Re: /update on dad/ reply to Kate & group

February 21, 2011

Kate, my husband died before our local hospital had hospice care;I am all in favor of hospice care as they focus on the patient's comfort.Love to you, your family, and your father,nTo: MSersLife Sent: Mon, February 21, 2011 10:56:39 AMSubject: back from MA/update on dad

Hi everyone. I want to thank those of you who have been praying for my dad, and sending me encouraging notes. (n, nne, Sharon, Nukhet, Akiba, Jackie,Reb...and whomever else I'm forgetting--I apologize). The latest and the greatest is that they are considering hospice go in. My family is up in arms however regarding this, saying that they don't necessarily think he's at death's door, and do folks just 'give up', i.e. the nursing home staff, when they hear someone's on hospice? My sister, who used to be comptroller in a skilled nursing home states that one can be on hospice for a temporary time, and if/when someone might need it again down the road, it can be ordered again. Medicare picks it up. I think family is leery, as my mom began

hospice and it seemed that not too terribly long into it, she passed. So, there's fear there. His O2 levels are up, his fever is down but his cough and breathing are not good. My daughter, Kara (22) lives near my dad, and is off from work this Thursday. So, Lloyd and I, along with 3 of the kids (Lia can't come cause she is in Boston at school)--will drive down to Philly for the day, to go and visit with dad and with Kara. I just hope he's up for a visit. He usually nods off I'm told, and can get overwhelmed with a lot of people. I think we'll all go up, then if it's too much for him, just go in groups of 2 or 3 at a time.My trip to Boston with my daughter was fun. She had 4 hockey games; 2 of which she played in. She tied one, and lost the other. As she is a goalie, she and the other goalie take turns playing, or sometimes they'll split a game. I'm still a bit tired from a 3 and a half hour drive (each way) up there and back. I just wanted

to catch folks up a bit on my trip and my dad.Thanks again for all the well wishes.love to you all,Kate

February 21, 2011

Kate I CANNOT say enough about Hospice! They are wonderful! Beyond wonderful!

Not only are they there for the patient but for the family. Medicare paid for

everything for Chuck's Mom. I will tell you this, when she was had Hospice, we

had to agree, that if she stopped breathing you CANNOT try to ressucitate (sp)

or call the ambulance. Its for them to go peacefully and with dignity. We had Ma

at our house. They came right away, they called the undertaker, made us go

upstairs so we wouldn't have to watch them take her out, got rid of the bedding

and then called us down. Normally Hospice is for patients with 6 mo or less to

live. I knew a lady that had Hospice 3 different times! You can call them in the

middle of the night and they come then if need be or will answer any questions.

They were like part of the family and we kept in touch for a few years. I hope

they decide to let Hospice take care of you Dad. Continued prayers.

Hugs

nne

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> back from MA/update on dad

>

> Hi everyone. I want to thank those of you who have been praying for my

> dad, and

> sending me encouraging notes. (n, nne, Sharon, Nukhet, Akiba,

> Jackie,Reb...and whomever else I'm forgetting--I apologize). The latest

> and the

> greatest is that they are considering hospice go in. My family is up in

> arms

> however regarding this, saying that they don't necessarily think he's at

> death's

> door, and do folks just 'give up', i.e. the nursing home staff, when they

> hear

> someone's on hospice? My sister, who used to be comptroller in a skilled

> nursing

> home states that one can be on hospice for a temporary time, and if/when

> someone

> might need it again down the road, it can be ordered again. Medicare

> picks it

> up. I think family is leery, as my mom began hospice and it seemed that

> not

> too terribly long into it, she passed. So, there's fear there. His O2

> levels are

> up, his fever is down but his cough and breathing are not good.

>

> My daughter, Kara (22) lives near my dad, and is off from work this

> Thursday.

> So, Lloyd and I, along with 3 of the kids (Lia can't come cause she is in

> Boston

> at school)--will drive down to Philly for the day, to go and visit with

> dad and

> with Kara. I just hope he's up for a visit. He usually nods off I'm told,

> and

> can get overwhelmed with a lot of people. I think we'll all go up, then

> if it's

> too much for him, just go in groups of 2 or 3 at a time.

> My trip to Boston with my daughter was fun. She had 4 hockey games; 2 of

> which

> she played in. She tied one, and lost the other. As she is a goalie, she

> and the

> other goalie take turns playing, or sometimes they'll split a game.

