Re: finding the balance of boundaries - Katrina

[Guest guest]

Katrina,

that is one of the best explanations of boundaries I've ever seen.

it's a keeper!

Fiona

> >I was wondering how some of you handle conversations and

> >spending time with your nadas. I just hung up with my nada and

> >realize I'm on edge because I know I need to be ready to stop

> >her when she crosses the line and now I'm thinking I may be

> >jumping the gun too soon. I feel like I might be ready to

> >pounce before she even says something that's none of her

> >business or offers unsolicited advice. I know I need to have

> >boundaries and I feel like I've yet to find the balance between

> >imposing them and not being totally ridged. I don't want to be

> >a total jerk to her when in reality she's probably being pretty

> >good.

> >How have some of you navigated through these feelings and have

> >found that balance? Maybe I'm so ready to pounce because she's

> >hurt me so much and don't trust her. I hate to say this

> >because it's just so mean but I really do just hate her at

> >times. Sometimes she just comes out of no where with things

> >and she totally catches me off gaurd and when I stop her or

> >tell her off she plays the victim card. I'm the jerk. I'm the

> >one with the problem and she doesn't see what she's said or

> >done that was wrong.

> >

> >

> >It sounds like some of you are farther along than I am with

> >imposing boundaries without feeling guilty. Got any tips on

> >finding that balance between imposing them without over doing

> >it.

> >Thanks,

> >Ariel

>

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> Katrina

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