Guest guest Posted April 12, 2012 Report Share Posted April 12, 2012 I asserted my rights as a mother and a human being, and I walked out of nada's house with my girls. She started out the visit by guilt-tripping DD1 into playing what SHE wanted to play - once again. DD1 ran into the other room to get away from her, and nada screamed at her, " Well, fine. We can't play ANYTHING if you're just going to stay in the other room and pout for a million years! " Or something equally ridiculous and childish. My heart hurt inside for DD1, but I just gritted my teeth and said nothing. Why? Why? Why? To my horror, DD1 almost immediately responded to nada's ridiculous demands/threats/whines in just the way nada wanted! Then DD2 reached for some little toy that nada didn't want her to have, and nada snatched it away from her, screaming, " No! You can't have this! Somebody's going to have to show you boundaries and rules, since your mother won't! " And, with that, I thought I'd show nada some boundaries. I took my girls, and I left her house. Honestly, I've never felt prouder of myself. And I know I never would have been able to do that if I hadn't returned to this group. You all have once again opened my eyes to so many things and have given me the motivation and support I needed to build up my courage and do what I had to do for my girls and myself. Even DH acknowledged, when I told him, that there was a time (not too long ago) when I would not have had the strength to do that. Thank you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 12, 2012 Report Share Posted April 12, 2012 Good for you Alice. Our recovery seems to come a bit here and bit there. You made a big bit today! Congrats From: WTOAdultChildren1 [mailto:WTOAdultChildren1 ] On Behalf Of Alice Spiedon Sent: Thursday, April 12, 2012 3:20 PM To: WTO Children Subject: I did it! I asserted my rights as a mother and a human being, and I walked out of nada's house with my girls. She started out the visit by guilt-tripping DD1 into playing what SHE wanted to play - once again. DD1 ran into the other room to get away from her, and nada screamed at her, " Well, fine. We can't play ANYTHING if you're just going to stay in the other room and pout for a million years! " Or something equally ridiculous and childish. My heart hurt inside for DD1, but I just gritted my teeth and said nothing. Why? Why? Why? To my horror, DD1 almost immediately responded to nada's ridiculous demands/threats/whines in just the way nada wanted! Then DD2 reached for some little toy that nada didn't want her to have, and nada snatched it away from her, screaming, " No! You can't have this! Somebody's going to have to show you boundaries and rules, since your mother won't! " And, with that, I thought I'd show nada some boundaries. I took my girls, and I left her house. Honestly, I've never felt prouder of myself. And I know I never would have been able to do that if I hadn't returned to this group. You all have once again opened my eyes to so many things and have given me the motivation and support I needed to build up my courage and do what I had to do for my girls and myself. Even DH acknowledged, when I told him, that there was a time (not too long ago) when I would not have had the strength to do that. Thank you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 12, 2012 Report Share Posted April 12, 2012 Hooray for you! Your description of your nada 's behavior sounds so much like a three-year-old. Now that you've stood up to her once, it will hopefully be easier to stand up to her again and again as needed. At 03:19 PM 04/12/2012 Alice Spiedon wrote: >I asserted my rights as a mother and a human being, and I >walked out of nada's house with my girls. She started out the >visit by guilt-tripping DD1 into playing what SHE wanted to >play - once again. DD1 ran into the other room to get away from >her, and nada screamed at her, " Well, fine. We can't play >ANYTHING if you're just going to stay in the other room and >pout for a million years! " Or something equally ridiculous and >childish. My heart hurt inside for DD1, but I just gritted my >teeth and said nothing. Why? Why? Why? > >To my horror, DD1 almost immediately responded to nada's >ridiculous demands/threats/whines in just the way nada wanted! > >Then DD2 reached for some little toy that nada didn't want her >to have, and nada snatched it away from her, screaming, " No! >You can't have this! Somebody's going to have to show you >boundaries and rules, since your mother won't! " > >And, with that, I thought I'd show nada some boundaries. I took >my girls, and I left her house. Honestly, I've never felt >prouder of myself. And I know I never would have been able to >do that if I hadn't returned to this group. You all have once >again opened my eyes to so many things and have given me the >motivation and support I needed to build up my courage and do >what I had to do for my girls and myself. Even DH acknowledged, >when I told him, that there was a time (not too long ago) when >I would not have had the strength to do that. Thank you! -- Katrina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 12, 2012 Report Share Posted April 12, 2012 Good job! Your daughters don't realize the significance, but today you became their hero--by showing them healthy boundaries and slaying the nada dragon! > > I asserted my rights as a mother and a human being, and I walked out of nada's house with my girls. She started out the visit by guilt-tripping DD1 into playing what SHE wanted to play - once again. DD1 ran into the other room to get away from her, and nada screamed at her, " Well, fine. We can't play ANYTHING if you're just going to stay in the other room and pout for a million years! " Or something equally ridiculous and childish. My heart hurt inside for DD1, but I just gritted my teeth and said nothing. Why? Why? Why? > > To my horror, DD1 almost immediately responded to nada's ridiculous demands/threats/whines in just the way nada wanted! > > Then DD2 reached for some little toy that nada didn't want her to have, and nada snatched it away from her, screaming, " No! You can't have