Guest guest Posted April 11, 2012 Report Share Posted April 11, 2012 I arrived at work yesterday to find a letter from an attorney that my parents have hired to try to seek grandparent visitation rights. I meet with my lawyer today. At first I was a little freaked out, but the more I thought about it, the more I realized that no court/judge in their right mind would force children to visit people whom their parents have legitimate reason to believe were abusive towards them. My husband and I are professional, law-abiding people and our children are all in accelerated courses at school and participate in extra-curricular activities. Sure, we're not perfect, but we also take reports from our children that they were struck or hurt darn seriously, as should any responsible parent. I in my own experience have been hurt by these people, why would I not believe my child when she tells me she has, too? Moreover, I have over a year's documentation of instances in which they have tried to make contact with my children when their parents weren't around and other things. I think they only stand to look like fools. Still, it sucks, and it's disruptive to my personal and professional life. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 11, 2012 Report Share Posted April 11, 2012 I'm sorry, writermanque. That's a nightmare for a lot of us. It's too bad your parents are actually trying to go through with it. Sounds like stress for all of you. It's really great that you have already been documenting. I hope everything goes well when you meet with your attorney. Sveta Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 11, 2012 Report Share Posted April 11, 2012 Thanks, Sveta. I'll update my post after I meet with the attorney. > > I'm sorry, writermanque. That's a nightmare for a lot of us. It's too bad your parents are actually trying to go through with it. > > Sounds like stress for all of you. It's really great that you have already been documenting. I hope everything goes well when you meet with your attorney. > > Sveta > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 11, 2012 Report Share Posted April 11, 2012 Wow--how disruptive to your work to get that letter! I agree-I think the grandparents' rights case is weak, considering that you guys are responsible parents, your kids are well cared for, and you have a legitimate reason to protect them form the grandparents due to the fact they abused you. Best of luck with your lawyer visit. If you want to sardonically look on the bright side of all this--your parents are stimulating the economy and the legal business. (hardy hardy har) On Wed, Apr 11, 2012 at 9:52 AM, writermanque wrote: > ** > > > I arrived at work yesterday to find a letter from an attorney that my > parents have hired to try to seek grandparent visitation rights. I meet > with my lawyer today. > > At first I was a little freaked out, but the more I thought about it, the > more I realized that no court/judge in their right mind would force > children to visit people whom their parents have legitimate reason to > believe were abusive towards them. My husband and I are professional, > law-abiding people and our children are all in accelerated courses at > school and participate in extra-curricular activities. Sure, we're not > perfect, but we also take reports from our children that they were struck > or hurt darn seriously, as should any responsible parent. I in my own > experience have been hurt by these people, why would I not believe my child > when she tells me she has, too? Moreover, I have over a year's > documentation of instances in which they have tried to make contact with my > children when their parents weren't around and other things. I think they > only stand to look like fools. > > Still, it sucks, and it's disruptive to my personal and professional life. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 11, 2012 Report Share Posted April 11, 2012 *groan* Well I guess that's a bit of upside! Attorney meeting went well, I basically unloaded my whole story on him. Long story short, he thinks we have a good case, and he also added, " Being a parent, I would have done the same thing. " Part of me wonders whether they didn't try this just to try to bully their ways back in, with no intention of actually following through, but a bigger part of me thinks that I should just quit trying to predict what crazy people are going to do and get on with my life. > > > ** > > > > > > I arrived at work yesterday to find a letter from an attorney that my > > parents have hired to try to seek grandparent visitation rights. I meet > > with my lawyer today. > > > > At first I was a little freaked out, but the more I thought about it, the > > more I realized that no court/judge in their right mind would force > > children to visit people whom their parents have legitimate reason to > > believe were abusive towards them. My husband and I are professional, > > law-abiding people and our children are all in accelerated courses at > > school and participate in extra-curricular activities. Sure, we're not > > perfect, but we also take reports from our children that they