Yay for the block function on Facebook

[Guest guest]

I was wishing my cousin a Happy Birthday when I saw she was FB friends with my

mom.

I promptly blocked her and informed my husband in case he wanted to block her,

too. That way I don't have to agonize over it should my mom ever try to " friend "

me--she simply will not be able to even find my profile. I simply do not trust

her at all--she's too enmeshed and codependent on fada to truly develop her own

relationship with me. And y'all know how much I trust fada...

The funny thing is, my mom's nada is on FB too. I don't know what kind of

undiagnosed PD her mom has, but I sure wouldn't be surprised if it was BPD. I

wonder if mom blocked her nada?? LOL.

Haven't found fada on there yet--I check every so often.

FB is both a blessing and a curse.

[Guest guest]

I have a hard time trusting Facebook, also. I'm on it, but I check in so rarely

that I must seem like the worst kind of snob, and I haven't posted anything of

my own in over a year. I basically use it to wish family members a Happy

Birthday or whatever, and to share photos. I much prefer private e-mails for

sharing personal thoughts and information. I think I am leery because I was

harassed and stalked via the Internet for over 3 years by a former friend who

(surprise, surprise) turned out to have npd. I thought it would never end.

That gave me a permanent distaste for public social networking venues other than

places like this Group where I can maintain privacy by posting anonymously.

-Annie

>

> I was wishing my cousin a Happy Birthday when I saw she was FB friends with my

mom.

>

> I promptly blocked her and informed my husband in case he wanted to block her,

too. That way I don't have to agonize over it should my mom ever try to " friend "

me--she simply will not be able to even find my profile. I simply do not trust

her at all--she's too enmeshed and codependent on fada to truly develop her own

relationship with me. And y'all know how much I trust fada...

>

> The funny thing is, my mom's nada is on FB too. I don't know what kind of

undiagnosed PD her mom has, but I sure wouldn't be surprised if it was BPD. I

wonder if mom blocked her nada?? LOL.

>

> Haven't found fada on there yet--I check every so often.

>

> FB is both a blessing and a curse.

>

[Guest guest]

I would be leery, myself, if it weren't for the fact it's the easiest way

for me to keep in touch with friends after I moved to another city last

year. I used to use FB a lot less until I moved.

So, it's definitely a blessing and a curse.

How horrible for you--being stalked by a npd former friend! I completely

understand the dislike for social networking, coming from that.

On Mon, Sep 12, 2011 at 10:22 AM, anuria67854 wrote:

> **

>

>

> I have a hard time trusting Facebook, also. I'm on it, but I check in so

> rarely that I must seem like the worst kind of snob, and I haven't posted

> anything of my own in over a year. I basically use it to wish family members

> a Happy Birthday or whatever, and to share photos. I much prefer private

> e-mails for sharing personal thoughts and information. I think I am leery

> because I was harassed and stalked via the Internet for over 3 years by a

> former friend who (surprise, surprise) turned out to have npd. I thought it

> would never end. That gave me a permanent distaste for public social

> networking venues other than places like this Group where I can maintain

> privacy by posting anonymously.

>

> -Annie

>

>

> >

> > I was wishing my cousin a Happy Birthday when I saw she was FB friends

> with my mom.

> >

> > I promptly blocked her and informed my husband in case he wanted to block

> her, too. That way I don't have to agonize over it should my mom ever try to

> " friend " me--she simply will not be able to even find my profile. I simply

> do not trust her at all--she's too enmeshed and codependent on fada to truly

> develop her own relationship with me. And y'all know how much I trust

> fada...

> >

> > The funny thing is, my mom's nada is on FB too. I don't know what kind of

> undiagnosed PD her mom has, but I sure wouldn't be surprised if it was BPD.

> I wonder if mom blocked her nada?? LOL.

> >

> > Haven't found fada on there yet--I check every so often.

> >

> > FB is both a blessing and a curse.

> >

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I am so glad you were able to Block your Nada, I wish I could do the same!

Sorry I need to vent, I's sooo angry that Facebook doesn't let me organize

friends the same way I do in real life.

