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Hey Guys,

Here's my issue of the week. I've invited 3 people to be in my belly dance

company. i was in one a while ago and I loved to dance but the culture of

the group was horrible. a BPD girl joined the group and became best friends

and (litterally) lovers with the teacher. and then everything after that was

about the BPD. SO I decided to create my own company instead of another one

because i wanted to hand pick the people involved and make and AWESOME

thing!!! Great culture, the assholes are kicked out etc etc.

So the situation I'm facing is that there is one person in my group who just

brings negativity right into the room with her. I've talked to her a lot

about the culture I want to build of love and friend ship coming first and

dance second. So everyone loves and agrees with all that stuff.

But then everyweek something gets under her skin. she'll tell me I'm

teaching her a move wrong when I'm not and it'll become a point of

contention. she also has problems with everything that we need to buy to

make costumes. I've bought htings, prepped them for how much it will be (and

i'm doing it as inexpnsively as possble) and she'll pull out her attitude

over the cost of the shipping - almost as though I'm intentionally trying to

do her wrong!

The thing is too, since this will be my performing company, i'm not charging

her anything for the classes. And I am costume desigining, choreographing

and even modified my house so that we could have a studio.

Oh and the other dancers have told me they get a negative vibe from her and

it detracts from the experience.

Sooooo my question is what do i do? i want to give her a trial period until

our sept performance, about a month away. I'm thinking I'll just call her on

it every tiem she does the attitude and if that doesn't help she will be out

after that. I have a hunch that she will decide (if I don't take her crap)

in the heat of the performance that she will stalk off stage and QUIT at the

worst possible moment. we'll see. . .

I hope that if i mention to her to leave her drama at the door so that our

studio is a safe place, that she will do that. I wouldn't be above pulling

an old moving meditation where you honor your sister dancers, floor, music

and your teacher and thank them for the role that they play. Not sure it

will work but not a bad idea.

Let me know if you have thoughts. . .

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Belly dancing is just so cool, I've been participating off and on in a class at

my gym for about 18 months. I love it. I understand about always one person

bringing it all down. All I can say is to go over what you already told her and

ask her what was not clear and how does she think you could possibly make it

better or different. If she wants to dictate, then she should go start her own

group.

>

> Hey Guys,

> Here's my issue of the week. I've invited 3 people to be in my belly dance

> company. i was in one a while ago and I loved to dance but the culture of

> the group was horrible. a BPD girl joined the group and became best friends

> and (litterally) lovers with the teacher. and then everything after that was

> about the BPD. SO I decided to create my own company instead of another one

> because i wanted to hand pick the people involved and make and AWESOME

> thing!!! Great culture, the assholes are kicked out etc etc.

>

> So the situation I'm facing is that there is one person in my group who just

> brings negativity right into the room with her. I've talked to her a lot

> about the culture I want to build of love and friend ship coming first and

> dance second. So everyone loves and agrees with all that stuff.

>

> But then everyweek something gets under her skin. she'll tell me I'm

> teaching her a move wrong when I'm not and it'll become a point of

> contention. she also has problems with everything that we need to buy to

> make costumes. I've bought htings, prepped them for how much it will be (and

> i'm doing it as inexpnsively as possble) and she'll pull out her attitude

> over the cost of the shipping - almost as though I'm intentionally trying to

> do her wrong!

>

> The thing is too, since this will be my performing company, i'm not charging

> her anything for the classes. And I am costume desigining, choreographing

> and even modified my house so that we could have a studio.

>

> Oh and the other dancers have told me they get a negative vibe from her and

> it detracts from the experience.

>

> Sooooo my question is what do i do? i want to give her a trial period until

> our sept performance, about a month away. I'm thinking I'll just call her on

> it every tiem she does the attitude and if that doesn't help she will be out

> after that. I have a hunch that she will decide (if I don't take her crap)

> in the heat of the performance that she will stalk off stage and QUIT at the

> worst possible moment. we'll see. . .

>

> I hope that if i mention to her to leave her drama at the door so that our

> studio is a safe place, that she will do that. I wouldn't be above pulling

> an old moving meditation where you honor your sister dancers, floor, music

> and your teacher and thank them for the role that they play. Not sure it

> will work but not a bad idea.

>

> Let me know if you have thoughts. . .

>

>

>

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I like your idea. Call her on it every time and hopefully she'll eventually get

so sick of it, she'll leave, unless she's loving the free classes!

