Ed/Sex Therapist advice on female masturbation

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Ed – PT would help her quite a lot. I wish you could talk

to my PT – that is all she does - pelvic PT for when sex hurts. She has

been doing pelvic PT for the last fifteen years and PT in total for 25 years.

It doesn’t have to be internal! Who told you that! The web page for my PT

is http://www.pthelp.com. You should read

what she does, call or email her. I know she is not in your area, but maybe she

could refer you to someone. She helps woman with PT in 12-16 sessions, and

cures them. She has literature that she gives out – called “when

sex hurts”. Your wife is exactly the type of woman she helps. She has

told me wonderful stories of the women she has cured. I wish you would look in

to it for both your sakes. Has she thought of having a vestibulectomy?

nne

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Not yet but we have a recommendation she's going to check into. I have

doubts about how helpful PT will be for , because the only pain she's

experienced are at the outside tissue, nothing internal. We'd be happy to

be wrong if PT really does help.

molly ring wrote:

Is your wife going to a

physical therapist? Where do you live?

Sex Therapist advice on female masturbation

Hello Group:

My wife and I see a therapist who counsels couples dealing with sexual

disorders. It took 6 years to diagnose my wife's Vestibulitis/ VVD

condition as her pain and discomfort was sometimes worse than others.

The long-term impact on her was a complete avoidance of any physical

intimacy, from passionate hugging and kissing to everything beyond. I

blamed her for not understanding how much I needed the intimacy and

she blamed me for not appreciating how painful the sex could be.

From before the conception of our now 9-month old son, we knew that

Estrace cream and Nortriptolene were working to ease her pain and

allow for some pleasure. But postpartum when she resumed these

treatments, she started feeling itching and numbness. Thanks to some

of your advice (particularly Chelle, I believe), she accepted that the

itching may be a sign of healing. But the numbness and psychological

trauma from past pain were enough to bring about another period of

intimacy avoidance.

Late last week she spent time with our therapist who encouraged her to

make genital massage a private exercise--not necessarily even

masturbation- -to encourage bloodflow and promote healing. Of course,

if the bio-feedback is positive, then masturbation is fine as well.

She agreed to try it, despite not being " in the mood. "

So I made a deal with her, one which I hope you might either borrow or

modify, if it can help you. She loves having her hair stroked and so

I promised to play with her hair and only her hair if she would

practice the therapy our counselor prescribed. It worked. And we now

have a new technique for pleasuring my wife that can't fail, because

its not about sex.

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Thank you nne,I'll forward this to my wife--we asked a gyn we trust about that procedure but the feedback was discouraging. We were told that she would always have pain and even this procedure would, at best, bring her to a 2 or 3 on the pain scale.But thankfully, the Nortriptolene and Estrace treatments have been gradually working and given us some hope--I'm grateful for your testimonial and that of the others as well. It sounds as though PT has been wonderful for you and we're hoping her PT can have similar success.I guess we've been a little bit unclear about what the PT can help to heal. There are such a variety of ailments discussed on this forum! millburytimes wrote: Ed – PT would help her quite a lot. I wish you could talk to my PT – that is all she does - pelvic PT for when sex hurts. She has been doing pelvic PT for the last fifteen years and PT in total for 25 years. It doesn’t have to be internal! Who told you that! The web page for my PT is http://www.pthelp.com. You should read what she does, call or email her. I know she is not in your area, but maybe she could refer you to someone. She helps woman with PT in 12-16 sessions, and cures them. She has literature that she gives out – called “when sex hurts”. Your wife

is exactly the type of woman she helps. She has told me wonderful stories of the women she has cured. I wish you would look in to it for both your sakes. Has she thought of having a vestibulectomy? nne From: VulvarDisorders [mailto:VulvarDisorders ] On Behalf Of Niedfeldt Sent: Monday, March 31, 2008 6:59 PM To: VulvarDisorders Subject: Re: Sex Therapist advice on female masturbation Not yet but we have a recommendation she's going to check into. I have doubts about how helpful PT will be for , because the only pain she's experienced are at the outside tissue, nothing internal. We'd be happy to be wrong if PT really does help.

molly ring <mering00 (AT) yahoo (DOT) com> wrote: Is your wife going to a physical therapist? Where do you live? Sex Therapist advice on female masturbation Hello Group: My wife and I see a therapist who counsels couples dealing with sexual disorders. It took 6 years to diagnose my wife's Vestibulitis/ VVD condition as her pain and discomfort was sometimes worse than others. The long-term impact on her was a complete avoidance of any

physical intimacy, from passionate hugging and kissing to everything beyond. I blamed her for not understanding how much I needed the intimacy and she blamed me for not appreciating how painful the sex could be. From before the conception of our now 9-month old son, we knew that Estrace cream and Nortriptolene were working to ease her pain and allow for some pleasure. But postpartum when she resumed these treatments, she started feeling itching and numbness. Thanks to some of your advice (particularly Chelle, I believe), she accepted that the itching may be a sign of healing. But the numbness and psychological trauma from past pain were enough to bring about another period of intimacy avoidance. Late last week she spent time with our therapist who encouraged her to make genital massage a private exercise--not necessarily even masturbation- -to encourage bloodflow and promote healing. Of course, if the

bio-feedback is positive, then masturbation is fine as well. She agreed to try it, despite not being "in the mood." So I made a deal with her, one which I hope you might either borrow or modify, if it can help you. She loves having her hair stroked and so I promised to play with her hair and only her hair if she would practice the therapy our counselor prescribed. It worked. And we now have a new technique for pleasuring my wife that can't fail, because its not about sex. You rock. That's why Blockbuster's offering you one month of Blockbuster Total Access,

No Cost. No Cost - Get a month of Blockbuster Total Access now. Sweet deal for Yahoo! users and friends.

You rock. That's why Blockbuster's offering you one month of Blockbuster Total Access, No Cost.