Gift out of spite - its wrong, but feels good

[Guest guest]

So my husband and I were talking today. We were remembering Christmas last year

and how nada gave me a very holier-than-thou speech on how gifts were horrible

when there were so many needy people in the world, etc.

After sweating to death over what to buy her, shopping several places, going to

big deal to pick out something I thought she would like, her gift to US was a

Christmas card that on the inside read " $20 has been donated in your honor to

_____ " it was her favorite charity that really meant nothing to us.

While to most people, this would seem nice and certainly is commendable, her

whole point in doing so was to make herself look like a wonderful, holy person.

And the donation was to HER charity that she worked in that really held no

meaning for us.

She is always jumping from one charity to the next. As soon as they stop

stroking her ego and making her feel good about herself, she jumps to the next

charity.

So my husband laughed today while we were recalling all of this and said " This

year honey, no sweating over her gift. We are giving her a card that says we

donated $20 to YOUR favorite non-profit that we both know she cares nothing

about " . We both had a really good chuckle. And I have to admit I smiled like the

Grinch for a very long time.

Isn't that evil? It would prove nothing to her, I know that. She would sulk over

it, I know that too. It would be stooping to her level. But I'm still laughing

about the look on her face if I did the same to her this year.

[Guest guest]

bwahahaha, I love it!

> **

>

>

> So my husband and I were talking today. We were remembering Christmas last

> year and how nada gave me a very holier-than-thou speech on how gifts were

> horrible when there were so many needy people in the world, etc.

> After sweating to death over what to buy her, shopping several places,

> going to big deal to pick out something I thought she would like, her gift

> to US was a Christmas card that on the inside read " $20 has been donated in

> your honor to _____ " it was her favorite charity that really meant nothing

> to us.

>

> While to most people, this would seem nice and certainly is commendable,

> her whole point in doing so was to make herself look like a wonderful, holy

> person. And the donation was to HER charity that she worked in that really

> held no meaning for us.

> She is always jumping from one charity to the next. As soon as they stop

> stroking her ego and making her feel good about herself, she jumps to the

> next charity.

>

> So my husband laughed today while we were recalling all of this and said

> " This year honey, no sweating over her gift. We are giving her a card that

> says we donated $20 to YOUR favorite non-profit that we both know she cares

> nothing about " . We both had a really good chuckle. And I have to admit I

> smiled like the Grinch for a very long time.

>

> Isn't that evil? It would prove nothing to her, I know that. She would sulk

> over it, I know that too. It would be stooping to her level. But I'm still

> laughing about the look on her face if I did the same to her this year.

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

In spite of being NC for four years, my nada and fada keep " gifting " us

subscriptions to magazines in which we have absolutely no interest. We'll cancel

one, and a couple of months later another one starts up. My husband and I got a

major case of the giggles envisioning the day when we " gift " them a subscription

to something like Hustler or Easy Rider, except " accidentally " get their address

wrong so it gets sent to their neighbors, or their pastor...

[insert evil laugh here]

>

> So my husband and I were talking today. We were remembering Christmas last

year and how nada gave me a very holier-than-thou speech on how gifts were

horrible when there were so many needy people in the world, etc.

> After sweating to death over what to buy her, shopping several places, going

to big deal to pick out something I thought she would like, her gift to US was a

Christmas card that on the inside read " $20 has been donated in your honor to

_____ " it was her favorite charity that really meant nothing to us.

>

> While to most people, this would seem nice and certainly is commendable, her

whole point in doing so was to make herself look like a wonderful, holy person.

And the donation was to HER charity that she worked in that really held no

meaning for us.

> She is always jumping from one charity to the next. As soon as they stop

stroking her ego and making her feel good about herself, she jumps to the next

charity.

>

> So my husband laughed today while we were recalling all of this and said " This

year honey, no sweating over her gift. We are giving her a card that says we

donated $20 to YOUR favorite non-profit that we both know she cares nothing

about " . We both had a really good chuckle. And I have to admit I smiled like the

Grinch for a very long time.