>

> I'm still a bit tired from a 3 and a half hour drive (each way) up there

> and

> back. I just wanted to catch folks up a bit on my trip and my dad.

> Thanks again for all the well wishes.

> love to you all,

> Kate

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February 21, 2011

aftercare kicks in for the family for a year after the patient dies - it is part of the bereavement services - I was the bereavement coordinator - we had a grief group once a month - the six month rule is not hard and fast with each hospice - it is not here in town any more

they have a live patient and a live family until the patient expires - dad would have been one of the first hospice patients - he passed 36 hours before they could call

I followed Hospice from England - I worked it as an office volunteer and as a bereavement coordinatorGod, grant me the strength of eagles wings, the faith and courage to fly to new heights, and the wisdom to rely on his spirit to carry me there.

To: mserslife Sent: Mon, February 21, 2011 5:20:55 PMSubject: Re: /update on dad/ reply to Kate & group

Kate I CANNOT say enough about Hospice! They are wonderful! Beyond wonderful! Not only are they there for the patient but for the family. Medicare paid for everything for Chuck's Mom. I will tell you this, when she was had Hospice, we had to agree, that if she stopped breathing you CANNOT try to ressucitate (sp) or call the ambulance. Its for them to go peacefully and with dignity. We had Ma at our house. They came right away, they called the undertaker, made us go upstairs so we wouldn't have to watch them take her out, got rid of the bedding and then called us down. Normally Hospice is for patients with 6 mo or less to live. I knew a lady that had Hospice 3 different times! You can call them in the middle of the night and they come then if need be or will answer any questions. They were like part of the family and we kept in touch for a few years. I hope they decide to let Hospice take care of you Dad. Continued

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back from MA/update on dad> > > Hi everyone. I want to thank those of you who have been praying for my> dad, and> sending me encouraging notes. (n, nne, Sharon, Nukhet, Akiba,> Jackie,Reb...and whomever else I'm forgetting--I apologize). The latest> and the> greatest is that they are considering hospice go in. My family is up in> arms> however regarding this, saying that they don't necessarily think he's at> death's> door, and do folks just 'give up', i.e. the nursing home staff, when they> hear> someone's on hospice? My sister, who used to be comptroller in a skilled> nursing> home states that one can be on hospice for a temporary time, and if/when> someone> might need it again down the road, it can be ordered again. Medicare> picks it> up. I think family is leery, as my mom began hospice and it seemed

that> not> too terribly long into it, she passed. So, there's fear there. His O2> levels are> up, his fever is down but his cough and breathing are not good.> > My daughter, Kara (22) lives near my dad, and is off from work this> Thursday.> So, Lloyd and I, along with 3 of the kids (Lia can't come cause she is in> Boston> at school)--will drive down to Philly for the day, to go and visit with> dad and> with Kara. I just hope he's up for a visit. He usually nods off I'm told,> and> can get overwhelmed with a lot of people. I think we'll all go up, then> if it's> too much for him, just go in groups of 2 or 3 at a time.> My trip to Boston with my daughter was fun. She had 4 hockey games; 2 of> which> she played in. She tied one, and lost the other. As she is a goalie, she> and the> other goalie take turns

playing, or sometimes they'll split a game.> > I'm still a bit tired from a 3 and a half hour drive (each way) up there> and> back. I just wanted to catch folks up a bit on my trip and my dad.> Thanks again for all the well wishes.> love to you all,> Kate__________________________________________________________Send any screenshot to your friends in seconds...Works in all emails, instant messengers, blogs, forums and social networks.TRY IM TOOLPACK at http://www.imtoolpack.com/default.aspx?rc=if2 for FREE

February 21, 2011

I agree. My sister-in-law was in hospice and they were absolutely wonderful to her. They did everything for her and made her comfortable. She died of liver disease from Hepatitis C and that's a tough thing for the family. Her daughters were comforted by hospice, as well as their mom.love SharonThis email is a natural hand made product. The slight variations in spelling and grammar enhance its individual character and beauty and in no way are to be considered flaws or defects. To: MSersLife Sent: Mon, February 21, 2011 2:58:01 PMSubject: Re: /update on dad/ reply to Kate & group

