Suggestions for finding a therapist for myself?

[Guest guest]

I am 53 and am just now coming to terms with the fact that my mother has BPD.

In fact I had never heard the term before my cousin, a therapist, mentioned it

to me a few weeks ago. Have now read several books and realize why I have so

many issues. Now I want to make changes in my life but it all seems so

overwhelming. Most importantly, I need to know how to respond to my mother when

she acts the way she does, or how to even recognize the manipulation before I

get sucked in. After over 50 years of responding one way, it's not going to be

easy to change but, I need to! So I feel like I need a good therapist that is

familiar with BPD. I found one on this site who is in my area, but feel I

should interview more than one. Does anyone know of any other sites?

Thanks so much!

[Guest guest]

Group, I am kind of new to this group. However, we seem to get this particular

question a lot; every time we get it we answer it basically the same way. For a

question that gets asked with such frequency, what do you think about creating a

file or a group of files on the subject. Maybe one file with resources for

finding a therapist with specific skills in any particular area. Another file

with suggestions on selecting a therapist, and maybe another file explaining the

process of therapy that gives members a " general " idea of what to expect. Maybe

a few members would be ok with their therapy story being in the files for

members to read.

We have got this question at least three times in the last 5 days. Maybe we

could come up with a standardized way of answering this very important question.

Therapy seems to be a popular topic for us KOs.

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> I am 53 and am just now coming to terms with the fact that my mother has BPD.

In fact I had never heard the term before my cousin, a therapist, mentioned it

to me a few weeks ago. Have now read several books and realize why I have so

many issues. Now I want to make changes in my life but it all seems so

overwhelming. Most importantly, I need to know how to respond to my mother when

she acts the way she does, or how to even recognize the manipulation before I

get sucked in. After over 50 years of responding one way, it's not going to be

easy to change but, I need to! So I feel like I need a good therapist that is

familiar with BPD. I found one on this site who is in my area, but feel I

should interview more than one. Does anyone know of any other sites?

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> Thanks so much!

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[Guest guest]

Its true, very similar questions and topics do come up over and over again, but

that's the nature of this support group: there are always new members coming and

going. Each time someone asks, its a way to get to know them and give them

personal feedback. I guess I don't mind it when similar questions and topics

come up.

-Annie

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> > I am 53 and am just now coming to terms with the fact that my mother has

BPD. In fact I had never heard the term before my cousin, a therapist,

mentioned it to me a few weeks ago. Have now read several books and realize why

I have so many issues. Now I want to make changes in my life but it all seems

so overwhelming. Most importantly, I need to know how to respond to my mother

when she acts the way she does, or how to even recognize the manipulation before

I get sucked in. After over 50 years of responding one way, it's not going to

be easy to change but, I need to! So I feel like I need a good therapist that

is familiar with BPD. I found one on this site who is in my area, but feel I

should interview more than one. Does anyone know of any other sites?

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> > Thanks so much!

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[Guest guest]

There goes my perfect plan of volunteering you for the project.

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> > > I am 53 and am just now coming to terms with the fact that my mother has

BPD. In fact I had never heard the term before my cousin, a therapist,

mentioned it to me a few weeks ago. Have now read several books and realize why

I have so many issues. Now I want to make changes in my life but it all seems

so overwhelming. Most importantly, I need to know how to respond to my mother

when she acts the way she does, or how to even recognize the manipulation before

I get sucked in. After over 50 years of responding one way, it's not going to

be easy to change but, I need to! So I feel like I need a good therapist that

is familiar with BPD. I found one on this site who is in my area, but feel I

should interview more than one. Does anyone know of any other sites?

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> > > Thanks so much!

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[Guest guest]

I think its friendlier and more democratic for all the members to share in

greeting new members and answering the newbie questions, don't you?

-Annie

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> > > > I am 53 and am just now coming to terms with the fact that my mother has

BPD. In fact I had never heard the term before my cousin, a therapist,

mentioned it to me a few weeks ago. Have now read several books and realize why

I have so many issues. Now I want to make changes in my life but it all seems

so overwhelming. Most importantly, I need to know how to respond to my mother

when she acts the way she does, or how to even recognize the manipulation before

I get sucked in. After over 50 years of responding one way, it's not going to

be easy to change but, I need to! So I feel like I need a good therapist that

is familiar with BPD. I found one on this site who is in my area, but feel I

should interview more than one. Does anyone know of any other sites?

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> > > > Thanks so much!

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[Guest guest]

You are right; I was just kidding. You attitude about this is good. I was only

presenting an idea to the group. A person is probably more likely to try

therapy if they get that personal touch. They will probably be more likely to

participate in our discussions. If we " can " it, it will have less impact. I

totally agree.