this! Somebody's going to have to show you boundaries and rules, since your mother won't! " > > And, with that, I thought I'd show nada some boundaries. I took my girls, and I left her house. Honestly, I've never felt prouder of myself. And I know I never would have been able to do that if I hadn't returned to this group. You all have once again opened my eyes to so many things and have given me the motivation and support I needed to build up my courage and do what I had to do for my girls and myself. Even DH acknowledged, when I told him, that there was a time (not too long ago) when I would not have had the strength to do that. Thank you! > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 12, 2012 Report Share Posted April 12, 2012 You Rock, Alice! You were in Mother Bear mode, rearing up on your hind legs and protecting your cubs. That is totally awesome in my estimation. Big Thumb's up from me! -Annie > > I asserted my rights as a mother and a human being, and I walked out of nada's house with my girls. She started out the visit by guilt-tripping DD1 into playing what SHE wanted to play - once again. DD1 ran into the other room to get away from her, and nada screamed at her, " Well, fine. We can't play ANYTHING if you're just going to stay in the other room and pout for a million years! " Or something equally ridiculous and childish. My heart hurt inside for DD1, but I just gritted my teeth and said nothing. Why? Why? Why? > > To my horror, DD1 almost immediately responded to nada's ridiculous demands/threats/whines in just the way nada wanted! > > Then DD2 reached for some little toy that nada didn't want her to have, and nada snatched it away from her, screaming, " No! You can't have this! Somebody's going to have to show you boundaries and rules, since your mother won't! " > > And, with that, I thought I'd show nada some boundaries. I took my girls, and I left her house. Honestly, I've never felt prouder of myself. And I know I never would have been able to do that if I hadn't returned to this group. You all have once again opened my eyes to so many things and have given me the motivation and support I needed to build up my courage and do what I had to do for my girls and myself. Even DH acknowledged, when I told him, that there was a time (not too long ago) when I would not have had the strength to do that. Thank you! > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 13, 2012 Report Share Posted April 13, 2012 GOOD JOB standing up for yourself. Your mother undermined your authority and insulted you, and you said NO! That's a good example to set for your girls, too. And the more you practice, the easier it gets--next time you will know to stop her immediately when she manipulates your kids, too. Sveta Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 13, 2012 Report Share Posted April 13, 2012 Yeah!!!! You da MOM! > > I asserted my rights as a mother and a human being, and I walked out of nada's house with my girls. She started out the visit by guilt-tripping DD1 into playing what SHE wanted to play - once again. DD1 ran into the other room to get away from her, and nada screamed at her, " Well, fine. We can't play ANYTHING if you're just going to stay in the other room and pout for a million years! " Or something equally ridiculous and childish. My heart hurt inside for DD1, but I just gritted my teeth and said nothing. Why? Why? Why? > > To my horror, DD1 almost immediately responded to nada's ridiculous demands/threats/whines in just the way nada wanted! > > Then DD2 reached for some little toy that nada didn't want her to have, and nada snatched it away from her, screaming, " No! You can't have this! Somebody's going to have to show you boundaries and rules, since your mother won't! " > > And, with that, I thought I'd show nada some boundaries. I took my girls, and I left her house. Honestly, I've never felt prouder of myself. And I know I never would have been able to do that if I hadn't returned to this group. You all have once again opened my eyes to so many things and have given me the motivation and support I needed to build up my courage and do what I had to do for my girls and myself. Even DH acknowledged, when I told him, that there was a time (not too long ago) when I would not have had the strength to do that. Thank you! > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 13, 2012 Report Share Posted April 13, 2012 Thanks, everybody. It DID feel great. So empowering! ________________________________ To: WTOAdultChildren1 Sent: Friday, April 13, 2012 10:19 AM Subject: Re: I did it!  Yeah!!!! You da MOM! > > I asserted my rights as a mother and a human being, and I walked out of nada's house with my girls. She started out the visit by guilt-tripping DD1 into playing what SHE wanted to play - once again. DD1 ran into the other room to get away from her, and nada screamed at her, " Well, fine. We can't play ANYTHING if you're just going to stay in the other room and pout for a million years! " Or something equally ridiculous and childish. My heart hurt inside for DD1, but I just gritted my teeth and said nothing. Why? Why? Why? > > To my horror, DD1 almost immediately responded to nada's ridiculous demands/threats/whines in just the way nada wanted! > > Then DD2 reached for some little toy that nada didn't want her to have, and nada snatched it away from her, screaming, " No! You can't have this! Somebody's going to have to show you boundaries and rules, since your mother won't! "  > > And, with that, I thought I'd show nada some boundaries. I took my girls, and I left her house. Honestly, I've never felt prouder of myself. And I know I never would have been able to do that if I hadn't returned to this group. You all have once again opened my eyes to so many things and have given me the motivation and support I needed to build up my courage and do what I had to do for my girls and myself. Even DH acknowledged, when I told him, that there was a time (not too long ago) when I would not have had the strength to do that. Thank you! > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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