Kate, my husband died before our local hospital had hospice care;I am all in favor of hospice care as they focus on the patient's comfort.Love to you, your family, and your father,nTo: MSersLife Sent: Mon, February 21, 2011 10:56:39 AMSubject: back from MA/update on dad

Hi everyone. I want to thank those of you who have been praying for my dad, and sending me encouraging notes. (n, nne, Sharon, Nukhet, Akiba, Jackie,Reb...and whomever else I'm forgetting--I apologize). The latest and the greatest is that they are considering hospice go in. My family is up in arms however regarding this, saying that they don't necessarily think he's at death's door, and do folks just 'give up', i.e. the nursing home staff, when they hear someone's on hospice? My sister, who used to be comptroller in a skilled nursing home states that one can be on hospice for a temporary time, and if/when someone might need it again down the road, it can be ordered again. Medicare picks it up. I think family is leery, as my mom began

hospice and it seemed that not too terribly long into it, she passed. So, there's fear there. His O2 levels are up, his fever is down but his cough and breathing are not good. My daughter, Kara (22) lives near my dad, and is off from work this Thursday. So, Lloyd and I, along with 3 of the kids (Lia can't come cause she is in Boston at school)--will drive down to Philly for the day, to go and visit with dad and with Kara. I just hope he's up for a visit. He usually nods off I'm told, and can get overwhelmed with a lot of people. I think we'll all go up, then if it's too much for him, just go in groups of 2 or 3 at a time.My trip to Boston with my daughter was fun. She had 4 hockey games; 2 of which she played in. She tied one, and lost the other. As she is a goalie, she and the other goalie take turns playing, or sometimes they'll split a game. I'm still a bit tired from a 3 and a half hour drive (each way) up there and back. I just wanted

to catch folks up a bit on my trip and my dad.Thanks again for all the well wishes.love to you all,Kate

February 21, 2011

Thank you dear, dear n. Hard to say if this is 'the home stretch' ornot. Time will tell. I'm just happy I'll see him before it's too late. At leastI think I'll be there. If G*d wants me to see him, I will.Blessings and love upon you,KateTo: MSersLife Sent: Mon, February

21, 2011 4:58:01 PMSubject: Re: /update on dad/ reply to Kate & group

Kate, my husband died before our local hospital had hospice care;I am all in favor of hospice care as they focus on the patient's comfort.Love to you, your family, and your father,nTo: MSersLife Sent: Mon, February 21, 2011 10:56:39 AMSubject: back from MA/update on dad

Hi everyone. I want to thank those of you who have been praying for my dad, and sending me encouraging notes. (n, nne, Sharon, Nukhet, Akiba, Jackie,Reb...and whomever else I'm forgetting--I apologize). The latest and the greatest is that they are considering hospice go in. My family is up in arms however regarding this, saying that they don't necessarily think he's at death's door, and do folks just 'give up', i.e. the nursing home staff, when they hear someone's on hospice? My sister, who used to be comptroller in a skilled nursing home states that one can be on hospice for a temporary time, and if/when someone might need it again down the road, it can be ordered again. Medicare picks it up. I think family is leery, as my mom began

hospice and it seemed that not too terribly long into it, she passed. So, there's fear there. His O2 levels are up, his fever is down but his cough and breathing are not good. My daughter, Kara (22) lives near my dad, and is off from work this Thursday. So, Lloyd and I, along with 3 of the kids (Lia can't come cause she is in Boston at school)--will drive down to Philly for the day, to go and visit with dad and with Kara. I just hope he's up for a visit. He usually nods off I'm told, and can get overwhelmed with a lot of people. I think we'll all go up, then if it's too much for him, just go in groups of 2 or 3 at a time.My trip to Boston with my daughter was fun. She had 4 hockey games; 2 of which she played in. She tied one, and lost the other. As she is a goalie, she and the other goalie take turns playing, or sometimes they'll split a game. I'm still a bit tired from a 3 and a half hour drive (each way) up there and back. I just wanted

to catch folks up a bit on my trip and my dad.Thanks again for all the well wishes.love to you all,Kate

February 21, 2011

I am certain you blessed many folk, Anne!Thanks for sharing your experiences,love, KateTo: MSersLife Sent: Mon, February 21, 2011 6:26:41 PMSubject: Re: /update on dad/ reply to Kate & group