>

> Isn't that evil? It would prove nothing to her, I know that. She would sulk

over it, I know that too. It would be stooping to her level. But I'm still

laughing about the look on her face if I did the same to her this year.

>

[Guest guest]

I'm trying really hard not to get the giggles here at work!! LOL!

> **

>

>

> In spite of being NC for four years, my nada and fada keep " gifting " us

> subscriptions to magazines in which we have absolutely no interest. We'll

> cancel one, and a couple of months later another one starts up. My husband

> and I got a major case of the giggles envisioning the day when we " gift "

> them a subscription to something like Hustler or Easy Rider, except

> " accidentally " get their address wrong so it gets sent to their neighbors,

> or their pastor...

>

> [insert evil laugh here]

>

>

> >

> > So my husband and I were talking today. We were remembering Christmas

> last year and how nada gave me a very holier-than-thou speech on how gifts

> were horrible when there were so many needy people in the world, etc.

> > After sweating to death over what to buy her, shopping several places,

> going to big deal to pick out something I thought she would like, her gift

> to US was a Christmas card that on the inside read " $20 has been donated in

> your honor to _____ " it was her favorite charity that really meant nothing

> to us.

> >

> > While to most people, this would seem nice and certainly is commendable,

> her whole point in doing so was to make herself look like a wonderful, holy

> person. And the donation was to HER charity that she worked in that really

> held no meaning for us.

> > She is always jumping from one charity to the next. As soon as they stop

> stroking her ego and making her feel good about herself, she jumps to the

> next charity.

> >

> > So my husband laughed today while we were recalling all of this and said

> " This year honey, no sweating over her gift. We are giving her a card that

> says we donated $20 to YOUR favorite non-profit that we both know she cares

> nothing about " . We both had a really good chuckle. And I have to admit I

> smiled like the Grinch for a very long time.

> >

> > Isn't that evil? It would prove nothing to her, I know that. She would

> sulk over it, I know that too. It would be stooping to her level. But I'm

> still laughing about the look on her face if I did the same to her this

> year.

> >

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

http://shitsenders.com/

I'm not advocating this, but in the same vein of gift giving, DH and I joke

about this website a lot, imagining what it would be like if we sent it to

fada, LOL!

> **

>

>

> In spite of being NC for four years, my nada and fada keep " gifting " us

> subscriptions to magazines in which we have absolutely no interest. We'll

> cancel one, and a couple of months later another one starts up. My husband

> and I got a major case of the giggles envisioning the day when we " gift "

> them a subscription to something like Hustler or Easy Rider, except

> " accidentally " get their address wrong so it gets sent to their neighbors,

> or their pastor...

>

> [insert evil laugh here]

>

>

> >

> > So my husband and I were talking today. We were remembering Christmas

> last year and how nada gave me a very holier-than-thou speech on how gifts

> were horrible when there were so many needy people in the world, etc.

> > After sweating to death over what to buy her, shopping several places,

> going to big deal to pick out something I thought she would like, her gift

> to US was a Christmas card that on the inside read " $20 has been donated in

> your honor to _____ " it was her favorite charity that really meant nothing

> to us.

> >

> > While to most people, this would seem nice and certainly is commendable,

> her whole point in doing so was to make herself look like a wonderful, holy

> person. And the donation was to HER charity that she worked in that really

> held no meaning for us.

> > She is always jumping from one charity to the next. As soon as they stop

> stroking her ego and making her feel good about herself, she jumps to the

> next charity.

> >

> > So my husband laughed today while we were recalling all of this and said

> " This year honey, no sweating over her gift. We are giving her a card that

> says we donated $20 to YOUR favorite non-profit that we both know she cares

> nothing about " . We both had a really good chuckle. And I have to admit I

> smiled like the Grinch for a very long time.

> >

> > Isn't that evil? It would prove nothing to her, I know that. She would

> sulk over it, I know that too. It would be stooping to her level. But I'm

> still laughing about the look on her face if I did the same to her this

> year.

