Avoidant Personality Disorder (AvDP/ADP)

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Does anyone have a BDP (or anyone else) in their life that also suffers

from Avoidant Personality Disorder (AvDP/ADP), a Class C personality

disorder?

She suffers from a combination of Avoidant Personality Disorder

(AvDP/ADP) combined with BDP which is a nice lovely cocktail. It's not

uncommon BDP's suffer from other disorders too, and other social

disorders. AvPD is not that common, and is a Class C Personality

Disorder (vs. Class A Antisocial Personality Disorder which is more

common and manifests more obviously). In fact, I think her BDP is

subservient to her AvDP, but still definitely manifests. It's not

uncommon people with AvDP also have BDP.

I just wondered if anyone had any experiences dealing with someone who

has AvDP with BDP, or AvDP alone. I couldn't find any support groups

like WTO for people who have " avoidants " as they are termed clinically

in their lives, just a group FOR " avoidants " by " avoidants. " They

rightly don't seem to be avoiding one another there. I still may engage

that group to find advice on dealing with an avoidant.

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It is good to hear from some one else with a similar situation because I do

think it is rare. My mom has undiagnosed Avoidant PD/BPD. She is 68 years old

and lives alone and has been divorced from my dad for 30 years. We used to give

10 minutes away from her but moved several states away about a year ago, which I

believe saved my sanity. Nada has no friends and rarely leaves the house except

for the grocery store and church. Last winter she had a terrible case of

pneumonia and had to eventually call a cab to take her to the hospital because

there was not one person she could call because she has no real human

interaction! I worry about her being alone but have gone LC to once a week

phone calls and that has been extremely helpful because she is a typical

difficult BPD personality. This group has been a godsend to me and has helped

tremendously.

Chris

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My father is no longer alive, but I'm sure he was both BPD and avoidant. He

created conflict but interestingly, if there was conflict he hadn't created, he

wanted no part of it.

He wanted no part of my mother's family.

He wanted no friends for us.

He disliked us to have any interest in anything he had not endorsed or liked as

well.

He was a very distant person, very very difficult to get to know. I don't think

my mother, brother or I knew him well even at his death.

I struggle with these avoidant " fleas " ; at one time, I thought I was avoidant -

I have in the past tended to avoid social events and avoided conflict but feel

I'm growing through that. My T assures me I'm not.

I can imagine what you're going through with your mother.

Fiona

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> Does anyone have a BDP (or anyone else) in their life that also suffers

> from Avoidant Personality Disorder (AvDP/ADP), a Class C personality

> disorder?

> She suffers from a combination of Avoidant Personality Disorder

> (AvDP/ADP) combined with BDP which is a nice lovely cocktail. It's not

> uncommon BDP's suffer from other disorders too, and other social

> disorders. AvPD is not that common, and is a Class C Personality

> Disorder (vs. Class A Antisocial Personality Disorder which is more

> common and manifests more obviously). In fact, I think her BDP is

> subservient to her AvDP, but still definitely manifests. It's not

> uncommon people with AvDP also have BDP.

> I just wondered if anyone had any experiences dealing with someone who

> has AvDP with BDP, or AvDP alone. I couldn't find any support groups

> like WTO for people who have " avoidants " as they are termed clinically

> in their lives, just a group FOR " avoidants " by " avoidants. " They

> rightly don't seem to be avoiding one another there. I still may engage

> that group to find advice on dealing with an avoidant.

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