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she is an original - there is only one Sister Jo - everyone I was involved with has gone on with their lives and prospered - My lady mother was on the team - I was going on the team and Leroy was diagnosed with prostate cancer - two years after he died the team and I made a weekend to say good by to him and to the other member who had passed - it was a very unique weekend - none of us will ever forget it God, grant me the strength of eagles wings, the faith and courage to fly to new heights, and the wisdom to rely on his spirit to carry me there.

To: MSersLife Sent: Tue, February 22, 2011 4:26:28 PMSubject: Re: back from MA/update on dad

She sounds extremely special...so, she is still around? That's wonderful. Well, surely her B.E. will be around forever, and serve many, many people.Thanks for sharing about her, Anne.love, Kate

To: MSersLife Sent: Tue, February 22, 2011 5:23:34 PMSubject: Re: back from MA/update on dad

it went from Dallas - Fort Worth, TX to planet wide - not jjust for adults - for teens

she is special - we were the only non denominational group - I went on a weekend seminar for college credit with the Tinker Air Force Base team - I got adopted

out of their pain they hold out a hand - just like we do - she is not retired yet - she is in Wichita Falls, TX - 45 miles south of here

she is special God, grant me the strength of eagles wings, the faith and courage to fly to new heights, and the wisdom to rely on his spirit to carry me there.

To: MSersLife Sent: Tue, February 22, 2011 4:20:03 PMSubject: Re: back from MA/update on dad

I just did a google search on Beginning Experience. How neat! What a wonderful thing Sr. phine did by starting this program. it looks like it's helped thousands of folk. That's fantastic that it helped and guided you, Anne. Amazing how when people, like Sr. phine are obedient to God's leading, big things can happen.love you,Kate

To: MSersLife Sent: Tue, February 22, 2011 5:12:31 PMSubject: Re: back from MA/update on dad

the adult bereavement started in 1985 when I went through my oun divorce through Beginnning Experience - I met Sister phine in 2002 when I made my 4th weekend - she designed the program with Harville Hendrix

I learned more in BE than in college and grad school - when workshops and lectures came up - I went with it - I was also an intern at out local Campus Ministry- obviously I worked with the older students and helped iwth the kids God, grant me the strength of eagles wings, the faith and courage to fly to new heights, and the wisdom to rely on his spirit to carry me there.

To: MSersLife Sent: Tue, February 22, 2011 4:03:25 PMSubject: Re: back from MA/update on dad

I am in awe of you, Anne. God Bless you for taking on both child and adult bereavement. What a beautiful thing.love, Kate

To: MSersLife Sent: Tue, February 22, 2011 10:33:02 AMSubject: Re: back from MA/update on dad

I found out when my dad had cancer in 1984 that my two nephews dealt with it better than my sons - they saw him on his good days and his bad days and went to his funerals - my sons stays in MO - I came back and stayed a week or 10 days - my sons - especially the oldest one who was the only one for over 9 years has never come to terms with it

when I was bereavement coordinator at Hospice I had 18 kids under 18 that had a parent or grand parent dying of cancer - I called Lawton Public Schools - I knew one of the whatever 's title was - forget - he passed me on to the right person - I asked what the protocol was for child bereavement - the answer I got left me speechless - well, if the counselor feels comfortable they work with the child - meaning they don't bother

that is why I got certified in child bereavement and adult bereavement God, grant me the strength of eagles wings, the faith and courage to fly to new heights, and the wisdom to rely on his spirit to carry me there.

To: MSersLife Sent: Tue, February 22, 2011 9:18:48 AMSubject: Re: back from MA/update on dad

That's so true, Anne. If there is preparation for it, it can go much more smoothly. Otherwise, itis confusing and can be devastating. I'm sorry you had to go through that with your son.love,Kate

To: MSersLife Sent: Tue, February 22, 2011 10:13:24 AMSubject: Re: back from MA/update on dad

Labor Day of 1971 my ex took us home to St Louis to meet his Mom and then to Indiana to meet his grandmothers and his aunt - he forgot to tell me his aunt had had a brain tumor and it affected her like altzheimers - when she took on with my 4 year old son like it was my ex at that age - I excused myself and said we are going to Grandma - come when you are ready

I never forgave him for the trauma he inflicted on my son

had I known I could have prepared my son for it and it would have gone better God, grant me the strength of eagles wings, the faith and courage to fly to new heights, and the wisdom to rely on his spirit to carry me there.

To: MSersLife Sent: Tue, February 22, 2011 8:56:36 AMSubject: Re: back from MA/update on dad

Thank you, Akiba. It can be confusing for the kids to see himdisoriented, so I pray you're right.love you my friend,Kate

To: MSersLife Sent: Tue, February 22, 2011 2:17:18 AMSubject: Re: back from MA/update on dad

Well good luck with your visit, I hope he is in a good mind space while you're there.

  ~*~Hugs~*~

~*~Akiba~*~

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-- back from MA/update on dad

Hi everyone. I want to thank those of you who have been praying for my dad, and sending me encouraging notes. (n, nne, Sharon, Nukhet, Akiba, Jackie,Reb...and whomever else I'm forgetting--I apologize). The latest and the greatest is that they are considering hospice go in. My family is up in arms however regarding this, saying that they don't necessarily think he's at death's door, and do folks just 'give up', i.e. the nursing home staff, when they hear someone's on hospice? My sister, who used to be comptroller in a skilled nursing home states that one can be on hospice for a temporary time, and if/when someone might need it again down the road, it can be ordered again. Medicare picks it up. I think family is leery, as my mom began hospice and it seemed that not too terribly long into it, she passed. So, there's fear there. His O2 levels are up, his fever is down but his cough and breathing are not

good. My daughter, Kara (22) lives near my dad, and is off from work this Thursday. So, Lloyd and I, along with 3 of the kids (Lia can't come cause she is in Boston at school)--will drive down to Philly for the day, to go and visit with dad and with Kara. I just hope he's up for a visit. He usually nods off I'm told, and can get overwhelmed with a lot of people. I think we'll all go up, then if it's too much for him, just go in groups of 2 or 3 at a time.My trip to Boston with my daughter was fun. She had 4 hockey games; 2 of which she played in. She tied one, and lost the other. As she is a goalie, she and the other goalie take turns playing, or sometimes they'll split a game. I'm still a bit tired from a 3 and a half hour drive (each way) up there and back. I just wanted to catch folks up a bit on my trip and my dad.Thanks again for all the well wishes.love to you all,Kate