Drama has emerged from dormancy, affecting my whole family

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First it started with our pregnancy announcement. I had posted in here about how

I was sickened my mom called me 4 times in two days " so concerned and wanting to

check on me " after not giving a rip before.

I didn't return her calls. She was completely inflamed.

She sent her flying monkey (my aunt) to call me out of the blue. I knew why she

was calling. She never calls me. But I answered anyway. So when my aunt asked

how I was feeling, I briefly told her and ended the convo.

Two days later, mom calls at 7am and left a very snarky message on my voicemail

and woke up my 3 year old daughter, as well as me and my husband who were trying

to sleep in that day.

This is not her first offense with calling at obscene hours. Texting at 5:30am,

phone calls at 6 or 6:30 have been typical of her over the years. Not to mention

showing up at my doorstep as early as 7:30am on a Saturday. Never any apologies

for waking us up. And I have never told her it was unacceptable.....

.....until yesterday. :-)

I sent the text message from my husband's cell phone, as he said that was fine

to " come from him " . I didn't feel like being harassed that day. Nice and polite,

just asked please call us after 8am, sometimes we sleep in if we have a late

night.

That little boundary sent her OVER. THE. EDGE. First she called my husband's

office and when he didn't answer, she borrowed a co-worker's cell phone (so my

husband wouldn't recognize the number) and called his cell. This isn't his first

rodeo, so he had a hunch it was her and didn't answer. She proceeded to leave a

very angry VM on his phone, implying without saying that he was making rules to

keep me away from her and she called us early because she was " desperate to know

how her daughter was feeling and no one would return her calls! " . Ummmm....I'm

pregnant, I don't have a terminal illness.

Anyway, this whole drama turned into a big fight between me and my husband

because he kept pushing me to just " call her back and get it over with " this

morning. He says " the longer you wait, the more she is going to go out of

control " . Despite my best judgement, I did it and had a very short, to the point

conversation wtih her at work, where she dramatically thanked me for calling her

back.

Great. Now I've reinforced her little temper tantrum.

But what really pisses me off is that I'm SO SICK AND TIRED of her tirades

causing a problem in my home and in my HEALTHY marriage. She is not worthy of

wrecking MY HOME.

I really wanted to tell her where to jump, but didn't. I really want her to just

go away.

And I've had 2 people tell me this week " Its so sad you can't work things out

with your mom, you used to be so close " . What is there to work out with an

insane person??????

I just feel really overwhelmed and not sure what is the right solution right

now. If you got to the bottom, thank you.