Have another child or not ?

[Guest guest]

Wondering if I can have some thoughts and feedback from the group when it comes

to deciding whether or not to have another child. Are there folks who have had

other children after having a child or children with Autism?

Was it better easier for you knowing about biomedical treatment and intervening

earlier? Avoiding vaccinations?

We have 2 on the Spectrum and the eldest still has quite a long way to go.

thankyou

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First and foremost, this is a personal decision and only you know what is good for your family.

We had two more children after our son (who is our 3rd) was born. Our 3rd and 4th children are 26 months apart. We did pray about having another child. We had such a strong desire in our hearts to have more children but in all honesty, I was the one who nervous. My son was getting so much early intervention therapy and I thought to myself, can I do this again? Being Christian, the only thing we knew we had to do was pray and put it in the Lord's hands.

My next two children are developing typically, although my 5th child did have some speech delays when she was younger. She can be intense at times, but is not on the spectrum. I was very conscious of the vaccination schedule and did vaccinate the rest of my children, although not at the standard schedule. I will not vaccinate my children with the Gardasil vaccination.

Being soooo much more knowledgeable about things (toxins, good whole food diet, no JUNK, biomed treatment, supps etc.) is a plus! For example, if I knew about mercury poisoning when I was pregnant with my son, I would not have eaten so much tuna.

As hard as things have been at times, as overwhelming things have been (can still get...LOL!) our son is truly such an extra special blessing to our entire family and friends alike! Through him, we have learned incredible patience (this is ongoing!!) and humility. Seeing HIS compassion for others (this is a strength of his) when someone is sad or upset, has taught and reminded us how to always be compassionate. His four sisters have learned so much from him, too! We see how they interact with him, deal with him, are (almost...LOL!) always there to assist him, encourage him to try, teach him if he doesn't know how to do something, cheer him up when he is down, and so much more!

We think our family is complete, but that is not for us to decide. If we are blessed with another child we will be excited and trust that we will have the strength and faith to deal with whatever happens.

HTH. Feel free to message me privately if you want.

I truly wish you the best in your decision.

Have another child or not ?

Wondering if I can have some thoughts and feedback from the group when it comes to deciding whether or not to have another child. Are there folks who have had other children after having a child or children with Autism?Was it better easier for you knowing about biomedical treatment and intervening earlier? Avoiding vaccinations?We have 2 on the Spectrum and the eldest still has quite a long way to go.thankyou

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> Wondering if I can have some thoughts and feedback from the group when it

comes to deciding whether or not to have another child. Are there folks who

have had other children after having a child or children with Autism?

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> Was it better easier for you knowing about biomedical treatment and

intervening earlier? Avoiding vaccinations?

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> We have 2 on the Spectrum and the eldest still has quite a long way to go.

>

> thankyou

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As someone else mentioned, it is a personal decision. Still my 2 cents.We thought of it for a while (our goal was 2) but as DS was diagnosed at age 2 years. we read up voraciously on autism and  it is observed that there is a 'good chance' that autistic kid will have autistic or ADHD sibling and we decided NOT to take chance. If DS improves well in next 3 years, we plan to adopt a baby girl.

At the time of decision, we both agreed that its worthwhile to put ALL resources into one kid rather than taking a chance and unfortunately have to divide these resources into 2. I should mention here that school considers DS has high functioning PDD and has issues with language generation and social skills (both of which are improving), still our decision remains.

HTH,Noel

 

Wondering if I can have some thoughts and feedback from the group when it comes to deciding whether or not to have another child. Are there folks who have had other children after having a child or children with Autism?

Was it better easier for you knowing about biomedical treatment and intervening earlier? Avoiding vaccinations?

