From NC to LC today

September 1, 2011

Ye other KOs,

I'm a 60-year-old oldtimer. I've been on the list since '98 without a break.

I've been NC with nada for over 4 years because of horrible, horrible verbally

abusive things nada said to me.

I'm writing today because this group is my lifeline. I called my aunt and uncle

last night because we didn't know where nada was because she had been so abusive

with me and I left the relationshit. They don't understand as you KOs do and my

therapissant. I've known she is in a care center for over a year but last time

I called a year ago she wouldn't give me her number after going through the

nurses station and hung up on me. (She is also dx'ed as paranoid by another

psychiatrist).

Today I called and she did remember me but she doesn't remember that I married

38 years ago, my last name, my husband's name or much else. She was taken by

ambulence a year ago to the center and her apartment belongings were all rescued

by my cousin and aunt and uncle who are storing everything. (My aunt and uncle

are 91). She doesn't have much of value but as she said, it's her stuff. And I

agree, I would want my things safe.

She does sound a little more docile. Set boundaries right off and she did get

that. Talked a little about my health which is pretty good, but she ended up

talking about herself for the most part as usual. She is 88 and will be 89 in

October.

The nurse or somebody came to get her to get her hair done and she just hung up.

Said to call again.

I got the bill collectors to quit calling me about six months ago. She says

she has no bills. How they got my unlisted # is beyond me. She also said that

someone else on my dad's side keeps calling her there and wonders about me but

she tells them that she has no children.

My nada said herself that everything is gone. She agreed to keep things light.

My cousin is taking good care of her. I had to back off for me and take care of

myself. I have learned so much from these lists in 13 years that I cannot

express in words my thanks to Randi.

Just thought I'd report in. I always come to the group with every contact I

make with her. It's so stressful at times and my doctors are hovering over me

to not have a 3rd stroke. She caused the second one and she knows it.

Hope you all are doing well. I think of you all as I read the lists every

morning.

((((((((KOs))))))))

(((((Rita)))))))) I always give myself a hug. I deserve it.

Rita

" And she'll have fun, fun, fun 'till her daddy takes the keyboard away. "

September 1, 2011

Okay, I know it was a typo--or maybe a freudian slip--but " relationshit " has me

cracking up! That's certainly how I would describe my relationshit with my

parents.

Yes, this group has definitely been a lifeline for me too. Glad to hear you're

taking care of YOU!

>

> Ye other KOs,

> I'm a 60-year-old oldtimer. I've been on the list since '98 without a break.

I've been NC with nada for over 4 years because of horrible, horrible verbally

abusive things nada said to me.

> I'm writing today because this group is my lifeline. I called my aunt and

uncle last night because we didn't know where nada was because she had been so

abusive with me and I left the relationshit. They don't understand as you KOs

do and my therapissant. I've known she is in a care center for over a year but

last time I called a year ago she wouldn't give me her number after going

through the nurses station and hung up on me. (She is also dx'ed as paranoid by

another psychiatrist).

> Today I called and she did remember me but she doesn't remember that I married

38 years ago, my last name, my husband's name or much else. She was taken by

ambulence a year ago to the center and her apartment belongings were all rescued

by my cousin and aunt and uncle who are storing everything. (My aunt and uncle

are 91). She doesn't have much of value but as she said, it's her stuff. And I

agree, I would want my things safe.

> She does sound a little more docile. Set boundaries right off and she did get

that. Talked a little about my health which is pretty good, but she ended up

talking about herself for the most part as usual. She is 88 and will be 89 in

October.

> The nurse or somebody came to get her to get her hair done and she just hung

up. Said to call again.

> I got the bill collectors to quit calling me about six months ago. She says

she has no bills. How they got my unlisted # is beyond me. She also said that

someone else on my dad's side keeps calling her there and wonders about me but

she tells them that she has no children.

> My nada said herself that everything is gone. She agreed to keep things

light.

> My cousin is taking good care of her. I had to back off for me and take care

of myself. I have learned so much from these lists in 13 years that I cannot

express in words my thanks to Randi.

> Just thought I'd report in. I always come to the group with every contact I

make with her. It's so stressful at times and my doctors are hovering over me

to not have a 3rd stroke. She caused the second one and she knows it.

> Hope you all are doing well. I think of you all as I read the lists every

morning.

> ((((((((KOs))))))))

> (((((Rita)))))))) I always give myself a hug. I deserve it.

>

> Rita

>

> " And she'll have fun, fun, fun 'till her daddy takes the keyboard away. "

>

September 1, 2011

No, " relationshit " is not a typo or a Freudian slip, bra or pants. I coined it

in November of '98. Fits doesn't it?