> >

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

What better gift for a real a**hole, than a box of real sh*t? They go together

like aged cheese and fine wine. Thanks for the tip! LOL!

-Annie

> > >

> > > So my husband and I were talking today. We were remembering Christmas

> > last year and how nada gave me a very holier-than-thou speech on how gifts

> > were horrible when there were so many needy people in the world, etc.

> > > After sweating to death over what to buy her, shopping several places,

> > going to big deal to pick out something I thought she would like, her gift

> > to US was a Christmas card that on the inside read " $20 has been donated in

> > your honor to _____ " it was her favorite charity that really meant nothing

> > to us.

> > >

> > > While to most people, this would seem nice and certainly is commendable,

> > her whole point in doing so was to make herself look like a wonderful, holy

> > person. And the donation was to HER charity that she worked in that really

> > held no meaning for us.

> > > She is always jumping from one charity to the next. As soon as they stop

> > stroking her ego and making her feel good about herself, she jumps to the

> > next charity.

> > >

> > > So my husband laughed today while we were recalling all of this and said

> > " This year honey, no sweating over her gift. We are giving her a card that

> > says we donated $20 to YOUR favorite non-profit that we both know she cares

> > nothing about " . We both had a really good chuckle. And I have to admit I

> > smiled like the Grinch for a very long time.

> > >

> > > Isn't that evil? It would prove nothing to her, I know that. She would

> > sulk over it, I know that too. It would be stooping to her level. But I'm

> > still laughing about the look on her face if I did the same to her this

> > year.

> > >

> >

> >

> >

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

They're probably making a fortune, muhahahaha....

> http://shitsenders.com/

>

> I'm not advocating this, but in the same vein of gift giving, DH and I joke

> about this website a lot, imagining what it would be like if we sent it to

> fada, LOL!

>

>

>

>> **

>>

>>

>> In spite of being NC for four years, my nada and fada keep " gifting " us

>> subscriptions to magazines in which we have absolutely no interest. We'll

>> cancel one, and a couple of months later another one starts up. My husband

>> and I got a major case of the giggles envisioning the day when we " gift "

>> them a subscription to something like Hustler or Easy Rider, except

>> " accidentally " get their address wrong so it gets sent to their neighbors,

>> or their pastor...

>>

>> [insert evil laugh here]

>>

>>

>>>

>>> So my husband and I were talking today. We were remembering Christmas

>> last year and how nada gave me a very holier-than-thou speech on how gifts

>> were horrible when there were so many needy people in the world, etc.

>>> After sweating to death over what to buy her, shopping several places,

>> going to big deal to pick out something I thought she would like, her gift

>> to US was a Christmas card that on the inside read " $20 has been donated in

>> your honor to _____ " it was her favorite charity that really meant nothing

>> to us.

>>>

>>> While to most people, this would seem nice and certainly is commendable,

>> her whole point in doing so was to make herself look like a wonderful, holy

>> person. And the donation was to HER charity that she worked in that really

>> held no meaning for us.

>>> She is always jumping from one charity to the next. As soon as they stop

>> stroking her ego and making her feel good about herself, she jumps to the

>> next charity.

>>>

>>> So my husband laughed today while we were recalling all of this and said

>> " This year honey, no sweating over her gift. We are giving her a card that

>> says we donated $20 to YOUR favorite non-profit that we both know she cares

>> nothing about " . We both had a really good chuckle. And I have to admit I

>> smiled like the Grinch for a very long time.

>>>

>>> Isn't that evil? It would prove nothing to her, I know that. She would

>> sulk over it, I know that too. It would be stooping to her level. But I'm

>> still laughing about the look on her face if I did the same to her this

>> year.

>>>

>>

>>

>>

>

[Guest guest]

OMG, I'm laughing so hard because I could think of is whether or not there's a

charitable organization for BPD that you could give your donation to.

AnnieL

>

> So my husband and I were talking today. We were remembering Christmas last

year and how nada gave me a very holier-than-thou speech on how gifts were

horrible when there were so many needy people in the world, etc.