We have 2 on the Spectrum and the eldest still has quite a long way to go.

thankyou

[Guest guest]

I just wanted to say that I am pregnant with my second child my son wasn't planned as we also struggled with decision to have another child after our first one was diagnosed with severe autism at 2 years old. At this point we can only hope and pray for the best and truly believe that a brother or sister will be really good for him and pulling him out.Hope this helps there are no right or wrong answers to your question and one I struggled with as wellSent from my iPhone As someone else mentioned, it is a personal decision. Still my 2 cents.We thought of it for a while (our goal was 2) but as DS was diagnosed at age 2 years. we read up voraciously on autism and it is observed that there is a 'good chance' that autistic kid will have autistic or ADHD sibling and we decided NOT to take chance. If DS improves well in next 3 years, we plan to adopt a baby girl.At the time of decision, we both agreed that its worthwhile to put ALL resources into one kid rather than taking a chance and unfortunately have to divide these resources into 2. I should mention here that school considers DS has high functioning PDD and has issues with language generation and social skills (both of which are improving), still our decision remains.HTH,Noel Wondering if I can have some thoughts and feedback from the group when it comes to deciding whether or not to have another child. Are there folks who have had other children after having a child or children with Autism?Was it better easier for you knowing about biomedical treatment and intervening earlier? Avoiding vaccinations?We have 2 on the Spectrum and the eldest still has quite a long way to go.thankyou

[Guest guest]

thanks all.

its a tough decision, but we feel extremely empowered having the knowledge on what to do and not to do this time around.

it will depend on the timing.

To: "mb12valtrex " <mb12valtrex > Sent: Wednesday, 30 May 2012 1:54 AMSubject: Re: Have another child or not ?

I just wanted to say that I am pregnant with my second child my son wasn't planned as we also struggled with decision to have another child after our first one was diagnosed with severe autism at 2 years old. At this point we can only hope and pray for the best and truly believe that a brother or sister will be really good for him and pulling him out.

Hope this helps there are no right or wrong answers to your question and one I struggled with as well

Sent from my iPhone

As someone else mentioned, it is a personal decision. Still my 2 cents.

We thought of it for a while (our goal was 2) but as DS was diagnosed at age 2 years. we read up voraciously on autism and it is observed that there is a 'good chance' that autistic kid will have autistic or ADHD sibling and we decided NOT to take chance. If DS improves well in next 3 years, we plan to adopt a baby girl.

At the time of decision, we both agreed that its worthwhile to put ALL resources into one kid rather than taking a chance and unfortunately have to divide these resources into 2. I should mention here that school considers DS has high functioning PDD and has issues with language generation and social skills (both of which are improving), still our decision remains.

HTH,

Noel

Wondering if I can have some thoughts and feedback from the group when it comes to deciding whether or not to have another child. Are there folks who have had other children after having a child or children with Autism?Was it better easier for you knowing about biomedical treatment and intervening earlier? Avoiding vaccinations?We have 2 on the Spectrum and the eldest still has quite a long way to go.thankyou

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....just to add that I was reminded the other day that my ASD daughter,

(also has moderate learning difficulties, ADHD, severe speech and

language disorder and selective mute), will have the right to be a

mother when she's older, according to our laws and authorities, despite

her difficulties or what I may think appropriate. If this is deemed to

be OK, then don't beat yourself up about your decision! You will have

given more thought and consideration to the ramifications of your

reproduction than the vast majority of other parents in the UK. That has

to be the best foundation for the creation of any child. No-one knows

what they will get...best wishes...

On Tue, 29 May 2012 15:34:19 -0700 (PDT), Rochelle Denton wrote:

> thanks all.

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> its a tough decision, but we feel extremely empowered having the

> knowledge on what to do and not to do this time around.

> it will depend on the timing.

>

> Nettleton

> " mb12valtrex "

> Wednesday, 30 May 2012 1:54 AM

> Re: Have another child or not ?

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> I just wanted to say that I am pregnant with my second child my son

> wasn't planned as we also struggled with decision to have another

> child after our first one was diagnosed with severe autism at 2 years

> old. At this point we can only hope and pray for the best and truly

> believe that a brother or sister will be really good for him and

> pulling him out.

