Guest guest Posted August 30, 2011 Report Share Posted August 30, 2011 So - - it looks like facebook rolled out a new update in the night - and I can't adjust my privacy settings as much as I used to be able to. . . Anyone know anything about it? I love limiting people's access to my page, it makes me feel in control! Thanks so much! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 30, 2011 Report Share Posted August 30, 2011 Oh geez! I don't like it >.< On the other hand, it's kind of nice. From what I can tell--it saved my settings for my " Limited Profile " group. Instead of editing the privacy settings in the Accounts tab, you edit privacy settings on your page itself. When you go to your profile page, on the upper right hand corner is a dropdown box where you can edit the settings. So, I think you can still set it so posts are automatically restricted to friends only, or even restricted so that the " Limited Profile " group can't see it, but your friends can. The good new feature, though, is that you can go back to the individual posts and change the privacy settings, even after you posted it. It used to be that you could only edit it *during* your post, but now you can actually go back and change things. Looks like they just moved the same privacy settings from the confusing privacy page in Accounts up to the front. So, that's the good news at least... On Tue, Aug 30, 2011 at 8:41 AM, Girlscout Cowboy < girlscout.cowboy@...> wrote: > ** > > > So - - it looks like facebook rolled out a new update in the night - and I > can't adjust my privacy settings as much as I used to be able to. . . > Anyone > know anything about it? I love limiting people's access to my page, it > makes > me feel in control! Thanks so much! > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 30, 2011 Report Share Posted August 30, 2011 Holly thanks for summing that up! I haven't had a chance to really dig in and look at the new roll out and I have a list of about 30 people who aren't allowed to view my posts. I am with Girlscout, I love restricting who can view my page/posts and who can comment without them even knowing. Isn't that just like a KO to be non-confrontational, lol? Most of who is restricted are my moms friends and acquaintances. On that note, I had previously been too chicken to delete and block my mom as friend on FB. So I had her in my privacy lists as unable to view my posts and my wall and locked out from commenting, etc. I have not worried about her in a while since she made a dramatic exit from FB months ago, telling everyone FB was evil and she shouldn't be on it, then deleted her account. (I knew she would be back though) She (and subsequently, I) discovered this week that when a person is in your privacy settings as I listed above (cannot view posts, etc) and they delete their account, they automatically fall off of your privacy lists or block lists. So she reactivated her account and immediately discovered (as did I, to my horror) that she had immediate access to my entire profile, since I had never unfriended her or blocked her. I added her back to my privacy lists and then she re-deleted her account. Sneaky B----. That's when I said screw it and went to block her entirely and discovered that you cannot block someone who had deleted their account. BUT - if you know what email address their account is tied to, you can put their email address in the Block list and when they reactivate they will automatically be blocked. It worked - she is permanently done from ever seeing me on FB. Is this making sense? So, according to my husband, my mom had deleted and reactivated her account 3x this week trying to access my profile, friend my husband, my MIL, etc - and deletes her account as soon as they turn her down. She has done nothing but become more irrational and more insane since me and my siblings have put up walls/boundaries. I love victory over sneaky BPD tactics. Hope that wasn't confusing. Hope I shed some light for others! > > > ** > > > > > > So - - it looks like facebook rolled out a new update in the night - and I > > can't adjust my privacy settings as much as I used to be able to. . . > > Anyone > > know anything about it? I love limiting people's access to my page, it > > makes > > me feel in control! Thanks so much! > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 30, 2011 Report Share Posted August 30, 2011 Good to know! Thanks for letting us know about the whole deactivation/privacy risk...never knew about that. Right now I just have my mom's sister restricted since I'm not sure if I can trust her yet. I used to block bada, but just in case he stops drinking the koolaid I have it so he could friend me again if he wants. > > Holly thanks for summing that up! > > I haven't had a chance to really dig in and look at the new roll out and I have a list of about 30 people who aren't allowed to view my posts. I am with Girlscout, I love restricting who can view my page/posts and who can comment without them even knowing. > Isn't that just like a KO to be non-confrontational, lol? Most of who is restricted are my moms friends and acquaintances. > > On that note, I had previously been too chicken to delete and block my mom as friend on FB. So I had her in my privacy lists as unable to view my posts and my wall and locked out from commenting, etc. I have not worried about her in a while since she made a dramatic exit from FB months