Guest guest Posted August 20, 2011 Report Share Posted August 20, 2011 Hi everyone, I'm pretty new to this community website and it's been pretty insightful not just to understanding my Nada but mostly myself. I find myself questioning, hmm do I think about that sometimes? or do I ever feel that way?, as I'm reading all of your beautifully written tragic yet daily inspiring stories. So I think this is healthy. All of my family has suffered great brain damage with the experience of my nada. Maybe I as a child had a slight BPD perception of the world but I coped and skilled myself with the believes of Buddhism, self realization and the way I have intensely used music, writing and reading as medicine for my mind my entire life. So my looking for understanding and support here is just another form of medicine and that's what I view the study and use of psychology as. I just wish that more of my family, mostly my dad and my younger brother would look into understanding bpd and the affects of it on non-bps as I now find myself doing. I guess I can't expect them to do the same as I am, everyone copes differently. I just think a lot of this understanding of the self when it comes to pd's is pretty complex. I just hope everyone will be okay, and that's really the strong KO kid I've ended up being throughout life, I want to take care of everyone yet still be taking great care of myself. I'm just talking about letting go of these uncommon to everyday life experiences everyone in the world seems to go through, cause everyone just seems to only use time as their medicine to heal the soul and I'm not sure if that's always most beneficial? Namaste, Cammisha Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 20, 2011 Report Share Posted August 20, 2011 Hi Cammisha, I'm not quite sure I understand the question. Are you asking if " time " alone is what heals the children of the personality disordered? I think that because each of us is a unique individual with a unique relationship with their personality-disordered parent(s), each of us has to figure out our own path to healing. Some of us can find healing while remaining in contact with our pd parent(s) (limited contact with protective boundaries in place), while others of us need the safety of a complete break from our pd parent(s), because in such cases the adult child of the pd parent(s) has received more damage, and/or the pd parent is more severely mentally ill, manipulative, exploitative, or hostile and actively malicious, meaning, seeking to do harm. I personally have found the last few years of No Contact with my bpd/npd mother healing for me. -Annie > > Hi everyone, > > I'm pretty new to this community website and it's been pretty insightful not just to understanding my Nada but mostly myself. I find myself questioning, hmm do I think about that sometimes? or do I ever feel that way?, as I'm reading all of your beautifully written tragic yet daily inspiring stories. So I think this is healthy. > > All of my family has suffered great brain damage with the experience of my nada. Maybe I as a child had a slight BPD perception of the world but I coped and skilled myself with the believes of Buddhism, self realization and the way I have intensely used music, writing and reading as medicine for my mind my entire life. So my looking for understanding and support here is just another form of medicine and that's what I view the study and use of psychology as. > > I just wish that more of my family, mostly my dad and my younger brother would look into understanding bpd and the affects of it on non-bps as I now find myself doing. I guess I can't expect them to do the same as I am, everyone copes differently. I just think a lot of this understanding of the self when it comes to pd's is pretty complex. I just hope everyone will be okay, and that's really the strong KO kid I've ended up being throughout life, I want to take care of everyone yet still be taking great care of myself. > > I'm just talking about letting go of these uncommon to everyday life experiences everyone in the world seems to go through, cause everyone just seems to only use time as their medicine to heal the soul and I'm not sure if that's always most beneficial? > > Namaste, > Cammisha > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 20, 2011 Report Share Posted August 20, 2011 Annie, Thank you for that response. You're right everyone creates their own path of healing and I just need to go with the flow again. I think since I've been putting a lot of time into thinking about my nadas true issue being an undiagnosed bpd for years, I'm in a state of worry and panic and wanting to fix it all, since I'm around her more lately being home from school. Just hoping everyone else is doing okay in my family now that everyone is separated yet there is still much confusion. -Cammisha ________________________________ To: WTOAdultChildren1 Sent: Saturday, August 20, 2011 3:40 PM Subject: Re: What's next?  