She never has remorse and she

never stops!

Her latest-

She was put in a psych ward on a 72 hour hold because of her behavior in the ER.

She was there for 14 days. Because she (admittingly) slammed a door into a nurse

and pissed off everyone who came in contact with her. She left pretty heavily

drugged. I liked her doctor. He was tough, he didn't buy into her bull. He

didn't suck up and was very honest with her. This is the first time I think she

ever met someone like this. My Mom has had over 100 jobs in her life and i am

willing to bet the same amount of doctors. She just complains about how awful

they are and then moves to the next.

Anyways- she stayed on the meds for about two days. Then she quit the meds. She

lied to me for about two weeks (the pharmacy screwed up etc etc) until she was

in full blown mania and I called her out. She told me she went to see her Dr.

and he was disgusting. " He was eating mouthfuls of girlscout cookies and playing

with his belly button. " was her exact quote.

Now, today she told me that she reported him for playing with his nipples in

front of her!

I am 99percent sure this is all a lie. I can't believe she would do this to

someone. I don't know what I can do. She just seems hopeless. I hope they video

tape sessions and bust her on her lies. I doubt it though.

[Guest guest]

Wow. That sounds so much like my nada ( " nada " is shorthand here for " not a mom "

or " mom with bpd " ) who began exhibiting even more than her usual borderline pd

level of delusional, paranoid thoughts and behaviors and began acting out in

public with violence, hysteria and rage and bizarre behaviors (like going

outside in the dead of night in her pajamas to dig holes around the apartment

complex she lived in to bury her possessions) as she approached full-blown

psychosis.

But there was nothing Sister could do while our mom was still just on the edge

of functionality, yet clearly beginning to deteriorate.

Sister and our Aunt (nada's sister) were able to persuade nada to see a

psychiatrist; he gave a tentative diagnosis of senile dementia and prescribed an

anti-psychotic med for nada, but the anti-psychotic had no effect. I personally

think she wasn't taking them, because later she accused her doctors and others

of trying to poison her; I think nada lied to Sister, who trusted nada to take

the med. Instead of lessening, nada's hallucinations got worse, until she ended

up being escorted by the police to a hospital for a psychiatric hold and

evaluation.

Its just really so heartbreakingly sad, and frustrating and frightening that it

takes getting to the point of actively hallucinating and exhibiting dangerous,

violent, frightening behaviors before anything can really be done to help the

individual suffering from dementia or some other form of psychosis.

I'm sorry so many here are having to go through that with their own bpd moms

and/or dads. Senile dementia is just heartbreaking, truly.

-Annie

>

> My Mom has done a lot of crazy stuff, but what surprises me is that there is

no end, It gets worse and more damaging to everyone! She never has remorse and

she never stops!

>

> Her latest-

> She was put in a psych ward on a 72 hour hold because of her behavior in the

ER. She was there for 14 days. Because she (admittingly) slammed a door into a

nurse and pissed off everyone who came in contact with her. She left pretty

heavily drugged. I liked her doctor. He was tough, he didn't buy into her bull.

He didn't suck up and was very honest with her. This is the first time I think

she ever met someone like this. My Mom has had over 100 jobs in her life and i

am willing to bet the same amount of doctors. She just complains about how awful

they are and then moves to the next.

>

> Anyways- she stayed on the meds for about two days. Then she quit the meds.

She lied to me for about two weeks (the pharmacy screwed up etc etc) until she

was in full blown mania and I called her out. She told me she went to see her

Dr. and he was disgusting. " He was eating mouthfuls of girlscout cookies and

playing with his belly button. " was her exact quote.

> Now, today she told me that she reported him for playing with his nipples in

front of her!

> I am 99percent sure this is all a lie. I can't believe she would do this to

someone. I don't know what I can do. She just seems hopeless. I hope they video

tape sessions and bust her on her lies. I doubt it though.

>

[Guest guest]

How dreadful. Her claim of having reported him may be just as

bogus as her claims that he did these things. Even if she really

did report him, the powers that be are likely to take into

consideration the fact that she was in a psych ward and has

diagnosed mental problems. In the game of " he said, she said " ,

the person with the more upstanding reputation often wins.

At 01:50 AM 03/17/2012 nicolegawlik@... wrote:

>My Mom has done a lot of crazy stuff, but what surprises me is

>that there is no end, It gets worse and more damaging to

>everyone! She never has remorse and she never stops!

>

>Her latest-

>She was put in a psych ward on a 72 hour hold because of her

>behavior in the ER. She was there for 14 days. Because she

>(admittingly) slammed a door into a nurse and pissed off

>everyone who came in contact with her. She left pretty heavily

>drugged. I liked her doctor. He was tough, he didn't buy into

>her bull. He didn't suck up and was very honest with her. This

>is the first time I think she ever met someone like this. My

>Mom has had over 100 jobs in her life and i am willing to bet

>the same amount of doctors. She just complains about how awful

>they are and then moves to the next.