> After sweating to death over what to buy her, shopping several places, going

to big deal to pick out something I thought she would like, her gift to US was a

Christmas card that on the inside read " $20 has been donated in your honor to

_____ " it was her favorite charity that really meant nothing to us.

>

> While to most people, this would seem nice and certainly is commendable, her

whole point in doing so was to make herself look like a wonderful, holy person.

And the donation was to HER charity that she worked in that really held no

meaning for us.

> She is always jumping from one charity to the next. As soon as they stop

stroking her ego and making her feel good about herself, she jumps to the next

charity.

>

> So my husband laughed today while we were recalling all of this and said " This

year honey, no sweating over her gift. We are giving her a card that says we

donated $20 to YOUR favorite non-profit that we both know she cares nothing

about " . We both had a really good chuckle. And I have to admit I smiled like the

Grinch for a very long time.

>

> Isn't that evil? It would prove nothing to her, I know that. She would sulk

over it, I know that too. It would be stooping to her level. But I'm still

laughing about the look on her face if I did the same to her this year.

>

[Guest guest]

We should start one! Charter membership, workshops, brochures and all .

.. we could even have a line of products, Annies NOMO BPD Collar, T shirts,

Holiday cards and , my personal fave, *The Borderline Cookbook,* with an

addenda for erroneous and deleted ingredients, misrepresented processes, and

oven settings, ! Proceeds could go to a private retreat for KOs, or an BPD

retraining camp. (yeah, I know, they can't be retrained, but it could have

entertainment value,,,,,) Oh the possibilities ! ! !

Sunspot ~

On Sat, Sep 10, 2011 at 8:57 AM, annie2011lewis wrote:

> **

>

>

> OMG, I'm laughing so hard because I could think of is whether or not

> there's a charitable organization for BPD that you could give your donation

> to.

>

> AnnieL

>

>

>

> >

> > So my husband and I were talking today. We were remembering Christmas

> last year and how nada gave me a very holier-than-thou speech on how gifts

> were horrible when there were so many needy people in the world, etc.

> > After sweating to death over what to buy her, shopping several places,

> going to big deal to pick out something I thought she would like, her gift

> to US was a Christmas card that on the inside read " $20 has been donated in

> your honor to _____ " it was her favorite charity that really meant nothing

> to us.

> >

> > While to most people, this would seem nice and certainly is commendable,

> her whole point in doing so was to make herself look like a wonderful, holy

> person. And the donation was to HER charity that she worked in that really

> held no meaning for us.

> > She is always jumping from one charity to the next. As soon as they stop

> stroking her ego and making her feel good about herself, she jumps to the

> next charity.

> >

> > So my husband laughed today while we were recalling all of this and said

> " This year honey, no sweating over her gift. We are giving her a card that

> says we donated $20 to YOUR favorite non-profit that we both know she cares

> nothing about " . We both had a really good chuckle. And I have to admit I

> smiled like the Grinch for a very long time.

> >

> > Isn't that evil? It would prove nothing to her, I know that. She would

> sulk over it, I know that too. It would be stooping to her level. But I'm

> still laughing about the look on her face if I did the same to her this

> year.

> >

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Oh fantastic idea - how about you give yourself a charity and then give it a

name - like the foundation for adult children of the mentally deranged.

> We should start one! Charter membership, workshops, brochures and all .

> . we could even have a line of products, Annies NOMO BPD Collar, T shirts,

> Holiday cards and , my personal fave, *The Borderline Cookbook,* with an

> addenda for erroneous and deleted ingredients, misrepresented processes,

> and

> oven settings, ! Proceeds could go to a private retreat for KOs, or an BPD

> retraining camp. (yeah, I know, they can't be retrained, but it could have

> entertainment value,,,,,) Oh the possibilities ! ! !

>

>

> Sunspot ~

> On Sat, Sep 10, 2011 at 8:57 AM, annie2011lewis <annie2011lewis@...