> Hope this helps there are no right or wrong answers to your question

> and one I struggled with as well

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> Sent from my iPhone

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>> As someone else mentioned, it is a personal decision. Still my 2

>> cents.

>>

>> We thought of it for a while (our goal was 2) but as DS was

>> diagnosed at age 2 years. we read up voraciously on autism and it is

>> observed that there is a 'good chance' that autistic kid will have

>> autistic or ADHD sibling and we decided NOT to take chance. If DS

>> improves well in next 3 years, we plan to adopt a baby girl.

>>

>> At the time of decision, we both agreed that its worthwhile to put

>> ALL resources into one kid rather than taking a chance and

>> unfortunately have to divide these resources into 2. I should

>> mention here that school considers DS has high functioning PDD and

>> has issues with language generation and social skills (both of which

>> are improving), still our decision remains.

>>

>> HTH,

>> Noel

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>>> Wondering if I can have some thoughts and feedback from the group

>>> when it comes to deciding whether or not to have another child.

>>> Are there folks who have had other children after having a child

>>> or children with Autism?

>>>

>>> Was it better easier for you knowing about biomedical treatment

>>> and intervening earlier? Avoiding vaccinations?

>>>

>>> We have 2 on the Spectrum and the eldest still has quite a long

>>> way to go.

>>>

>>> thankyou

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I have 4 children that came boy, girl, boy, girl. Baby 3, a boy, is pretty

severe on the spectrum. Baby 4, a girl, was not planned and caused a great deal

of anxiety in the months awaiting her arrival. I couldn't see how this would

work, AT ALL. I was terrified at the thought of splitting resources, convinced

that there would be a problem with her. She is now 2, and the very best gift we

could have ever given Jack. She is very smart, super verbal, and is Jack's best

friend (he is 7). She accepts him unconditionally and thinks he is the coolest,

smartest, best guy ever. The feeling is mutual, and he is very sweet with her.

So, it worked out for us. Our DAN advised me to take 5000iu of Vit D3 every

other day, as well as my Omega 3's. We are a sunscreen society, so we don't

properly utilize our Vit D,and there is a school of thought that low maternal

levels might increase the Autism risk. Also, pregnant women are advised to limit

or avoid eating fish while pregnant. Back with my first 2 pregnancies we were

encouraged to eat fish. I recall my OB referring to it as brain food for the

fetus. They are both completely NT.

Clearly, it's a personal decision. As parents, we have to be willing and able to

accept whoever it is that comes into our lives, so I guess that's the larger

question. If you can play with the hand you are dealt, it might not be such a

hard decision.

Good luck to you,

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Hi All: I have an interesting situation - My daughter LC was dx when she was nearly 4 w/HFA. Started assessment process at 3 yo. When she was 15 mo. old, I got pregnant w/ my son, JC (planned). At that time, we had no thoughts about her being autistic. Later on, when questioning whether she was autistic or not, it comforted me to think that the odds were so against having an autistic female. Everyday after the dx, I obsessed about what caused her to have autism and my son to be neurotypical. Relentless and pervasive thoughts, which motivated me to get her recovered. Then a few weeks ago I came across "the Autism Revolution" by a Harvard MD, who is a pediatric neurologist (Martha Herbert) and I found my answer. *LC probably has a genetic

predisposition for autism*During labor, her heart rate dipped several times (de-cels) and eventually she needed to be suctioned out. She had a hematoma on her head that lasted for at least a month. The neonatologist was on stand by during her delivery, but we ended up not needing his/her services. Normal Apgar score.*She received all her vaccines on time, as scheduled. I spaced them out for my son, as there is a hx of autism in my husband's family (his cousins on his mother and father's side) and he is a boy (much increased risk). *She was readmitted to the hospital the day after we went home for hyperbilirubinemia. We stayed in the hospital for 5 days, during which time she received an IV course of gentamycin for a suspected UTI. (she did not have a UTI). *Approx. at 18 mo. she had gingivostomatitis (cold sores in the mouth - herpes). She had a couple more

