nada bristled at me - AND IT DIDN'T BOTHER ME!!

[Guest guest]

Ok, I know it's just today that it didn't bother me. I'm hoping this is an

ongoing growth pattern in me. But even if it's just today, I'm stoked!!

She had asked me to take her laundry for drop off service.

Actually, no, she WAIFLY said in her signature " woe is me " voice that she would

have to walk to the laundromat to do her wash. Now, I know she hasn't been

feeling 100% and hasn't been sleeping well, so I offered to drop it off.

I forgot. Completely. I wasn't even pretending to forget. I really did.

So I called her this morning and said, " have you done your wash yet? I totally

forgot to stop by. "

She responded kind of pissed off, " well, what else was I supposed to do? I

couldn't wait for you. "

I actually LAUGHED to myself!! In the past, I would cringe inside and absorb all

the guilt and carry it with me. Instead, this time, I said, " well, it's

probably good that you did it yourself. You need to get out a bit before you

return to work Monday. well, have a great day, mom! "

She just kind of grumbled.

I didn't even say I was sorry! I was so tempted to, because I was, but I knew

if I did, she would seize on it. It's sad that I've had to develop strategic,

warfare-like thinking but that's how it is!

Yay me!!!

Just thought I'd share something good for a change! ; )

Fiona

[Guest guest]

Fiona,

GOOD FOR YOU!! I CAN RELATE. ENJOY OUR DAY

KATIE

nada bristled at me - AND IT DIDN'T BOTHER ME!!

Ok, I know it's just today that it didn't bother me. I'm hoping this is an

ongoing growth pattern in me. But even if it's just today, I'm stoked!!

She had asked me to take her laundry for drop off service.

Actually, no, she WAIFLY said in her signature " woe is me " voice that she

would have to walk to the laundromat to do her wash. Now, I know she hasn't been

feeling 100% and hasn't been sleeping well, so I offered to drop it off.

I forgot. Completely. I wasn't even pretending to forget. I really did.

So I called her this morning and said, " have you done your wash yet? I totally

forgot to stop by. "

She responded kind of pissed off, " well, what else was I supposed to do? I

couldn't wait for you. "

I actually LAUGHED to myself!! In the past, I would cringe inside and absorb

all the guilt and carry it with me. Instead, this time, I said, " well, it's

probably good that you did it yourself. You need to get out a bit before you

return to work Monday. well, have a great day, mom! "

She just kind of grumbled.

I didn't even say I was sorry! I was so tempted to, because I was, but I knew

if I did, she would seize on it. It's sad that I've had to develop strategic,

warfare-like thinking but that's how it is!

Yay me!!!

Just thought I'd share something good for a change! ; )

Fiona

[Guest guest]

HA HA Yeah!!!!

I wonder what kind of BM she had a the laundromat? Good job getting off the

phone before she described a super pitiful one!!!!

> **

>

>

> Fiona,

>

> GOOD FOR YOU!! I CAN RELATE. ENJOY OUR DAY

>

> KATIE

>

> nada bristled at me - AND IT DIDN'T BOTHER

> ME!!

>

> Ok, I know it's just today that it didn't bother me. I'm hoping this is an

> ongoing growth pattern in me. But even if it's just today, I'm stoked!!

>

> She had asked me to take her laundry for drop off service.

>

> Actually, no, she WAIFLY said in her signature " woe is me " voice that she

> would have to walk to the laundromat to do her wash. Now, I know she hasn't

> been feeling 100% and hasn't been sleeping well, so I offered to drop it

> off.

>

> I forgot. Completely. I wasn't even pretending to forget. I really did.

>

> So I called her this morning and said, " have you done your wash yet? I

> totally forgot to stop by. "

> She responded kind of pissed off, " well, what else was I supposed to do? I

> couldn't wait for you. "

>

> I actually LAUGHED to myself!! In the past, I would cringe inside and

> absorb all the guilt and carry it with me. Instead, this time, I said,

> " well, it's probably good that you did it yourself. You need to get out a

> bit before you return to work Monday. well, have a great day, mom! "

>

> She just kind of grumbled.

>

> I didn't even say I was sorry! I was so tempted to, because I was, but I

> knew if I did, she would seize on it. It's sad that I've had to develop

> strategic, warfare-like thinking but that's how it is!

>

> Yay me!!!

>

> Just thought I'd share something good for a change! ; )

>

> Fiona

>

>

[Guest guest]

Fiona,

That is a great development! Wonderful and congrats! These baby steps may seem

small but we all know they are not, they are significant and I am so very happy

for you!!!!

>

> Ok, I know it's just today that it didn't bother me. I'm hoping this is an

ongoing growth pattern in me. But even if it's just today, I'm stoked!!

>

> She had asked me to take her laundry for drop off service.

>

> Actually, no, she WAIFLY said in her signature " woe is me " voice that she

would have to walk to the laundromat to do her wash. Now, I know she hasn't been

feeling 100% and hasn't been sleeping well, so I offered to drop it off.

>

> I forgot. Completely. I wasn't even pretending to forget. I really did.

>

> So I called her this morning and said, " have you done your wash yet? I

totally forgot to stop by. "

> She responded kind of pissed off, " well, what else was I supposed to do? I

couldn't wait for you. "

>

> I actually LAUGHED to myself!! In the past, I would cringe inside and absorb

all the guilt and carry it with me. Instead, this time, I said, " well, it's

probably good that you did it yourself. You need to get out a bit before you

return to work Monday. well, have a great day, mom! "

>

> She just kind of grumbled.

>

> I didn't even say I was sorry! I was so tempted to, because I was, but I knew

if I did, she would seize on it. It's sad that I've had to develop strategic,

warfare-like thinking but that's how it is!

>

> Yay me!!!

>

> Just thought I'd share something good for a change! ; )

>

> Fiona

>

>

[Guest guest]

I'm so proud of you. That was nice you offered but even better that you didn't

go down the road of guilt and remorse because you forgot. Keep building those

blocks so you never have to see that road again.

>

> Ok, I know it's just today that it didn't bother me. I'm hoping this is an

ongoing growth pattern in me. But even if it's just today, I'm stoked!!

>

> She had asked me to take her laundry for drop off service.

>

> Actually, no, she WAIFLY said in her signature " woe is me " voice that she

would have to walk to the laundromat to do her wash. Now, I know she hasn't been

feeling 100% and hasn't been sleeping well, so I offered to drop it off.

>

> I forgot. Completely. I wasn't even pretending to forget. I really did.

>

> So I called her this morning and said, " have you done your wash yet? I

totally forgot to stop by. "

> She responded kind of pissed off, " well, what else was I supposed to do? I

couldn't wait for you. "

>

> I actually LAUGHED to myself!! In the past, I would cringe inside and absorb

all the guilt and carry it with me. Instead, this time, I said, " well, it's

probably good that you did it yourself. You need to get out a bit before you

return to work Monday. well, have a great day, mom! "

>

> She just kind of grumbled.

>

> I didn't even say I was sorry! I was so tempted to, because I was, but I knew

if I did, she would seize on it. It's sad that I've had to develop strategic,

warfare-like thinking but that's how it is!

>

> Yay me!!!

>

> Just thought I'd share something good for a change! ; )

>

> Fiona

>

>

[Guest guest]

I'm adding my " 'Atta Girl! " Its OK, people make mistakes. I think not

wallowing in guilt for a day for making a minor oops of a mistake, is a huge

step forward. Thumb's up from me!

-Annie

>

> I'm so proud of you. That was nice you offered but even better that you didn't

go down the road of guilt and remorse because you forgot. Keep building those

blocks so you never have to see that road again.