New Member - Looking for people to chat to about experiences!

[Guest guest]

Dear Group Members,

I am a young lady with a BPD mother. Have been having CBT for about 5 months now

- the sessions are going to end in about 4 weeks and my therapist and I thought

it a good idea for me to come on here and meet people to chat to as one of the

things that helps a lot is validation of experiences and that includes knowing

that others experience the same sort of things too..

Hope to hear from you soon

Thank you

[Guest guest]

fdr.2011, welcome to the group. Are you ready for therapy to stop? I recently

had to stop due to lack of access. Thus I am taking a break after 4 years of

regular therapy. I feel fortunate to have had access to therapy long enough to

resolve some of my deep hurts and destructive beliefs.

This groups is helping me more than I thought it would. I am kind of addicted

to these guys. They grow on you

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> Dear Group Members,

>

> I am a young lady with a BPD mother. Have been having CBT for about 5 months

now - the sessions are going to end in about 4 weeks and my therapist and I

thought it a good idea for me to come on here and meet people to chat to as one

of the things that helps a lot is validation of experiences and that includes

knowing that others experience the same sort of things too..

>

> Hope to hear from you soon

>

> Thank you

>

[Guest guest]

Welcome - you'll definitely find all of that here.

Read through a few of the posts and I'm sure you'll find plenty of

examples/stories that you can identify with. It's pretty great!

Good luck with your therapy!

K

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> Dear Group Members,

>

> I am a young lady with a BPD mother. Have been having CBT for about 5 months

now - the sessions are going to end in about 4 weeks and my therapist and I

thought it a good idea for me to come on here and meet people to chat to as one

of the things that helps a lot is validation of experiences and that includes

knowing that others experience the same sort of things too..

>

> Hope to hear from you soon

>

> Thank you

>

[Guest guest]

PDFF,

I am 24 and have finally worked out in the last year that my mother doesnt just

have bipolar she more predominantly has BPD.

It it so severe that she has gone through an absolute succession of

relationships and moving house everytime a relationship fails (at least once a

year) - we have moved house 38 times since I can remember!

Anyway this means that NO ONE has stuck around and lived with her for more than

a few years other than MYSELF.

I have watched her emotionally destroy fully grown men time and time again

andmen that I loved as my stepfathers etc (the ones she married). Her

relationships have included two physically abusive men - the abuse i listened to

and observed

and was even involved in as a child.

The loss and abandonment i feel from my stepdad who hit her etc is still one of

the biggest i have ever felt as it was the only time ever i felt part of a

family unit from ages 11-14 and that loss still hurts a lot.

I have therefore taken the absolute brunt of all her emotinal difficulties which

I guess you can only imagine the impacts this has had one me.

Thankfully I saw my only output as running 300 miles away to study and getting

away from home has been my strongest motivation in succeding in my career. This

has thank fully resulted in my own life away from home but as you know a BPDs

emotional grip on you can span any distance and time!

I may be 'high functioning' but my personal relationships are a mess and i feel

constant reminders of everyone elses ability to hold down a boyfriend and not

attract the wrong kind of friends and boyfriends as i seem to do taunting at

times.

Just writing this feels I am being a manipulative or attention seeking person as

these are the feelings that have been created anytime you try to seek love from

someone who frankly isnt

capable of giving it!

My sincerest apologies for the amount of anger that probably comes through this

message - The short answer is no I am def not ready to stop therapy but

unfortunately that is all the Uni can fund. They only refer a couple of people a

year to CBT/CAT - anyone else just gets a couple of counselling sessions so I am

very lucky indeed to be receiving it in the first place. I have contacted the GP

though to ask for a referral that way - when I am working I will pay for long

term therapy because I havent reached that stage you have been able to dealing

with past hurts and destructive beliefs - my therapy has been mainly about

protecting myself from her behaviours.

x x

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> > Dear Group Members,

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> > I am a young lady with a BPD mother. Have been having CBT for about 5 months

now - the sessions are going to end in about 4 weeks and my therapist and I

thought it a good idea for me to come on here and meet people to chat to as one

of the things that helps a lot is validation of experiences and that includes

knowing that others experience the same sort of things too..

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> > Hope to hear from you soon

> >

> > Thank you

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