How to get nada out of my head

[Guest guest]

I have made some very positive changes over the past 2 months. LC with Nada.

Unfortunately that couples my fada in with her cause he is trying to make

changes but is still playing her game. Unfortunate for him. Anyway- since I have

gone LC I have felt a new sense of freedom and a sense of who I AM! But- with

some situations they are still in my head, and I experience FOG., even the hot

sensation I get when nada attacks and manipulates. I know what choice I want

to make, but I still hear them...how do you stop it? How do I get them out of

my head?

[Guest guest]

That is excellent, congrats on your progress! My suggestion is to fill your

life with other activities and other people that have nothing to do with your

foo (family of origin.) Go out and have fun, do charitable work, start a group,

join a group that shares your interests. Take a class. Go see places you've

never seen. That way your parents will occupy less of your thinking, and you'll

make a joyful life for yourself outside of them.

-Annie

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> I have made some very positive changes over the past 2 months. LC with Nada.

Unfortunately that couples my fada in with her cause he is trying to make

changes but is still playing her game. Unfortunate for him. Anyway- since I have

gone LC I have felt a new sense of freedom and a sense of who I AM! But- with

some situations they are still in my head, and I experience FOG., even the hot

sensation I get when nada attacks and manipulates. I know what choice I want

to make, but I still hear them...how do you stop it? How do I get them out of

my head?

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[Guest guest]

Amy, I so know how you feel.

I feel this especially after I've set strict boundaries with her and my brother

gives me guilt trips.

I don't have a definitive answer for you; for me, it's been very gradual. Her

voice fades and last week, I caught myself and thought " oh my GOSH, I haven't

thought about her all day!!! " It was awesome.

Journaling has helped, reminding myself why I'm setting boundaries. Also,

finding other interests and setting goals is great, too. They take my mind off

her.

Best wishes and congrats on the LC!! woo hooooo!!!

Fiona

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> I have made some very positive changes over the past 2 months. LC with Nada.

Unfortunately that couples my fada in with her cause he is trying to make

changes but is still playing her game. Unfortunate for him. Anyway- since I have

gone LC I have felt a new sense of freedom and a sense of who I AM! But- with

some situations they are still in my head, and I experience FOG., even the hot

sensation I get when nada attacks and manipulates. I know what choice I want

to make, but I still hear them...how do you stop it? How do I get them out of

my head?

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