Guest guest Posted August 16, 2011 Report Share Posted August 16, 2011 IT HAS BEEN A WHILE SINCE I HAVE EMAILED THE GROUP. I AM AGAIN BACK IN THE CLUTCHES OF MY BPD MOTHERS BEHAVIOR. NOT EVE SURE HOW IT HAPPENED IT WAS LIKE BAM AND I WAS TOSSED BACK INTO THE VERY SITUATIONS I TRIED SO HARD TO PUT BOUNDRIES ON. WHAT THE HECK HAPPENED. I FEEL LIKE I HAVE TO PROTECT MY SELF ALL THE TIME. IS THERE NO PEACEFUL WAY TO LIVE YOUR LIFE WITH A BPD MOTHER-OH & I AM AN ONLY CHILD TOO BOOT. KT Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 17, 2011 Report Share Posted August 17, 2011 KT, it sounds like you ate in a real bind. It is hard to set and maintain boundaries. It takes a lot of work and courage. It sounds like you are trying. What is going on? Is the list helping you? > > IT HAS BEEN A WHILE SINCE I HAVE EMAILED THE GROUP. I AM AGAIN BACK IN THE CLUTCHES OF MY BPD MOTHERS BEHAVIOR. NOT EVE SURE HOW IT HAPPENED IT WAS LIKE BAM AND I WAS TOSSED BACK INTO THE VERY SITUATIONS I TRIED SO HARD TO PUT BOUNDRIES ON. WHAT THE HECK HAPPENED. I FEEL LIKE I HAVE TO PROTECT MY SELF ALL THE TIME. IS THERE NO PEACEFUL WAY TO LIVE YOUR LIFE WITH A BPD MOTHER-OH & I AM AN ONLY CHILD TOO BOOT. > > KT > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 17, 2011 Report Share Posted August 17, 2011 , Ya it's a real pickle. I have started to reread my book (child of a BPD parent and it is helping). I vowed yesterday to start putting some distance, as she is way too intertwined in my life and wants to be involved in everything I do as long as it satisfies her in some way and gets her attention. I am 45 and she is just 15 years older so she is also like a jealous mean girl sister. Having a mother that close in age has always been a challenge, I am very thankful for my grandparents. They are gone now but without them I probably would have been an emotional mess. Not that I don't have days when I want to pull my hair out or move far far away from her, LOL. How about you? Who is your BPD person? KT To: WTOAdultChildren1 <mailto:WTOAdultChildren1 > Sent: Wednesday, August 17, 2011 12:36 AM Subject: Re: hi there KT, it sounds like you ate in a real bind. It is hard to set and maintain boundaries. It takes a lot of work and courage. It sounds like you are trying. What is going on? Is the list helping you? > > IT HAS BEEN A WHILE SINCE I HAVE EMAILED THE GROUP. I AM AGAIN BACK IN THE CLUTCHES OF MY BPD MOTHERS BEHAVIOR. NOT EVE SURE HOW IT HAPPENED IT WAS LIKE BAM AND I WAS TOSSED BACK INTO THE VERY SITUATIONS I TRIED SO HARD TO PUT BOUNDRIES ON. WHAT THE HECK HAPPENED. I FEEL LIKE I HAVE TO PROTECT MY SELF ALL THE TIME. IS THERE NO PEACEFUL WAY TO LIVE YOUR LIFE WITH A BPD MOTHER-OH & I AM AN ONLY CHILD TOO BOOT. > > KT > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 17, 2011 Report Share Posted August 17, 2011 BPD's are very calculating and manipulative, and will always push ur boundaries....staying on the offense at all times is just not possible. My nada is extremely good at what she does....getting her way. I have been LC for a while but am beginning to see the pitfalls of even LC. The hard work to set and maintain boundaries is not easy, but very worth it. > , > > Ya it's a real pickle. I have started to reread my book (child of a BPD parent and it is helping). I vowed yesterday to start putting some distance, as she is way too intertwined in my life and wants to be involved in everything I do as long as it satisfies her in some way and gets her attention. I am 45 and she is just 15 years older so she is also like a jealous mean girl sister. Having a mother that close in age has always been a challenge, I am very thankful for my grandparents. They are gone now but without them I probably would have been an emotional mess. Not