were struck > > or hurt darn seriously, as should any responsible parent. I in my own > > experience have been hurt by these people, why would I not believe my child > > when she tells me she has, too? Moreover, I have over a year's > > documentation of instances in which they have tried to make contact with my > > children when their parents weren't around and other things. I think they > > only stand to look like fools. > > > > Still, it sucks, and it's disruptive to my personal and professional life. > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 11, 2012 Report Share Posted April 11, 2012 You've got a lawyer on your side, and that's something. And I agree with him, I would do the same thing if my fada and mom tried to do the same thing whenever I get kids. Best of luck to you. On Wed, Apr 11, 2012 at 4:27 PM, writermanque wrote: > ** > > > *groan* Well I guess that's a bit of upside! > > Attorney meeting went well, I basically unloaded my whole story on him. > Long story short, he thinks we have a good case, and he also added, " Being > a parent, I would have done the same thing. " Part of me wonders whether > they didn't try this just to try to bully their ways back in, with no > intention of actually following through, but a bigger part of me thinks > that I should just quit trying to predict what crazy people are going to do > and get on with my life. > > > > > > > ** > > > > > > > > > I arrived at work yesterday to find a letter from an attorney that my > > > parents have hired to try to seek grandparent visitation rights. I meet > > > with my lawyer today. > > > > > > At first I was a little freaked out, but the more I thought about it, > the > > > more I realized that no court/judge in their right mind would force > > > children to visit people whom their parents have legitimate reason to > > > believe were abusive towards them. My husband and I are professional, > > > law-abiding people and our children are all in accelerated courses at > > > school and participate in extra-curricular activities. Sure, we're not > > > perfect, but we also take reports from our children that they were > struck > > > or hurt darn seriously, as should any responsible parent. I in my own > > > experience have been hurt by these people, why would I not believe my > child > > > when she tells me she has, too? Moreover, I have over a year's > > > documentation of instances in which they have tried to make contact > with my > > > children when their parents weren't around and other things. I think > they > > > only stand to look like fools. > > > > > > Still, it sucks, and it's disruptive to my personal and professional > life. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 11, 2012 Report Share Posted April 11, 2012 Sounds like a wise philosophy to me. Hope for the best, prepare for the worst, stop caring about what the crazy people think of you, and get on with your joyful, adult life. Yes: grandparents rights are relevant when the grandparents have been acting as the child's primary caregivers for a long period of time, in the absence of the parent (who is away in the military or in jail, etc.) or when the grandparent is providing regular daily care-giving for a child as in providing day-care while the parent works, so that the grandparent and the child have formed a close bond. Its meant to protect the child from being alienated from a care-giver that the child has grown to love and need. But grandparent's rights are not meant to coerce the primary caregivers, the parents, into handing over their children merely for the purpose of gratifying a grandparent's wish to spend time with their grandchild, particularly if the grandparent is some kind of personality-disordered, abusive, scary or childishly irresponsible individual. -Annie > > > > > ** > > > > > > > > > I arrived at work yesterday to find a letter from an attorney that my > > > parents have hired to try to seek grandparent visitation rights. I meet > > > with my lawyer today. > > > > > > At first I was a little freaked out, but the more I thought about it, the > > > more I realized that no court/judge in their right mind would force > > > children to visit people whom their parents have legitimate reason to > > > believe were abusive towards them. My husband and I are professional, > > > law-abiding people and our children are all in accelerated courses at > > > school and participate in extra-curricular activities. Sure, we're not > > > perfect, but we also take reports from our children that they were struck > > > or hurt darn seriously, as should any responsible parent. I in my own > > > experience have been hurt by these people, why would I not believe my child > > > when she tells me she has, too? Moreover, I have over a year's > > > documentation of instances in which they have tried to make contact with my > > > children when their parents weren't around and other things. I think they > > > only stand to look like fools. > > > > > > Still, it sucks, and it's disruptive to my personal and professional life. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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