ago, telling everyone FB was evil and she shouldn't be on it, then deleted her account. (I knew she would be back though) > > She (and subsequently, I) discovered this week that when a person is in your privacy settings as I listed above (cannot view posts, etc) and they delete their account, they automatically fall off of your privacy lists or block lists. > > So she reactivated her account and immediately discovered (as did I, to my horror) that she had immediate access to my entire profile, since I had never unfriended her or blocked her. > > I added her back to my privacy lists and then she re-deleted her account. Sneaky B----. That's when I said screw it and went to block her entirely and discovered that you cannot block someone who had deleted their account. > BUT - if you know what email address their account is tied to, you can put their email address in the Block list and when they reactivate they will automatically be blocked. It worked - she is permanently done from ever seeing me on FB. > > Is this making sense? So, according to my husband, my mom had deleted and reactivated her account 3x this week trying to access my profile, friend my husband, my MIL, etc - and deletes her account as soon as they turn her down. She has done nothing but become more irrational and more insane since me and my siblings have put up walls/boundaries. > > I love victory over sneaky BPD tactics. > > Hope that wasn't confusing. Hope I shed some light for others! > > >> >> > ** >> > >> > >> > So - - it looks like facebook rolled out a new update in the night - and I >> > can't adjust my privacy settings as much as I used to be able to. . . >> > Anyone >> > know anything about it? I love limiting people's access to my page, it >> > makes >> > me feel in control! Thanks so much! >> > >> > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 30, 2011 Report Share Posted August 30, 2011 Thanks for the tips ladies. I feel like I have a whole geek squad (good kind of geek) here to help me control my world Love it. And yes it makes sense. On Tue, Aug 30, 2011 at 3:16 PM, Holly Lipschultz < hollymichellebyers@...> wrote: > ** > > > Good to know! Thanks for letting us know about the whole > deactivation/privacy risk...never knew about that. Right now I just have my > mom's sister restricted since I'm not sure if I can trust her yet. I used > to > block bada, but just in case he stops drinking the koolaid I have it so he > could friend me again if he wants. > > > > > > Holly thanks for summing that up! > > > > I haven't had a chance to really dig in and look at the new roll out and > I > have a list of about 30 people who aren't allowed to view my posts. I am > with Girlscout, I love restricting who can view my page/posts and who can > comment without them even knowing. > > Isn't that just like a KO to be non-confrontational, lol? Most of who is > restricted are my moms friends and acquaintances. > > > > On that note, I had previously been too chicken to delete and block my > mom > as friend on FB. So I had her in my privacy lists as unable to view my > posts > and my wall and locked out from commenting, etc. I have not worried about > her in a while since she made a dramatic exit from FB months ago, telling > everyone FB was evil and she shouldn't be on it, then deleted her account. > (I knew she would be back though) > > > > She (and subsequently, I) discovered this week that when a person is in > your privacy settings as I listed above (cannot view posts, etc) and they > delete their account, they automatically fall off of your privacy lists or > block lists. > > > > So she reactivated her account and immediately discovered (as did I, to > my > horror) that she had immediate access to my entire profile, since I had > never unfriended her or blocked her. > > > > I added her back to my privacy lists and then she re-deleted her account. > Sneaky B----. That's when I said screw it and went to block her entirely > and > discovered that you cannot block someone who had deleted their account. > > BUT - if you know what email address their account is tied to, you can > put > their email address in the Block list and when they reactivate they will > automatically be blocked. It worked - she is permanently done from ever > seeing me on FB. > > > > Is this making sense? So, according to my husband, my mom had deleted and > reactivated her account 3x this week trying to access my profile, friend my > husband, my MIL, etc - and deletes her account as soon as they turn her > down. She has done nothing but become more irrational and more insane since > me and my siblings have put up walls/boundaries. > > > > I love victory over sneaky BPD tactics. > > > > Hope that wasn't confusing. Hope I shed some light for others! > > > > > >> > >> > ** > >> > > >> > > >> > So - - it looks like facebook rolled out a new update in the night - > and I > >> > can't adjust my privacy settings as much as I used to be able to. . . > >> > Anyone > >> > know anything about it? I love limiting people's access to my page, it > >> > makes > >> > me feel in control! Thanks so much! > >> > > >> > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 30, 2011 Report Share Posted August 30, 2011 Yes, thank you very much. I'm so leery of Facebook and so not tech savy about it that I pretty much do not use it. I prefer e-mail and Groups for socializing. Facebook makes me feel like a deer in an open field with " Deer Season " signs tacked to every tree. -Annie > > > > > ** > > > > > > > > > So - - it looks like facebook rolled out a new update in the night - and I > > > can't adjust my privacy settings as much as I used to be able to. . . > > > Anyone > > > know anything about it? I love limiting people's access to my page, it > > > makes > > > me feel in control! Thanks so much! > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 30, 2011 Report Share Posted August 30, 2011 Can i just complain for a moment that Facebook has been a complete f**king nightmare for me with my bpd mother. I had her blocked but somehow she could see through other people's pages that they could make comments on photos but she couldn't. I told her my facebook was broken and since I'm not tech savvy I couldn't fix it(I am tech savvy and my husband is a programmer) but the lie only worked for about 6 months. Then the guilt emails and emotional blackmail came weighing down on me and I angrily caved. F*n facebook!!!! > >> > >> > ** > >> > > >> > > >> > So - - it looks like facebook rolled out a new update in the night - > and I > >> > can't adjust my privacy settings as much as I used to be able to. . . > >> > Anyone > >> > know anything about it? I love limiting people's access to my page, it > >> > makes > >> > me feel in control! Thanks so much! > >> > > >> > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 30, 2011 Report Share Posted August 30, 2011 Yes, nightmare is a good word. I blocked all of me and my mom's mutual friends from seeing posts or pictures before she deleted her account. Because I still cannot figure out how to keep photos locked up, I have made all my photo albums viewable to me and hubby only and the only ones visible to friends are the handful of profile photos I have. The photos will bite you in the butt. Pretty much everyone that knows me know not to tag me in a photo and if I do get tagged, I immediately remove the tag. > > >> > > >> > ** > > >> > > > >> > > > >> > So - - it looks like facebook rolled out a new update in the night - > > and I > > >> > can't adjust my privacy settings as much as I used to be able to. . . > > >> > Anyone > > >> > know anything about it? I love limiting people's access to my page, it > > >> > makes > > >> > me feel in control! Thanks so much! > > >> > > > >> > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 30, 2011 Report Share Posted August 30, 2011 My nada is a luddite (spelling ?) she can't even use e-mail. So technology is pretty safe. I've blocked all of my relatives and everyone I know that nada knows. I can't block them from my blog or from news stories and the like (I work in journalism), but such is life - fortunately bada was the only one who didn't give up easily and calling the cops/threatening courts and restraining orders etc etc worked just fine. I haven't heard from anyone in over a year. > ** > > > Yes, nightmare is a good word. > > I blocked all of me and my mom's mutual friends from seeing posts or > pictures before she deleted her account. > > Because I still cannot figure out how to keep photos locked up, I have made > all my photo albums viewable to me and hubby only and the only ones visible > to friends are the handful of profile photos I have. > > The photos will bite you in the butt. Pretty much everyone that knows me > know not to tag me in a photo and if I do get tagged, I immediately remove > the tag. > > > > > >> > > > >> > ** > > > >> > > > > >> > > > > >> > So - - it looks like facebook rolled out a new update in the night > - > > > and I > > > >> > can't adjust my privacy settings as much as I used to be able to. > . . > > > >> > Anyone > > > >> > know anything about it? I love limiting people's access to my > page, it > > > >> > makes > > > >> > me feel in control! Thanks so much! > > > >> > > > > >> > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 30, 2011 Report Share Posted August 30, 2011 Facebook just has too much history of thumbing their noses at privacy concerns for my taste. Plus a lot of malicious stuff seems to spread through Facebook usage. I want nothing to do with it. My nada loves it and sometimes spends all day using it. She makes " friends " with the people she plays games with. One day she informed me that I had a new " brother " in Thailand who she met and " adopted " through Facebook. I use LiveJournal for social networking and I have an Google+ account that I've thus far only used for reading what other people (particularly my brother who is " not good at communicating " when it comes to personal contact) have to say. Both allow me to choose who sees my posts quite easily. My nada added me, and my sister who is totally NC, to her Google+ circles but that doesn't do her any good because we have chosen to block her rather than adding her to our circles. She's never found my livejournal account as far as I know. I almost never make public posts there anyway. I keep what I say locked down to the people I choose to share with. At 05:29 PM 08/30/2011 anuria67854 wrote: >Yes, thank you very much. I'm so leery of Facebook and so not >tech savy about it that I pretty much do not use it. I prefer >e-mail and Groups for socializing. Facebook makes me feel like >a deer in an open field with " Deer Season " signs tacked to >every tree. > >-Annie > -- Katrina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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