Sheesh, there's always one in every bunch, isn't there. If someone's giving her

free classes, you'd think she'd just be grateful for that and enjoy the ride.

She's acting like someone that's paid hundreds of dollars.

btw, good for you! Belly dancing has always sounded like so much fun to me. My

hermit fleas prevent me from trying a class out... " what if I don't fit in? "

" what if they pressure me to stay in the class? " " what if I hurt myself? " Sigh.

I'm determined to attend at least one this year!!

Have fun!

Fiona

>

> Hey Guys,

> Here's my issue of the week. I've invited 3 people to be in my belly dance

> company. i was in one a while ago and I loved to dance but the culture of

> the group was horrible. a BPD girl joined the group and became best friends

> and (litterally) lovers with the teacher. and then everything after that was

> about the BPD. SO I decided to create my own company instead of another one

> because i wanted to hand pick the people involved and make and AWESOME

> thing!!! Great culture, the assholes are kicked out etc etc.

>

> So the situation I'm facing is that there is one person in my group who just

> brings negativity right into the room with her. I've talked to her a lot

> about the culture I want to build of love and friend ship coming first and

> dance second. So everyone loves and agrees with all that stuff.

>

> But then everyweek something gets under her skin. she'll tell me I'm

> teaching her a move wrong when I'm not and it'll become a point of

> contention. she also has problems with everything that we need to buy to

> make costumes. I've bought htings, prepped them for how much it will be (and

> i'm doing it as inexpnsively as possble) and she'll pull out her attitude

> over the cost of the shipping - almost as though I'm intentionally trying to

> do her wrong!

>

> The thing is too, since this will be my performing company, i'm not charging

> her anything for the classes. And I am costume desigining, choreographing

> and even modified my house so that we could have a studio.

>

> Oh and the other dancers have told me they get a negative vibe from her and

> it detracts from the experience.

>

> Sooooo my question is what do i do? i want to give her a trial period until

> our sept performance, about a month away. I'm thinking I'll just call her on

> it every tiem she does the attitude and if that doesn't help she will be out

> after that. I have a hunch that she will decide (if I don't take her crap)

> in the heat of the performance that she will stalk off stage and QUIT at the

> worst possible moment. we'll see. . .

>

> I hope that if i mention to her to leave her drama at the door so that our

> studio is a safe place, that she will do that. I wouldn't be above pulling

> an old moving meditation where you honor your sister dancers, floor, music

> and your teacher and thank them for the role that they play. Not sure it

> will work but not a bad idea.

>

> Let me know if you have thoughts. . .

>

>

>

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fiona, i wish you could come to my class!!!

> **

>

>

> I like your idea. Call her on it every time and hopefully she'll eventually

> get so sick of it, she'll leave, unless she's loving the free classes!

>

> Sheesh, there's always one in every bunch, isn't there. If someone's giving

> her free classes, you'd think she'd just be grateful for that and enjoy the

> ride. She's acting like someone that's paid hundreds of dollars.

>

> btw, good for you! Belly dancing has always sounded like so much fun to me.

> My hermit fleas prevent me from trying a class out... " what if I don't fit

> in? " " what if they pressure me to stay in the class? " " what if I hurt

> myself? " Sigh. I'm determined to attend at least one this year!!

>

> Have fun!

>

> Fiona

>

>

>

> >

> > Hey Guys,

> > Here's my issue of the week. I've invited 3 people to be in my belly

> dance

> > company. i was in one a while ago and I loved to dance but the culture of

> > the group was horrible. a BPD girl joined the group and became best

> friends

> > and (litterally) lovers with the teacher. and then everything after that

> was

> > about the BPD. SO I decided to create my own company instead of another

> one

> > because i wanted to hand pick the people involved and make and AWESOME

> > thing!!! Great culture, the assholes are kicked out etc etc.

> >

> > So the situation I'm facing is that there is one person in my group who

> just

> > brings negativity right into the room with her. I've talked to her a lot

> > about the culture I want to build of love and friend ship coming first

> and

> > dance second. So everyone loves and agrees with all that stuff.

> >

> > But then everyweek something gets under her skin. she'll tell me I'm

> > teaching her a move wrong when I'm not and it'll become a point of

> > contention. she also has problems with everything that we need to buy to

> > make costumes. I've bought htings, prepped them for how much it will be

> (and

> > i'm doing it as inexpnsively as possble) and she'll pull out her attitude

> > over the cost of the shipping - almost as though I'm intentionally trying

> to

> > do her wrong!

