Guest guest Posted April 1, 2008 Report Share Posted April 1, 2008 That is so unusual in this day and age. And also because you said your friends were the same way. I learned about sex in about the 9th grade from a friend – my mother never mentioned it, but that was I bet over 25+ years ago. And I started using Tampons right away also – you really need to look when you first start out doing that. I was an only child from a pretty strict Catholic home, but it didn’t stop me from looking. Do you feel not knowing was harmful to you now as an adult? nne From: VulvarDisorders [mailto:VulvarDisorders ] On Behalf Of spanishmiss430 Sent: Tuesday, April 01, 2008 6:04 PM To: VulvarDisorders Subject: Re: Question for Melinda nne, I guess I just never thought to. I grew up in a very conservative home where sex and " that " part of the body was never discussed and was pretty sheltered. All my friends grew up in similar homes so we never talked about it amongst ourselves. I didn't even know what sex was till 9th grade...literally. I can't belive it now, but it's true. =) Melinda Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 2, 2008 Report Share Posted April 2, 2008 nne, I don't think it was harmful for me to find out about sex at such a late age, but I do think it was harmful to not have been educated about my body parts. If I had known more about how they should look, I would have noticed sooner when they started disappearing! And if I had known more, I think I would have been less embarassed by the pain and inflammation and sought help sooner. I try not to think that way though..regrets do us no good and I can do better with my child! Melinda =) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 2, 2008 Report Share Posted April 2, 2008 That is so true Melinda, we all learn by our mistakes and try and mend them through our children. My PT told me stories about women who hate their female parts and won’t look at them because boyfriends have told them that they were ugly “down there”. Comments like they are a funny color or the vulvar lips are too long – one was told she had elephant ears. I think that is so disgusting, and if some women have low self esteem to begin with – even if they had looked at their parts before, I can see why they don’t want to anymore. And it is another reason why their vaginal muscles go into spasm and they can’t have sex or it hurts. Men can be so mean. I just couldn’t believe some of the stories she told. And none of the stories had names, so it wasn’t invading anyone’s privacy. It must be hard for my PT to hear some of these stories. nne From: VulvarDisorders [mailto:VulvarDisorders ] On Behalf Of spanishmiss430 Sent: Wednesday, April 02, 2008 7:58 PM To: VulvarDisorders Subject: Re: Question for Melinda nne, I don't think it was harmful for me to find out about sex at such a late age, but I do think it was harmful to not have been educated about my body parts. If I had known more about how they should look, I would have noticed sooner when they started disappearing! And if I had known more, I think I would have been less embarassed by the pain and inflammation and sought help sooner. I try not to think that way though..regrets do us no good and I can do better with my child! Melinda =) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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