Rita

" And she'll have fun, fun, fun 'till her daddy takes the keyboard away. "

Re: From NC to LC today

Okay, I know it was a typo--or maybe a freudian slip--but " relationshit " has me

cracking up! That's certainly how I would describe my relationshit with my

parents.

Yes, this group has definitely been a lifeline for me too. Glad to hear you're

taking care of YOU!

>

> Ye other KOs,

> I'm a 60-year-old oldtimer. I've been on the list since '98 without a break.

I've been NC with nada for over 4 years because of horrible, horrible verbally

abusive things nada said to me.

> I'm writing today because this group is my lifeline. I called my aunt and

uncle last night because we didn't know where nada was because she had been so

abusive with me and I left the relationshit. They don't understand as you KOs do

and my therapissant. I've known she is in a care center for over a year but last

time I called a year ago she wouldn't give me her number after going through the

nurses station and hung up on me. (She is also dx'ed as paranoid by another

psychiatrist).

> Today I called and she did remember me but she doesn't remember that I married

38 years ago, my last name, my husband's name or much else. She was taken by

ambulence a year ago to the center and her apartment belongings were all rescued

by my cousin and aunt and uncle who are storing everything. (My aunt and uncle

are 91). She doesn't have much of value but as she said, it's her stuff. And I

agree, I would want my things safe.

> She does sound a little more docile. Set boundaries right off and she did get

that. Talked a little about my health which is pretty good, but she ended up

talking about herself for the most part as usual. She is 88 and will be 89 in

October.

> The nurse or somebody came to get her to get her hair done and she just hung

up. Said to call again.

> I got the bill collectors to quit calling me about six months ago. She says

she has no bills. How they got my unlisted # is beyond me. She also said that

someone else on my dad's side keeps calling her there and wonders about me but

she tells them that she has no children.

> My nada said herself that everything is gone. She agreed to keep things light.

> My cousin is taking good care of her. I had to back off for me and take care

of myself. I have learned so much from these lists in 13 years that I cannot

express in words my thanks to Randi.

> Just thought I'd report in. I always come to the group with every contact I

make with her. It's so stressful at times and my doctors are hovering over me to

not have a 3rd stroke. She caused the second one and she knows it.

> Hope you all are doing well. I think of you all as I read the lists every

morning.

> ((((((((KOs))))))))

> (((((Rita)))))))) I always give myself a hug. I deserve it.

>

> Rita

>

> " And she'll have fun, fun, fun 'till her daddy takes the keyboard away. "

>

September 1, 2011

YAY! Love it!

> >

> > Ye other KOs,

> > I'm a 60-year-old oldtimer. I've been on the list since '98 without a break.

I've been NC with nada for over 4 years because of horrible, horrible verbally

abusive things nada said to me.

> > I'm writing today because this group is my lifeline. I called my aunt and

uncle last night because we didn't know where nada was because she had been so

abusive with me and I left the relationshit. They don't understand as you KOs do

and my therapissant. I've known she is in a care center for over a year but last

time I called a year ago she wouldn't give me her number after going through the

nurses station and hung up on me. (She is also dx'ed as paranoid by another

psychiatrist).

> > Today I called and she did remember me but she doesn't remember that I

married 38 years ago, my last name, my husband's name or much else. She was

taken by ambulence a year ago to the center and her apartment belongings were

all rescued by my cousin and aunt and uncle who are storing everything. (My aunt

and uncle are 91). She doesn't have much of value but as she said, it's her

stuff. And I agree, I would want my things safe.

> > She does sound a little more docile. Set boundaries right off and she did

get that. Talked a little about my health which is pretty good, but she ended up

talking about herself for the most part as usual. She is 88 and will be 89 in

October.

> > The nurse or somebody came to get her to get her hair done and she just hung

up. Said to call again.

> > I got the bill collectors to quit calling me about six months ago. She says

she has no bills. How they got my unlisted # is beyond me. She also said that

someone else on my dad's side keeps calling her there and wonders about me but

she tells them that she has no children.

> > My nada said herself that everything is gone. She agreed to keep things

light.

> > My cousin is taking good care of her. I had to back off for me and take care

of myself. I have learned so much from these lists in 13 years that I cannot

express in words my thanks to Randi.

> > Just thought I'd report in. I always come to the group with every contact I

make with her. It's so stressful at times and my doctors are hovering over me to

not have a 3rd stroke. She caused the second one and she knows it.

> > Hope you all are doing well. I think of you all as I read the lists every

morning.

