Re: BP abuse as a wound (was BP abuse and the self)

[Guest guest]

I think that a metaphor might help to enlighten this discussion: Cluster Bs are

like predators, and they inflict wounds. I hold this opinion very strongly, and

it's formed after about 8 years of studying and researching living as a KO. As

predators, it is in their *nature to wound, and to do so by any means necessary.

That they believe they are NOT wounding, that they are able to 'mask' it with

smoke and mirrors, that they may have conflicting, kinder impulses--to me that

is all irrelevant. These are actual wounds we're talking about--sometimes

psychological, sometimes actually physical. We deserve to locate and heal from

these wounds, without pressure to believe that they were not actually inflicted

by another, and don't actually exist.

--Charlie

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> > > Not saying I will; just thinking out loud. It would be hard. Would the

> > benefit be worth the struggle. I can say that my work with my step-mother

> > has been rewarding. I am glad for the chance to make peace with her.

> > However, my mother is a whole entirely different level of BP abuse and

> > dysfunction. Again, just thinking out loud.

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> > Yeah, I could see it that being able to be in contact but on your terms in

> > a way that keeps you safe but is real and honest would be very empowering

> > and healing. I'm glad this is working for you with your step-mother. I'd

> > think that a certain minimum level of mental health would have to be there

> > though for the BPDM

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> > Eliza

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