> >wrote:

>

> > **

> >

> >

> > OMG, I'm laughing so hard because I could think of is whether or not

> > there's a charitable organization for BPD that you could give your

> donation

> > to.

> >

> > AnnieL

> >

> >

> >

> > >

> > > So my husband and I were talking today. We were remembering Christmas

> > last year and how nada gave me a very holier-than-thou speech on how

> gifts

> > were horrible when there were so many needy people in the world, etc.

> > > After sweating to death over what to buy her, shopping several places,

> > going to big deal to pick out something I thought she would like, her

> gift

> > to US was a Christmas card that on the inside read " $20 has been donated

> in

> > your honor to _____ " it was her favorite charity that really meant

> nothing

> > to us.

> > >

> > > While to most people, this would seem nice and certainly is

> commendable,

> > her whole point in doing so was to make herself look like a wonderful,

> holy

> > person. And the donation was to HER charity that she worked in that

> really

> > held no meaning for us.

> > > She is always jumping from one charity to the next. As soon as they

> stop

> > stroking her ego and making her feel good about herself, she jumps to the

> > next charity.

> > >

> > > So my husband laughed today while we were recalling all of this and

> said

> > " This year honey, no sweating over her gift. We are giving her a card

> that

> > says we donated $20 to YOUR favorite non-profit that we both know she

> cares

> > nothing about " . We both had a really good chuckle. And I have to admit I

> > smiled like the Grinch for a very long time.

> > >

> > > Isn't that evil? It would prove nothing to her, I know that. She would

> > sulk over it, I know that too. It would be stooping to her level. But I'm

> > still laughing about the look on her face if I did the same to her this

> > year.

> > >

> >

> >

> >

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

HAHAHAH!!! You guys are making me laugh!

On the subject of naming yourself a charity, just found out my nada has applied

for her 501-3c for her own personal charity she is doing. Talk about figuring

out the gravy train. She's already roped a free computer and cell phone out of

the church people.

Guess she's found her retirement plan. :-/

I digress. Can I make up the charity and do it anyway??? LOL - just too funny.

" $20 has been donated in your honor to 'Moose Lake Lodge and Retreat for

Children of Parents with BPD'. All proceeds will go to help these adult children

learn to live a normal life in spite of their screwed up parents who try to take

it from them " .

Ok, that was fun to write. :-)

> > > >

> > > > So my husband and I were talking today. We were remembering Christmas

> > > last year and how nada gave me a very holier-than-thou speech on how

> > gifts

> > > were horrible when there were so many needy people in the world, etc.

> > > > After sweating to death over what to buy her, shopping several places,

> > > going to big deal to pick out something I thought she would like, her

> > gift

> > > to US was a Christmas card that on the inside read " $20 has been donated

> > in

> > > your honor to _____ " it was her favorite charity that really meant

> > nothing

> > > to us.

> > > >

> > > > While to most people, this would seem nice and certainly is

> > commendable,

> > > her whole point in doing so was to make herself look like a wonderful,

> > holy

> > > person. And the donation was to HER charity that she worked in that

> > really

> > > held no meaning for us.

> > > > She is always jumping from one charity to the next. As soon as they

> > stop

> > > stroking her ego and making her feel good about herself, she jumps to the

> > > next charity.

> > > >

> > > > So my husband laughed today while we were recalling all of this and

> > said

> > > " This year honey, no sweating over her gift. We are giving her a card

> > that

> > > says we donated $20 to YOUR favorite non-profit that we both know she

> > cares

> > > nothing about " . We both had a really good chuckle. And I have to admit I

> > > smiled like the Grinch for a very long time.

> > > >

> > > > Isn't that evil? It would prove nothing to her, I know that. She would

> > > sulk over it, I know that too. It would be stooping to her level. But I'm

> > > still laughing about the look on her face if I did the same to her this

> > > year.

> > > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

LOVE IT

> **

>

>

> HAHAHAH!!! You guys are making me laugh!

