Recovering from Nada etc: Sharing the Positive

[Guest guest]

I'm writing this evening to share something I've done that has helped me

tremendously.

My mother seems to be half BPD and half NPD, and my father, who died this past

May, was Definitely NPD. Long story short, I grew up as the oldest of 4 kids,

with an incredible amount of every abuse imaginable.

I was NC with nada for 11 years- it just kind of evolved. She was nasty to my

then 5 yr old daughter when we visited. I was livid; it's one thing to treat Me

badly, but to treat my Child badly- WHOA!!!! When I got home I decided not to

call her, just to see how long it would be before she called me. 11 years later

it was my then 17 yr old daughter who reestablished LC. That was 17 years ago. I

can count on my fingers the times I'm visited or talked on the phone to nada in

those 17 years.

Around the time my father died, I became aware that there are names for these

disorders, joined this group, and got back into therapy. Part of the therapy has

been a form of neurofeedback called LENS. I had 24 sessions over 4 months, and I

am so happy to report that my (complex) PTSD has been resolved!!

I'm sleeping at night, no more nightmares (waking up screaming because someone

is chasing me, or I have been locked in a small room with no way out), I'm not

overreacting to anything/everything, I have energy to live my life, I can see

alternative solutions to life's challenges - I have the ability to remember a

situation from my childhood and see it in real terms, mostly, " that was crazy

and abusive! "

Such liberation!

I wonder if others could/would experience the same kinds of results?

[Guest guest]

My Sister said she did some kind of neural-feedback therapy when she was seeing

her psychologist, in addition to talk therapy. If I'm remembering correctly,

Sister said it involved being hooked up to a machine that read her brain waves,

and she had to try to make her brain waves match some relaxing brain waves or

something. Is that sounding like what you did? She said it helped her.

-Annie

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> I'm writing this evening to share something I've done that has helped me

tremendously.

>

> My mother seems to be half BPD and half NPD, and my father, who died this past

May, was Definitely NPD. Long story short, I grew up as the oldest of 4 kids,

with an incredible amount of every abuse imaginable.

>

> I was NC with nada for 11 years- it just kind of evolved. She was nasty to my

then 5 yr old daughter when we visited. I was livid; it's one thing to treat Me

badly, but to treat my Child badly- WHOA!!!! When I got home I decided not to

call her, just to see how long it would be before she called me. 11 years later

it was my then 17 yr old daughter who reestablished LC. That was 17 years ago. I

can count on my fingers the times I'm visited or talked on the phone to nada in

those 17 years.

>

> Around the time my father died, I became aware that there are names for these

disorders, joined this group, and got back into therapy. Part of the therapy has

been a form of neurofeedback called LENS. I had 24 sessions over 4 months, and I

am so happy to report that my (complex) PTSD has been resolved!!

>

> I'm sleeping at night, no more nightmares (waking up screaming because someone

is chasing me, or I have been locked in a small room with no way out), I'm not

overreacting to anything/everything, I have energy to live my life, I can see

alternative solutions to life's challenges - I have the ability to remember a

situation from my childhood and see it in real terms, mostly, " that was crazy

and abusive! "

>

> Such liberation!

> I wonder if others could/would experience the same kinds of results?

>

[Guest guest]

Thanks for sharing with us about this - could you share a little about how it

works? Does the neurofeedback involve therapy or is it kind of a physiological

thing?

Eliza

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> I'm writing this evening to share something I've done that has helped me

tremendously.

>

> My mother seems to be half BPD and half NPD, and my father, who died this past

May, was Definitely NPD. Long story short, I grew up as the oldest of 4 kids,

with an incredible amount of every abuse imaginable.

>

> I was NC with nada for 11 years- it just kind of evolved. She was nasty to my

then 5 yr old daughter when we visited. I was livid; it's one thing to treat Me

badly, but to treat my Child badly- WHOA!!!! When I got home I decided not to

call her, just to see how long it would be before she called me. 11 years later

it was my then 17 yr old daughter who reestablished LC. That was 17 years ago. I

can count on my fingers the times I'm visited or talked on the phone to nada in

those 17 years.

>

> Around the time my father died, I became aware that there are names for these

disorders, joined this group, and got back into therapy. Part of the therapy has

been a form of neurofeedback called LENS. I had 24 sessions over 4 months, and I

am so happy to report that my (complex) PTSD has been resolved!!

>

> I'm sleeping at night, no more nightmares (waking up screaming because someone

is chasing me, or I have been locked in a small room with no way out), I'm not

overreacting to anything/everything, I have energy to live my life, I can see

alternative solutions to life's challenges - I have the ability to remember a

situation from my childhood and see it in real terms, mostly, " that was crazy

and abusive! "

>

> Such liberation!

> I wonder if others could/would experience the same kinds of results?

>

[Guest guest]

I also have been free from nightmares and have gained more control over

my reactions to things. However, my memory of my childhood still eludes me, for

the most part.

In your statement below, are you saying that you have gained memories of your

childhood that once were unavailable to you? What I am talking about is, those

of us with CPTSD often can't remember our childhood, except for snap-shots here

and there. We can't remember what happened on any particular date, just a

general sense of things that happened on a regular basis, good or bad. We

basically dissociated from reality as children, in order to survive. Have you

been able to reverse this through therapy?

....I'm sleeping at night, no more nightmares (waking up screaming because

someone is chasing me, or I have been locked in a small room with no way out),

I'm not overreacting to anything/everything, I have energy to live my life, I

can see alternative solutions to life's challenges - I have the ability to

remember a situation from my childhood and see it in real terms, mostly, " that

was crazy and abusive! "

[Guest guest]

I'd love to hear more too!

Cheers,

Sara

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> ...I'm sleeping at night, no more nightmares (waking up screaming because

someone is chasing me, or I have been locked in a small room with no way out),

I'm not overreacting to anything/everything, I have energy to live my life, I

can see alternative solutions to life's challenges - I have the ability to

remember a situation from my childhood and see it in real terms, mostly, " that

was crazy and abusive! "

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