> >

> > The thing is too, since this will be my performing company, i'm not

> charging

> > her anything for the classes. And I am costume desigining, choreographing

> > and even modified my house so that we could have a studio.

> >

> > Oh and the other dancers have told me they get a negative vibe from her

> and

> > it detracts from the experience.

> >

> > Sooooo my question is what do i do? i want to give her a trial period

> until

> > our sept performance, about a month away. I'm thinking I'll just call her

> on

> > it every tiem she does the attitude and if that doesn't help she will be

> out

> > after that. I have a hunch that she will decide (if I don't take her

> crap)

> > in the heat of the performance that she will stalk off stage and QUIT at

> the

> > worst possible moment. we'll see. . .

> >

> > I hope that if i mention to her to leave her drama at the door so that

> our

> > studio is a safe place, that she will do that. I wouldn't be above

> pulling

> > an old moving meditation where you honor your sister dancers, floor,

> music

> > and your teacher and thank them for the role that they play. Not sure it

> > will work but not a bad idea.

> >

> > Let me know if you have thoughts. . .

> >

> >

> >

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She complains every week? Why is she there if she has such

negative feelings about everything? I think my response the next

time she complains would start with " You don't seem to be happy

as a member of this group. Maybe we should re-evaluate whether

you should continue. " If she doesn't fit in, is so negative that

she is degrading the performance of others, and doesn't seem to

be making an effort tyo adjust her attitude, I don't see why you

should wait until your first performance to send her on her way.

Wouldn't it make more sense to cut your losses and replace her

before she leaves you in the lurch later? Giving people a chance

to change is nice, where possible, but you don't have to

continue to do so past the point where it is obviously not

working.

At 11:30 PM 08/10/2011 Girlscout Cowboy wrote:

>Hey Guys,

>Here's my issue of the week. I've invited 3 people to be in my

>belly dance

>company. i was in one a while ago and I loved to dance but the

>culture of

>the group was horrible. a BPD girl joined the group and became

>best friends

>and (litterally) lovers with the teacher. and then everything

>after that was

>about the BPD. SO I decided to create my own company instead of

>another one

>because i wanted to hand pick the people involved and make and

>AWESOME

>thing!!! Great culture, the assholes are kicked out etc etc.

>

>So the situation I'm facing is that there is one person in my

>group who just

>brings negativity right into the room with her. I've talked to

>her a lot

>about the culture I want to build of love and friend ship

>coming first and

>dance second. So everyone loves and agrees with all that stuff.

>

>But then everyweek something gets under her skin. she'll tell

>me I'm

>teaching her a move wrong when I'm not and it'll become a point

>of

>contention. she also has problems with everything that we need

>to buy to

>make costumes. I've bought htings, prepped them for how much it

>will be (and

>i'm doing it as inexpnsively as possble) and she'll pull out

>her attitude

>over the cost of the shipping - almost as though I'm

>intentionally trying to

>do her wrong!

>

>The thing is too, since this will be my performing company, i'm

>not charging

>her anything for the classes. And I am costume desigining,

>choreographing

>and even modified my house so that we could have a studio.

>

>Oh and the other dancers have told me they get a negative vibe

>from her and

>it detracts from the experience.

>

>Sooooo my question is what do i do? i want to give her a trial

>period until

>our sept performance, about a month away. I'm thinking I'll

>just call her on

>it every tiem she does the attitude and if that doesn't help

>she will be out

>after that. I have a hunch that she will decide (if I don't

>take her crap)

>in the heat of the performance that she will stalk off stage

>and QUIT at the

>worst possible moment. we'll see. . .

>

>I hope that if i mention to her to leave her drama at the door

>so that our

>studio is a safe place, that she will do that. I wouldn't be

>above pulling

>an old moving meditation where you honor your sister dancers,

>floor, music

>and your teacher and thank them for the role that they play.

>Not sure it

>will work but not a bad idea.

>

>Let me know if you have thoughts. . .

>

--

Katrina

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I wish I lived closer--I would LOVE to take belly dance!

>

> Hey Guys,

> Here's my issue of the week. I've invited 3 people to be in my belly dance

> company. i was in one a while ago and I loved to dance but the culture of

> the group was horrible. a BPD girl joined the group and became best friends

> and (litterally) lovers with the teacher. and then everything after that was

> about the BPD. SO I decided to create my own company instead of another one

> because i wanted to hand pick the people involved and make and AWESOME

> thing!!! Great culture, the assholes are kicked out etc etc.