>

> On the subject of naming yourself a charity, just found out my nada has

> applied for her 501-3c for her own personal charity she is doing. Talk about

> figuring out the gravy train. She's already roped a free computer and cell

> phone out of the church people.

> Guess she's found her retirement plan. :-/

>

> I digress. Can I make up the charity and do it anyway??? LOL - just too

> funny. " $20 has been donated in your honor to 'Moose Lake Lodge and Retreat

> for Children of Parents with BPD'. All proceeds will go to help these adult

> children learn to live a normal life in spite of their screwed up parents

> who try to take it from them " .

>

> Ok, that was fun to write. :-)

>

>

>

> > > > >

> > > > > So my husband and I were talking today. We were remembering

> Christmas

> > > > last year and how nada gave me a very holier-than-thou speech on how

> > > gifts

> > > > were horrible when there were so many needy people in the world, etc.

> > > > > After sweating to death over what to buy her, shopping several

> places,

> > > > going to big deal to pick out something I thought she would like, her

> > > gift

> > > > to US was a Christmas card that on the inside read " $20 has been

> donated

> > > in

> > > > your honor to _____ " it was her favorite charity that really meant

> > > nothing

> > > > to us.

> > > > >

> > > > > While to most people, this would seem nice and certainly is

> > > commendable,

> > > > her whole point in doing so was to make herself look like a

> wonderful,

> > > holy

> > > > person. And the donation was to HER charity that she worked in that

> > > really

> > > > held no meaning for us.

> > > > > She is always jumping from one charity to the next. As soon as they

> > > stop

> > > > stroking her ego and making her feel good about herself, she jumps to

> the

> > > > next charity.

> > > > >

> > > > > So my husband laughed today while we were recalling all of this and

> > > said

> > > > " This year honey, no sweating over her gift. We are giving her a card

> > > that

> > > > says we donated $20 to YOUR favorite non-profit that we both know she

> > > cares

> > > > nothing about " . We both had a really good chuckle. And I have to

> admit I

> > > > smiled like the Grinch for a very long time.

> > > > >

> > > > > Isn't that evil? It would prove nothing to her, I know that. She

> would

> > > > sulk over it, I know that too. It would be stooping to her level. But

> I'm

> > > > still laughing about the look on her face if I did the same to her

> this

> > > > year.

> > > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

[Guest guest]

" The Foundation for Adult Children of the Mentally Deranged provides crucial

services for poor, suffering souls with puffy, tired soles. Your donation will

allow some stressed-out, guilt-ridden adult to decompress at a spa pedicure

treatment. Our clients tell us they feel MUCH better after this vital form of

therapy. Send your check today! "

Can we get 501©(3) status by, say, Christmas time?

> > > >

> > > > So my husband and I were talking today. We were remembering Christmas

> > > last year and how nada gave me a very holier-than-thou speech on how

> > gifts

> > > were horrible when there were so many needy people in the world, etc.

> > > > After sweating to death over what to buy her, shopping several places,

> > > going to big deal to pick out something I thought she would like, her

> > gift

> > > to US was a Christmas card that on the inside read " $20 has been donated

> > in

> > > your honor to _____ " it was her favorite charity that really meant

> > nothing

> > > to us.

> > > >

> > > > While to most people, this would seem nice and certainly is

> > commendable,

> > > her whole point in doing so was to make herself look like a wonderful,

> > holy

> > > person. And the donation was to HER charity that she worked in that

> > really

> > > held no meaning for us.

> > > > She is always jumping from one charity to the next. As soon as they

> > stop

> > > stroking her ego and making her feel good about herself, she jumps to the

> > > next charity.

> > > >

> > > > So my husband laughed today while we were recalling all of this and

> > said

> > > " This year honey, no sweating over her gift. We are giving her a card

> > that

> > > says we donated $20 to YOUR favorite non-profit that we both know she

> > cares

> > > nothing about " . We both had a really good chuckle. And I have to admit I

> > > smiled like the Grinch for a very long time.