that I don't have days when I want to pull my hair out or move far far away from her, LOL. How about you? Who is your BPD person? > > KT > > To: WTOAdultChildren1 <mailto:WTOAdultChildren1 > > Sent: Wednesday, August 17, 2011 12:36 AM > Subject: Re: hi there > > KT, it sounds like you ate in a real bind. It is hard to set and maintain boundaries. It takes a lot of work and courage. It sounds like you are trying. What is going on? Is the list helping you? > > > > > > IT HAS BEEN A WHILE SINCE I HAVE EMAILED THE GROUP. I AM AGAIN BACK IN THE CLUTCHES OF MY BPD MOTHERS BEHAVIOR. NOT EVE SURE HOW IT HAPPENED IT WAS LIKE BAM AND I WAS TOSSED BACK INTO THE VERY SITUATIONS I TRIED SO HARD TO PUT BOUNDRIES ON. WHAT THE HECK HAPPENED. I FEEL LIKE I HAVE TO PROTECT MY SELF ALL THE TIME. IS THERE NO PEACEFUL WAY TO LIVE YOUR LIFE WITH A BPD MOTHER-OH & I AM AN ONLY CHILD TOO BOOT. > > > > KT > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 17, 2011 Report Share Posted August 17, 2011 , I am lucky to have more than one BP (Mother, ex-wife, and step-mother). Ex-wife is by far the worst, Step-mother is very difficult, but not normally abusive, mother is very abusive, but has learned to respect boundaries. I am currently living with my dad and step-mother, due to unemployment issues. This economy sucks. I have made a lot of progress in my relationship with step-mother, but I am basically NC with Mother and ex-wife; they are too dysfunctional to have a relationship with. Do you have access to a therapist? Many people on this list have benefited greatly from therapy. We have been severely damaged from childhood and need help putting things together. Books are great, I use them constantly, but they are not enough for people like us. > > > > IT HAS BEEN A WHILE SINCE I HAVE EMAILED THE GROUP. I AM AGAIN BACK IN THE CLUTCHES OF MY BPD MOTHERS BEHAVIOR. NOT EVE SURE HOW IT HAPPENED IT WAS LIKE BAM AND I WAS TOSSED BACK INTO THE VERY SITUATIONS I TRIED SO HARD TO PUT BOUNDRIES ON. WHAT THE HECK HAPPENED. I FEEL LIKE I HAVE TO PROTECT MY SELF ALL THE TIME. IS THERE NO PEACEFUL WAY TO LIVE YOUR LIFE WITH A BPD MOTHER-OH & I AM AN ONLY CHILD TOO BOOT. > > > > KT > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 17, 2011 Report Share Posted August 17, 2011 Oh ya I have done therapy on & off for years. Probably time to go back. Love the hypnotherapy it seems to have the best results. Sound like you get it from every angle, that sucks. katie Re: hi there , I am lucky to have more than one BP (Mother, ex-wife, and step-mother). Ex-wife is by far the worst, Step-mother is very difficult, but not normally abusive, mother is very abusive, but has learned to respect boundaries. I am currently living with my dad and step-mother, due to unemployment issues. This economy sucks. I have made a lot of progress in my relationship with step-mother, but I am basically NC with Mother and ex-wife; they are too dysfunctional to have a relationship with. Do you have access to a therapist? Many people on this list have benefited greatly from therapy. We have been severely damaged from childhood and need help putting things together. Books are great, I use them constantly, but they are not enough for people like us. > > > > IT HAS BEEN A WHILE SINCE I HAVE EMAILED THE GROUP. I AM AGAIN BACK IN THE CLUTCHES OF MY BPD MOTHERS BEHAVIOR. NOT EVE SURE HOW IT HAPPENED IT WAS LIKE BAM AND I WAS TOSSED BACK INTO THE VERY SITUATIONS I TRIED SO HARD TO PUT BOUNDRIES ON. WHAT THE HECK HAPPENED. I FEEL LIKE I HAVE TO PROTECT MY SELF ALL THE TIME. IS THERE NO PEACEFUL WAY TO LIVE YOUR LIFE WITH A BPD MOTHER-OH & I AM AN ONLY CHILD TOO BOOT. > > > > KT > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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