Hello. Newbie here...

[Guest guest]

Hello group~

I just found this group today, and I am hoping to find some valuable insights

and emotional support for maintaining a healthy boundary with my parents.

I hope to meet friends who have similar issues in their life!

Yours sincerely,

Mori A.

[Guest guest]

Welcome! Please feel free to start topics, post, etc.. We're all here for each

other, fortunately and unfortunately. As strange or common as you might think

your situation might seem, I've found that there's always at least one other

person who has a similar story, or some priceless advice : )

>

> Hello group~

>

> I just found this group today, and I am hoping to find some valuable insights

and emotional support for maintaining a healthy boundary with my parents.

>

> I hope to meet friends who have similar issues in their life!

>

> Yours sincerely,

>

> Mori A.

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Mori,

Welcome to the group. I'm glad you're here.

I've been here a few years and thank God every day for this group.

It helped me through very, very difficult times with my mother in individuating

and separating from her; in doing in my 40s what should've happened in my teens

and 20s!

My mother is a hermit/waif kind of BP profile, needy, smothering, anxious,

phobic, fearful. But in my youth, she was more witchy and would not allow me to

branch out, so to speak.

Being here has helped me to learn more about her behavior and personality

disorder and to set the necessary boundaries to have my own life.

Anyway, that's my story in a few sentences.

I hope you find great support here.

Fiona

>

> Hello group~

>

> I just found this group today, and I am hoping to find some valuable insights

and emotional support for maintaining a healthy boundary with my parents.

>

> I hope to meet friends who have similar issues in their life!

>

> Yours sincerely,

>

> Mori A.

>

[Guest guest]

Posted by: " newlife9871 " newlife9871@... |Thu Mar 22, 2012 5:21 pm (PDT)

Please feel free to start topics, post, etc. ... there's always at least one

other person who has a similar story, or some priceless advice : )

Thank you for the warm welcome Newlife9871 :-)

OK. So a little bit about my FOO... I have a " Nada " and thank God,

I have claimed my independence from her and I live separate from her.

I don't know how much peace of mind I have since living away from her.

My Dad still lives with her and that is actually how I found the

website BPDcentral and this group. He told me last weekend that he is

miserable. And having to listen to him so full of self pity made me sick.

And I immediately knew that I need more support to help me through this.

My sister is still in shock and her young children of 4 and 5 have been

pretty much traumatized by my Nada at the end of last year. My sister

has chosen to sever contact with my Nada, as she never believed me when

I used to tell her about the stuff that was going on with me and our parents.

(She lived in the US for 5 years after her marriage, I live here in Korea.)

I have been in recovery since 2004, mostly online and phone conferences.

I've tried 2 or 3 therapists too. But nothing hit the core of my real issues

with my Nada like reading about NPD and BPD.

While working in an advertising agency and living with Nada and Dad, I ended

up having an autoimmune disease which I want to cure now. I would be interested

in hearing from those of you who have both a Nada and illness, and what your

experience has been like!

OK. Thanks for being here! And sharing your experiences! It is so great to

have this sense of belonging. I am so grateful and appreciate that I can

share safely about my family matters here, without being judged!

Enjoy your weekend!

Gratitude,

Mori.

[Guest guest]

Welcome to the Group, Mori.

If I remember correctly from my years here, many of us adult children of bpd

parents wind up with health issues that are directly related to too much stress,

and there are a LOT of those, including auto-immune disorders. So, I'm betting

that you'll get some good feedback about stress-related illnesses and conditions

from others here who have them. My main health issue is obesity; I eat my

anxiety, or comfort-eat.

Best of luck to you, and again, welcome.

-Annie

>

> Posted by: " newlife9871 " newlife9871@... |Thu Mar 22, 2012 5:21 pm (PDT)

> Please feel free to start topics, post, etc. ... there's always at least one

other person who has a similar story, or some priceless advice : )

>

> Thank you for the warm welcome Newlife9871 :-)

>

> OK. So a little bit about my FOO... I have a " Nada " and thank God,

> I have claimed my independence from her and I live separate from her.

> I don't know how much peace of mind I have since living away from her.

>

> My Dad still lives with her and that is actually how I found the

> website BPDcentral and this group. He told me last weekend that he is

> miserable. And having to listen to him so full of self pity made me sick.

> And I immediately knew that I need more support to help me through this.

>

> My sister is still in shock and her young children of 4 and 5 have been

> pretty much traumatized by my Nada at the end of last year. My sister

> has chosen to sever contact with my Nada, as she never believed me when

> I used to tell her about the stuff that was going on with me and our parents.

> (She lived in the US for 5 years after her marriage, I live here in Korea.)

>

> I have been in recovery since 2004, mostly online and phone conferences.

> I've tried 2 or 3 therapists too. But nothing hit the core of my real issues

> with my Nada like reading about NPD and BPD.

>

> While working in an advertising agency and living with Nada and Dad, I ended

> up having an autoimmune disease which I want to cure now. I would be

interested

> in hearing from those of you who have both a Nada and illness, and what your

> experience has been like!

>

> OK. Thanks for being here! And sharing your experiences! It is so great to

> have this sense of belonging. I am so grateful and appreciate that I can

> share safely about my family matters here, without being judged!

>

> Enjoy your weekend!

>

> Gratitude,

>

> Mori.

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Mori,

I spent my childhood with tons of stress from nada's raging, lack of

accountability, and distorted perceptions.

Once my parents moved to Michigan I developed chronic sinus issues. Then

migraines. The antibiotics and pain killers I was on further weakened my body. I

really think the daily migraines were stress induced.