>

> So the situation I'm facing is that there is one person in my group who just

> brings negativity right into the room with her. I've talked to her a lot

> about the culture I want to build of love and friend ship coming first and

> dance second. So everyone loves and agrees with all that stuff.

>

> But then everyweek something gets under her skin. she'll tell me I'm

> teaching her a move wrong when I'm not and it'll become a point of

> contention. she also has problems with everything that we need to buy to

> make costumes. I've bought htings, prepped them for how much it will be (and

> i'm doing it as inexpnsively as possble) and she'll pull out her attitude

> over the cost of the shipping - almost as though I'm intentionally trying to

> do her wrong!

>

> The thing is too, since this will be my performing company, i'm not charging

> her anything for the classes. And I am costume desigining, choreographing

> and even modified my house so that we could have a studio.

>

> Oh and the other dancers have told me they get a negative vibe from her and

> it detracts from the experience.

>

> Sooooo my question is what do i do? i want to give her a trial period until

> our sept performance, about a month away. I'm thinking I'll just call her on

> it every tiem she does the attitude and if that doesn't help she will be out

> after that. I have a hunch that she will decide (if I don't take her crap)

> in the heat of the performance that she will stalk off stage and QUIT at the

> worst possible moment. we'll see. . .

>

> I hope that if i mention to her to leave her drama at the door so that our

> studio is a safe place, that she will do that. I wouldn't be above pulling

> an old moving meditation where you honor your sister dancers, floor, music

> and your teacher and thank them for the role that they play. Not sure it

> will work but not a bad idea.

>

> Let me know if you have thoughts. . .

>

>

>

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Yeah echobabe we would have fun!

You guys are great I appreciate the help.

My T and I just discussed it in detail. My T suggested that I wait until she

acts out and then I point it out in a funny way - my plan is to say " I take

that eye roll to mean you want to have a dance off with me right here right

now. "

So she is put in her place. If it continues - and it will - my T suggests

the same as Katrina - that I let her know that there are other teachers and

I'll even send her a list - but that if she isn't happy in my class and

bringing good energy perhaps she should shop around (hint hint hint). My T

called it opening the door for her so she can make a graceful exit.

Now watch, now that I have a plan she will behave perfectly. BPDs can always

sense it when you are prepared for their shiz and they act like little rays

of sunshine.

> **

>

>

> I wish I lived closer--I would LOVE to take belly dance!

>

>

>

> >

> > Hey Guys,

> > Here's my issue of the week. I've invited 3 people to be in my belly

> dance

> > company. i was in one a while ago and I loved to dance but the culture of

> > the group was horrible. a BPD girl joined the group and became best

> friends

> > and (litterally) lovers with the teacher. and then everything after that

> was

> > about the BPD. SO I decided to create my own company instead of another

> one

> > because i wanted to hand pick the people involved and make and AWESOME

> > thing!!! Great culture, the assholes are kicked out etc etc.

> >

> > So the situation I'm facing is that there is one person in my group who

> just

> > brings negativity right into the room with her. I've talked to her a lot

> > about the culture I want to build of love and friend ship coming first

> and

> > dance second. So everyone loves and agrees with all that stuff.

> >

> > But then everyweek something gets under her skin. she'll tell me I'm

> > teaching her a move wrong when I'm not and it'll become a point of

> > contention. she also has problems with everything that we need to buy to

> > make costumes. I've bought htings, prepped them for how much it will be

> (and

> > i'm doing it as inexpnsively as possble) and she'll pull out her attitude

> > over the cost of the shipping - almost as though I'm intentionally trying

> to

> > do her wrong!

> >

> > The thing is too, since this will be my performing company, i'm not

> charging

> > her anything for the classes. And I am costume desigining, choreographing

> > and even modified my house so that we could have a studio.

> >

> > Oh and the other dancers have told me they get a negative vibe from her

> and

> > it detracts from the experience.

> >

> > Sooooo my question is what do i do? i want to give her a trial period

> until

> > our sept performance, about a month away. I'm thinking I'll just call her

> on

> > it every tiem she does the attitude and if that doesn't help she will be

> out

> > after that. I have a hunch that she will decide (if I don't take her

> crap)

> > in the heat of the performance that she will stalk off stage and QUIT at

> the

> > worst possible moment. we'll see. . .