Hi Cammisha, I'm not quite sure I understand the question. Are you asking if " time " alone is what heals the children of the personality disordered? I think that because each of us is a unique individual with a unique relationship with their personality-disordered parent(s), each of us has to figure out our own path to healing. Some of us can find healing while remaining in contact with our pd parent(s) (limited contact with protective boundaries in place), while others of us need the safety of a complete break from our pd parent(s), because in such cases the adult child of the pd parent(s) has received more damage, and/or the pd parent is more severely mentally ill, manipulative, exploitative, or hostile and actively malicious, meaning, seeking to do harm. I personally have found the last few years of No Contact with my bpd/npd mother healing for me. -Annie > > Hi everyone, > > I'm pretty new to this community website and it's been pretty insightful not just to understanding my Nada but mostly myself. I find myself questioning, hmm do I think about that sometimes? or do I ever feel that way?, as I'm reading all of your beautifully written tragic yet daily inspiring stories. So I think this is healthy. > > All of my family has suffered great brain damage with the experience of my nada. Maybe I as a child had a slight BPD perception of the world but I coped and skilled myself with the believes of Buddhism, self realization and the way I have intensely used music, writing and reading as medicine for my mind my entire life. So my looking for understanding and support here is just another form of medicine and that's what I view the study and use of psychology as. > > I just wish that more of my family, mostly my dad and my younger brother would look into understanding bpd and the affects of it on non-bps as I now find myself doing. I guess I can't expect them to do the same as I am, everyone copes differently. I just think a lot of this understanding of the self when it comes to pd's is pretty complex. I just hope everyone will be okay, and that's really the strong KO kid I've ended up being throughout life, I want to take care of everyone yet still be taking great care of myself. > > I'm just talking about letting go of these uncommon to everyday life experiences everyone in the world seems to go through, cause everyone just seems to only use time as their medicine to heal the soul and I'm not sure if that's always most beneficial? > > Namaste, > Cammisha > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 20, 2011 Report Share Posted August 20, 2011 When it comes to helping your family - - unfortunately you can't. You have to let them go to god, and focus on taking care of yourself. It's been said a million times but - the only person you can change is yourself. Try out the books on codependency - like Codependent no More. take care! On Sat, Aug 20, 2011 at 7:26 PM, Cammisha Manley wrote: > ** > > > Annie, > > Thank you for that response. You're right everyone creates their own path > of healing and I just need to go with the flow again. I think since I've > been putting a lot of time into thinking about my nadas true issue being an > undiagnosed bpd for years, I'm in a state of worry and panic and wanting to > fix it all, since I'm around her more lately being home from school. Just > hoping everyone else is doing okay in my family now that everyone is > separated yet there is still much confusion. > > -Cammisha > > ________________________________ > > To: WTOAdultChildren1 > Sent: Saturday, August 20, 2011 3:40 PM > Subject: Re: What's next? > > > > Hi Cammisha, > > I'm not quite sure I understand the question. Are you asking if " time " > alone is what heals the children of the personality disordered? > > I think that because each of us is a unique individual with a unique > relationship with their personality-disordered parent(s), each of us has to > figure out our own path to healing. > > Some of us can find healing while remaining in contact with our pd > parent(s) (limited contact with protective boundaries in place), while > others of us need the safety of a complete break from our pd parent(s), > because in such cases the adult child of the pd parent(s) has received more > damage, and/or the pd parent is more severely mentally ill, manipulative, > exploitative, or hostile and actively malicious, meaning, seeking to do > harm. > > I personally have found the last few years of No Contact with my bpd/npd > mother healing for me. > > -Annie > > > > > > Hi everyone, > > > > I'm pretty new to this community website and it's been pretty insightful > not just to understanding my Nada but mostly myself. I find myself > questioning, hmm do I think about that sometimes? or do I ever feel that > way?, as I'm reading all of your beautifully written tragic yet daily > inspiring stories. So I think this is healthy. > > > > All of my family has suffered great brain damage with the experience of > my nada. Maybe I as a child had a slight BPD perception of the world but I > coped and skilled myself with the believes of Buddhism, self realization and > the way I have intensely used music, writing and reading as medicine for my > mind my entire life. So my looking for understanding and support here is > just another form of medicine and that's what I view the study and use of > psychology as. > > > > I just wish that more of my family, mostly my dad and my younger brother > would look into understanding bpd and the affects of it on non-bps as I now > find myself doing. I guess I can't expect them to do the same as I am, > everyone copes differently. I just think a lot of this understanding of the > self when it comes to pd's is pretty complex. I just hope everyone will be > okay, and that's really the strong KO kid I've ended up being throughout > life, I want to take care of everyone yet still be taking great care of > myself. > > > > I'm just talking about letting go of these uncommon to everyday life > experiences everyone in the world seems to go through, cause everyone just > seems to only use time as their medicine to heal the soul and I'm not sure > if that's always most beneficial? > > > > Namaste, > > Cammisha > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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