> > ((((((((KOs))))))))

> > (((((Rita)))))))) I always give myself a hug. I deserve it.

> >

> > Rita

> >

> > " And she'll have fun, fun, fun 'till her daddy takes the keyboard away. "

> >

September 1, 2011

Yes, I feel this group is my lifeline too! You guys are marvelous!

And yes, relationshit is HILLARIOUS.

My Dad tried to pull a fast one on me yesterday. He said on the phone: " your

mother wants to talk to you now. " I said: " Dad, it doesn't work that way. " He

said: " you serious? Just talk to her. " I said: " no. " then he hung up. I'm NC,

and my Dad doesn't seem to get it. You all get it, and it means the world to

me. My husband tries to get it, but I don't think he really does either, his Mom

is the type who does everything for her kids, even though they are all adults.

You are my lifeline too. And RANDI, we LOVE you for starting this.

N

> YAY! Love it!

>

> > >

> > > Ye other KOs,

> > > I'm a 60-year-old oldtimer. I've been on the list since '98 without a

break. I've been NC with nada for over 4 years because of horrible, horrible

verbally abusive things nada said to me.

> > > I'm writing today because this group is my lifeline. I called my aunt and

uncle last night because we didn't know where nada was because she had been so

abusive with me and I left the relationshit. They don't understand as you KOs do

and my therapissant. I've known she is in a care center for over a year but last

time I called a year ago she wouldn't give me her number after going through the

nurses station and hung up on me. (She is also dx'ed as paranoid by another

psychiatrist).

> > > Today I called and she did remember me but she doesn't remember that I

married 38 years ago, my last name, my husband's name or much else. She was

taken by ambulence a year ago to the center and her apartment belongings were

all rescued by my cousin and aunt and uncle who are storing everything. (My aunt

and uncle are 91). She doesn't have much of value but as she said, it's her

stuff. And I agree, I would want my things safe.

> > > She does sound a little more docile. Set boundaries right off and she did

get that. Talked a little about my health which is pretty good, but she ended up

talking about herself for the most part as usual. She is 88 and will be 89 in

October.

> > > The nurse or somebody came to get her to get her hair done and she just

hung up. Said to call again.

> > > I got the bill collectors to quit calling me about six months ago. She

says she has no bills. How they got my unlisted # is beyond me. She also said

that someone else on my dad's side keeps calling her there and wonders about me

but she tells them that she has no children.

> > > My nada said herself that everything is gone. She agreed to keep things

light.

> > > My cousin is taking good care of her. I had to back off for me and take

care of myself. I have learned so much from these lists in 13 years that I

cannot express in words my thanks to Randi.

> > > Just thought I'd report in. I always come to the group with every contact

I make with her. It's so stressful at times and my doctors are hovering over me

to not have a 3rd stroke. She caused the second one and she knows it.

> > > Hope you all are doing well. I think of you all as I read the lists every

morning.

> > > ((((((((KOs))))))))

> > > (((((Rita)))))))) I always give myself a hug. I deserve it.

> > >

> > > Rita

> > >

> > > " And she'll have fun, fun, fun 'till her daddy takes the keyboard away. "

> > >

September 1, 2011

I loooove the term, " relationshit " . LOVE!

My hubby doesn't get it either. I told him today that I'm going back to

counselling and he said, " For what? " *sigh* " Mom stuff... " I said. He tries to

get it, I think...it's just so hard to relate to when you have two normal,

loving and fully functioning parents. I get ya there!

SO glad to have found this forum!

> > > >

> > > > Ye other KOs,

> > > > I'm a 60-year-old oldtimer. I've been on the list since '98 without a

break. I've been NC with nada for over 4 years because of horrible, horrible

verbally abusive things nada said to me.

> > > > I'm writing today because this group is my lifeline. I called my aunt

and uncle last night because we didn't know where nada was because she had been

so abusive with me and I left the relationshit. They don't understand as you KOs

do and my therapissant. I've known she is in a care center for over a year but

last time I called a year ago she wouldn't give me her number after going

through the nurses station and hung up on me. (She is also dx'ed as paranoid by

another psychiatrist).

> > > > Today I called and she did remember me but she doesn't remember that I

married 38 years ago, my last name, my husband's name or much else. She was

taken by ambulence a year ago to the center and her apartment belongings were

all rescued by my cousin and aunt and uncle who are storing everything. (My aunt

and uncle are 91). She doesn't have much of value but as she said, it's her

stuff. And I agree, I would want my things safe.

