Re: Bls: askin for support with DCF

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Yes Alberta I am gathering as much letters as i possibly can ...then I plan on going with my therapist to the supervisor and explain how dangerous it would be to bring back his father since both of us were diagnosed with PTSD in result of the abuse we both went thru.

It is good advice Alberta and one I am taking...i am writing to the media to anyone that can help me..

I think when this is all over I may be talking in tongues on the group. the rage I am feeling is beyond what I can describe. Fanny if you wanted to write a letter first name only that just stated how being stressed at times as an autism mom does not affect your ability to care for your child..and send it to me offlist..no adress anything like that Im not looking to bring anyone down with me.

channa

To: "mb12valtrex " <mb12valtrex >Sent: Tuesday, November 15, 2011 5:09 AMSubject: Bls: askin for support with DCF

Anything we can do to make this lighter on you? what was the letter that you were mentioning below?

I'm definitely highstrung but I definitely still care for my children at the same time.

SHE's the one acting highstrung and too concerned about this thing. and I bet she doesn't even know a S*** about raising a special needs child.

Dari: Alberta Kepada: mb12valtrex Dikirim: Selasa, 15 November 2011 17:00Judul: Re: askin for support with DCF

Those fuckers! That's so warped about bringing his father back...Sorry, channa, that social worker sounds like she has in for you. She sounds like a few bitch people that I've had contact with -- like a public speech therapist that we had a long time ago and this early intervention specialist who said that there was something "wrong" because my 2.5 y.o. couldn't dress herself -- yeah, no shit, she has motor planning problems and global apraxia -- and her way of "helping" us was to print off this stupid fucking developmental checklist and coming over and saying that we should do everything that's on this list. Um, if we could do those things, then I wouldn't have sought an autism diagnosis, would I? Seriously, some of these people are these haughty taughty jerks who are serious psychopaths. I think this woman that you're dealing with is a psychopath. There was this one speech therapist that we had from

our public speech services and this a-hole said, "What kind of mother doesn't have a kleenex in her purse with two kids." Dude, seriously, I had a 2.5 y.o. and a 6 month old who wasn't walking yet and I forgot to put some washcloths in my purse to wipe their noses. And then because Maia really liked the reinforcer that was used in the session, the speech therapist accused me of not feeding her breakfast because I was "trying to save some money." WTF? I swear, Maia went there after eating a very full breakfast. I could see where it was going.IThis is totally harassment. She's using her position (role of authority) to abuse people. Chances are that if she's doing this to you, she's doing this to other people, too. She sees that you don't have an adequate support network of people around you (family, friends) and sees you as a target that she can bully and using your son as a type of social

hostage. Not cool at all. If your son's school is on your side, you should enlist the help of a liaison through the school system to talk to her office (not her). It might even be more effective if you can get your son's principal to call her supervisor or her supervisor's boss. Then, she's aware that other people are aware of it. Abusers (and that social worker does sound like she's an abuser) like to isolate their victims or tend to target victims that are socially isolated. The more people that are involved, the less likely they'll be to get involved. That horrible first speech therapist (who was terrible at what she did, btw) Maia had was like that and the more people that got involved, the less involved she wanted to be in the situation until so many people were involved (with behavior consultants, assessment teams, etc) that she transferred our services to come from another part of the

agency. These abuser types know what they are and they're afraid of being outed. After what happened with that first speech therapist (and having her insinuate that I'm neglectful), I learned to get LOTS of people involved with both my children. I put them in lots of public and private (when we can afford it) programs. We're involved and I get the names of at least five individuals from different public agencies that we come into contact with and more people from private agencies that we're involved with. I have a list of at least 30 people that we're involved with at this point, not even including medical professionals. The more names that they see, I find the less likely that abusive types will want to be involved with you. The minute that someone tries to be an asshole to me, I give their boss the names of about 20 people they'd be able to call and you'd be surprised how fast the abusive types back

off. I carry a stack of everyone's business cards in my wallet.

I am in a very desperate situation...I can barely type my hands are shaking so bad....if anyone feels comfortable in writing a letter to me offline describing how being an autism mom has made them more highstrung and nervous but not interfered with there ability to care for there child...and if any one can state their house gets really messy and dirty at times that would be a plus too...the social worker is going ahead with the case despite no report of neglect or abuse....she says she believes I am too high strung and is concerned with this..also she found some things on my floor which she considers unsafe for an autism kid....leggo piece? the worst is here in good old mass they have started a program called father intitiave..so they want to bring my sons father back into our lives that beat the crap out of me my whole pregnency and while my son was in my arms. YAY! good call DCF!anyways any and all prayers are so so needed my sons

future is at stake..channa