> >

> > I hope that if i mention to her to leave her drama at the door so that

> our

> > studio is a safe place, that she will do that. I wouldn't be above

> pulling

> > an old moving meditation where you honor your sister dancers, floor,

> music

> > and your teacher and thank them for the role that they play. Not sure it

> > will work but not a bad idea.

> >

> > Let me know if you have thoughts. . .

> >

> >

> >

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Me too...no one around here offers that type of dance class. If I lived closer

to a big city, I would have that option.

Janet

 Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own

understanding.

 In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.

 Be not wise in thine own eyes: fear the LORD, and depart from evil.

 It shall be health to thy navel, and marrow to thy bones.

Proverbs 3:5-8

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Sent: Thursday, August 11, 2011 3:09 PM

Subject: Re: advice for a diva dancer

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I wish I lived closer--I would LOVE to take belly dance!

>

> Hey Guys,

> Here's my issue of the week. I've invited 3 people to be in my belly dance

> company. i was in one a while ago and I loved to dance but the culture of

> the group was horrible. a BPD girl joined the group and became best friends

> and (litterally) lovers with the teacher. and then everything after that was

> about the BPD. SO I decided to create my own company instead of another one

> because i wanted to hand pick the people involved and make and AWESOME

> thing!!! Great culture, the assholes are kicked out etc etc.

>

> So the situation I'm facing is that there is one person in my group who just

> brings negativity right into the room with her. I've talked to her a lot

> about the culture I want to build of love and friend ship coming first and

> dance second. So everyone loves and agrees with all that stuff.

>

> But then everyweek something gets under her skin. she'll tell me I'm

> teaching her a move wrong when I'm not and it'll become a point of

> contention. she also has problems with everything that we need to buy to

> make costumes. I've bought htings, prepped them for how much it will be (and

> i'm doing it as inexpnsively as possble) and she'll pull out her attitude

> over the cost of the shipping - almost as though I'm intentionally trying to

> do her wrong!

>

> The thing is too, since this will be my performing company, i'm not charging

> her anything for the classes. And I am costume desigining, choreographing

> and even modified my house so that we could have a studio.

>

> Oh and the other dancers have told me they get a negative vibe from her and

> it detracts from the experience.

>

> Sooooo my question is what do i do? i want to give her a trial period until

> our sept performance, about a month away. I'm thinking I'll just call her on

> it every tiem she does the attitude and if that doesn't help she will be out

> after that. I have a hunch that she will decide (if I don't take her crap)

> in the heat of the performance that she will stalk off stage and QUIT at the

> worst possible moment. we'll see. . .

>

> I hope that if i mention to her to leave her drama at the door so that our

> studio is a safe place, that she will do that. I wouldn't be above pulling

> an old moving meditation where you honor your sister dancers, floor, music

> and your teacher and thank them for the role that they play. Not sure it

> will work but not a bad idea.

>

> Let me know if you have thoughts. . .

>

>

>

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I think it's important to make it known to her that the entire group is getting

annoyed with it and that she can be 'voted off the island' if the whole group

thinks there is a member that is detracting from the experience. You could

announce something like that as a new policy without ever mentioning your name

and base it on your prior experience in a group. Your stars really are sending

you so many challenges right now about what is rightfully *yours* and other

people feeling entitled to it or raining on your parade. I heard a saying once

on tv, 'don't yuck my yum' which I really like, don't spoil my fun time with

negative comments or behavior. You don't have to put up with it. It sounds like

pathological attention seeking to me and probably she will soon be trying to

recruit other members to her side and cause more of a rift.

>

> Hey Guys,

> Here's my issue of the week. I've invited 3 people to be in my belly dance

> company. i was in one a while ago and I loved to dance but the culture of

> the group was horrible. a BPD girl joined the group and became best friends

> and (litterally) lovers with the teacher. and then everything after that was

> about the BPD. SO I decided to create my own company instead of another one

> because i wanted to hand pick the people involved and make and AWESOME

> thing!!! Great culture, the assholes are kicked out etc etc.

>

> So the situation I'm facing is that there is one person in my group who just

> brings negativity right into the room with her. I've talked to her a lot

> about the culture I want to build of love and friend ship coming first and

> dance second. So everyone loves and agrees with all that stuff.

