I wish I had known

[Guest guest]

I wish I had known earlier that BPD existed. I really thought it lived just

within my horrible family and had to be kept secret forever.

BPD behavior destroyed my family as we all ran and hid from the pain. I

think that the secretive loneliness was the worst part, although I can

identify with almost everybody's stories.

Thanks

[Guest guest]

Please understand  all  of us KO's have felt this way.  Please understand

that BPD is supposedly hard to diagnose and therapists don't like to make the

diagnosis so it takes time to figure out. Sheesh, I tripped over the concept of

BPD by happenstance years ago, saw that my nada had 5 or more of the DSM-IV

diagnostic criteria, but I did not discover the very  helpful materials*  for

dealing with  a BPD (and in coping onerself, as an adult KO) until  very

recently.  Heck, had I known what I know  as a KO now back then, it might have

saved my then wife from my nada and thereafter saved my marriage and everything

else since then.  (Then again, a friend aptly  but teasingly points out, in

the realm of  if's and if-only's, that if his mom " had had 4 wheels, she'd be a

Chevrolet. "  Ahhhh..... )

 

As another contributor here  has stated, " may we all heal. "     

 

* Understanding the Borderline Mother, by Lawson, and

   Stop Walking On Eggshells by Randi Krieger et al

 

To: WTOAdultChildren1

Sent: Friday, April 6, 2012 1:08 PM

Subject: I wish I had known

 

I wish I had known earlier that BPD existed. I really thought it lived just

within my horrible family and had to be kept secret forever.

BPD behavior destroyed my family as we all ran and hid from the pain. I

think that the secretive loneliness was the worst part, although I can

identify with almost everybody's stories.

Thanks