I've also moved around and need it to keep in touch with friends from different

cities, and I use it to share pictures of my baby, it's essential for me to keep

it. But nada has made life difficult for me. From the get go she was making

inappropriate comments, which would result in a fight with other family members,

so I had her blocked from my wall, and told her that facebook was broken, she

could still see pictures of my baby, but not comment...it worked for 6months,

the perfect solution!! or so I thought...until she could see through another

family member's page that they could comment on photos but she could not. There

was nothing i could do to keep her from seeing the posts on other people's

walls.

Then the phone calls started... " It's just not fair that other people can comment

on MY GRANDCHILD and I can't!!! " (followed by alot of crying) I said " facebook

is broken!! I have to wait until my husband gets home to help me with it, just

to buy some time. I'm sure she knew she was blocked. It just angered me that

she thought she had the right to tell ME how to set up MY ACCOUNT!!! This was

before I knew she had BPD, so I was just angry with smoke coming out of my ears,

and that was the first time I recognized the emotional blackmail....

What made all this worse is that I had just moved into my new home the day

before, and was desperately searching for the box of my baby's clothes, and

trying to get the house to a functional place, and the last thing on my priority

list was facebook, I had to find the onesies and babyproof before there was an

accident, I had a 8 month old, and i was seriously annoyed that my mom would be

calling me all day demanding I spend my time trying to 'fix' facebook privacy

settings, but she didn't care, it was all about her and her hurt feelings. So

while I was contemplating what to do about the situation, I got an email from my

dad " If you have blocked your mom from Facebook, well you couldn't have hurt

your mother more if you tried "

My blood starts to boil just thinking about it. I was being emotionally

blackmailed to set up my facebook page the way THEY wanted me to. I know it's

just facebook, but I don't like being told what to do...I was livid, but I gave

in and unblocked her because I didn't want a fight. The FOG had worked...

I f*n hate facebook, I wish I could just shut it all down, but I can't

I just don't feel free from her because I know she is jealous if I do anything,

but I guess that's my issue to get over, and we've been 'No contact' for a

couple months now, so she hasn't made any comments since then, but i know she is

watching my life, crying, being jealous, judging, feeling entitled.

I know they have improved the privacy setting since then, but it's too late for

me to go back and block her without appearing passive aggressive since we are 3

months NC right now.

I am so mad about how I handled the situation, unblocking her, I didn't know she

was BPD so of course the guilt worked on me, But that was the last time I vowed,

that I would let them tell me what to do. She actually thinks she is entitled to

my facebook page. Okay I think I'm going to go punch a wall now.

>

[Guest guest]

Has anyone experimented much with google plus? It seems to resolve some of

these boundary issues.

Most of my friends who have issues like this have fake names on facebook -

they just friend who they want with their " real " page, under a fake name.

Then you can keep a " pretend " page with your real name. i'm kinda headed

that direction, but I enjoy blocking and deleting people.

My nada can't use computers at all, so that's a blessing. I also went NC a

long time before Facebook became a big thing. I've blocked just about

everyone who knows my parents.

On Mon, Sep 12, 2011 at 12:13 PM, jamiekitten1974 <jamie.lockwood1@...

> wrote:

> **

>

>

> I am so glad you were able to Block your Nada, I wish I could do the same!

> Sorry I need to vent, I's sooo angry that Facebook doesn't let me organize

> friends the same way I do in real life.

>

> I've also moved around and need it to keep in touch with friends from

> different cities, and I use it to share pictures of my baby, it's essential

> for me to keep it. But nada has made life difficult for me. From the get go

> she was making inappropriate comments, which would result in a fight with

> other family members, so I had her blocked from my wall, and told her that

> facebook was broken, she could still see pictures of my baby, but not

> comment...it worked for 6months, the perfect solution!! or so I

> thought...until she could see through another family member's page that they

> could comment on photos but she could nt diot. There was nothing i could do

> to keep her from seeing the posts on other people's walls.

> Then the phone calls started... " It's just not fair that other people can

> comment on MY GRANDCHILD and I can't!!! " (followed by alot of crying) I said

> " facebook is broken!! I have to wait until my husband gets home to help me

> with it, just to buy some time. I'm sure she knew she was blocked. It just

> angered me that she thought she had the right to tell ME how to set up MY

> ACCOUNT!!! This was before I knew she had BPD, so I was just angry with

> smoke coming out of my ears, and that was the first time I recognized the

> emotional blackmail....

