Guest guest Posted March 21, 2012 Report Share Posted March 21, 2012 I am so sick of the mind games. ANOTHER big mystery package arrived at my door. I think she is packing up my childhood photos and sending them to me. If that is the case, it should be easy for her since she never bothered to take the time to put my photos into albums, they were always left in those old paper envelopes, totally disorganized. Last time this happened it shook me up but now I am just getting mad. I don't know if I should get a restraining order or what I should do about nada now. She won't let up. natalia Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 21, 2012 Report Share Posted March 21, 2012 Its not easy to obtain a restraining order unless (1) violence/vandalism has been threatened or perpetrated already (and the police have been called before) or (2) you live in a state that has enacted anti-stalking laws. Even if you fear violence or are being stalked, you'll still need to lay down a paper trail of actions and collect evidence to prove that you are being stalked. You might want to check out the anti-stalking websites for detailed information about documenting incidents of harassment or stalking that will give you the chance to obtain a restraining order. I'm pretty sure that to begin the process, you must send a written letter (by certified and/or registered mail, that must be signed for in person by your nada) stating briefly that you do not wish any further contact with her in any form, and that any further attempts at contact are unwelcome and will be considered harassment. You can have your letter and copies of it notarized by a notary public, and send one to nada (registered and certified), one to your lawyer, and keep one on file yourself. It makes a bigger impression if the letter is on a law firm's official stationery and comes from your lawyer's office, but, you can do it yourself. Note: you then do NOT respond to any response to that letter! You simply note or collect further attempts at contact from that point on to prove that you are being harassed. Best of luck to you. -Annie > > I am so sick of the mind games. ANOTHER big mystery package arrived at my door. I think she is packing up my childhood photos and sending them to me. If that is the case, it should be easy for her since she never bothered to take the time to put my photos into albums, they were always left in those old paper envelopes, totally disorganized. > > Last time this happened it shook me up but now I am just getting mad. I don't know if I should get a restraining order or what I should do about nada now. She won't let up. > > > natalia > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 21, 2012 Report Share Posted March 21, 2012 I know I was on my own suggesting this last time, but I still believe doing return to sender at least once is worthwhile. If you keep it or throw it away, she will still imagine she has succeeded in getting you to take the items. In some states there are anti-harrassment orders this would fall under but you'll have to be able to prove you did once clearly tell her you wanted no contact. Good luck, I know it's infuriating to have ANYONE act like they have the right to force a relationship. Eliza > > I am so sick of the mind games. ANOTHER big mystery package arrived at my door. I think she is packing up my childhood photos and sending them to me. If that is the case, it should be easy for her since she never bothered to take the time to put my photos into albums, they were always left in those old paper envelopes, totally disorganized. > > Last time this happened it shook me up but now I am just getting mad. I don't know if I should get a restraining order or what I should do about nada now. She won't let up. > > > natalia > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 22, 2012 Report Share Posted March 22, 2012 I got all of two mystery packages on my doorstep with random crap from my upbringing. I never have figured out what they were trying to accomplish by doing that. Like I would see a clipping about being on the honor roll and think, " gosh, I was a smart kid, I guess it is okay that my parents make disparaging comments about my kids to their faces after all. " I mean, really? > > I am so sick of the mind games. ANOTHER big mystery package arrived at my door. I think she is packing up my childhood photos and sending them to me. If that is the case, it should be easy for her since she never bothered to take the time to put my photos into albums, they were always left in those old paper envelopes, totally disorganized. > > Last time this happened it shook me up but now I am just getting mad. I don't know if I should get a restraining order or what I should do about nada now. She won't let up. > > > natalia > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 22, 2012 Report Share Posted March 22, 2012 My nada would do that too. When I got engaged and she was furious because she didn't see the ring first she packed up everything I ever gave her and returned it. This pattern has continued for the past 10 years. Its gotten so that I now buy her things I like, such as a really beautiful bird bath for her birthday. When she made a snarky remark about how she didn't get it, this wasn't her thing I said I know, but since you always return things to me everything you get in a snit I decided to start buying you things I want.  Naturally she went off the wall but she hasn't returned a thing to me since then. ________________________________ To: WTOAdultChildren1 Sent: Thursday, March 22, 2012 7:54 AM Subject: Re: Another Mystery Package  I got all of two mystery packages on my doorstep with random crap from my upbringing. I never have figured out what they were trying to accomplish by doing that. Like I would see a clipping about being on the honor roll and think, " gosh, I was a smart kid, I guess it is okay that my parents make disparaging comments about my kids to their faces after all. " I mean, really? > > I am so sick of the mind games. ANOTHER big mystery package arrived at my door. I think she is packing up my childhood photos and sending them to me. If that is the case, it should be easy for her since she never bothered to take the time to put my photos into albums, they were always left in those old paper envelopes, totally disorganized. > > Last time this happened it shook me up but now I am just getting mad. I don't know if I should get a restraining order or what I should do about nada now. She won't let up. > > > natalia > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 22, 2012 Report Share Posted March 22, 2012 It is just so weird..and again, it is oddly comforting that I am not alone in this. The only thing I can think of is that this is another way she can bully me. Send me my photos and old things. Since I couldn't sleep last night (gee, wonder why?!?) I realized that she has done this to people in the past. She has 2 half-sisters and when their mother died, nada (the big-shot executrix) took all of the sisters photos out of their frames and boxed them up and gave them back to her oh-so hated sisters. It was her way of telling them she was finished with them forever. Maybe that is her point with me now. , She has never returned gifts, but what she likes to do is go online and figure out how much I spent on her items. She would always remind me when she spent more than me, of course! Natalia > > > > I am so sick of the mind games. ANOTHER big mystery package arrived at my door. I think she is packing up my childhood photos and sending them to me. If that is the case, it should be easy for her since she never bothered to take the time to put my photos into albums, they were always left in those old paper envelopes, totally disorganized. > > > > Last time this happened it shook me up but now I am just getting mad. I don't know if I should get a restraining order or what I should do about nada now. She won't let up. > > > > > > natalia > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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