How to Change Your Husband

[Guest guest]

Has anybody ever run across this book before?

http://www.amazon.com/Change-Your-Husband-Friend-Medjugorje/dp/1878909061

I was just remembering about it yesterday when working on my anonymous

blog/memoir, and googled it. I really didn't want to believe it (I still don't

want to believe it) but my mom did fall for this BS.

My mom used to kind of sort of stand up to my fada and speak her mind, but then

he gave this as a " joke " gift to her for I think it was Mother's Day, one year.

I think I was a sophomore or something in high school.

I remember thinking, " Oh, no, I've lost her, " when I flipped through the book to

see what it was about.

Sure enough. She gave up around this point. Sure, the fights subsided somewhat,

but is " keeping the peace " much better when it comes to a BPD asshole?

Thankfully my parents didn't fall into the trap of the cult (the guy who wrote

it is head of the cult. It started out somewhat innocuous, but then the guy

started putting out fundie BS) so I guess that's somewhat of a consolation.

After my mom read this book, she started teaching me more and more little things

that's involved with married life. I remember thinking, if that's what married

life is, I want to be a nun!

Anyway, the book advocates wifely submission to her husband, and the author

absolutely forbids women from leaving marriages even when their husbands are

being abusive. It actually upholds as an shining example the story of the wife

who was still submissive to her husband even as he attempted to kill her with a

hammer to the skull.

I'm kind of angry right now, with some of this new information. I had put that

book largely out of my mind, and didn't really do research on it until yesterday

and today.

Just curious if anyone had heard of it.

[Guest guest]

Hey Holly,

I know a woman who " asked her husband for xx amount of dollars to go away for

the weekend with her XX relative and he was not pleased but gave it to her. "

When I told this to my daughter she said, " What, is 1950? "

I never saw this book, but the concept is deeply disturbing.

Em

> Has anybody ever run across this book before?

>

> http://www.amazon.com/Change-Your-Husband-Friend-Medjugorje/dp/1878909061

>

> I was just remembering about it yesterday when working on my anonymous

blog/memoir, and googled it. I really didn't want to believe it (I still don't

want to believe it) but my mom did fall for this BS.

>

> My mom used to kind of sort of stand up to my fada and speak her mind, but

then he gave this as a " joke " gift to her for I think it was Mother's Day, one

year. I think I was a sophomore or something in high school.

>

> I remember thinking, " Oh, no, I've lost her, " when I flipped through the book

to see what it was about.

>

> Sure enough. She gave up around this point. Sure, the fights subsided

somewhat, but is " keeping the peace " much better when it comes to a BPD asshole?

>

> Thankfully my parents didn't fall into the trap of the cult (the guy who wrote

it is head of the cult. It started out somewhat innocuous, but then the guy

started putting out fundie BS) so I guess that's somewhat of a consolation.

>

> After my mom read this book, she started teaching me more and more little

things that's involved with married life. I remember thinking, if that's what

married life is, I want to be a nun!

>

> Anyway, the book advocates wifely submission to her husband, and the author

absolutely forbids women from leaving marriages even when their husbands are

being abusive. It actually upholds as an shining example the story of the wife

who was still submissive to her husband even as he attempted to kill her with a

hammer to the skull.

>

> I'm kind of angry right now, with some of this new information. I had put that

book largely out of my mind, and didn't really do research on it until yesterday

and today.

>

> Just curious if anyone had heard of it.

>

>

[Guest guest]

Wow, creepy.

>

> Has anybody ever run across this book before?

>

> http://www.amazon.com/Change-Your-Husband-Friend-Medjugorje/dp/1878909061

>

> I was just remembering about it yesterday when working on my anonymous

blog/memoir, and googled it. I really didn't want to believe it (I still don't

want to believe it) but my mom did fall for this BS.

>

> My mom used to kind of sort of stand up to my fada and speak her mind, but

then he gave this as a " joke " gift to her for I think it was Mother's Day, one

year. I think I was a sophomore or something in high school.

>

> I remember thinking, " Oh, no, I've lost her, " when I flipped through the book

to see what it was about.

>

> Sure enough. She gave up around this point. Sure, the fights subsided

somewhat, but is " keeping the peace " much better when it comes to a BPD asshole?

>

> Thankfully my parents didn't fall into the trap of the cult (the guy who wrote

it is head of the cult. It started out somewhat innocuous, but then the guy

started putting out fundie BS) so I guess that's somewhat of a consolation.

>

> After my mom read this book, she started teaching me more and more little

things that's involved with married life. I remember thinking, if that's what

married life is, I want to be a nun!

>

> Anyway, the book advocates wifely submission to her husband, and the author

absolutely forbids women from leaving marriages even when their husbands are

being abusive. It actually upholds as an shining example the story of the wife

who was still submissive to her husband even as he attempted to kill her with a

hammer to the skull.

>

> I'm kind of angry right now, with some of this new information. I had put that

book largely out of my mind, and didn't really do research on it until yesterday

and today.

>

> Just curious if anyone had heard of it.