> What made all this worse is that I had just moved into my new home the day

> before, and was desperately searching for the box of my baby's clothes, and

> trying to get the house to a functional place, and the last thing on my

> priority list was facebook, I had to find the onesies and babyproof before

> there was an accident, I had a 8 month old, and i was seriously annoyed that

> my mom would be calling me all day demanding I spend my time trying to 'fix'

> facebook privacy settings, but she didn't care, it was all about her and her

> hurt feelings. So while I was contemplating what to do about the situation,

> I got an email from my dad " If you have blocked your mom from Facebook, well

> you couldn't have hurt your mother more if you tried "

> My blood starts to boil just thinking about it. I was being emotionally

> blackmailed to set up my facebook page the way THEY wanted me to. I know

> it's just facebook, but I don't like being told what to do...I was livid,

> but I gave in and unblocked her because I didn't want a fight. The FOG had

> worked...

> I f*n hate facebook, I wish I could just shut it all down, but I can't

> I just don't feel free from her because I know she is jealous if I do

> anything, but I guess that's my issue to get over, and we've been 'No

> contact' for a couple months now, so she hasn't made any comments since

> then, but i know she is watching my life, crying, being jealous, judging,

> feeling entitled.

>

> I know they have improved the privacy setting since then, but it's too late

> for me to go back and block her without appearing passive aggressive since

> we are 3 months NC right now.

>

> I am so mad about how I handled the situation, unblocking her, I didn't

> know she was BPD so of course the guilt worked on me, But that was the last

> time I vowed, that I would let them tell me what to do. She actually thinks

> she is entitled to my facebook page. Okay I think I'm going to go punch a

> wall now.

>

> >

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I haven't experimented with Google Plus yet, though my husband was just telling

me I should try it, he says it looks like lots my friends are on it and there's

a pretty good chance that my mom has no idea it exists.

Yeah I think i might check it out...

>

> Has anyone experimented much with google plus?

[Guest guest]

My sister, who thinks my paid mom is fantastic, keeps friending

my on fb. I just ignore them. Would she know if I blocked her?

Not that I use fb much; I'd thought about closing it altogether.

Steph

Yay for the " block " function on

Facebook

I was wishing my cousin a Happy Birthday when I saw she was FB

friends with my mom.

I promptly blocked her and informed my husband in case he wanted

to block her, too. That way I don't have to agonize over it

should my mom ever try to " friend " me--she simply will not be

able to even find my profile. I simply do not trust her at

all--she's too enmeshed and codependent on fada to truly develop

her own relationship with me. And y'all know how much I trust

fada...

The funny thing is, my mom's nada is on FB too. I don't know

what kind of undiagnosed PD her mom has, but I sure wouldn't be

surprised if it was BPD. I wonder if mom blocked her nada?? LOL.

Haven't found fada on there yet--I check every so often.

FB is both a blessing and a curse.

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[Guest guest]

I'd felt the same. I'd even had the irrational fear that my

stepfather or mom could hack in to my gmail account since my

sister has my gmail address.

Steph

Re: Yay for the " block " function on

Facebook

I have a hard time trusting Facebook, also. I'm on it, but I

check in so rarely that I must seem like the worst kind of snob,

and I haven't posted anything of my own in over a year. I

basically use it to wish family members a Happy Birthday or

whatever, and to share photos. I much prefer private e-mails

for sharing personal thoughts and information. I think I am

leery because I was harassed and stalked via the Internet for

over 3 years by a former friend who (surprise, surprise) turned

out to have npd. I thought it would never end. That gave me a

permanent distaste for public social networking venues other than

places like this Group where I can maintain privacy by posting

anonymously.

-Annie

I was wishing my cousin a Happy Birthday when I saw she was FB

friends with my mom.

I promptly blocked her and informed my husband in case he wanted

to block her, too. That way I don't have to agonize over it

should my mom ever try to " friend " me--she simply will not be

able to even find my profile. I simply do not trust her at

all--she's too enmeshed and codependent on fada to truly develop

her own relationship with me. And y'all know how much I trust

fada...

The funny thing is, my mom's nada is on FB too. I don't know

what kind of undiagnosed PD her mom has, but I sure wouldn't be

surprised if it was BPD. I wonder if mom blocked her nada?? LOL.

Haven't found fada on there yet--I check every so often.