> > > >

> > > > Isn't that evil? It would prove nothing to her, I know that. She would

> > > sulk over it, I know that too. It would be stooping to her level. But I'm

> > > still laughing about the look on her face if I did the same to her this

> > > year.

> > > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> >

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[Guest guest]

Hey, some pedicure therapy sounds mighty appealing to me right now, I'm in!

-Annie

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> > > > > So my husband and I were talking today. We were remembering Christmas

> > > > last year and how nada gave me a very holier-than-thou speech on how

> > > gifts

> > > > were horrible when there were so many needy people in the world, etc.

> > > > > After sweating to death over what to buy her, shopping several places,

> > > > going to big deal to pick out something I thought she would like, her

> > > gift

> > > > to US was a Christmas card that on the inside read " $20 has been donated

> > > in

> > > > your honor to _____ " it was her favorite charity that really meant

> > > nothing

> > > > to us.

> > > > >

> > > > > While to most people, this would seem nice and certainly is

> > > commendable,

> > > > her whole point in doing so was to make herself look like a wonderful,

> > > holy

> > > > person. And the donation was to HER charity that she worked in that

> > > really

> > > > held no meaning for us.

> > > > > She is always jumping from one charity to the next. As soon as they

> > > stop

> > > > stroking her ego and making her feel good about herself, she jumps to

the

> > > > next charity.

> > > > >

> > > > > So my husband laughed today while we were recalling all of this and

> > > said

> > > > " This year honey, no sweating over her gift. We are giving her a card

> > > that

> > > > says we donated $20 to YOUR favorite non-profit that we both know she

> > > cares

> > > > nothing about " . We both had a really good chuckle. And I have to admit I

> > > > smiled like the Grinch for a very long time.

> > > > >

> > > > > Isn't that evil? It would prove nothing to her, I know that. She would

> > > > sulk over it, I know that too. It would be stooping to her level. But

I'm

> > > > still laughing about the look on her face if I did the same to her this

> > > > year.

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[Guest guest]

I'll provide massages!

AnnieL

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> > > > > > So my husband and I were talking today. We were remembering

Christmas

> > > > > last year and how nada gave me a very holier-than-thou speech on how

> > > > gifts

> > > > > were horrible when there were so many needy people in the world, etc.

> > > > > > After sweating to death over what to buy her, shopping several

places,

> > > > > going to big deal to pick out something I thought she would like, her

> > > > gift

> > > > > to US was a Christmas card that on the inside read " $20 has been

donated

> > > > in

> > > > > your honor to _____ " it was her favorite charity that really meant

> > > > nothing

> > > > > to us.

> > > > > >

> > > > > > While to most people, this would seem nice and certainly is

> > > > commendable,

> > > > > her whole point in doing so was to make herself look like a wonderful,

> > > > holy

> > > > > person. And the donation was to HER charity that she worked in that

> > > > really

> > > > > held no meaning for us.

> > > > > > She is always jumping from one charity to the next. As soon as they

> > > > stop

> > > > > stroking her ego and making her feel good about herself, she jumps to

the

> > > > > next charity.

> > > > > >

> > > > > > So my husband laughed today while we were recalling all of this and

> > > > said

> > > > > " This year honey, no sweating over her gift. We are giving her a card

> > > > that

> > > > > says we donated $20 to YOUR favorite non-profit that we both know she

> > > > cares

> > > > > nothing about " . We both had a really good chuckle. And I have to admit

I

> > > > > smiled like the Grinch for a very long time.

> > > > > >

> > > > > > Isn't that evil? It would prove nothing to her, I know that. She

would

> > > > > sulk over it, I know that too. It would be stooping to her level. But

I'm

> > > > > still laughing about the look on her face if I did the same to her

this

> > > > > year.

> > > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

[Guest guest]

When should we air the FACMD telethon??

> > > > > > >

> > > > > > > So my husband and I were talking today. We were remembering

Christmas

> > > > > > last year and how nada gave me a very holier-than-thou speech on how

> > > > > gifts

> > > > > > were horrible when there were so many needy people in the world,

etc.