>

[Guest guest]

whoa I'm curious about it. Here is more

http://www.medjugorje.ws/en/articles/how-to-change-your-husband-friend-of-medjug\

orje-terry-colafrancesco-caritas-of-birmingham-review/

> Hey Holly,

> I know a woman who " asked her husband for xx amount of dollars to go away

> for the weekend with her XX relative and he was not pleased but gave it to

> her. "

> When I told this to my daughter she said, " What, is 1950? "

> I never saw this book, but the concept is deeply disturbing.

>

> Em

>

>

>

>

> > Has anybody ever run across this book before?

> >

> >

> http://www.amazon.com/Change-Your-Husband-Friend-Medjugorje/dp/1878909061

> >

> > I was just remembering about it yesterday when working on my anonymous

> blog/memoir, and googled it. I really didn't want to believe it (I still

> don't want to believe it) but my mom did fall for this BS.

> >

> > My mom used to kind of sort of stand up to my fada and speak her mind,

> but then he gave this as a " joke " gift to her for I think it was Mother's

> Day, one year. I think I was a sophomore or something in high school.

> >

> > I remember thinking, " Oh, no, I've lost her, " when I flipped through the

> book to see what it was about.

> >

> > Sure enough. She gave up around this point. Sure, the fights subsided

> somewhat, but is " keeping the peace " much better when it comes to a BPD

> asshole?

> >

> > Thankfully my parents didn't fall into the trap of the cult (the guy who

> wrote it is head of the cult. It started out somewhat innocuous, but then

> the guy started putting out fundie BS) so I guess that's somewhat of a

> consolation.

> >

> > After my mom read this book, she started teaching me more and more little

> things that's involved with married life. I remember thinking, if that's

> what married life is, I want to be a nun!

> >

> > Anyway, the book advocates wifely submission to her husband, and the

> author absolutely forbids women from leaving marriages even when their

> husbands are being abusive. It actually upholds as an shining example the

> story of the wife who was still submissive to her husband even as he

> attempted to kill her with a hammer to the skull.

> >

> > I'm kind of angry right now, with some of this new information. I had put

> that book largely out of my mind, and didn't really do research on it until

> yesterday and today.

> >

> > Just curious if anyone had heard of it.

> >

> >

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Holy. Freaking Cow.

No, I never heard of this, and I'm glad. It sounds completely misogynistic,

like a throwback to earlier eras when women were literally chattel or property,

had no legal rights, civil rights or human rights, couldn't own property or

vote, and were very disposable. How clever of the author to give his book that

title and make it sound like the wife has any rights or power in such a

relationship. Talk about " spin " masters!

So, even as your husband is bashing your skull in with a hammer, you're supposed

to say,

Thank you sir, may I have another? " Sounds pretty sado-masochistic to me. I

suppose that goes for the kids as well? If Daddy wants to bash little Suzy's

head in with a hammer " to teach her a lesson " will mommy just say, " That's

nice, dear; shall I hold her down for you? "

Cue the " Twilight Zone " music.

So, you're one of the members with a bpd dad and a dishrag mom, I take it? And

it sounds like your mother bought into this BS, at least somewhat? How sad for

her. And for you.

To me, I'd interpret being given that book by my husband as an actual threat:

submit to me or you're going to regret it.

-Annie

>

> Has anybody ever run across this book before?

>

> http://www.amazon.com/Change-Your-Husband-Friend-Medjugorje/dp/1878909061

>

> I was just remembering about it yesterday when working on my anonymous

blog/memoir, and googled it. I really didn't want to believe it (I still don't

want to believe it) but my mom did fall for this BS.

>

> My mom used to kind of sort of stand up to my fada and speak her mind, but

then he gave this as a " joke " gift to her for I think it was Mother's Day, one

year. I think I was a sophomore or something in high school.

>

> I remember thinking, " Oh, no, I've lost her, " when I flipped through the book

to see what it was about.

>

> Sure enough. She gave up around this point. Sure, the fights subsided

somewhat, but is " keeping the peace " much better when it comes to a BPD asshole?

>

> Thankfully my parents didn't fall into the trap of the cult (the guy who wrote

it is head of the cult. It started out somewhat innocuous, but then the guy

started putting out fundie BS) so I guess that's somewhat of a consolation.

>

> After my mom read this book, she started teaching me more and more little

things that's involved with married life. I remember thinking, if that's what

married life is, I want to be a nun!

>

> Anyway, the book advocates wifely submission to her husband, and the author

absolutely forbids women from leaving marriages even when their husbands are

being abusive. It actually upholds as an shining example the story of the wife

who was still submissive to her husband even as he attempted to kill her with a

hammer to the skull.

>

> I'm kind of angry right now, with some of this new information. I had put that

book largely out of my mind, and didn't really do research on it until yesterday

and today.

>

> Just curious if anyone had heard of it.

>

[Guest guest]

Yep--exactly. If I may say so, you hit the nail on the head, but I've enough

of the hammer references.

BPD dad and dishrag mom. He ostensibly gave it as a " gag gift, " but I have a

hard time believing that it was a joke. How can you google the phrase " how

to change your husband catholic " and find the book and ignore all the other

books about the cult?