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> > > > > I am 53 and am just now coming to terms with the fact that my mother

has BPD. In fact I had never heard the term before my cousin, a therapist,

mentioned it to me a few weeks ago. Have now read several books and realize why

I have so many issues. Now I want to make changes in my life but it all seems

so overwhelming. Most importantly, I need to know how to respond to my mother

when she acts the way she does, or how to even recognize the manipulation before

I get sucked in. After over 50 years of responding one way, it's not going to

be easy to change but, I need to! So I feel like I need a good therapist that

is familiar with BPD. I found one on this site who is in my area, but feel I

should interview more than one. Does anyone know of any other sites?

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> > > > > Thanks so much!

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[Guest guest]

Lol! That's cool. I agree with you in that I wish there was a way to create

and add files to the files section of this Group, for articles and sites we

refer to often. If that were possible, I'd create a file for the short article

about the " Medium Chill " technique.

In lieu of a file, you can find the article about " Medium Chill " at post

#132289.

-Annie

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> > > > > > I am 53 and am just now coming to terms with the fact that my mother

has BPD. In fact I had never heard the term before my cousin, a therapist,

mentioned it to me a few weeks ago. Have now read several books and realize why

I have so many issues. Now I want to make changes in my life but it all seems

so overwhelming. Most importantly, I need to know how to respond to my mother

when she acts the way she does, or how to even recognize the manipulation before

I get sucked in. After over 50 years of responding one way, it's not going to

be easy to change but, I need to! So I feel like I need a good therapist that

is familiar with BPD. I found one on this site who is in my area, but feel I

should interview more than one. Does anyone know of any other sites?

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> > > > > > Thanks so much!

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[Guest guest]

I wanted to say thank-you to both of you…

I really get the idea about having some pages about therapy; finding a therapist

etc. and it would be helpful - a good idea. Also as someone who has to go

through forums for work in the IT field I *know* how frustrating it is to have

the same topic again and again and quick questions.

I'm also really, really grateful for Annie's reaching out. I saw something you

wrote Annie about the difficult process where emotions are about to break into

the consciousness and I'm right at that point now. I don't understand the

longish list of issues I was given on Monday or even how therapy helps. I also

have been *so* un-listened to at home, at work, etc. that a part of me is crying

out to be acknowledged rather than the DIY I've been doing for years. Just to

have responses to the regular topics does help connect.

[Guest guest]

the moderator can add files. Just email her the file you want added and

explain how often we use it. Her email is:

WTOAdultChildren1-owner

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> > > > > > > I am 53 and am just now coming to terms with the fact that my

mother has BPD. In fact I had never heard the term before my cousin, a

therapist, mentioned it to me a few weeks ago. Have now read several books and

realize why I have so many issues. Now I want to make changes in my life but it

all seems so overwhelming. Most importantly, I need to know how to respond to

my mother when she acts the way she does, or how to even recognize the

manipulation before I get sucked in. After over 50 years of responding one way,

it's not going to be easy to change but, I need to! So I feel like I need a

good therapist that is familiar with BPD. I found one on this site who is in my

area, but feel I should interview more than one. Does anyone know of any other

sites?

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[Guest guest]

Good idea, I'll see if they'd like to add that article.

-Annie

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> > > > > > > > I am 53 and am just now coming to terms with the fact that my

mother has BPD. In fact I had never heard the term before my cousin, a

therapist, mentioned it to me a few weeks ago. Have now read several books and

realize why I have so many issues. Now I want to make changes in my life but it

all seems so overwhelming. Most importantly, I need to know how to respond to

my mother when she acts the way she does, or how to even recognize the

manipulation before I get sucked in. After over 50 years of responding one way,

it's not going to be easy to change but, I need to! So I feel like I need a

good therapist that is familiar with BPD. I found one on this site who is in my

area, but feel I should interview more than one. Does anyone know of any other

sites?

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[Guest guest]

Oh you guys make me smile sometimes!

I am glad when I get the chance to read a thread to its completion!

3b.

Re: Suggestions for finding a therapist for myself?

Posted by: " pdff_usa " floykoe@... pdff_usa

Wed Sep 7, 2011 8:32 am (PDT)

You are right; I was just kidding. You attitude about this is good. I was only

presenting an idea to the group. A person is probably more likely to try therapy

if they get that personal touch. They will probably be more likely to

participate in our discussions. If we " can " it, it will have less impact. I

totally agree.

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> > > > > I am 53 and am just now coming to terms with the fact that my mother

has BPD. In fact I had never heard the term before my cousin, a therapist,

mentioned it to me a few weeks ago. Have now read several books and realize why

I have so many issues. Now I want to make changes in my life but it all seems so

overwhelming. Most importantly, I need to know how to respond to my mother when

she acts the way she does, or how to even recognize the manipulation before I

get sucked in. After over 50 years of responding one way, it's not going to be

easy to change but, I need to! So I feel like I need a good therapist that is

familiar with BPD. I found one on this site who is in my area, but feel I should

interview more than one. Does anyone know of any other sites?

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> > > > > Thanks so much!

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