> > > > She does sound a little more docile. Set boundaries right off and she

did get that. Talked a little about my health which is pretty good, but she

ended up talking about herself for the most part as usual. She is 88 and will be

89 in October.

> > > > The nurse or somebody came to get her to get her hair done and she just

hung up. Said to call again.

> > > > I got the bill collectors to quit calling me about six months ago. She

says she has no bills. How they got my unlisted # is beyond me. She also said

that someone else on my dad's side keeps calling her there and wonders about me

but she tells them that she has no children.

> > > > My nada said herself that everything is gone. She agreed to keep things

light.

> > > > My cousin is taking good care of her. I had to back off for me and take

care of myself. I have learned so much from these lists in 13 years that I

cannot express in words my thanks to Randi.

> > > > Just thought I'd report in. I always come to the group with every

contact I make with her. It's so stressful at times and my doctors are hovering

over me to not have a 3rd stroke. She caused the second one and she knows it.

> > > > Hope you all are doing well. I think of you all as I read the lists

every morning.

> > > > ((((((((KOs))))))))

> > > > (((((Rita)))))))) I always give myself a hug. I deserve it.

> > > >

> > > > Rita

> > > >

> > > > " And she'll have fun, fun, fun 'till her daddy takes the keyboard away. "

> > > >

September 1, 2011

May I offer everyone here a high-five of solidarity, hooray for therapy, and may

the force be with us? Take good care all.

> > > > >

> > > > > Ye other KOs,

> > > > > I'm a 60-year-old oldtimer. I've been on the list since '98 without a

break. I've been NC with nada for over 4 years because of horrible, horrible

verbally abusive things nada said to me.

> > > > > I'm writing today because this group is my lifeline. I called my aunt

and uncle last night because we didn't know where nada was because she had been

so abusive with me and I left the relationshit. They don't understand as you KOs

do and my therapissant. I've known she is in a care center for over a year but

last time I called a year ago she wouldn't give me her number after going

through the nurses station and hung up on me. (She is also dx'ed as paranoid by

another psychiatrist).

> > > > > Today I called and she did remember me but she doesn't remember that I

married 38 years ago, my last name, my husband's name or much else. She was

taken by ambulence a year ago to the center and her apartment belongings were

all rescued by my cousin and aunt and uncle who are storing everything. (My aunt

and uncle are 91). She doesn't have much of value but as she said, it's her

stuff. And I agree, I would want my things safe.

> > > > > She does sound a little more docile. Set boundaries right off and she

did get that. Talked a little about my health which is pretty good, but she

ended up talking about herself for the most part as usual. She is 88 and will be

89 in October.

> > > > > The nurse or somebody came to get her to get her hair done and she

just hung up. Said to call again.

> > > > > I got the bill collectors to quit calling me about six months ago. She

says she has no bills. How they got my unlisted # is beyond me. She also said

that someone else on my dad's side keeps calling her there and wonders about me

but she tells them that she has no children.

> > > > > My nada said herself that everything is gone. She agreed to keep

things light.

> > > > > My cousin is taking good care of her. I had to back off for me and

take care of myself. I have learned so much from these lists in 13 years that I

cannot express in words my thanks to Randi.

> > > > > Just thought I'd report in. I always come to the group with every

contact I make with her. It's so stressful at times and my doctors are hovering

over me to not have a 3rd stroke. She caused the second one and she knows it.

> > > > > Hope you all are doing well. I think of you all as I read the lists

every morning.

> > > > > ((((((((KOs))))))))

> > > > > (((((Rita)))))))) I always give myself a hug. I deserve it.

> > > > >

> > > > > Rita

> > > > >

> > > > > " And she'll have fun, fun, fun 'till her daddy takes the keyboard

away. "

> > > > >

September 1, 2011

and the word " therapissant? "

> **

>

> May I offer everyone here a high-five of solidarity, hooray for therapy,

> and may the force be with us? Take good care all.

>

> > > > > >

> > > > > > Ye other KOs,

> > > > > > I'm a 60-year-old oldtimer. I've been on the list since '98

> without a break. I've been NC with nada for over 4 years because of

> horrible, horrible verbally abusive things nada said to me.

> > > > > > I'm writing today because this group is my lifeline. I called my

> aunt and uncle last night because we didn't know where nada was because she

> had been so abusive with me and I left the relationshit. They don't

> understand as you KOs do and my therapissant. I've known she is in a care

> center for over a year but last time I called a year ago she wouldn't give

> me her number after going through the nurses station and hung up on me. (She

> is also dx'ed as paranoid by another psychiatrist).

