To avoid criticism...Do nothing, say nothing, be nothing.

[Guest guest]

This is how I lived my life...as a nothing...when my mom hated every amazingly

athletic, charitable, academic or social thing I ever succeeded at.

I am certainly not a nothing anymore... but this quote hit me hard.

It will always make me think of the years I had to disassociate myself with life

so that my mother would stop complaining about me.

Amy

[Guest guest]

That quote does hit home. Unfortunately, sometimes saying

nothing and doing nothing also provokes them. They do seem to

really want us to be nothing though, or at least to be nothing

that isn't a version of them.

At 08:10 PM 08/09/2011 barrycove@... wrote:

>This is how I lived my life...as a nothing...when my mom hated

>every amazingly athletic, charitable, academic or social thing

>I ever succeeded at.

>

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>I am certainly not a nothing anymore... but this quote hit me

>hard.

>It will always make me think of the years I had to disassociate

>myself with life so that my mother would stop complaining about

>me.

>

>

>Amy

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Katrina

[Guest guest]

Yes, that could have been my motto when I was growing up. It was better to do

nothing, say nothing, and be nothing at all and avoid nada's criticism, that to

take a risk and fail, and be subjected to her annihilating rage or scathing

contempt.

-Annie

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> This is how I lived my life...as a nothing...when my mom hated every amazingly

athletic, charitable, academic or social thing I ever succeeded at.

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> I am certainly not a nothing anymore... but this quote hit me hard.

> It will always make me think of the years I had to disassociate myself with

life so that my mother would stop complaining about me.

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> Amy

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[Guest guest]

Hi Amy,

Thanks for the quote. I really relate to it too. Like you, I'm no longer a

nothing - though I still have my moments when I automatically respond to others

as if I am. Much rarer these days, but it's a feeling that's still lurking!

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> This is how I lived my life...as a nothing...when my mom hated every amazingly

athletic, charitable, academic or social thing I ever succeeded at.

>

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> I am certainly not a nothing anymore... but this quote hit me hard.

> It will always make me think of the years I had to disassociate myself with

life so that my mother would stop complaining about me.

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> Amy

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[Guest guest]

I second that emotion . . .

On Tue, Aug 9, 2011 at 9:15 PM, mimblebim wrote:

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> Hi Amy,

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> Thanks for the quote. I really relate to it too. Like you, I'm no longer a

> nothing - though I still have my moments when I automatically respond to

> others as if I am. Much rarer these days, but it's a feeling that's still

> lurking!

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> > This is how I lived my life...as a nothing...when my mom hated every

> amazingly athletic, charitable, academic or social thing I ever succeeded

> at.

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> > I am certainly not a nothing anymore... but this quote hit me hard.

> > It will always make me think of the years I had to disassociate myself

> with life so that my mother would stop complaining about me.

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> > Amy

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[Guest guest]

I can relate. I was " the invisible " child. Never wanted to draw attention to

myself - easier to be invisible. Now I work to find my voice, but embrace the

challenge. Took me way too long to figure out that what my mother thought didn't

have to be my reality. Others in my life actually like me, respect me and think

what I do is important, even wonderful. I find myself questioning that a lot,

like I don't deserve them as my mirrors? but I do love them and the positive

feedback fuels my engine.

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> This is how I lived my life...as a nothing...when my mom hated every amazingly

athletic, charitable, academic or social thing I ever succeeded at.

>

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> I am certainly not a nothing anymore... but this quote hit me hard.

> It will always make me think of the years I had to disassociate myself with

life so that my mother would stop complaining about me.

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> Amy

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[Guest guest]

this is true with fada, he will NOT be ignored and you can't refrain from

talking to him when he wants a response, he will then curse you and call you a

nasty name or whatever. it's 'no win' with him.

it's kind of funny too, although this quote resonated with me, it perfectly

describes my waif nada, who is a great big nothing, and people love the stuffing

out of her and go on about what an angel she is.

> >This is how I lived my life...as a nothing...when my mom hated

> >every amazingly athletic, charitable, academic or social thing

> >I ever succeeded at.

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> >I am certainly not a nothing anymore... but this quote hit me

> >hard.

> >It will always make me think of the years I had to disassociate

> >myself with life so that my mother would stop complaining about

> >me.

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> >Amy

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> Katrina

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