FB is both a blessing and a curse.

------------------------------------

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The Essential Family Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder:

New Tips and Tools to Stop Walking on Eggshells, available at

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[Guest guest]

I'm glad this topic came up. I've been NC with nada for about 4 years now, but

about two months ago she tried to friend me on FB. I blocked her plus about 5

other profiles with her same name that didn't have a picture attached (her

friend request didn't have a picture) just in case. I'd like to stay in contact

with my brother on FB, but he lives with nada (whole other mess there) so I

fear she could somehow get through that way.

>

> I was wishing my cousin a Happy Birthday when I saw she was FB friends with my

mom.

>

> I promptly blocked her and informed my husband in case he wanted to block her,

too. That way I don't have to agonize over it should my mom ever try to " friend "

me--she simply will not be able to even find my profile. I simply do not trust

her at all--she's too enmeshed and codependent on fada to truly develop her own

relationship with me. And y'all know how much I trust fada...

>

> The funny thing is, my mom's nada is on FB too. I don't know what kind of

undiagnosed PD her mom has, but I sure wouldn't be surprised if it was BPD. I

wonder if mom blocked her nada?? LOL.

>

> Haven't found fada on there yet--I check every so often.

>

> FB is both a blessing and a curse.

>

[Guest guest]

My nada has been using my father's fb account to post to my daughter. Yesterday

my father's account posted something to my daughter that I was sure had been

written by nada. Sure enough, when my daughter got home from school, she told

me nada had texted her the very same message.

I've been NC with nada and my dad for 3 weeks now and I'm beginning to feel

nervous about her trying to reestablish contact. Last time this happened, my

nada sent me flowers. I won't be lured in this time, and I know she's going to

feel rejected when I back away, but I'm not sure how else to protect my sanity.

AnnieL

> >

> > I was wishing my cousin a Happy Birthday when I saw she was FB friends with

my mom.

> >

> > I promptly blocked her and informed my husband in case he wanted to block

her, too. That way I don't have to agonize over it should my mom ever try to

" friend " me--she simply will not be able to even find my profile. I simply do

not trust her at all--she's too enmeshed and codependent on fada to truly

develop her own relationship with me. And y'all know how much I trust fada...

> >

> > The funny thing is, my mom's nada is on FB too. I don't know what kind of

undiagnosed PD her mom has, but I sure wouldn't be surprised if it was BPD. I

wonder if mom blocked her nada?? LOL.

> >

> > Haven't found fada on there yet--I check every so often.

> >

> > FB is both a blessing and a curse.

> >

>

[Guest guest]

O I hear you anne. I'd been nc a few times. EVERY time I

re-establish contact i find nothing has changed! I am in contact

with my mum now, but only because of the kids... I say hold your

ground, it's damn hard, but you have to heal and perhaps rebuild

your life.

Steph

Re: Yay for the " block " function on

Facebook

My nada has been using my father's fb account to post to my

daughter. Yesterday my father's account posted something to my

daughter that I was sure had been written by nada. Sure enough,

when my daughter got home from school, she told me nada had

texted her the very same message.

I've been NC with nada and my dad for 3 weeks now and I'm

beginning to feel nervous about her trying to reestablish

contact. Last time this happened, my nada sent me flowers. I

won't be lured in this time, and I know she's going to feel

rejected when I back away, but I'm not sure how else to protect

my sanity.

AnnieL

I was wishing my cousin a Happy Birthday when I saw she was FB

friends with my mom.

I promptly blocked her and informed my husband in case he wanted

to block her, too. That way I don't have to agonize over it

should my mom ever try to " friend " me--she simply will not be

able to even find my profile. I simply do not trust her at

all--she's too enmeshed and codependent on fada to truly develop

her own relationship with me. And y'all know how much I trust

fada...

The funny thing is, my mom's nada is on FB too. I don't know

what kind of undiagnosed PD her mom has, but I sure wouldn't be

surprised if it was BPD. I wonder if mom blocked her nada?? LOL.

Haven't found fada on there yet--I check every so often.

FB is both a blessing and a curse.

------------------------------------

**This group is based on principles in Randi Kreger's new book

The Essential Family Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder:

New Tips and Tools to Stop Walking on Eggshells, available at

www.BPDCentral.com.** Problems? Write @.... DO

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