>

> But then everyweek something gets under her skin. she'll tell me I'm

> teaching her a move wrong when I'm not and it'll become a point of

> contention. she also has problems with everything that we need to buy to

> make costumes. I've bought htings, prepped them for how much it will be (and

> i'm doing it as inexpnsively as possble) and she'll pull out her attitude

> over the cost of the shipping - almost as though I'm intentionally trying to

> do her wrong!

>

> The thing is too, since this will be my performing company, i'm not charging

> her anything for the classes. And I am costume desigining, choreographing

> and even modified my house so that we could have a studio.

>

> Oh and the other dancers have told me they get a negative vibe from her and

> it detracts from the experience.

>

> Sooooo my question is what do i do? i want to give her a trial period until

> our sept performance, about a month away. I'm thinking I'll just call her on

> it every tiem she does the attitude and if that doesn't help she will be out

> after that. I have a hunch that she will decide (if I don't take her crap)

> in the heat of the performance that she will stalk off stage and QUIT at the

> worst possible moment. we'll see. . .

>

> I hope that if i mention to her to leave her drama at the door so that our

> studio is a safe place, that she will do that. I wouldn't be above pulling

> an old moving meditation where you honor your sister dancers, floor, music

> and your teacher and thank them for the role that they play. Not sure it

> will work but not a bad idea.

>

> Let me know if you have thoughts. . .

>

>

>

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Yes my stars sure are!!! Maybe if I deal with this well I will be able to

get out of this " entitlement " issue I am stuck in.

> **

>

>

> I think it's important to make it known to her that the entire group is

> getting annoyed with it and that she can be 'voted off the island' if the

> whole group thinks there is a member that is detracting from the experience.

> You could announce something like that as a new policy without ever

> mentioning your name and base it on your prior experience in a group. Your

> stars really are sending you so many challenges right now about what is

> rightfully *yours* and other people feeling entitled to it or raining on

> your parade. I heard a saying once on tv, 'don't yuck my yum' which I really

> like, don't spoil my fun time with negative comments or behavior. You don't

> have to put up with it. It sounds like pathological attention seeking to me

> and probably she will soon be trying to recruit other members to her side

> and cause more of a rift.

>

>

>

> >

> > Hey Guys,

> > Here's my issue of the week. I've invited 3 people to be in my belly

> dance

> > company. i was in one a while ago and I loved to dance but the culture of

> > the group was horrible. a BPD girl joined the group and became best

> friends

> > and (litterally) lovers with the teacher. and then everything after that

> was

> > about the BPD. SO I decided to create my own company instead of another

> one

> > because i wanted to hand pick the people involved and make and AWESOME

> > thing!!! Great culture, the assholes are kicked out etc etc.

> >

> > So the situation I'm facing is that there is one person in my group who

> just

> > brings negativity right into the room with her. I've talked to her a lot

> > about the culture I want to build of love and friend ship coming first

> and

> > dance second. So everyone loves and agrees with all that stuff.

> >

> > But then everyweek something gets under her skin. she'll tell me I'm

> > teaching her a move wrong when I'm not and it'll become a point of

> > contention. she also has problems with everything that we need to buy to

> > make costumes. I've bought htings, prepped them for how much it will be

> (and

> > i'm doing it as inexpnsively as possble) and she'll pull out her attitude

> > over the cost of the shipping - almost as though I'm intentionally trying

> to

> > do her wrong!

> >

> > The thing is too, since this will be my performing company, i'm not

> charging

> > her anything for the classes. And I am costume desigining, choreographing

> > and even modified my house so that we could have a studio.

> >

> > Oh and the other dancers have told me they get a negative vibe from her

> and

> > it detracts from the experience.

> >

> > Sooooo my question is what do i do? i want to give her a trial period

> until

> > our sept performance, about a month away. I'm thinking I'll just call her

> on

> > it every tiem she does the attitude and if that doesn't help she will be

> out

> > after that. I have a hunch that she will decide (if I don't take her

> crap)

> > in the heat of the performance that she will stalk off stage and QUIT at

> the

> > worst possible moment. we'll see. . .

> >

> > I hope that if i mention to her to leave her drama at the door so that

> our

> > studio is a safe place, that she will do that. I wouldn't be above

> pulling

> > an old moving meditation where you honor your sister dancers, floor,

> music

> > and your teacher and thank them for the role that they play. Not sure it

> > will work but not a bad idea.

> >

> > Let me know if you have thoughts. . .

> >

> >

> >

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