>

>Anyways- she stayed on the meds for about two days. Then she

>quit the meds. She lied to me for about two weeks (the pharmacy

>screwed up etc etc) until she was in full blown mania and I

>called her out. She told me she went to see her Dr. and he was

>disgusting. " He was eating mouthfuls of girlscout cookies and

>playing with his belly button. " was her exact quote.

>Now, today she told me that she reported him for playing with

>his nipples in front of her!

>I am 99percent sure this is all a lie. I can't believe she

>would do this to someone. I don't know what I can do. She just

>seems hopeless. I hope they video tape sessions and bust her on

>her lies. I doubt it though.

--

Katrina

[Guest guest]

Is there any way that you can warn the doctor that your nada is making such

accusations and that she has a history of this behavior (maybe even tell him

your suspicions of her BPD)?

>

> My Mom has done a lot of crazy stuff, but what surprises me is that there is

no end, It gets worse and more damaging to everyone! She never has remorse and

she never stops!

>

> Her latest-

> She was put in a psych ward on a 72 hour hold because of her behavior in the

ER. She was there for 14 days. Because she (admittingly) slammed a door into a

nurse and pissed off everyone who came in contact with her. She left pretty

heavily drugged. I liked her doctor. He was tough, he didn't buy into her bull.

He didn't suck up and was very honest with her. This is the first time I think

she ever met someone like this. My Mom has had over 100 jobs in her life and i

am willing to bet the same amount of doctors. She just complains about how awful

they are and then moves to the next.

>

> Anyways- she stayed on the meds for about two days. Then she quit the meds.

She lied to me for about two weeks (the pharmacy screwed up etc etc) until she

was in full blown mania and I called her out. She told me she went to see her

Dr. and he was disgusting. " He was eating mouthfuls of girlscout cookies and

playing with his belly button. " was her exact quote.

> Now, today she told me that she reported him for playing with his nipples in

front of her!

> I am 99percent sure this is all a lie. I can't believe she would do this to

someone. I don't know what I can do. She just seems hopeless. I hope they video

tape sessions and bust her on her lies. I doubt it though.

>

[Guest guest]

If her doctor is smart he has probably always had a nurse or P.A or aide or

another person in room with him. Young doctors might make this mistake once, but

we have been in a law suit happy climate for so long, that most doctors are

advised during residency or as early as med school, never be alone with a

patient. My husband is never alone with a patient for his protection, maybe

Nada's doctor knew that too.

MK

>

> My Mom has done a lot of crazy stuff, but what surprises me is that there is

no end, It gets worse and more damaging to everyone! She never has remorse and

she never stops!

>

> Her latest-

> She was put in a psych ward on a 72 hour hold because of her behavior in the

ER. She was there for 14 days. Because she (admittingly) slammed a door into a

nurse and pissed off everyone who came in contact with her. She left pretty

heavily drugged. I liked her doctor. He was tough, he didn't buy into her bull.

He didn't suck up and was very honest with her. This is the first time I think

she ever met someone like this. My Mom has had over 100 jobs in her life and i

am willing to bet the same amount of doctors. She just complains about how awful

they are and then moves to the next.

>

> Anyways- she stayed on the meds for about two days. Then she quit the meds.

She lied to me for about two weeks (the pharmacy screwed up etc etc) until she

was in full blown mania and I called her out. She told me she went to see her

Dr. and he was disgusting. " He was eating mouthfuls of girlscout cookies and

playing with his belly button. " was her exact quote.

> Now, today she told me that she reported him for playing with his nipples in

front of her!

> I am 99percent sure this is all a lie. I can't believe she would do this to

someone. I don't know what I can do. She just seems hopeless. I hope they video

tape sessions and bust her on her lies. I doubt it though.

>

[Guest guest]

I constantly see doctors alone and my dtr in the psych ward saw her doctors

alone. And she was incredibly unstable. My impression was that mental

hospitals don't fear their patients at all. I witnessed many altercations

physical and verbal, many lies told by my dtr, letters written by a friend who

was hospitalized compalining about staff abuses. I really don't think a psych

staff gets rattled by anything.

Sue

[Guest guest]

My husband works in hospice care and one of the things they taught him was you

cannot live in fear of what the patient might say. That is, elderly or very ill

people may get angry and make accusations. Yes, those accusations have to be

checked out but most of the time there's no basis for them. Nurses and doctors

completely understand that some patients will lash out either in anger or due to

mental instability. But they all understand that's part of patient care. I

couldn't handle it. Even now if my nada makes some snarky remark about me, I get

diarrhea. LOL Nope, not my kind of job.

>

>

> I constantly see doctors alone and my dtr in the psych ward saw her doctors

alone. And she was incredibly unstable. My impression was that mental

hospitals don't fear their patients at all. I witnessed many altercations

physical and verbal, many lies told by my dtr, letters written by a friend who

was hospitalized compalining about staff abuses. I really don't think a psych

staff gets rattled by anything.

> Sue

>