Guest guest Posted April 14, 2012 Report Share Posted April 14, 2012 Dear Mia, I am so sorry for you. This time is very hard and unfair. I wish you will receive lots of strenght to go through this tragical time. I wish your true Mummy in your heart to rest in peace. For me my true Mummy was my Grand-Mother and she died in august 2010 and as my Daddy had died already in 2001, I consider myself now with no parents on earth, all my true loving ones are in cimetary. I don't know if it will be the same for you, but for me the death of my true Mummy in my heart gave me the strenght, one year later, to finally break all contact with nada. My nada is still very young because she had me at age 19. I miss my true Mummy in my heart and there will never be anyone here like her on earth now. So I have stopped to force myself to keep contact with nada just to please her and found the courage to break all relationship with her. This time you go through is a hard one. But you will receive graces to be strong enough to go through this. I send to you my sincere condoleances and my friendship love. Natacha XXXX ________________________________ De : Mia À : WTOAdultChildren1 Envoyé le : Samedi 14 avril 2012 14h29 Objet : My true mother died  My wonderful, amazing, kind, loving and beautiful Step Mother died on Wednesday night. She was 49. And was not sick. She had surgery 2 weeks prior on her achilles tendon and had a bone spur removed. She threw a clot & it went to her lungs, a pulmonary embolism. My dad and Step mom and her amazing family are my family. I have no relationship with nada and it's so much better that way. Before dad & step mom came down to my graduation in January, I told hubby I wanted to ask her if she would be ok with me calling her mom instead of by her first name. Hubby thought I should ask her, but I chickened out, thinking it was too melodramatic. She was my mom. The one I should have had. The one who saw the good in me when I could not see it in myself. Where my nada said I was too stupid to be a nurse, my step mom (not knowing what nada had said all those years ago) told me she thought I would make an amazing nurse. She encouraged me to become a nurse. At that time, I was still under nada's curse and just burst into tears telling her how I just couldn't do that. But now, I am a nurse. I thought of nada's hurtful words throughout my time in school, but my step mom... mom's words kept me strong. I am a nurse because she had faith in me. I just can't believe this happened. I live 3 hours from " home " in a different state. I am so worried about my dad and my half siblings. My sister is 15, and my brother is 12. The family has a very lovely home. It's a big house because mom and her parents were soooooo close. My step grandparents, meema and peepa, live here with my dad, mom, and siblings. This is such an amazing family, one who took me in just like their own from the start. And they will all still be together, just without mom. I didn't talk much about this part of my family here because I have always focused on the hurtful things that nada said & did. I am feeling so many things right now, but I am also angry because I never had a mom until my dad married this woman. And now she's gone. Mia Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 14, 2012 Report Share Posted April 14, 2012 Dear Mia, I am so sorry for your loss. I will be thinking of you and your family, and hoping that each of you find just the right sweet memories and loving strength to help you through this time. Warm Regards, Sunspot On Sat, Apr 14, 2012 at 11:48 AM, Daszkel Natacha wrote: > ** > > > Dear Mia, > > I am so sorry for you. > This time is very hard and unfair. > > I wish you will receive lots of strenght to go through this tragical time. > > I wish your true Mummy in your heart to rest in peace. > > For me my true Mummy was my Grand-Mother and she died in august 2010 and > as my Daddy had died already in 2001, I consider myself now with no parents > on earth, all my true loving ones are in cimetary. > > I don't know if it will be the same for you, but for me the death of my > true Mummy in my heart gave me the strenght, one year later, to finally > break all contact with nada. My nada is still very young because she had me > at age 19. > > I miss my true Mummy in my heart and there will never be anyone here like > her on earth now. So I have stopped to force myself to keep contact with > nada just to please her and found the courage to break all relationship > with her. > > This time you go through is a hard one. But you will receive graces to be > strong enough to go through this. > > I send to you my sincere condoleances and my friendship love. > > Natacha > XXXX > > ________________________________ > De : Mia > À : WTOAdultChildren1 > Envoyé le : Samedi 14 avril 2012 14h29 > Objet : My true mother died > > > > > My wonderful, amazing, kind, loving and beautiful Step Mother died on > Wednesday night. She was 49. And was not sick. > > She had surgery 2 weeks prior on her achilles tendon and had a bone > spur removed. She threw a clot & it went to her lungs, a pulmonary > embolism. > > My dad and Step mom and her amazing family are my family. I have no > relationship with nada and it's so much better that way. Before dad & > step mom came down to my graduation in January, I told hubby I wanted > to ask her if she would be ok with me calling her mom instead of by > her first name. Hubby thought I should ask her, but I chickened out, > thinking it was too melodramatic. > > She was my mom. The one I should have had. The one who saw the good > in me when I could not see it in myself. > > Where my nada said I was too stupid to be a nurse, my step mom (not > knowing what nada had said all those years ago) told me she thought I > would make an amazing nurse. She encouraged me to become a nurse. At > that time, I was still under nada's curse and just burst into tears > telling her how I just couldn't do that. But now, I am a nurse. I > thought of nada's hurtful words throughout my time in school, but my > step mom... mom's words kept me strong. I am a nurse because she had > faith in me. > > I just can't believe this happened. I live 3 hours from " home " in a > different state. I am so worried about my dad and my half siblings. > My sister is 15, and my brother is 12. > > The family has a very lovely home. It's a big house because mom and > her parents were soooooo close. My step grandparents, meema and > peepa, live here with my dad, mom, and siblings. This is such an > amazing family, one who took me in just like their own from the start. > And they will all still be together, just without mom. > > I didn't talk much about this part of my family here because I have > always focused on the hurtful things that nada said & did. I am > feeling so many things right now, but I am also angry because I never > had a mom until my dad married this woman. And now she's gone. > > Mia > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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