> > > > > > > After sweating to death over what to buy her, shopping several

places,

> > > > > > going to big deal to pick out something I thought she would like,

her

> > > > > gift

> > > > > > to US was a Christmas card that on the inside read " $20 has been

donated

> > > > > in

> > > > > > your honor to _____ " it was her favorite charity that really meant

> > > > > nothing

> > > > > > to us.

> > > > > > >

> > > > > > > While to most people, this would seem nice and certainly is

> > > > > commendable,

> > > > > > her whole point in doing so was to make herself look like a

wonderful,

> > > > > holy

> > > > > > person. And the donation was to HER charity that she worked in that

> > > > > really

> > > > > > held no meaning for us.

> > > > > > > She is always jumping from one charity to the next. As soon as

they

> > > > > stop

> > > > > > stroking her ego and making her feel good about herself, she jumps

to the

> > > > > > next charity.

> > > > > > >

> > > > > > > So my husband laughed today while we were recalling all of this

and

> > > > > said

> > > > > > " This year honey, no sweating over her gift. We are giving her a

card

> > > > > that

> > > > > > says we donated $20 to YOUR favorite non-profit that we both know

she

> > > > > cares

> > > > > > nothing about " . We both had a really good chuckle. And I have to

admit I

> > > > > > smiled like the Grinch for a very long time.

> > > > > > >

> > > > > > > Isn't that evil? It would prove nothing to her, I know that. She

would

> > > > > > sulk over it, I know that too. It would be stooping to her level.

But I'm

> > > > > > still laughing about the look on her face if I did the same to her

this

> > > > > > year.

> > > > > > >

> > > > > >

> > > > > >

> > > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > >

[Guest guest]

Hello Big Sister!

I did something like that to nada once. She was in a hospital and she didn't

want me to bring her her clothes. The same evening she manipulated nurses into

calling me and begging me to bring nada some of my own clothes because " she is

so unhappy " with hospital ones. At that time nada was trying everything to get

me (my time, my energy, my things...)

Instead of doing that I bought her a new ones. They were looking expensive (she

hates that, she is very cheap and likes to look poor), beautifully colored (she

hates that, she always wore brown and black) and I gave them to her in front of

others (she hates that, she prefer to plays poor nada with doughter who doesn't

care for her.) Of course I did that with the most innocent expression on my

face :-)

It was worth every penny !!!

For the first time in my life I was not mad, angry or sad because of her crazy

vampiric behavior. It was much better than going to endless debate with

her...and it was a big fun from choosing the right ones :-) to looking her

confusion when I gave them to her. And it works. She stopped with that kind of

manipulations. Even now I giggle when I remember that.

Yenaine

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Gift out of spite - its wrong, but feels good

So my husband and I were talking today. We were remembering Christmas last year

and how nada gave me a very holier-than-thou speech on how gifts were horrible

when there were so many needy people in the world, etc.

After sweating to death over what to buy her, shopping several places, going to

big deal to pick out something I thought she would like, her gift to US was a

Christmas card that on the inside read " $20 has been donated in your honor

to_____ " it was her favorite charity that really meant nothing to us.

While to most people, this would seem nice and certainly is commendable, her

whole point in doing so was to make herself look like a wonderful, holy person.

And the donation was to HER charity that she worked in that really held no

meaning for us.

She is always jumping from one charity to the next. As soon as they stop

stroking her ego and making her feel good about herself, she jumps to the next

charity.

So my husband laughed today while we were recalling all of this and said " This

year honey, no sweating over her gift. We are giving her a card that says we

donated $20 to YOUR favorite non-profit that we both know she cares nothing

about " . We both had a really good chuckle. And I have to admit I smiled like the

Grinch for a very long time.

Isn't that evil? It would prove nothing to her, I know that. She would sulk over

it, I know that too. It would be stooping to her level. But I'm still laughing

about the look on her face if I did the same to her this year.