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Dido; my BP mother tries to use her will to gave power in our relationship. I

don't know how many times I have told her I have no vested interested in your

money or property. I tell her to do with it whatever makes her happy. If that

includes me being in her will then I am fine with that; if not, I am fine with

that. She seems to perceive this as me not loving her. I highly doubt I will

be on her will.

What happens to her money and estate is a real concern for my mother. She

changed her will at least one a year. The thing is, I don't think she has much

to leave behind. She wants me to believe that she is worth about a half

million, but I suspect it is likely less that 50k. Being on her will seems to

be a conditional thing and I do not agree to her conditions.

She is getting old, it will be interesting how she managed retirement without

help. I am willing to help her, but I know she will be too proud to ask or

admit that she needs help. Her parents will not be here much longer and her

husband and I will be all she has.

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> > Do you have a parent with BDP and is also obsessed with money meaning, they

talk, eat, sleep, breath money. I have heard that whatever issues that went on

with a person that has BDP in their lives early on, they have attached

themselves to money as form of the only security they know. When their

relationships are in turmoil with people, the comfort of having money makes them

feel powerful and a bit arrogant. My BDP mother talks about money day and nite

and in every discussion, relates everything back to money. Drives me and my

family crazy because she is living with us for the moment.

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> > Can anyone relate?

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> > Chasi

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