forced fun (formerly painfully dumb)

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ugh, yes, Annie - I **hate** the forced fun events at work. I also avoid them. I

find someway to get out of it. I'm sure they've noticed by now that there's been

a pattern of illness/event conflicts when a corporate event comes up.

I like bonding with people in small groups, people I want to get to know, not at

the company holiday party or at the picnic, where people get embarrassingly

drunk!

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> > Ok, I just have to share a story about a painfully dumb waif PD I work with.

> > Sorry if this is too complicated.

> >

> > So my boss is a waif. I've been taking an hour a week away from work to go

> > to therapy for a whole year.

> >

> > So this week for whatever reason she noticed I was gone and became very

> > concerned about my health. But I could tell it wasn't genuine caring,

> > concern or empathy. She wanted to start a pity party and have me tell her my

> > deepest problems and then tell me hers and then she would start crying,

> > which she does nearly daily. And then she would run around and cry to people

> > that i have a prob and then milk them for comfort and attention. Thats what

> > she does. My nada did the same when she was in waif mode.

> >

> > Anyway, I'm actually doing really well physically and mentally, though I

> > have my challenges. And of course I wasn't going to say I'd been at mental

> > therapy learning boundaries so I wouldn't murder her. so I changed the

> > subject to break dancing and she got distracted by her own sad and

> > disturbing attempt to imitate a break dancing hamster, and I was happy

> > because my boundary in tact and she forgot what we were even talking about

> > because I was watching her attempt to break dance really badly and she was

> > loving the attention.

> >

> > Anyways. . . I have on simple rule for myself. I don't play dumb forced fun

> > games. No dodge ball, no ping pong, no bowling, no kickball, no poker, no

> > baby shower games etc etc etc. After a lifetime of my competitive and

> > slightly cruel brother and dad competing with me regarding sports and games

> > I just decided when I became an adult and had my own home, income etc that I

> > would never do that ever ever ever again. Childhood trauma - yes most

> > certainly.

> >

> > So almost every year my work goes on a really dumb game outing. I've skipped

> > bowling, adventure sports, ping pong games, competitive eating contests and

> > now they are on this stupid bean bag game combined with drinking. This

> > afternoon they are going to a bar during work time, and they are going to

> > pair off and compete to throw a bean bag in a hole (called corn hole) and

> > then declare a winner, while they get sloppy.

> >

> > I of course called in sick today, in keeping with my no dumb games rule. i

> > would play toss the bean bag with a toddler, but other than that, its a big

> > fat no way in hell.

> >

> > So then it gets funny. Waif boss texted, super concerned oh what is wrong

> > what did the doctor say etc etc. I told her the doctor said I have a SEVERE

> > corn allergy (the game is called corn hole). She texts back " oh no what did

> > you eat, do you have hives? "

> >

> > I don't know if I should laugh or hit myself in the forehead and groan.

> >

> > Can she really be this dumb, after I nearly quit my job when she tried to

> > force me to go bowling?????? Dear lord

> >

> > My boyfriend says she will go talk to someone else and tell them, and they

> > will start to laugh and laugh and laugh and then she will catch on. So I'm

> > gonna wait and see.

> >

> > Something about the waif/hermit personality makes them kinda gullible.

> >

> > I'm tempted to respond and tell her I have uncontrollable but silent

> > flatulence or something. HAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA

> >

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