Insecure attachment...treatment?

[Guest guest]

After many many years of being silent I finally went to speak to a professional

today and besides emotional abuse/neglect, enmeshment, hindered development, a

histrionic/needy mother, a mentionwas made of insecure attachment to both

parents due to chaos as well as isolation, self-confidence and more. (I was

unable to grasp the idea of a safe person). I was wondering if anyone knows what

the treatment is for insecure attachment, is there a concept of recovery, and is

there anything I can read to help me understand?

Lavender

[Guest guest]

Lavender,

Congratulations to you on going to counseling. It is a huge step and a great

gift to yourself. I don't have an answer for you about an appropriate book

resource, but I imagine your counselor would.

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> After many many years of being silent I finally went to speak to a

professional

> today and besides emotional abuse/neglect, enmeshment, hindered development, a

histrionic/needy mother, a mentionwas made of insecure attachment to both

parents due to chaos as well as isolation, self-confidence and more. (I was

unable to grasp the idea of a safe person). I was wondering if anyone knows what

the treatment is for insecure attachment, is there a concept of recovery, and is

there anything I can read to help me understand?

>

> Lavender

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[Guest guest]

There are a lot of different books out there, but you can also get a lot of info

just searching the internet. Libraries are also free and will have scores of

books on the subject.

Insecure attachment is complex, but simple at the same time. Your attachments

were inconsistent as a child, leaving you confused as to how or if your needs

were going to be met. Normal families love each other regardless (unconditional

love and regard for each other).

In your family, love was likely conditional; if you were good you were made to

feel a part of, if you made a mistake you where rejected on some level.

There are a variety of treatment options, depending on your therapist's style.

Ask your therapist if he will be using a specific model in therapy and ask if it

would help for you to do some reading about it. Sometimes it is best for the

patient not to worry about these specifics and just focus on developing the

therapeutic relationship. Sometimes too much knowledge hampers the process.

This was certainly the case for me; I had way too much knowledge. It took a

while for me to learn to just turn it off and focus on the therapeutic

relationship.

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> After many many years of being silent I finally went to speak to a

professional

> today and besides emotional abuse/neglect, enmeshment, hindered development, a

histrionic/needy mother, a mentionwas made of insecure attachment to both

parents due to chaos as well as isolation, self-confidence and more. (I was

unable to grasp the idea of a safe person). I was wondering if anyone knows what

the treatment is for insecure attachment, is there a concept of recovery, and is

there anything I can read to help me understand?

>

> Lavender

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[Guest guest]

My T would say, don't get hung up on the label. look into it, think about

it, and then keep your eye on the next challenge. Don't label yourself - its

not necessary. That's my T's take, if it helps

Good luck and great job!!!

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> There are a lot of different books out there, but you can also get a lot of

> info just searching the internet. Libraries are also free and will have

> scores of books on the subject.

>

> Insecure attachment is complex, but simple at the same time. Your

> attachments were inconsistent as a child, leaving you confused as to how or

> if your needs were going to be met. Normal families love each other

> regardless (unconditional love and regard for each other).

> In your family, love was likely conditional; if you were good you were made

> to feel a part of, if you made a mistake you where rejected on some level.

>

> There are a variety of treatment options, depending on your therapist's

> style. Ask your therapist if he will be using a specific model in therapy

> and ask if it would help for you to do some reading about it. Sometimes it

> is best for the patient not to worry about these specifics and just focus on

> developing the therapeutic relationship. Sometimes too much knowledge

> hampers the process. This was certainly the case for me; I had way too much

> knowledge. It took a while for me to learn to just turn it off and focus on

> the therapeutic relationship.

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> > After many many years of being silent I finally went to speak to a

> professional

> > today and besides emotional abuse/neglect, enmeshment, hindered

> development, a histrionic/needy mother, a mentionwas made of insecure

> attachment to both parents due to chaos as well as isolation,

> self-confidence and more. (I was unable to grasp the idea of a safe person).

> I was wondering if anyone knows what the treatment is for insecure

> attachment, is there a concept of recovery, and is there anything I can read

> to help me understand?

> >

> > Lavender

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