> > > > > > Today I called and she did remember me but she doesn't remember

> that I married 38 years ago, my last name, my husband's name or much else.

> She was taken by ambulence a year ago to the center and her apartment

> belongings were all rescued by my cousin and aunt and uncle who are storing

> everything. (My aunt and uncle are 91). She doesn't have much of value but

> as she said, it's her stuff. And I agree, I would want my things safe.

> > > > > > She does sound a little more docile. Set boundaries right off and

> she did get that. Talked a little about my health which is pretty good, but

> she ended up talking about herself for the most part as usual. She is 88 and

> will be 89 in October.

> > > > > > The nurse or somebody came to get her to get her hair done and

> she just hung up. Said to call again.

> > > > > > I got the bill collectors to quit calling me about six months

> ago. She says she has no bills. How they got my unlisted # is beyond me. She

> also said that someone else on my dad's side keeps calling her there and

> wonders about me but she tells them that she has no children.

> > > > > > My nada said herself that everything is gone. She agreed to keep

> things light.

> > > > > > My cousin is taking good care of her. I had to back off for me

> and take care of myself. I have learned so much from these lists in 13 years

> that I cannot express in words my thanks to Randi.

> > > > > > Just thought I'd report in. I always come to the group with every

> contact I make with her. It's so stressful at times and my doctors are

> hovering over me to not have a 3rd stroke. She caused the second one and she

> knows it.

> > > > > > Hope you all are doing well. I think of you all as I read the

> lists every morning.

> > > > > > ((((((((KOs))))))))

> > > > > > (((((Rita)))))))) I always give myself a hug. I deserve it.

> > > > > >

> > > > > > Rita

> > > > > >

> > > > > > " And she'll have fun, fun, fun 'till her daddy takes the keyboard

> away. "

> > > > > >

September 2, 2011

Ye other KOs,

I coined the word " therapissant' also about 1994.

Rita

" And she'll have fun, fun, fun 'till her daddy takes the keyboard away. "

Re: Re: From NC to LC today

and the word " therapissant? "

> **

May I offer everyone here a high-five of solidarity, hooray for therapy,

and may the force be with us? Take good care all.

> > > > >

> > > > > Ye other KOs,

> > > > > I'm a 60-year-old oldtimer. I've been on the list since '98

without a break. I've been NC with nada for over 4 years because of

horrible, horrible verbally abusive things nada said to me.

> > > > > I'm writing today because this group is my lifeline. I called my

aunt and uncle last night because we didn't know where nada was because she

had been so abusive with me and I left the relationshit. They don't

understand as you KOs do and my therapissant. I've known she is in a care

center for over a year but last time I called a year ago she wouldn't give

me her number after going through the nurses station and hung up on me. (She

is also dx'ed as paranoid by another psychiatrist).

> > > > > Today I called and she did remember me but she doesn't remember

that I married 38 years ago, my last name, my husband's name or much else.

She was taken by ambulence a year ago to the center and her apartment

belongings were all rescued by my cousin and aunt and uncle who are storing

everything. (My aunt and uncle are 91). She doesn't have much of value but

as she said, it's her stuff. And I agree, I would want my things safe.

> > > > > She does sound a little more docile. Set boundaries right off and

she did get that. Talked a little about my health which is pretty good, but

she ended up talking about herself for the most part as usual. She is 88 and

will be 89 in October.

> > > > > The nurse or somebody came to get her to get her hair done and

she just hung up. Said to call again.

> > > > > I got the bill collectors to quit calling me about six months

ago. She says she has no bills. How they got my unlisted # is beyond me. She

also said that someone else on my dad's side keeps calling her there and

wonders about me but she tells them that she has no children.

> > > > > My nada said herself that everything is gone. She agreed to keep

things light.

> > > > > My cousin is taking good care of her. I had to back off for me

and take care of myself. I have learned so much from these lists in 13 years

that I cannot express in words my thanks to Randi.

> > > > > Just thought I'd report in. I always come to the group with every

contact I make with her. It's so stressful at times and my doctors are

hovering over me to not have a 3rd stroke. She caused the second one and she

knows it.

> > > > > Hope you all are doing well. I think of you all as I read the

lists every morning.

> > > > > ((((((((KOs))))))))

> > > > > (((((Rita)))))))) I always give myself a hug. I deserve it.

> > > > >

> > > > > Rita

> > > > >

> > > > > " And she'll have fun, fun, fun 'till her daddy takes the keyboard

away. "

> > > > >

September 3, 2011

Funny. I'm so used to typos that they didn't even register. I just read thru and

omit them without realizing.