bouts of this. Awful time - painful time for all of us. Regression started around this time, although she did have some autistic features early on (lack of relationship with father, decreased eye contact, decreased speech (attributed to learning more than one language at once, decreased sensitivity to loud noises - would not respond/acknowledge most of the time)I am certain that all of these assaults created an environment for autism to be expressed in my daughter. It was when my son (same environment, same approach) had neurotypical behaviors, which drastically contrasted to my daughters developmental growth, that we started to see the autism. Colleen Chien To: "mb12valtrex " <mb12valtrex > Sent: Tuesday, May 29, 2012 3:34 PM Subject: Re: Have another child or not ?

thanks all.

its a tough decision, but we feel extremely empowered having the knowledge on what to do and not to do this time around.

it will depend on the timing.

To: "mb12valtrex " <mb12valtrex > Sent: Wednesday, 30 May 2012 1:54 AMSubject: Re: Have another child or not ?

I just wanted to say that I am pregnant with my second child my son wasn't planned as we also struggled with decision to have another child after our first one was diagnosed with severe autism at 2 years old. At this point we can only hope and pray for the best and truly believe that a brother or sister will be really good for him and pulling him out.

Hope this helps there are no right or wrong answers to your question and one I struggled with as well

Sent from my iPhone

As someone else mentioned, it is a personal decision. Still my 2 cents.

We thought of it for a while (our goal was 2) but as DS was diagnosed at age 2 years. we read up voraciously on autism and it is observed that there is a 'good chance' that autistic kid will have autistic or ADHD sibling and we decided NOT to take chance. If DS improves well in next 3 years, we plan to adopt a baby girl.

At the time of decision, we both agreed that its worthwhile to put ALL resources into one kid rather than taking a chance and unfortunately have to divide these resources into 2. I should mention here that school considers DS has high functioning PDD and has issues with language generation and social skills (both of which are improving), still our decision remains.

HTH,

Noel

Wondering if I can have some thoughts and feedback from the group when it comes to deciding whether or not to have another child. Are there folks who have had other children after having a child or children with Autism?Was it better easier for you knowing about biomedical treatment and intervening earlier? Avoiding vaccinations?We have 2 on the Spectrum and the eldest still has quite a long way to go.thankyou

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thankyou

To: "mb12valtrex " <mb12valtrex > Sent: Wednesday, 30 May 2012 10:39 AMSubject: Re: Have another child or not ?

I have 4 children that came boy, girl, boy, girl. Baby 3, a boy, is pretty severe on the spectrum. Baby 4, a girl, was not planned and caused a great deal of anxiety in the months awaiting her arrival. I couldn't see how this would work, AT ALL. I was terrified at the thought of splitting resources, convinced that there would be a problem with her. She is now 2, and the very best gift we could have ever given Jack. She is very smart, super verbal, and is Jack's best friend (he is 7). She accepts him unconditionally and thinks he is the coolest, smartest, best guy ever. The feeling is mutual, and he is very sweet with her. So, it worked out for us. Our DAN advised me to take 5000iu of Vit D3 every other day, as well as my Omega 3's. We are a sunscreen society, so we don't properly utilize our Vit D,and there is a school of thought that low maternal levels might increase the Autism risk. Also, pregnant women are advised to limit or avoid eating fish

while pregnant. Back with my first 2 pregnancies we were encouraged to eat fish. I recall my OB referring to it as brain food for the fetus. They are both completely NT.Clearly, it's a personal decision. As parents, we have to be willing and able to accept whoever it is that comes into our lives, so I guess that's the larger question. If you can play with the hand you are dealt, it might not be such a hard decision.Good luck to you,Sent from my iPad