By age 20 I had full blown IBS. Then developed food allergies, hayfever, asthma

and eczema.

25 years later I have am back from chronic fatigue, learned to control candida,

shed the food allergies and eczema, but am still asthmatic and any little amount

of stress can start a week long bout with colitis.

I also stress eat--not large portions, just completely unhealthy, juvenile

eating habits. Candy bars or cake for lunch, or crappy fast food. I feel like

'treating' myself to feel better, but it invariably bad fires on me.

I took a meditation class last fall where I learned to identify that when I want

to reach for gooey sugar, I really need to stop, drop inside my head for a

minute and ask myself " what is this craving about? what do I want to fix?

suppress? feel better from? " Sometimes this does help me to avert falling into

my unhealthy eating pattern. But sometimes I forget to drop inside and just plow

on.

I don't think we can ever get rid of all our health issues--they are our bodies

way of telling us something is wrong. But we can learn to mitigate the damage.

Stay strong and take care of yourself!

Echo

> >

> > Posted by: " newlife9871 " newlife9871@ |Thu Mar 22, 2012 5:21 pm (PDT)

> > Please feel free to start topics, post, etc. ... there's always at least one

other person who has a similar story, or some priceless advice : )

> >

> > Thank you for the warm welcome Newlife9871 :-)

> >

> > OK. So a little bit about my FOO... I have a " Nada " and thank God,

> > I have claimed my independence from her and I live separate from her.

> > I don't know how much peace of mind I have since living away from her.

> >

> > My Dad still lives with her and that is actually how I found the

> > website BPDcentral and this group. He told me last weekend that he is

> > miserable. And having to listen to him so full of self pity made me sick.

> > And I immediately knew that I need more support to help me through this.

> >

> > My sister is still in shock and her young children of 4 and 5 have been

> > pretty much traumatized by my Nada at the end of last year. My sister

> > has chosen to sever contact with my Nada, as she never believed me when

> > I used to tell her about the stuff that was going on with me and our

parents.

> > (She lived in the US for 5 years after her marriage, I live here in Korea.)

> >

> > I have been in recovery since 2004, mostly online and phone conferences.

> > I've tried 2 or 3 therapists too. But nothing hit the core of my real issues

> > with my Nada like reading about NPD and BPD.

> >

> > While working in an advertising agency and living with Nada and Dad, I ended

> > up having an autoimmune disease which I want to cure now. I would be

interested

> > in hearing from those of you who have both a Nada and illness, and what your

> > experience has been like!

> >

> > OK. Thanks for being here! And sharing your experiences! It is so great to

> > have this sense of belonging. I am so grateful and appreciate that I can

> > share safely about my family matters here, without being judged!

> >

> > Enjoy your weekend!

> >

> > Gratitude,

> >

> > Mori.

> >

>

[Guest guest]

I post about my health issue(s) here all the time. I have a condition called

Pelvic floor dysfunction. basically my pelvic floor muscles are in spasm

(clenched all the time) there are a huge pile of nasty symptoms from it. I am

currently going to a physical therapist, and doing 1-1.5 hrs of stuff to " fix "

it every morning. the treatments are slow, but working. the relaxation method

is useful for all muscle related issues. mine is most definitely caused by fear

and stress. I also have PTSD, and clench my jaw, and grind my teeth.

http://www.amazon.com/Paradoxical-Relaxation-Practice-Dissolving-Accepting/dp/09\

72775587

this relaxation method is helping me, but it is hard to learn. I have enlisted

the help of a massage therapist friend,and my therapist.

I believe that if our illnesses are really caused by anxiety (like mine) then

comprehensive psychological treatment as well as medical is needed to truly heal

from it.

Meikjn

> > >

> > > Posted by: " newlife9871 " newlife9871@ |Thu Mar 22, 2012 5:21 pm (PDT)

> > > Please feel free to start topics, post, etc. ... there's always at least

one other person who has a similar story, or some priceless advice : )

> > >

> > > Thank you for the warm welcome Newlife9871 :-)

> > >

> > > OK. So a little bit about my FOO... I have a " Nada " and thank God,

> > > I have claimed my independence from her and I live separate from her.

> > > I don't know how much peace of mind I have since living away from her.

> > >

> > > My Dad still lives with her and that is actually how I found the

> > > website BPDcentral and this group. He told me last weekend that he is

> > > miserable. And having to listen to him so full of self pity made me sick.

> > > And I immediately knew that I need more support to help me through this.

> > >

> > > My sister is still in shock and her young children of 4 and 5 have been

> > > pretty much traumatized by my Nada at the end of last year. My sister

> > > has chosen to sever contact with my Nada, as she never believed me when

> > > I used to tell her about the stuff that was going on with me and our

parents.

> > > (She lived in the US for 5 years after her marriage, I live here in

Korea.)

> > >

> > > I have been in recovery since 2004, mostly online and phone conferences.

> > > I've tried 2 or 3 therapists too. But nothing hit the core of my real

issues

> > > with my Nada like reading about NPD and BPD.

> > >

> > > While working in an advertising agency and living with Nada and Dad, I

ended

> > > up having an autoimmune disease which I want to cure now. I would be

interested

> > > in hearing from those of you who have both a Nada and illness, and what

your

> > > experience has been like!

> > >

> > > OK. Thanks for being here! And sharing your experiences! It is so great to

> > > have this sense of belonging. I am so grateful and appreciate that I can

> > > share safely about my family matters here, without being judged!

> > >

> > > Enjoy your weekend!

> > >

> > > Gratitude,

> > >

> > > Mori.

> > >

> >

>