I just remembered the title, " How to change your husband " , and entered that

into Amazon. The first few books were about that subject, including this

cultic one, and I found it a little bit funny in a sad way that the other

suggested books were about verbal abuse and gaslighting.

I think my stubborness saved me from this brainwashing BS. I can't stand the

idea of people ordering me around anymore.

I'm just hoping that my four little siblings who still live at home (and are

being homeschooled like I was) will hopefully escape, too.

Holly

On Tue, Sep 13, 2011 at 5:11 PM, anuria67854 wrote:

> **

>

>

> Holy. Freaking Cow.

>

> No, I never heard of this, and I'm glad. It sounds completely misogynistic,

> like a throwback to earlier eras when women were literally chattel or

> property, had no legal rights, civil rights or human rights, couldn't own

> property or vote, and were very disposable. How clever of the author to give

> his book that title and make it sound like the wife has any rights or power

> in such a relationship. Talk about " spin " masters!

>

> So, even as your husband is bashing your skull in with a hammer, you're

> supposed to say,

> Thank you sir, may I have another? " Sounds pretty sado-masochistic to me. I

> suppose that goes for the kids as well? If Daddy wants to bash little Suzy's

> head in with a hammer " to teach her a lesson " will mommy just say, " That's

> nice, dear; shall I hold her down for you? "

>

> Cue the " Twilight Zone " music.

>

> So, you're one of the members with a bpd dad and a dishrag mom, I take it?

> And it sounds like your mother bought into this BS, at least somewhat? How

> sad for her. And for you.

>

> To me, I'd interpret being given that book by my husband as an actual

> threat: submit to me or you're going to regret it.

>

> -Annie

>

>

> >

> > Has anybody ever run across this book before?

> >

> >

> http://www.amazon.com/Change-Your-Husband-Friend-Medjugorje/dp/1878909061

> >

> > I was just remembering about it yesterday when working on my anonymous

> blog/memoir, and googled it. I really didn't want to believe it (I still

> don't want to believe it) but my mom did fall for this BS.

> >

> > My mom used to kind of sort of stand up to my fada and speak her mind,

> but then he gave this as a " joke " gift to her for I think it was Mother's

> Day, one year. I think I was a sophomore or something in high school.

> >

> > I remember thinking, " Oh, no, I've lost her, " when I flipped through the

> book to see what it was about.

> >

> > Sure enough. She gave up around this point. Sure, the fights subsided

> somewhat, but is " keeping the peace " much better when it comes to a BPD

> asshole?

> >

> > Thankfully my parents didn't fall into the trap of the cult (the guy who

> wrote it is head of the cult. It started out somewhat innocuous, but then

> the guy started putting out fundie BS) so I guess that's somewhat of a

> consolation.

> >

> > After my mom read this book, she started teaching me more and more little

> things that's involved with married life. I remember thinking, if that's

> what married life is, I want to be a nun!

> >

> > Anyway, the book advocates wifely submission to her husband, and the

> author absolutely forbids women from leaving marriages even when their

> husbands are being abusive. It actually upholds as an shining example the

> story of the wife who was still submissive to her husband even as he

> attempted to kill her with a hammer to the skull.

> >

> > I'm kind of angry right now, with some of this new information. I had put

> that book largely out of my mind, and didn't really do research on it until

> yesterday and today.

> >

> > Just curious if anyone had heard of it.

> >

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I'd heard of that book, and have read simmilar books. All are

rubbish! Marriage should be a team efort not like what these

books are like. I'd love to read your blog some time.

Steph

" How to Change Your Husband "

Has anybody ever run across this book before?

http://www.amazon.com/Change-Your-Husband-Friend-Medjugorje/dp/18

78909061

I was just remembering about it yesterday when working on my

anonymous blog/memoir, and googled it. I really didn't want to

believe it (I still don't want to believe it) but my mom did fall

for this BS.

My mom used to kind of sort of stand up to my fada and speak her

mind, but then he gave this as a " joke " gift to her for I think

it was Mother's Day, one year. I think I was a sophomore or

something in high school.

I remember thinking, " Oh, no, I've lost her, " when I flipped

through the book to see what it was about.

Sure enough. She gave up around this point. Sure, the fights

subsided somewhat, but is " keeping the peace " much better when it

comes to a BPD asshole?

Thankfully my parents didn't fall into the trap of the cult (the

guy who wrote it is head of the cult. It started out somewhat

innocuous, but then the guy started putting out fundie BS) so I

guess that's somewhat of a consolation.

After my mom read this book, she started teaching me more and

more little things that's involved with married life. I remember

thinking, if that's what married life is, I want to be a nun!

Anyway, the book advocates wifely submission to her husband, and

the author absolutely forbids women from leaving marriages even

when their husbands are being abusive. It actually upholds as an

shining example the story of the wife who was still submissive to

her husband even as he attempted to kill her with a hammer to the

skull.

I'm kind of angry right now, with some of this new information.

I had put that book largely out of my mind, and didn't really do

research on it until yesterday and today.

Just curious if anyone had heard of it.

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